Stress and TTC Girl - does it sway?

[meeks32]

Ok so I have read conflicting information on stress and ttc girl. Some say people in high stress careers have girls, others say stress increases testosterone and sways boy. So which is it?

I have always been pretty stressy, and when ttc with my boys I had stressful job, but great home life. Now my job is fine and my home life is still great but with two little ones I'm often stressed from the sound of crying, running around after them, trying to stop them from killing themselves in almost every environment etc etc. ;-)

So I can't see how my stress levels have changed, if anything i'm more highly strung now, and often feel stressed. Will this hurt my girl sway? I'm not exercising just in case, because I don't want to make it worse, also, I don't have much left to loose before I get to underweight BMI (3-6 pounds left to go) so I don't want to exercise and gain muscle because I do gain muscle very quickly.

So will stress hurt my sway? Anyone got experience with stress and had a girl? or a boy?

[Rosie85]

I have wondered the same, statistics clearly show women in high stress jobs have girls! Sooo conflicting.

I Have a bad temper and am stressed, angry, quick to yell ...have two boys and another on the way so that would prove the opposite. So hmmm no clue!

Do angrier people hav higher testosterone from that alone?

[wilma_five]

Wondering the same! I'm a stressed person! Very easy hyperventilating and have 5 boys. I'm 4 dpo now and I'm so scared that I am pregnant with another boy because I had some very stressfull -fight or flight- situations the week before O.

[Tiggerian]

Aggression and Testosterone definitely have a relationship! But I don't know if stress and testosterone have a relationship.

But with women in very stressed jobs - that could also be because of their eating habits. If they have very stressful jobs its very likely they haven't time to sit down and eat a proper meal and eat little snacks with little nutritional value. I think it might just be one of those thinks where there is a positive correlation, but too many factors to determine stress is the actual swaying factor.

[Tiggerian]

I just found this - BUT I do NOT know how legit this website is.

"The body’s response to increased stress is to release cortisol, the stress hormone. Since cortisol is important to biological functions like glucose metabolism, blood pressure regulation, insulin release, immune function, and the inflammatory (healing) response, let’s make sure we have as much of it as possible.

Since increased cortisol (and in fact, all glucocorticoids) brings with it decreased testosterone, we want to make sure that we make a mountain out of every molehill we come across. Someone cut you off in traffic? Curse, rant, rave, flip that $#*!% off. Coworker screw up? Ha! We don’t make mistakes in the office, so let them have it! And if your spouse says something that could possibly be offensive, but probably wasn’t intended to be, make sure you take it the wrong way."

Eight Ways To Lower Your Testosterone Levels : Real Food University (http://www.realfooduniversity.com/eight-ways-to-lower-your-testosterone-levels/)

[wilma_five]

Thanks a lot!

[wilma_five]

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/science-behind-gender-swaying/5910-article-about-stress-swaying-girl.html

[BabyGirl4Me]

Absolutely loved that article posted by Tiggerian. Too funny. Maybe I'll include massive shouting matches and all night binge drinking fests in my sway. :rofl:

[Peanut41]

Aggression and Testosterone definitely have a relationship! But I don't know if stress and testosterone have a relationship.

But with women in very stressed jobs - that could also be because of their eating habits. If they have very stressful jobs its very likely they haven't time to sit down and eat a proper meal and eat little snacks with little nutritional value. I think it might just be one of those thinks where there is a positive correlation, but too many factors to determine stress is the actual swaying factor.

Good point about the eating! When I work the summers at my parent's business I am so stressed and eat whatever I can just to get something to eat before it's busy. From April to September I lost 30 lbs!

[Tiggerian]

I hear you! I worked as a waitress/bartender one summer and lost about 20 lbs over 2 months! Maybe thats what I should do? Get a job as a waitress again and get my girl that way ;)

[atomic sagebrush]

It is the kind of stress that matters and also how you respond to stress both physically and mentally. Boy moms tend to be more high-strung and tightly wound (tend to get carried away, obsess over tiny details and be control freaks) than girl moms do.

PLEASE PLEASE do not start worrying about the level of stress in your normal, day to day life. You cannot control that. What you need to look out for is the kind of obsessive, detail oriented stress that comes from pressuring yourself to attain goals and launching into nitpicky projects that matter a lot to you - like swaying. DO NOT obsess over swaying, don't launch into big projects like making color coded charts about your CM consistency and pH (yes, people used to do this back on IG). Those are the things that are going to sway blue for you. Worrying about your day to day life and trying desperately to control that is only going to stress you out further and raise your T levels.

For me personally, I am VERY high strung and tightly wound. VERY. I am always one minor disaster away from a freakout meltdown and my husband's "affectionate" nickname for me is "Twitch". Constantly uptight and stressed out all the time over all sorts of little things and I have the 4 boys. Then, last year, I suddenly had a lot of very serious stress and it was all things I was totally helpless to do anything about. At first I was my normal control-freak self but over the months I got really hopeless and defeated - I was still totally stressed out, but it was just a totally different feeling than my normal response. I was really mellow and fatalistic about it. it was a feeling I had never experienced before and lo and behold, I did get a girl.

[atomic sagebrush]

I just found this - BUT I do NOT know how legit this website is.

"The body’s response to increased stress is to release cortisol, the stress hormone. Since cortisol is important to biological functions like glucose metabolism, blood pressure regulation, insulin release, immune function, and the inflammatory (healing) response, let’s make sure we have as much of it as possible.

Since increased cortisol (and in fact, all glucocorticoids) brings with it decreased testosterone, we want to make sure that we make a mountain out of every molehill we come across. Someone cut you off in traffic? Curse, rant, rave, flip that $#*!% off. Coworker screw up? Ha! We don’t make mistakes in the office, so let them have it! And if your spouse says something that could possibly be offensive, but probably wasn’t intended to be, make sure you take it the wrong way."

Eight Ways To Lower Your Testosterone Levels : Real Food University (http://www.realfooduniversity.com/eight-ways-to-lower-your-testosterone-levels/)

Yeah, I don't disagree with that - confrontation and conflict can def. raise T.

You ahve to be careful, though, because if you are chronicaly stressed out, your body can get "tired" and end up producing less T overall over the course of time.

[meeks32]

Thanks ago,if, it's much clearer now. And I also have so,etching to blame if my sway fails, because I'm exactly like you, I laughed so hard at the nickname twitch. I can be mellow about big things but love organisation and can imagine doing colour codes charts and for example I'm a POAS and opt addict. Those little details and obsessiveness over what I can control.

Am trying to curb it! It's like going against my DNA! Hoping this doesn't sway as much as diet and so on.

About to post a new topic about frequency and its importance, would love your input.

[atomic sagebrush]

Yeah, DON'T try to curb it, it won't work anyway and may even backfire because you'll be all like, OMG I'M STRESSED I HAVE TO CALM DOWN!!

The good news is there have been successful sways even among the worst of the stress/obsess set so I know it's possible. I do think it's the singlemost common reason why otherwise good sways produce opposites, tho.

[meeks32]

Just noticed my typos above, thanks iPad, not! Glad it was decipherable. Thanks for the advice re stress, I will try and think positive that I'm doing everything else possible to sway so its the thing I can't control and I won't worry about it.

[ThinkPink2014]

Atomic, lol I just love you. What you wrote above about your personality and how you handle stress reminds me so much of myself. I'm super high strung and detail oriented as well. Gah. I get sick of myself sometimes and I'm sure my DH tires of me too. I call myself "insufferable" and try to fake being more chill than I am haha. I have one DS so far. Girl sway attempt slated for not this cycle, but likely the next. I'm a SAHM right now, but might take on some consulting work. I don't honestly know if the work will lower my stress by giving me something else to focus on besides the various things I obsess about or just add to the load. I'm currently worried about my baby inhaling wood smoke from our neighbor's outdoor fireplace and spazzing out over getting our home properly insulated and last night that combined with my usual stressors had me feeling defeated/deflated/depressed. BLAH.

Anyhow, yeah...I just adore you and your posts. Sorry if that sounds stalkerish. I assure you I'm mostly normal and not a Nutter Butter (besides the aforementioned Nuttery Butteration, of course). ;-)

[atomic sagebrush]

No thank you I really appreciate it! Some days this can be a hard gig and today is one of them. Thank you. :)

PS FWIW, Meeks did get a girl!!!

[Mulberry Smurf]

Noticed quite a few of these ladies got their girl how fantastic :) I had been working as a teacher when I got pg with my
Son so my stress was very much over trying to control everything then my second son we had just moved house so again lots to project manage. There definitely could be something in that!! Xx