Timing question again

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Im sorry, this diet with the addition of AF arriving today, feeling really down and depressed, has got me all confudled and I'm suddenly confused about timing.

DH plans to abstain from AF to 4 days before O but then what are we supposed to do then? For some reason i thought we needed to do it every day up to and on the day of ovulation, but now I think that's wrong.

We want to get pregnant ASAP as I don't think I can do this diet much longer, I'm already struggling keeping to it. So which is the best way to increase our chances?

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Bumpty bump :wave:

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Ok, no replies, so i think I've decided on abstinence from AF to 3 days before ovulation, then BD 3 days before O and again 2 days before O. Then FR until O+12 when we try one more time.

Does that sound right?

[mummypink]

How old is your hubby? I think Atomic doesn't recommend abstinence if you are in your late 30s onwards, FR is better for that.
I'm swaying girl and my hubby and I are both 34. We opted for FR (mainly because I couldn't trust hubby lol!) and he FR every day from AF to the day I got my +opk. Then We bd within an hour of getting the +opk (which was around lunchtime) and when we went to bed (which wasn't until about 1am). Not sure if it worked as I'm 11dpo and waiting to test. Hope that helps xx

[Ktiguewantspink]

Hi, I wanted to reply with my thought but I am no expert. I think the abstinence sounds good until o-3 but I think you would have to add comPressed frequent release to sway pink if you wanted to include o-2 and o-1 ect. I think if you dtd on o-2 and o-1 it would be boy frequency since you had done abstinence prior. More than likely you would be fine but I didn't know how strict of a sway you want. I guess your dh wont do frequent release prior to your first attempt and than dtd everyday through ovulation? Well good luck, diet alone is the most important part so your sway sounds good! I just wanted to give you some sort of support!

[Ktiguewantspink]

How old is your hubby? I think Atomic doesn't recommend abstinence if you are in your late 30s onwards, FR is better for that.
I'm swaying girl and my hubby and I are both 34. We opted for FR (mainly because I couldn't trust hubby lol!) and he FR every day from AF to the day I got my +opk. Then We bd within an hour of getting the +opk (which was around lunchtime) and when we went to bed (which wasn't until about 1am). Not sure if it worked as I'm 11dpo and waiting to test. Hope that helps xx
I just wanted to say good luck mummy pink!!

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Hubby is 33 and we've been mega fertile in the last 5 years.

Abstinance is really the best option for him as I can trust him, he's way too busy to be sneaking anything in, and because he's so busy and generally tired after work, we wouldn't be able to FR every day!

He's taking licorice root as well as having a hot shower beforehand, but as I can't do this diet much longer - not through not having enough weight to lose, but more the will power, or lack of it! - so want to get pregnant ASAP. I don't think he'd have the energy to release twice a day for 3 days!

[Ktiguewantspink]

I think your plan sounds great than! I understand about the fr, my hubby doesn't have the time and won't do it anyway. We are doing abstinence as well! He is actually going to be on a business trip and will come back the day before I hope to ovulate so hopefully everything will work out. Good luck!

[atomic sagebrush]

Sorry, my husband decided he needed to hang around me every second last week in case I popped so I didn't have my normal amount of free time.

If you're doing abstain, it's best to do abstain plus one attempt, either on O-2, O-1, or even O day (timing itself doesn't sway) This DOES reduce odds of pg, by quite a bit, esp. if you're doing a lot of other things to sway.

If you want to do more than one attempt, you should consider switching to FR and then having several attempts in your fertile window, O-4 through the day after O, and the microwindow of O-2 thru O Day are best.

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-discussion-ttc-boy-girl-home-swaying-info/5636-frequency-bd-pink-blue.html
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-discussion-ttc-boy-girl-home-swaying-info/9736-how-many-attempts-should-i-do-when-pink-blue.html

If you REALLY want to do abstain, you can mix and match abstain + compressed FR http://genderdreaming.com/forum/ttc-girl-best-practices/2728-abstaining-frequent-release-mixing-cutoff-o-12-a.html (note - you don't have to do this method with O+12, you can do it with another attempt at any point.)

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Urgh, I just don't know what to do. He doesn't think he can do FR or CFR and I want to get pregnant ASAP with as many attempts as possible.

[mummypink]

Thanks Ktigue! I got my BFP, so just keeping my fingers crossed it is a sticky one. :)

Northern - I was the same, I had been ttc for 6 months with a gap in between before I found this site and learnt about the LE diet etc. With my two boys we fell pregnant the first month ttc so 6 months felt like a long time for me. I was on the diet for 3 and a bit weeks and lost 8lbs in total, I didn't really want to wait much longer as my DH was growing impatient and just wanted us to get pregnant plus I knew I was starting to obsess over it all. I've got my bfp so hoping for a healthy pregnancy and if we get our dd that will be an added bonus. Best of luck with your sway, hope you get a BFP very soon. xx

[atomic sagebrush]

Urgh, I just don't know what to do. He doesn't think he can do FR or CFR and I want to get pregnant ASAP with as many attempts as possible.

Then just let go of the frequency (I really don't think it sways much anyway, esp. not when you're doing other things to sway) and BD when the mood strikes you, being sure to get in minimum 3 attempts after pos. OPK. I got a girl in boy frequency as did auroara and several others.

[Winngrin]

Dh and I did abstain from AF to +opk, and then did the deed that night, which I believe put us about a day and a half-2 days before O. I dont believe in timing so this was fine with me and I also wanted to get pg quickly as I am way OCD and couldnt sway much longer without going nuts! :oops:.

We tried to give ourselves a good chance at getting pregnant, so we decided that instead of trying to dtd by guessing when O would occur, we would just dtd at the first +opk (by suggestion of Atomic, thank you!). This took a lot of the stress out of trying to decide WHEN. And if you have had good fertility, I would try that, and if it doesnt work then you could do more attempts next month. Good luck!!

[atomic sagebrush]

this is such a great month for BFP - huge congrats to all! :heart: