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The Anchor
October 1st, 2012, 02:54 PM
Hi Ladies,

I got some bad news today at my u/s...bub was only measuring 11 weeks and no h/b. I was 12 weeks 3 days. I had some bleeding last week, and I just had this hunch, KWIM? I'm okay, REALLY, the doc said nuchal fold indicated chromosomal abnormality. Guess I shouldn't be that surprised, given my age (40). It still stings though...

I have to go for a D&C on Wednesday. I know it JUST happened, but I'm already planning the next one? Am I NUTS? When can I try again?

You've all been so awesome anyway, even before this news...HUGS.

nuthinbutpink
October 1st, 2012, 03:03 PM
I'm so sorry.

ThreeMenAndALAdy
October 1st, 2012, 03:05 PM
I'm really sorry Anchor.

Boymomsrock
October 1st, 2012, 03:07 PM
Oh Anchor that breaks my heart. And no you are not nuts. hugs

Shellbelle
October 1st, 2012, 03:08 PM
Oh, Anchor. I'm so so sorry.

NCBeachyGrl
October 1st, 2012, 03:10 PM
I'm so sorry! You have such a great attitude and I hope the D&C goes well and you get a speedy BFP. Big hugs!

BeadinMom
October 1st, 2012, 03:11 PM
Anchor, I am so incredibly sorry.
Keeping you in my thoughts & prayers. <3

auroara78
October 1st, 2012, 03:13 PM
so sorry to hear this...but I agree, sometimes, the best thing is to keep moving forward....am still very sorry to read this tho

Pink4me
October 1st, 2012, 03:17 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this. xx

dloui128
October 1st, 2012, 03:19 PM
I am so sorry

Tickled Pink!
October 1st, 2012, 03:35 PM
So sad to read, I'm sorry Anchor.

Sihaya
October 1st, 2012, 03:35 PM
I'm so sorry. I think there's really no such thing as nuts when it comes to losses. Whatever you need to do is what you need to do.

I waited a few months after both of my miscarriages, but I also let them resolve naturally, so I had to wait for the HCG levels to go back down to 0, which will happen fairly quickly after a D&C. If I were you, I would try again immediately if you feel ready since you are concerned about your age.

Mrs_P
October 1st, 2012, 03:44 PM
Oh anchor i'm really sorry :hugs:

Pearl327
October 1st, 2012, 04:04 PM
So sorry Anchor.

deaks66
October 1st, 2012, 04:08 PM
So sorry anchor, hope you can move forwards quickly.

Tiffani3
October 1st, 2012, 05:00 PM
Oh anchor I'm so sorry big hugs to you xx

faithuk
October 1st, 2012, 05:07 PM
So sorry, thinking of you xx

*ruby*
October 1st, 2012, 05:19 PM
I'm so sorry Anchor. I felt the same way about TTC straight away and ended up ovulating on day 20 after the d&c. Hope you're doing okay, I honestly felt fine the first couple of days but then worse as the time went on but found talking with friends and family about it all really helped. (hugs)

*ruby*
October 1st, 2012, 05:22 PM
Oh and my Dr told me to wait until after I got my first AF to try but I decided to go ahead straight away. I guess it's up to you which way you want to go.

myGirl
October 1st, 2012, 05:27 PM
I'm so sorry Anchor. My thoughts and prayers are with you.


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Cinss
October 1st, 2012, 05:27 PM
That is devistating news, so sorry to read this :(

3xxwantaxy
October 1st, 2012, 05:30 PM
Im so sorry! We lost ours at 19w5d....still waiting for a sticky BFP and that was 4/27.....also some get AF 4-6 WEEKS POST others have to wait longer....take time to grieve and i advise not trying until after first AF then feel free....studies show waiting 3months isnt better but we had a chemical first month then we just had our 2nd mc.....

Myloves
October 1st, 2012, 07:23 PM
I'm so sorry :(

jennaesue
October 1st, 2012, 09:21 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this. You sound like you have a great attitude, though, and of course you are not crazy for wanting to try again soon! Good luck to you.

Wanting a daughter
October 1st, 2012, 09:25 PM
So very sorry. I wish you loads of luck moving forward.
(((hugs)))

3Pink1Blue
October 1st, 2012, 11:15 PM
So sorry Hun, big big hug.

sweetpea
October 1st, 2012, 11:34 PM
I am so sorry to read this, Anchor. :( Big (((hugs))) to you.

mummypink
October 4th, 2012, 03:34 AM
I'm so so sorry hun, sending you a massive hug xxxxxxxxxxx

Zivic-Bubac
October 4th, 2012, 10:14 AM
I'm already planning the next one? Am I NUTS? When can I try again?
Anchor I'm so sorry to hear this :sadflwr:
You are not nuts, and I say that's the spirit!!!! Keep your chin up, next time will be a sticky one!

If you are secretly hoping for pink, you can try as soon as you get your period back, 1st cycle after m/c sways pink. If you want a boy, then you should wait for few cycles, maybe drink red raspberry leaf tea to help with uterus linig and prepare you for next successful pregnancy!

Best of luck :luck:

fresas
October 4th, 2012, 06:19 PM
Oh no! I'm so sorry. :( I know it probably didn't help to hear that maybe the loss happened because of the chromosomal issues, but maybe knowing why will help give you closure.

Trying again is probably a personal decision, but make sure your blood levels are okay (hcG returns to 0 or close to 0, iron levels are okay, folic acid levels are okay, etc) and give yourself time to grieve. Please take care.

iluvmy4sons
November 24th, 2013, 06:03 PM
So sorry for your loss.


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