Vent about a friend and swaying!

[6bluewant1pink]

So i have this friend who had a girl after 3 boys. Her daughter is now 1. She said after that girl no more well now after hearing i am gonna be ttc soon, She is actually ttc another girl She wants a sister for Her daughter. I asked Her advice on ttc girl. Here is Her sway {well She said she didn't sway}

The only thing i did was walk 5 days a week 30 min the least
drink green tea 2x a day
ate low fat foods
eat chicken , turkey , very little pork and ate fish
i ate breakfast every morning
and bd 1 day b4 O

Some of those things i am gonna follow but the Green tea,breakfast, and meats i am not following! Also timing i am not worried about. She knows i start my diet sometime next month. I told Her i Ovulating now. I saw a big glob of EWCM She tells me to TRY NOW . I was like NO i haven't started my diet yet. Mind you all She said She is gonna diet again before ttc another girl. Does it sound like She wants me to have another boy secretly? I told Her when we both were ttc our last kids around the same time i RUSHED to get pregnant this time i am not gonna rush i am gonna take my time! I know you Ladies would not advise me to TRY knowing i am not on the diet yet plus trying with a lot of EWCM is A big NO NO! I remember a while back when She was ttc her girl She told me She hardly had CM now She is telling me to BD once i 1st notice CM NO i am not and being very cautious this last time around! I am a little sadden cause i feel She is gonna end up with another girl and i end up with my 7th boy and She is gonna rub it all in my face once again :sad:

[Mrs_P]

oh hunny i really understand how your feeling but maybe she doesn't really know what swaying is so she thinks she is helping you telling you what she did. Old school swaying and cut off is the way to go, apart from we all know that doesn't sway. Chances are she got lucky last time (even the best boy sways can result in girls). Have you actually discussed gd swaying with her as from your describing it sounds like she's got some key things in her sway wrong. You could always point her in the right direction and enjoy swaying with the support of one of your best friends, it may even bring you closer

[6bluewant1pink]

Oh yes She knows what swaying it. She is a member on another Forum { a TTC Girl group} that i am on as well and She knows a lot about the whole swaying thing. When We conceived our last kids i was so sad about not getting a girl. She was over the moon and beyond, every time i turned around She kept on talking about what She got Her daughter. I was like rub it all in my face why don't you, She knows i am very sensitive and desperate for a girl. i feel like She was trying to shout out HA HA I got a girl and you didn't :mad:

[wilma_five]

Sounds not like a friend if you'd ask me!!!
If she knows about swaying and how a women can feel when wanting a girl desperate (and already has 7 boys...) she might just be a mean person who indeed wants you to have another boy. Some people do really feel better when another person feels worser.

[Mrs_P]

Now thats mean, any mom in that position (3, 4, 5 or however many boys) must have faced gd at some point otherwise why keep trying for a daughter to make someone else in that position feel worse is downright spiteful. There are plenty of people on here who will support you with your sway and we would gladly share your good news when the time is right. If she's doing it on purpose stay well away from her the last thing anyone with gd needs is a 'friend' like that. Hopefully your dream will come true and your daughter will be in your arms before you know it

[Wanting-a-girl]

She sounds like a bitch no offence but if shes your friend why would she rub it in ur face :(

[Cinss]

It does sound like she got lucky last time, and wants to sabotage you by giving you bad advice.

[WantingPink]

Sorry to hear that... this is why I don't have many "girl" friends. I would say you need to start having little contact with her while you are ttc. She is going to mess with your head and that is really the last thing you need right now. Tell her that you and DH have decided to not get PG right now so maybe she will lay off all of the baby ttc talk.

[Wanting-a-girl]

Ya I wouldn't have even told her that you were ttc I can't stand how some people are so competitive... This is not something to be competitive about.... When I was preg with my third my very best friend had a girl and even tho I didn't have gender dissapointment she never said anything crazy to rub it I'm my face my cousin on the other hand is competitive with me with everything literally everything and she had a girl when I was 4 months prg and she obviously rubbed it in my face... I didn't talk to for. A few months.... This time when I get preg I'm not telling anyone till I'm like 6 months cause I hate all the comments like omg it better be a girl who would want all boys... I'm sick of those tings .... I won't be dissapointed with another boy at all

[True Blue]

Have been in this situation and hated it :(
My advice, withdraw from your friend, as a pp has said tell her you have decided not to ttc for now. Only tell her what you want, when you want and most importantly only deal with her when you're feeling strong enough to.

[Becca.lms]

I'm with the other girls. I wouldn't even discuss it with her. I'm not telling anyone Im TTC a girl. My sister plans on getting pregnant shortly and is the same way. If my sister has a girl, I'll be happy she gets that experience. But if I have one she'll be jealous. And be happy if I don't. Also with Wanting-a-girl, I'll be completely thrilled still if I get a boy. Some people cant have kids period. So I'm not going to let a little thing like sex get me down. Your friend seems like she wants you to be jealous, so don't completely shy a way. Ask about her daughter and see how she is.

[PolishPrincess]

I think the whole situation is tricky. You know even if her intentions are not really that bad the whole situation sets you both up to be competetive and her to look like she is "the sway expert" I am in a VERY similar situation with my SIL and I am 99% sure she is preggers now (showing, not drinking) we both have all boys and she has said before her second would be a girl because I have all the boys What????? and she went on to have a boy. She is on chlomid and I fully expect this third one for her will be a girl....well I am DETACHING. I want to add to my family and I would love a girl and of course a fourth boy would be awesome, and if I am so wound up about what is going on with her I won't get pregnant AND my testosterone will be through the roof. I am so tired of the competition. It is everywhere. I just want to have my family and be happy so that is what I am choosing. GOOD LUCK these types of relationships SUCK!!!!! I hope everything turns out how you want! :fx:

[My Three Sons]

Some people slay me, honestly, how can making you feel bad make her feel better. I don't get it. I totally get feeling a bit jealous if a friend or relative get preggo with the DG you want, but I never wish ill will towards them and I never say things to them to make them feel bad. I'd certainly never try to intentionally sabotage their sway. I'd stay far away from her. If she asks just tell her that you aren't actively trying right now, maybe waiting until after vacation or something.

[mumof6]

sound like she wants you to go ahead and have another boy
from another mum of six boys to another i would take your time and dont rush into it
we have have been ttc for 10 going on 11 cycles af arrived for me a few days ago
all our boys were conceived very quickly within the first to third month of trying this is all very different to u but it's a positive thing because i feel like im not in a huge rush for it to happen.
FX we both get our little girls that we have waited a long time for :)

[4boysdesperate4agirl]

agreed...doesnt sound like a great friend. All my friends understand my girl craziness and desperate need for a girl. I have four great little boys. Definately take a step back and do whats best for you! Make sure you are comfortable with YOUR sway and yes...take it slow and steady! I have my FXed for you!

[QOTD]

I'm sorry, your friend does not sound like a good friend.

[6bluewant1pink]

Oh yes i am taking things slow! With my boys i rushed to get pregnant. I am gonna diet and do everything i can to try to increase my odds for a girl. I am gonna step back from Her. I do not need the negatively. I am not in any way trying to be competitive at all with Her. I am yes jealous some, She finally got a girl but it sucks even more when She rubs it in my face. Funny how all of a sudden after Her saying NO MORE kids after having Her girl then She hears me talk about me giving it another chance ttc girl now She wanna try for another girl.

[pebmcpd7]

Stay away fom her for awhile, don't make it obvious, ask about her DD??? GL, hate people like this...