auroara78
May 18th, 2012, 03:59 PM
OK so I had an OB visit today and here are some of the gems he delivered:
1) He mentioned that my U/S dates and my LMP period dates a bit off. I explained that I O'ed a few days early, and knew I did. He seemed :think: that this was very odd, and his only rationale for how my ovulation could have come earlier than the standard day 14 was that my being heavier puts me at a greater risk of having more estorgen which could have triggered an early ovulation which led to....
2) I then mentioned that on a website I go to it seems like women who are overweight or undweight have a tendency to concieve more girl children. This led him back his :think: stance and he replied very firmly, "how is that possible, when everyone knows the man decides the sex of the child? The woman has no role in choosing gender." That led me to a brief description of maternal condition theory to which he shook his head and said that I was completely wrong, it was all random and all to the man. I went with him a bit, and just said, yes the sperm does decide, but what if a woman's biologically condition helped the sperm along in the decision process?" This went over like a lead balloon.
3) I asked again about the idea a vaginal birth after 2 c-sections. When I asked him last visit, he just said "we'll talk about it later" which gave me dumb hope that maybe he'd be slightly open-minded. Today he informs me that:
A) I have an "extra-large uterus";
B) this extra large uterus is going to build a big baby
C) Unless the baby is going to be born around 6 lbs, he won't let me try a vag after 2Cs
4) DS1 was 8 lb 7 oz, DS2 was 9 lb. There is no way in hell I am building a 6 lb baby at birth, because I am already really popping out now (thanks to the "extra large uterus" I suppose,) and unless this is a premature birth, 6 lbs just ain't gonna happen.
So now my question is: Do I really get the guts to look for another possible OB? Does insurance cover a consulation with a new OB if you are dissatified with your own?
Is it really WORTH fighting this battle? I have two issues that possibly concern me in regards of the "uterine rupture" issue with a vag birth after C-sections.
I got pregnant this time when my last baby was only 8 months old;
as duly noted above, I make big babies. There is a chance Lillian will be high 8s low 9s at birth if I keep going at this rate
I do not want to endanger my health or the baby's, but I feel like he is being old-fashioned and will not examine the risks in a real way. I feel like he is just putting his hands up without investigating if it is really out of the league for me.
Can't they check uterus tone? Can't they do other measurements to access a realistic risk profile?
The other thing is that I still want to have a chance to maybe have a 4th child...and do doctors even allow FOUR c-sections??
1) He mentioned that my U/S dates and my LMP period dates a bit off. I explained that I O'ed a few days early, and knew I did. He seemed :think: that this was very odd, and his only rationale for how my ovulation could have come earlier than the standard day 14 was that my being heavier puts me at a greater risk of having more estorgen which could have triggered an early ovulation which led to....
2) I then mentioned that on a website I go to it seems like women who are overweight or undweight have a tendency to concieve more girl children. This led him back his :think: stance and he replied very firmly, "how is that possible, when everyone knows the man decides the sex of the child? The woman has no role in choosing gender." That led me to a brief description of maternal condition theory to which he shook his head and said that I was completely wrong, it was all random and all to the man. I went with him a bit, and just said, yes the sperm does decide, but what if a woman's biologically condition helped the sperm along in the decision process?" This went over like a lead balloon.
3) I asked again about the idea a vaginal birth after 2 c-sections. When I asked him last visit, he just said "we'll talk about it later" which gave me dumb hope that maybe he'd be slightly open-minded. Today he informs me that:
A) I have an "extra-large uterus";
B) this extra large uterus is going to build a big baby
C) Unless the baby is going to be born around 6 lbs, he won't let me try a vag after 2Cs
4) DS1 was 8 lb 7 oz, DS2 was 9 lb. There is no way in hell I am building a 6 lb baby at birth, because I am already really popping out now (thanks to the "extra large uterus" I suppose,) and unless this is a premature birth, 6 lbs just ain't gonna happen.
So now my question is: Do I really get the guts to look for another possible OB? Does insurance cover a consulation with a new OB if you are dissatified with your own?
Is it really WORTH fighting this battle? I have two issues that possibly concern me in regards of the "uterine rupture" issue with a vag birth after C-sections.
I got pregnant this time when my last baby was only 8 months old;
as duly noted above, I make big babies. There is a chance Lillian will be high 8s low 9s at birth if I keep going at this rate
I do not want to endanger my health or the baby's, but I feel like he is being old-fashioned and will not examine the risks in a real way. I feel like he is just putting his hands up without investigating if it is really out of the league for me.
Can't they check uterus tone? Can't they do other measurements to access a realistic risk profile?
The other thing is that I still want to have a chance to maybe have a 4th child...and do doctors even allow FOUR c-sections??