Miscarriage questions

[cvd]

So I am 3 weeks, 2 days pregnant. I went to the doctor yesterday and forgot to ask!!! I know I am incredibly early in a pregnancy but I was wondering what the chances of miscarriage are???
No previous miscarriage or infertility. I am 22, DH is 26, we got preg first shot, and with DS we got preg while on the birth control pill - so I'd like to think we are an uber fertile couple lol but how does this affect my chances of miscarriage? Are we decently safe at all?
We are wondering when to start telling people. We have told family already, but not friends. When is it ok to make it public? I know they say 12 weeks, but I doubt I can keep it a secret that long LOL. I guess no one can really have a pin point answer, maybe just wanted to hear some reassurance, I'm not sure lol

[jennaesue]

Well, you are extremely early in your pregnancy. Most people would not even know they are pregnant at this point! I do think testing so early can lead to a lot of heartache, because sometimes things just don't work out and AF comes anyway, and you would have never even known there was a pregnancy. But I do understand testing early - when you are trying, you just want to know!!

I have had three healthy pregnancies and no miscarriages. I always feel like I am tempting fate getting pregnant again. But if you don't try, you will never know what would have happened.

I don't think there is any point worrying about it unless you have a lot of cramping and/or spotting, and even then, I know a lot of people who had cramping and spotting and still ended up with a baby nine months later. If you are concerned, you can always call your OB and ask for a beta to get some reassurance.

I usually don't tell anyone except for my dh (or course) and my mom and maybe my sister until at least 10 weeks (or my first OB appt.)

[The Anchor]

Google miscarriage statistics...it depends on your age and gestation...I just did a quick search and I'm attaching the first link that came up.
https://sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/miscarriage-general

[cvd]

Thanks ladies, I did some research but think I am going to stop now as I don't want to get myself worked up haha!!!

[Rosie85]

I personally feel like the easier it is for someone to get pregnant and the younger they are the less of a risk. I know many women who have a hard time getting pregnant and they miscarry a lot. I also know women like myself that fall pregnant their first try and they have never had a miscarriage and are on their 3, 4th, 5th pregnancies.

[Butterfly Spirit]

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Cvd, Try not to think about M/C right now, or you will drive yourself CRAZY trust me.
Just enjoy the little bean that you are carrying and start thinking about the future.
Once you've had one though it's HARD not to. I used to watch the girls on youtube in so much fear with their rainbow babies.. and I would want to tell them, come on ladies it's a whole new pregnancy.. Here I am halfway through and still can't shake the feelings I started with.
But you just have to concentrate on the here and now and be happy with what you have!
I wish you a Happy & Healthy 9 months hon!

PS. I told my mom and sis right away, but we didn't tell a soul in Dh family until around 12 weeks.

[Butterfly Spirit]

I just wanted to throw in there that buying a $50 Sonaline B doppler off of ebay was one of the best and most worth it purchases I've ever made!
The peace of mind is awesome and later on if you don't feel baby kicking.. the doppler will pick all of that up, it's very fun to see what baby is up to!

[cvd]

I just wanted to throw in there that buying a $50 Sonaline B doppler off of ebay was one of the best and most worth it purchases I've ever made!
The peace of mind is awesome and later on if you don't feel baby kicking.. the doppler will pick all of that up, it's very fun to see what baby is up to!

Oh my goodness, I have literally been looking at dopplers all evening!!! Lol! That's too weird! I'm over thinking about the miscarriage I'm sure everything will be fine. My doctor had no concerns and issued my bloodwork papers right away so I'm certain she would have said something or told me to come back in a couple weeks lol! But I want a Doppler just cause I think it's soo cool! It's weird how with DS, who wasn't planned, miscarriage never crossed my mind. I just assumed all was well but with this one I thought about it a bit more and I have no history of complications etc lol maybe just the mom worry wart coming out in me that I wasn't before!!

[Butterfly Spirit]

Oh my goodness, I have literally been looking at dopplers all evening!!! Lol! That's too weird! I'm over thinking about the miscarriage I'm sure everything will be fine. My doctor had no concerns and issued my bloodwork papers right away so I'm certain she would have said something or told me to come back in a couple weeks lol! But I want a Doppler just cause I think it's soo cool! It's weird how with DS, who wasn't planned, miscarriage never crossed my mind. I just assumed all was well but with this one I thought about it a bit more and I have no history of complications etc lol maybe just the mom worry wart coming out in me that I wasn't before!!

That is GREAT! I heard my babe pretty much right at 12 weeks, and I was so happy that I made a video of it and put it on here. I just like to spread as much hope on here as I can. I'm so happy for you and your new pregnancy, and I must say you have a very handsome little man there in your avatar! :)

[Cinss]

Unfortunatly a lot of women experience m/c at some point, but there are thoes who never do. It is not something you can predict or should expect. Usually it is a case of something going wrong with the development of the baby and nothing to do with the mother or father. I think it is normal to have thoughts about it even if you have never experienced it, we are human and we tend to think about what bad things may happen to us. I wish no couple ever had to suffer such a loss, but nature must take its course if things aren't right.

[*ruby*]

Coming from someone who recently had a miscarriage and hadn't told family I now think its better to tell close friends and family early. If the worst happens you really do need the support of those people.

[jennaesue]

Coming from someone who recently had a miscarriage and hadn't told family I now think its better to tell close friends and family early. If the worst happens you really do need the support of those people.
I'm sorry about your MC, ruby.

That's a good point about telling people who are close to you. There are some people you would want to know about the MC and some people you wouldn't want to talk to about it. So maybe it's best to tell the people in the first group about your pregnancy early on.

[cvd]

Coming from someone who recently had a miscarriage and hadn't told family I now think its better to tell close friends and family early. If the worst happens you really do need the support of those people.

Wow so sorry to hear that :( I hope your doing as well as you can at this time.

[suregena]

Coming from someone who recently had a miscarriage and hadn't told family I now think its better to tell close friends and family early. If the worst happens you really do need the support of those people.

Ditto. My first pregnancy and second I ended up telling some people, but it really helped that they knew when I ended up miscarrying because I had a lot of support and didn't feel like I was dealing with something horrible on my own.

[spinningmadly]

I have been struggling with the same issue especially since last time we lost a baby so late I don't know when I would tell people. I've told some people I'm close to and I am very close to my mom and while i want to tell her because we talk all the time, I don't want her to worry and I know she will worry a lot and if something happens she will worry even more and be devastated if it happens again.. so it's made it hard because I feel like it's not fair if I tell other people before her :x

[*ruby*]

We ended up telling some family and friends after the miscarriage because I just felt like I needed to acknowledge the pregnancy and also I didn't want to have to pretend everything was all good and normal when I saw them when I really wasn't.

Spinningmadly - Your mum will worry but I'm sure she'd like to know so she can be there for you.

[cvd]

That is GREAT! I heard my babe pretty much right at 12 weeks, and I was so happy that I made a video of it and put it on here. I just like to spread as much hope on here as I can. I'm so happy for you and your new pregnancy, and I must say you have a very handsome little man there in your avatar! :)

Thank you for spreading your hope, so helpful!!!! and thank you again, yes he's a little heart breaker :) Now he just needs a baby sis he can grow up looking out for hehehe!!

[The Anchor]

I just wanted to throw in there that buying a $50 Sonaline B doppler off of ebay was one of the best and most worth it purchases I've ever made!
The peace of mind is awesome and later on if you don't feel baby kicking.. the doppler will pick all of that up, it's very fun to see what baby is up to!

Butterfly...did you have no success before 12 weeks and then all of a sudden at 12 weeks you heard a heart beat? I know the packaging says 10 -12 weeks you should hear the hb. I just haven't had any success yet, I'm 11 1/2 weeks. And it seems like I was 10 weeks last pregnancy when I heard the hb (although to be honest I'm a few pounds heavier now and much more bloated)...

[spinningmadly]

I had a Doppler and I seriously sucked at using it until later in my pregnancy lol