October Chit Chat for Ladies Due in Sept/Oct/Nov

[pinkin2011]

Butterfly Id love to prove you RIGHT one day.. he he

[auroara78]

ohhh pinkin, Ollie's soo precious!!! give that sweet boy lots of love and hugs...and I dont know where I read this from on here or who said it, but there is something so adorable about newborn baby boys...i dont know why but i think boy babies are just cuter than girl babies typically (even my own...i still think DS1 was my most "gorgeous" infant)...boys are very special!

[auroara78]

I agree with butterfly too, pinkin, u will get your pinkie as your 3rd~ you'll have two precious boys to protect your girl and she will be so loved!

[pinkin2011]

Oh I know , They sure are!! He is such a sweetie pie he doesnt cry ( YET!) and when he is hungry he cooos at you and if your holding him near your face he tries to eat you and cooos at the same time! Hes such a cutie!

[pinkin2011]

I hope your right too Auroara!!! Maybe you and I will be swaying together next time!!

[Butterfly Spirit]

Oh I know , They sure are!! He is such a sweetie pie he doesnt cry ( YET!) and when he is hungry he cooos at you and if your holding him near your face he tries to eat you and cooos at the same time! Hes such a cutie!

HE IS ADORABLE! :)

[Myloves]

What an adorable baby Pinkin! Having 2 boys is going to be awesome, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[Myloves]

I think all newborns look the same - boy or girl. Some are cuties, and some are.... well, not so cute. I prefer babies when they're around 6 months (when they start growing chubbier).

[Mochagirl]

Lynxie - Sadie definitely has more baby acne than any of my other kids did. The poor thing is breaking out like a teenager! I wondered if it was a girl thing.

Oh, and I never have any interest in sex when BF. one of the reasons dh didn't want another baby is that it means a long time with no sex for him. There's no way I'd be interested at 6 weeks - he'll be lucky if he gets any action 6 months postpartum!


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[Mochagirl]

Gorgeous pictures, pinkin and auroara!

Pinkin - I remember feeling like that with ds3 - that no one would celebrate his birth because it was another boy. I definitely have noticed I got a lot more presents this time, but I was surprised that my ILs seemed just as uninterested in holding and cuddling Sadie as they were with my boys. My mil has been
Pressuring me to have a girl for years! Anyway, I was secretly a bit glad that they didn't make a big deal because I didn't want my boys to see that and feel devalued in any way.


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[Hobbermittens]

Auroara, what cute little dragons you have there, and an adorable baby girl! You will have to put up a picture of sweet little Lillian in her bunny outfit so we can see it.

Pinkin, Oliver is so cute! He sounds so sweet and perfect. I am sorry your family isn't giving him (or you!) any attention. :( Happy late birthday! I hope your DH and DS1 were kind to you that day, even if your other family wasn't!

Peony, congrats on getting to the Watermelon.... not much longer now!

Mocha, there is some kind of baby wash that helps with the baby acne.... I can't remember what it is called, but I used it with DD1. I will see if I can find the name of it.

[auroara78]

Oh Hobbers, you can bet I will def. be posting pics once we get Lillian in her super soft and cuddly pink bunny rabbit. I kinda thought DH would roll his eyes when he saw the costume but he just smiled. Hopefully this means he's embracing all the pink!

I'm about done with my family atm--my mom is still whining and complaining and calling my DH's names for not having stayed during her entire bday party this past summer. I will always love her, she's my mother, but she is really making it hard for me to want to have an actual relationship with her. I'd never do this to Lillian, and I'd also be a better grandmother. She gets so mad when one of my kids asks me something when we're on the phone. She always says, "can't you wait and call me when everyone is in bed? or tell them to stop being rude?" my oldest just turned 5 and I really doubt DS2 who is 18 mos old now, really understands the concept that I'm on the phone and thus "unavailable"...she is so selfish and absorbed in her problems...anyway, sorry for the rant, but I understand how famlilies can be. My DH's family didn't think we should have had a 3rd, and they barely hold or really hang around Lillian. His great-grandmother said, "Good thing this was a girl..." or what? We'd hang him up..we'd cry a river? I'm still very glad I had a girl, but I hate when anyone makes it sound like having a 3rd boy would have been the end of the world. I would have loved him with all my heart too!

Anyway.../rant off...and oh yeah, DH and I are cooling it for now. We're going to stop taking risks! I just started working out a few days ago and it's really helping my energy level and getting me in the right mind-frame for my return to work on Monday.

[pinkin2011]

Why am I still feeling a mess near 3 weeks after having my baby??? Should I still be emotional? My d/h says yeah yeah just blame it on hormones but I feel I cant stand my d/h atm. I am getting up through the night feeding I can hardly leave the house through the day as I am trying to get Oliver into a routine and also to self settle himself so pretty much I have nothing to do with anyone and d/h life has not changed one bit since Oliver has come along. He goes to work everyday but then after work does whatever he wishes .. Goes to the gym goes to cricket training goes running have a few beers out .. He is never home before 8 pm on a week night and then sat plays cricket all day and now its sunday he has gone to do a 10 km fun run thing.. JUST NEVER ENDS! And this is no lie my d/h has changed 1 nappy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel like I want to move out ( I mean nothing is different to before I had Oliver) But I cant stand the fact that My life is the only one that has changed and it has changed ALOT! We are fighting every morning because I am soooooo Moody as I dont get much sleep and here he is getting a full nights sleep every night and I sleep on the couch because its just easier.. d/h wont let me have a lamp on in the bedroom to feed so I have to feed on the couch so I find it easier just to sleep there. Can any of you girls see why I am so moody all the time or am I just being over the top??? Oh and d/h said to me looks like we will only be having the 2 kids because I cant cope... HA HA hmmm because I feel like a single mother maybe!!!!! and I can cope I am just angry at him thats all!

[Hobbermittens]

Pinkin, I feel your pain. My DH has only changed Sawyer's diaper once as well! And we were sleeping on the couch until two nights ago. My DH spends as much time as possible out in the garage after he gets home, I think because 4 kids has put him over the top, and he wants peace and quiet. It is getting tough here for me too. I don't understand why their lives aren't very effected by the new babies, but my DH has been this way with the last two. He was a lot more involved with the first two. :( He holds the baby sometimes, but really not as much as he could!

[pinkin2011]

Hobb I am glad that someone else knows what I mean... I am just so sick of everything atm.. Oliver is the best little baby its not him at all its just you feel so alone ( well I do) and getting up feeding through the night by yourself the nights are so long and lonely... Then the day times are just the same I feel like I cant do anything which really is the case until Oliver gets to a few months old and is in a bit of a routine.I said to d/h before that how nice it would be to be him.. he can just say he wants to go here go there with out a worry OR responability its all on my shoulders , these newborn weeks are tough I think

[Mochagirl]

Pinkin - I've soooo been there - after every baby, and again this time. DH has not changed even one of Sadie's diapers. If I leave Sadie in the room with him so I can get a shower or something, I'll come out to find her crying in her basket while he works on his computer. He plays hockey several nights a week, goes out for drinks with friends, and of course goes to work every day where he gets to socialise, go out for lunch etc. I do get out too, but only because this is my fourth baby so I have no problem bundling her up and taking her out once my boys are asleep for the night, and when ds3 has preschool 3 mornings a week, Sadie and I go shopping - if I didn't have those outings, I'd go CRAZY. Sometimes a week goes past and I realise I haven't talked to a single adult other than dh, and he and I barely talk these days.

I'm not on the couch this time, at least, but I was when my twins were born, for the same reason - DH didn't want the light on in the night. This time I'm blessed with a baby who only wakes up once and nurses for 5 minutes, so I just nurse her in bed with the light off.

My DH and I had a big fight today too. He's not happy with 4 kids, but please - I do EVERYTHING anyway, how has it changed his life except for a little more noise? Drives me nuts.

[laughinglynxie]

I'm so sorry ladies. :( My husband is pretty supportive for the most part (especially with DS who is almost 3), but I really feel like he plays dumb to get out of helping with the baby. Like if I go get a shower or I'm trying to clean something and she starts crying, I wait a minute or so but then if he doesn't respond, I get angry and have to go in and soothe her myself. Then he gets all angry at me and says, "Well, I didn't know, you should have told me if you wanted me to pick her up." UM, DUH??? It seems like his temper is getting shorter and shorter and I feel the way he chooses to act out in front of our son is a bad example. And I've noticed that instead of giving a time-out or some other sort of "calm" discipline, he'll just get really crabby/sarcastic/naggy with him...

[Hobbermittens]

Dang! I am sorry we all have tough times with our DHs. I wonder why they all have such tough times with babies? Do they just feel helpless, or ARE they helpless? :sigh:

[Mochagirl]

I think the answer is men suck. I've vowed to raise my boys to be good husbands and fathers but it's hard when they have their dad as a role model. I won't give up though!

On a happier note, here's a picture of my rainbow baby in her rainbow diaper :HH:

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[Mochagirl]

Sadie just started smiling for the first time this morning!

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[atomic sagebrush]

She is so lovely!!! :heart:

[Hobbermittens]

Awwwww, Mocha! So cute! That little smile just melts your heart, doesn't it!

[Hobbermittens]

Thought I'd add a couple I took of Sawyer today. 5712

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[laughinglynxie]

Aww! You gals' babies are getting so chubba-licious! My little gal is still a teeny thing. Maybe once she "wakes up" a little more, she'll plump up better. My DS was a chunker, so it's weird for me to have such a teeny baby.

[Rosie85]

That bottom picture of Sawyer is one of the CUTEST baby pictures I have ever seen!!!

[Hobbermittens]

That bottom picture of Sawyer is one of the CUTEST baby pictures I have ever seen!!!

Thank you!! I took about a million today, and I couldn't figure out which ones I liked best. I think I like the bottom one best, too. :)

[auroara78]

you ladies have the cutest babies!!!

sawyer looks so chunky I just wanna eat him he's so adorable and precious!


and how sweet and beautfiul that smile is from Sadie!

so gorgeous!!

I don't go to work tomorrow afterall because of hurrricane sandy. They closed most things (I work for a career college) around my area, I just hope it doesn't hit us too bad and we don't lose power. Well, we alwyas lose power in a storm (above ground lines) but I hope it's not too bad. Kinda concerned about this week is going to play out.

[Hobbermittens]

Thanks Auroara!

I hope the storm isn't too bad up there. Losing power would be lousy! Do you have another way to heatt hehouse without electricity?

[auroara78]

no :( but we have a tiny house and lots of blankets so maybe it wont be so bad...the weird thing is that because of the cold front and the hurricane they say on tues it could turn to snow??? we've never had snow (I don't believe) so early, being at the very end of October...this weather is nuts. I will just keep Lillian warm with my body heat and lots of blankets :) and DH will bundle up the boys really well and keep them close to us.

[PeonyPrincess]

Yay, it worked. I am happy that I figured it out (finally)!! Now I will be able to introduce you to my baby when she arrives.

Auroara, stay safe and warm. I hope hurricane Sandy is kind to you all.

Sorry to hear so many DHs are being so useless. Don't forget men like to be given jobs to 'fix' and to be told what you need. I am absolutely the type to want them to read my mind, but it doesn't work of course. I also make a point of leaving my DH with my babies (even for a short time) so they feel more confident with them and like they are a big help. I find I need a brief escape for my own sanity anyway.

I'm loving all the gorgeous baby photos. They are simply adorable and all look so healthy.

[Mochagirl]

Awwww Hobber - what gorgeous pictures!

Peony - love the bump. You're making me miss mine!

And yes, you're right about leaving dh with the baby to gain some confidence. The biggest mistake I ever made was doing everything myself when I had my twins. It set up a precedent that's too hard to overcome now. Whenever I talk to first time moms the one piece of advice I give is to get dh involved right from the beginning so he understands what's expected of him.


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[dloui128]

Peony you look awesome :)

[auroara78]

Peony, you are so gorgeous and your bump is making me miss mine too!! hehehe

Mocha, I really agree, I did get DH involved with DS1, well mostly because back then he worked morning for a retail company and I always worked nites, so we often split shifted the care of DS1 and his mom watched DS1 in the hours that overlapped. So my DH has always been very capable of caring for the kids, only problem of course is when I"m around, it's all "me" because when I"m not around (at work, etc) he of course takes care of them. This weekend I went shopping with his mom for like 5 hrs and he had all 3 kids and was fine. So he's great when I have to leave the house to get a haircut or anything, its just when I"m home if I ask for help he gives me a look and is generally sighing a lot and not too keen on helping out.

After we had a serious talk with him about not knowing where I was in my cycle, and how I know he didn't want another baby so soon, he seemed like he understood and agreed and seemed scared straight. Then this morning, he tried some moves, and I had to remind him that I thought we agreed to cool it? he wasn't very happy that I was denying him, lol. Men...they can be such pigs. And I don't care what he says, ever since he stopped drinking, his sex drive has been crazy (compared to what it used to be), and I know this is going to sound weird and voodoo-ish, but that ring/pencil test predicted I'd have a boy next, and I can just see what would happen if we're not careful!

I'm working out and I'm already lost a few lbs, and I'm generally feeling pretty good....Lillian's more awake now, I just wish she'd smile or have a different expression....usually she looks startled or a little panicked when she's awake, or just very neutral. It will be great to see her smile and giggle soon!

My other concern about the hurricane is it hasn't hit my area too hard yet...just rain and some wind, but nothing crazy. They are predicting late tonight and tomorrow to be the worst for us, and because all schools around here closed down today and it wasn't too bad, I'm worried that my work will open tomorrow, feeling that the storm isn't going to hit us, when the worst isn't even close to us yet.

[Hobbermittens]

Peony! You are so tiny--all baby belly! How cute!

[Hobbermittens]

Auroara, hope the hurricane chaos isn't too bad. The news is making it sound scary, saying it is the first time most people have seen a hurricane with snow! Can you get a generator or something to keep your heat on? Or do you have a fireplace? I worry about you all getting too cold!

[pinkin2011]

Peony, you look Awesome!!!!!! That belly is gorgeous!!!!

[PeonyPrincess]

Thanks everyone. I don't feel awesome today. So short of breath, I need baby to drop a bit so I can breathe!

Thinking of you Auroara. It is not sounding good over there with Sandy about to hit land.

[laughinglynxie]

Gah! Peony, you are way too cute!! :)

Hope all those that are in Sandy's way are staying safe!

[auroara78]

We still have power, and everything is OK in my state. Sandy went north-ish and is really pelting New York and NJ, so I feel for ppl in those states. My work is open tomorrow, but opening late. I worry that it's going to get worst tonight and we might still lose power. They are still saying maybe snow tomorrow nite, so this is kinda nuts. So far it's been nothing but constantly drizzly rain, but I'm keeping a very watchful eye out. thanks for your thoughts!

[PeonyPrincess]

Good to hear you are ok Auroara. The images we are seeing on the tv and computer are pretty bad, especially with all the flooding.

I saw my OB this morning and she did an u/s (the first one I've had since 20 weeks). Baby is not engaged yet but is positioned perfectly otherwise. Looking like a normal size, and I will have another u/s on Saturday to check for size. She is talking about inducing me on my due date (15th Nov) if baby hasn't arrived by then. I see the OB again next Tuesday and have to decide if I want her to do a sweep or wait until she gets back from her holiday. If I wait until she gets back, then it is only 2 days before I will be induced. Not sure what to do, but hopefully the baby has the perfect plan. I really don't want to be induced for a third time.

[Hobbermittens]

Auroara, hope all is still well! The stuff on TV looks awful. I hope you were able to have the storm bypass you.

Peony, remember--you are having her on 10-11-12! You are the last hope for the super cool birthday!

[auroara78]

the hurricane bypassed us--all we got was some drizzly rain for two days and some wind, but we never lost power and no trees went down in our area, so the roads were fine. I am so grateful for this because it would have been tough having a newborn and the two boys and no power. I definitely do feel for the folks who were hit by the hurricane, NY and NJ got hit pretty hard.

[Mochagirl]

Sadie's 6 weeks old today. She's growing up too fast! She had her last appointment with the midwife a couple of days ago - I always find it sad to say goodbye to my midwife - she gave me a big hug and demanded I keep in touch. Sadie's now 10lbs 2oz, which is about 2lbs over her birthweight, so she's growing really well.

[Hobbermittens]

Oh good, Auroara! I was thinking about you this morning when the news showed all the snow in WV. Isn't that where you are? Anyway, glad you got off easy!

Mocha, Sadie is getting big fast! I think Sawyer is probably close to 11 lbs already. Crazy how fast they grow! I know what you mean about feelin sad saying good bye to your midwife. I will see my Dr one more time for my 6 week check up, and then we will be back with our regular family Dr. It does make me sad--I love the guy who delivered Sawyer! (he delivered 3 out of 4 of my kids).

Happy Halloween to all of you who celebrate it! My kids are so excited to dress up and go trick-or-treating. I made a Jello brain for the older two to take to school. It is also my anniversary--DH and I got married 9 years ago today!

[Mochagirl]

Happy Halloween!

Here's my brood, dressed as Super Mario characters

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Sadie is Toadette - my kids suggested it before she was even born.

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[Hobbermittens]

Mocha, that is so cute! Did you make all those costumes yourself? Everyone looks great! Your kids are adorable. :)

[Mochagirl]

Yes, I made all the costumes. Actually, I made all 3 boys' costumes last year. I lucked out and they wanted to be the same thing this year for Halloween, so all I had to do was whip up a Toadette hat for Sadie. Disclaimer: I am not by any means a sewer - this was the first time I even opened the sewing machine my mom gave me as a gift years ago.

[auroara78]

ahh Mocha the kids look so cute!!!

happy wedding anniversary hobbers to you and hubby!! ours was back in august.

last nite was a fiasco though; after waiting for DH's mom to show up, and the kids were getting antsy wearing their costumes, DS1 loved his and was fine, DS2 kept pulling his tail or taking his hat off, and DD well she just wanted to sleep and wanted ppl to stop messing with her...we finally start trick n treating and DS2 kept taking off his shoes and trying to walk around in socks! DD didn't last but a minute or two when DH volunteered very quickly to take her inside and watch her (I wish he was more into seeing the kids trick n treat) then once we finally started walking around the neighborhood we went to three houses before DS1 proclaimed he was too scared to keep going and started to whine and cry about going home because it was too "spooky" , so he got very little candy! When we got back home though he was happy to hand out the candy we had to the trick n treaters who came, and my only compliant is that at the end of the nite there were two teenaged kids and an old lady (I guess their mom?) who held out a sack too! Greedy! I would've said something but I just gave her a single piece of crap candy and then turned off the lites, lol.

I just don't understand--two years ago DS1 was a trick n treating fool when he was 3 and now he's all scared of the dark...he just turned 5, so I guess its also his age. I just hate when i envision things going a certain way and they dont know...alas it's life.

[auroara78]

Halloween pics of the kids.

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DS2 did not want to sit still! This is the only pic I got of him kind of in the frame, lol.
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[ladybug]

Mocha the kids are adorable :).....We were also a Mario family :)....I was momma Mario..lol

Aurora....my 5 yr was the same way....my 3 yr old was way braver and enjoyed it much more....the 5 yr old loved handing out the treats...We also had older greedy kids at the end of the night...we gave them juice boxes and shut everything down as well :)....

Happy Anniversary Hobber!!!!!

So I had my OB apoointment yesterday and I have only gained 1 lb in the past 6 weeks due to the GD diet I am on....He told me to loosen it a little...lol..great timinig....Baby Makalee is doing great...she weighs 5lb 5oz right now and will be joining our family in 3 weeks.....I am so excited.....I am shocked at how organized I am this time around....totally ready for her arrival!!! I will get the exact date at my next apointment....I know now it will be between Nov 18-23....Yay!!!

[fivebabies]

Ladybug~ I need some new ideas for what to eat for the gestational diabetes. I'm getting bored of the same old things. Thx!

I really dislike Halloween. lol. But we went out with my 4 kids and my 3 of their cousins so it was fun. We have a really great neighborhood for it. We ended up with a Dracula, clown, mermaid and fireman. They're cute so that makes it worth it. But my body is NOT happy with me today for all the walking we did last night. Was contracting like crazy the whole time.

I've gained 2 pounds exactly this time so far...hope I can keep that # down over the next 4 weeks! FX

[Hobbermittens]

Ladybug, how exciting your baby will be here so soon!

You too, fivebabies!

Auroara, sorry your Halloween didn't go as planned, but maybe by next year your DS1 won't be so spooked. The kids sure looked cute in their costumes!

[auroara78]

Well ladies, good news: my first postpartum period came this morning w/ a bang! I know most women wouldn't be happy about it so soon after having a baby, but since DH and I played around with no idea where I was in my cycle, this is surely a blessing!! I'm going to try BC pills and if it goes well, I guess stay on them for 2 years until I'm ready (if we are) for no. 4. It may even be three years because I'm def. determined not to TTC agin until we are actually living or have purchased a bigger house!

So...for those who have taken them in the past, you take them 7 days after period starts, right? or do you start them on a sunday? I know, I should just read the instructions lol, but I haven't gotten my script filled yet. Was waiting to make sure I got a period.

[laughinglynxie]

You can either do the "Sunday Start" like you say and take them the Sunday following/during your period OR you can start any ol day during your period, really. I always did Sunday Start because that was easiest to remember where I should be in my pack or my NuvaRing.

[Hobbermittens]

Auroara, you got AF already? Wow, that's soon! I am hoping she stays away from me for a long, long time! Good luck with the pill. It has been so long since I took them, I don't remember anything.

[Hobbermittens]

DId someone start a Nov thread yet?

[Hobbermittens]

Okay, I just did:
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/due-sept-oct-november-2012/16907-november-chit-chat-thread-ladies-due-sept-oct-nov-2012-a.html#post283140