Why do people say insensitive crap!

[mydream]

I was talking with a woman today ...who said to me "wow you are brave for having 3 kids....I would have had 3 but I know too many people who have horrific stories about their 3rd pregnancy, child being born not healthy etc"...
why the **** would she say that knowing I am due soon!
so upset now and worried of course.

[BeadinMom]

Some people are so self absorbed!!!
PLEASE don't worry about that lunatic...all 3 of my boys were perfectly healthy...I had great pregnancies & everything was so uneventful. And I know SO MANY ladies with the same story.

Please relax & enjoy the end of your pregnancy...that sweet little girl will be here before you know it!!! :)

[Tiggerian]

Oh its so typical people!! It's the same thing with peoples need for telling you how horrific their births were the first time you're pregnant.

There's always someone who has to butt in and tell you some crap you really don't need or want to hear just because they can't keep their mouth shut.

Ok fair enough she thinks you're brave for having three kids - that would be legitimate enough, but did she ahve to include the end bit!?

[Princess of Pink]

Don't stress it hon!! I'm going for #6 and all of my kids are healthy and labours were pretty easy to be honest, and there are people on here with more kids than me!! What a stupid reason to not have 3 kids!!

[Mrs_P]

All three of mine to were fine and healthy, although the midwife did tell that labors with the third can be the trickiest (but not with a negative outcome, just that 3rd babies can be little monkeys). Mine was, he was 8 days late and didn't want to come out but after i actually got into labor it was the easiest one i had - he was out in minutes and perfect - just took him while to decide to come.

Hope you have a good labor and i'm sure you and baby will be fine - after all there are so many of us on here going back for a forth, the third can't have been that bad x

[Cinss]

Its really less about YOU and more about her justifying things to herself, dont worry about it!

[mydream]

Thanks ladies!! Feeling better. I knew you would help !

[Butterfly Spirit]

What a RUDE BEECH! I would have said "That's too bad, I wouldn't let someone else's life determine my dream of having 3 kids." "My baby's healthy and will be here soon!"

Don't let her get you down! Your long awaited daughter is almost here!!!! :cheer:

[fairyfrog]

My third pregnancy and birth was the BEST every!!!

[Tiggerian]

I've heard a lotof people saying the third was their best and easiest pregnancy and birth!

[Typical_Jules]

Doesn't even make sense! I've had 8 gorgeous babies, no problems :)

[LacePrincess]

What an idiot! Sorry you had to deal with such a cow.

So what would she say for those of us trying for 4+? Geez. It's not like we're in Duggar territory yet. Besides, even if we were, what business is it of theirs anyways?

Interesting about #3 being little monkeys, mine certainly is, lol. Though he was an easy baby and getting crazier as he gets older from imitating his older brothers. It really rocks to have the older kids around too as it's so much fun to watch them play with and teach their younger siblings. (Though with disastrous results at times!!!)

[HopefulMonster]

Aww hun I wouldn't give it another thought, some people are just idiots!! I will be wishing you a quick and easy labour and I can't wait to see a pic or two of your gorgeous little one *hugs*

A couple of weeks ago someone who my DH knows who is expecting her first (accident) baby said to me "I hope I get lucky like you and she comes as early as yours did because I can't wait to get my life back." - bear in mind my little one was born at 35 weeks, not breathing and very tiny, and had to be incubated and all sorts, and it was the most horrific few days worrying if she would be ok an it enraged me that she was more interested in getting back into her skinny jeans than what was best for her baby, not to mention upset she implied I was lucky that it happened to us! Some people need to engage their brains before they open their mouths xxxx

[My Three Sons]

Don't let her get to you at all. She is just ridiculous. I decided long ago not to listen to negative comments regarding pregnancy. All of mine were fine and there are TONS of women that have perfectly healthy pregnancies and babies everyday. My doctor told me with #3 that each pregnancy tends to have increased intensity of symptoms, like my back hurt more with each pregnancy, but nothing serious, but with each one the delivery tends to get easier. Boy, was she right! My last was born and just popped out. Seriously. Swish. Pop. Done.

People are so crazy anyway, like we care what some stranger in the store thinks. I was in Walmart one day with DS3 when he was about 10 months old. This lady in line in front of me said that he was such a good baby. We started chatting just a bit while we were in line and somehow it got brought up that I had 2 more boys at home. She asked if I knew they "made a pill for that." Seriously lady? I could care less what you think and I don't care that you think I have too many kids. And I am certainly glad that I wasn't "taking a pill for that" as I would never have my dear sweet baby. We are financially stable individuals, work hard, care for our kids, love them and cherish them. How many we have is not determined by anyone other than DH, myself and God. So there. Keep on checking out at your Walmart Superstore and go back to your sad life while I go back to my sweet kiddos. I bet she didn't have anyone run to the door and swarm her with hugs and kisses when she got home like I did.

Oh, and I'm glad my mom wasn't in the same school of thought...I am number 7 in my family.

[EODwife363]

I really love how some people feel entitled to say whatever the crap they want.
I just try to ignore it. It's not their life so why do they care?!

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

My 3rd delivery was incredibly easy. I too was having my first dd, and she was out in 2 pushes. Enjoy this time. I wish I could go back to that moment again. My dd is now 3...it goes so fast. Congratulations.

[WantingPink]

You were probably nicer than I would have been... I probably would have said something like "that is too bad everyone you know is like that... the people I know that have at least three tell me their third is their perfect child... that is why we went for #3 and so far they have been correct"

I think she really did want three and now she tells herself that her third would have been a nightmare to make herself feel better. People can be so self absorbed!!

[Hblove]

My sister's 3rd pregnancy was the easiest for her and they were her twins! I'm pregnant with my 3rd and everything's been going great! Just people talking when they shouldn't be.