Hi, would love to meet more Aussies thinking of IVF for gender selection

[Leechez]

Hi,
I've been browsing the site for hours hoping to find someone in a similar situation to discuss my concerns and thoughts with, but thought I would just post (which I wouldn't normally do) and hope someone finds me!

I have just had my 3rd beautiful boy, which I admit when I found out I was having another boy I was upset it wasn't a girl, but he is the most delightful little man and I love him to bits along with my two older boys. I have a huge desire for a girl, I think about having a girl every day! My eldest son (3 and a half) tells me he wants a little sister all the time. We can't have more than 4 kids, so this is my last chance for my dream of having a girl. I have been looking into going to America to have IVF gender selection, though I have so many mixed feelings about it and concerns. I have spoken to a few friends about it and they think I should do it. My husband doesn't really have an opinion on the matter (I wish he did), he says "whatever you want, as long as your happy!"

So I've just been searching the net but I am starting to find it overwhelming. Has anybody been in the same situation, that can help give me a kick start to hopefully fulfilling my dream of having a little girl.

[Rosie85]

Well I am not australian but I can say I want a girl more than anything. I am currently preggo with number 3, hoping it is a girl! I too am only going to have 4 babies and if this one is a boy I am willing to take extreme measures for number 4. My husband and I have discussed sperm sorting before but not IVF as it is probably unaffordable for us.

I am assuming the cost would be 100% on you since you don't live here and even if you did insurance doesn't cover gender selection so if you have the money go for it I say :-) It may take a few tries though and it can get very expensive. Have you looked into sperm sorting??

[Pinkwouldbenice]

Hi leechez,
I live in nsw. I have 3 boys and feel the same. I was almost ready to book in to have pgd ifv with SART bangkok( gena Australia) but have since decided that we might actually try for a girl naturally ( sway for a girl).
I have researched for 2 years ( my little one is nearly 2) and I have found that it will most probably take more the one try for a successful pgd ivf pregnancy. In my case I feel that going too many times is taking that money away from the beautiful boys I have already. I have ceasers so I have been told 2 more max. So going to start trying in dec 2012 and hope we get lucky.
Good luck in your journey and your not alone with what your feeling. Xxx

[RKT Mama]

Hi,
I am a Kiwi so same direction as Australia.
We have 3 boys, the last one was a failed sway.
In February last year went to South Africa and had a cycle of IVF with PGD.
Unfortunately I didn't fall pregnant and although I keep hoping to go back and try again, We can't afford it right now.
DH has agreed to try swaying again, but after 6 months I am no closer to being pregnant which is a bit frustrating.
I would do it gain in a heartbeat if I could afford it as the IVF was way easier than I thought it would be.

[onlythelonely]

Hi

I live in Qld and I have 4 boys and am planning to go to USA to cycle with Dr Potter next month. I have done a lot of research and we are making a holiday out of our trip. It is a lot of money approx. $17000 with cycle cost and meds. My husband is they same as your, whatever makes me happy.

What finally helped to make up my mind was I decided what I would regret more spending the money and it not working or not trying it at all. For me not trying would always hang over me.

Good luck with your decision.

[Wanting a daughter]

Hi Leechez,
There are loads of us on here. I would recommend becoming a member as most of us post in the private HT forum. You have found a really supportive and helpful group. It's a lovely place to hang out.
:)
Welcome.

[Wanting a daughter]

Hi,
I am a Kiwi so same direction as Australia.
We have 3 boys, the last one was a failed sway.
In February last year went to South Africa and had a cycle of IVF with PGD.
Unfortunately I didn't fall pregnant and although I keep hoping to go back and try again, We can't afford it right now.
DH has agreed to try swaying again, but after 6 months I am no closer to being pregnant which is a bit frustrating.
I would do it gain in a heartbeat if I could afford it as the IVF was way easier than I thought it would be.

Are you aware that gender selection has been banned in South Africa now. I did a donor cycle there a few months back and right before it, they changed the laws. I had to ship my embies to the U.S. for testing. Won't matter if you have frosties but you won't be able to do pgd on a new batch. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

[RKT Mama]

Are you aware that gender selection has been banned in South Africa now. I did a donor cycle there a few months back and right before it, they changed the laws. I had to ship my embies to the U.S. for testing. Won't matter if you have frosties but you won't be able to do pgd on a new batch. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

I hadn't heard that. Pity as they were very good over there and at least it was first world medicine. Might have to consider Thailand when I win the lottery.

[unsure!]

Hello and welcome, I only pop in now and then and get very over whelmed when i read to much!! But this is a great site.
i am from oz as well. i am going to superior art in sep. need some sun hating winter!!!

[Leechez]

Thankyou all so much for your replies, I'm going to get stuck into some more research and join as a member, because I'm sure I'll need more help and advice.

[willtherebe4]

Hi Leechez,

Fellow Aussie here.

I joined the site a few months ago and I also have 3DS (youngest is 16 months) and at the moment I havent convinced myself either way (HT or sway) but I do believe that I would regret not giving it everything I could. I have agonised over the cost thing too, but as silly and as simple as we make it sound it really is only money. Im starting to think Ill give SART a go (jan /feb 2013) and if no success after 1 cycle (unless only I went back for a FET I would consider going again) then we would consider swaying or just accept our family as is and move on, but 4 is absolute max!!. I really want to feel that we have finished our family by end of next year. Big decisions to be made!

[Leechez]

Hi willtherebe4,
I am thinking exactly the same as you except I think my mind is made up, I think we will go HT, I was chatting to a friend and she said to me , if I tried everything I could and had a boy then you can accept that that is how it's meant to be, however I know that the most I could do is go overseas and have gender selection and if I don't then I may regret it. So my mind is pretty made up. I have already made email contact withDr Porter at HRC. Like you I would like our family of four to be complete by end of 2013 if not early 2014. I find that in my spare time (which there isn't much off) this is all I think about! Hence, the time I'm on here and that I was just up feeding, my youngest he is 5 months. We have had our 3 boys close in age, the other two are 3 and a half and 22 months. So lots of fun at our place. I think we would take all of them and make a holiday out of it, which I was getting excited about, but still considering it.

[mrsmac]

I too am the mum of the two most beautiful little boys (in Australia) but have a desire for a little girl that just won't go away!
My husband is also happy to do whatever makes me happy but only wants another if we can guarantee it would be a little girl. we are looking a GS IVF at SART in Thailand. However I would like to know what would be the advantages of going to America and if we do go to SART what are the chances of it actually working! some of the stories I have seen so far have been disheartening and I'm scared of putting my family through something that may end up very expensive and emotionally draining to allow me to achieve my dreams..however I think I'd always regret not trying. Any advice or SART stories would be great!

[rachel]

welcome and gl i know how you feel...

[Cinss]

Just popping in to say hi and welcome :)