OMFG people on ingender are so rude!

[Wanting-a-girl]

I never use ingender I have been a member there for over a year and have only replied to three posts I basically just browse there...

I love it here and even more so now!

I commented on a thread... Didn't say anything wrong and got totally attacked :s

Thanks gender dreaming for being here cause I wouldn't survive over there!

[Cinss]

Yeah this place is Da Bomb ;) Ive never seen attacks here and everyone is so helpful :)

[True Blue]

I love here :HH:

[3boys]

I used to be a regular member on InGender (DS3 was an IG sway) I popped on there the other day just to have a look and I could not believe it!! People being nasty to each other, the Gender Disappointment thread was mostly arguments. It made me shudder! I am so glad we have this site!

[The Anchor]

I know, right? I remember somebody telling me (when I was swaying for my boy) that my sway wouldn't get posted unless I satisfied something like 5 of the 7 factors...and it was a pretty snarky post. So I said, well if I get my boy, I don't really care if my sway gets posted...and the flood gates opened and all of a sudden the thread turned into a war-zone. It was kind of ridiculous actually, the whole thread ended up getting deleted. There are some ANGRY ladies over there!

[rainbowflower]

ohh I never look there but having a browse ;)
curious how many GD-promoted approaches such as LE have made their way over there!

[Wanting-a-girl]

It's just amazing how they can be such bitches we are all doing the same thing and just getting advice from eatch other I don't see what all the fighting is for!

[HopefulMonster]

I was on IG back in 2010 and I remember some of the women really pissed all over my sway that I had spent ages fine tuning, basically telling me that it was rubbish because I didn't buy a load of expensive crap to promote ions of all things, & because I wasn't messing about douching every ten minutes with what may as well be a lemon and lime cocktail!! It really demoralised me at the time, because let's face it there is a nice way of saying things, and it made me reluctant to post.

[Wanting-a-girl]

See that's so mean! I love how everyone here is so supportive! Especially cause most of us don't talk to friends about sway

[Mum23boys]

oOOOOOO I like a good bitch maybe i should go over there and add a few comments to some posts !!! ha ha Only kidding - so glad we have this site :-)

[HopefulMonster]

Yeh I think most people are looking for a bit of friendship, help, advice, encouragement or whatever, an swaying is a very emotional thing to start with without peple being rude to you lol!!

[My Three Sons]

I love it here! It doesn't matter how strong or weak your sway is, or what you add to it or delete, everyone is just informative and supportive.

[atomic sagebrush]

:heart:

[Kittybear]

This site fills me with hope that I'm not the worst mum ever for wanting a sister for my darling boy.... I won't be going anywhere :) x x x

[HopefulMonster]

Everyone has hopes and dreams for their children. It goes without saying we want them to always be happy and healthy, but other things vary person to person. You might hope your child is a doctor, or a lawyer, or a singer, or a mum of 12, you might want them to be athletic, or creative, to enjoy dancing, or playing piano, or baking cakes. Sometimes our dreams for our chidren involve them being a specific gender, and it is NO different than wanting your child to follow in your footsteps in the family business, or become a famous footballer, or hope that they will always come home for christmas, or whatever!! It doesn't make anyone a bad person or parent, it doesn't make anyone ungrateful, or underserving, it simply makes us human.

[atomic sagebrush]

What she said!! ^^^ Brilliant!

[Jadis]

I was once very active on IG as it was the first site I stumbled upon when I started this journey. Of course, with it's constant technical difficulties, I was willing to look at other communities and THANK GOODNESS. While there are certainly some good people on IG, there is a definite difference in the atmosphere here. It's more supportive, non-judgmental and generally helpful here. I'm a loyal GD gal now, though I still pop in on IG occassionally to read updates from some of the girls I remember.

[pebmcpd7]

I joined it a few years ago and posted a few times, silly little things but no one ever replied!!!! here no matter how silly or small the query it is answered!!!!

[rainbowflower]

Everyone has hopes and dreams for their children. It goes without saying we want them to always be happy and healthy, but other things vary person to person. You might hope your child is a doctor, or a lawyer, or a singer, or a mum of 12, you might want them to be athletic, or creative, to enjoy dancing, or playing piano, or baking cakes. Sometimes our dreams for our chidren involve them being a specific gender, and it is NO different than wanting your child to follow in your footsteps in the family business, or become a famous footballer, or hope that they will always come home for christmas, or whatever!! It doesn't make anyone a bad person or parent, it doesn't make anyone ungrateful, or underserving, it simply makes us human.
That's nice, I've never heard it put that way before

[mumof6]

i used to be a regular over there too, i stopped going there after another unsucessful sway with my last son
did a lot of research there when ttc our third pregnancy and my last son both were completely unsucessful sways and i found i was seeing nothing but negativity over there.
i'm very new around here but have found everyone great!!

[NearlyDone]

Its gone way downhill since a couple of years ago

[Elements]

I can even get onto the site anymore. Its very frustrating. This place is WAY better and has so much more solid advice

[mommymachine]

I still post on IG a lot. But I like this site a lot more. My questions always get answered here, and the people are just closer it seems. No one has bitten my head off cause I want another girl, actually in a perfect world I'd want G/B twins next, but over there ie seen so many times people getting snarky over someone wanting another of their DG.

[lobella2]

I have read a lot over there, but rarely have posted because when I was swaying I already had one of each and wanted another girl and from what I read on other threads people with mixed gender families were not treated very well. I have never felt like I don't belong here.

[BabyCakesTor]

The What to Expect when Expecting app is pretty bad too. I've actually deleted the app because of the "ladies" on there..

[rh1985]

It seems to me that they aren't very nice there unless you want a boy or girl after having like 4 or 5 of the other gender. Not a lot of understanding for people who want smaller families or even a preference for a first or only child.

[prettyinpink18]

Speaking of IG, is it now dead and gone? I am now getting a page that says domain has been redirected?? Anyone else getting this? I have mostly lurked here but think it is time to start posting again as the site is always reliable.

[The Anchor]

I have read a lot over there, but rarely have posted because when I was swaying I already had one of each and wanted another girl and from what I read on other threads people with mixed gender families were not treated very well. I have never felt like I don't belong here.

Yah, that was me. I had one girl and swayed boy and when I got him, people just stopped communicating with me! And most were outright MEAN.

[kimwh]

Speaking of IG, is it now dead and gone? I am now getting a page that says domain has been redirected?? Anyone else getting this? I have mostly lurked here but think it is time to start posting again as the site is always reliable.

I get the same when trying to go to the IGsite. The site has been directed to a godaddy.com blablabla...for two days now...

[Just <3 One <3 Girl]

This site is great! Everyone is so nice and friendly here :highfive:

[kaseybaby]

I am guessing IN-Gender is dead. I was going to post my U/S pics there for nub guesses and it is gone.

[Rainbow baby]

In gender is working fine for me :hide: It is not as nice as here but I want to absorb all the information I can on swaying and I really enjoy the nub guessing :/!!! Weirdness here I know !! I wish people would update there nub pics and not start new threads so I can see if I guess right or not :) :)

[kaseybaby]

Raibow, can you post a link for IG? Every time I go to it is says it does not exist

[kimwh]

I can get on now too!

[Claire33]

Ingender is on and off-line all the time. It will be back. I cannot say if it will take 1 day, 1 week or 1 month before it will be back, but it comes back every time.

[The Anchor]

lol...consistently unreliable.

[kimwh]

Highly prefer the consistency of genderdreaming

[lilgift]

Hi, I am new to this website, I usually go on in-gender, however, since yesterday I have not been able to get on it. I am too getting a notice of it's domain. I know this website has gone down before many times but I am very worried it may not come back again. I really hope that it does because it does have a lot of useful information to read and absorb.
lilgift x

[Dana-Alicia]

I post more on IG but lurk a lot around here as well. Happy to see genderdreaming is always up! But I do wonder about some of the girls on ingender, like newbaby and her babies health, does anyone know??

[Claire33]

I also wonder about Newbaby, she would get news this week I think.

[mommymachine]

Newbaby has updated if you want to try getting back on IG.

[prettyinpink18]

I still can't get on. I am now getting a blank white screen, not the redirected domain. Anyone get on today?

[Claire33]

Newbaby has updated if you want to try getting back on IG.

I can't get on either.

[mommymachine]

Its not www.in-gender.com (http://www.in-gender.com) anymore it's Gender Selection Guide (http://www.ingender.com). No hyphen.

[MamaK4]

I'm very new here but was on IG for a while before. I think the atmosphere here is much better from what I've seen and I like that I don't get monkeys every 2 seconds because things actually work!

[Kiara]

I think this site is a lot nicer. Went to check out in gender today and I was kind of suprised how rude people sound. Its like its a competition there and if you dont do exactly as they say (following all the rules of their swaying) you are so wrong and not trying hard enough. That was the impression I got.:) And I remember I thought the same the last time i checked it out. Of course I dont mean that all the people there are rude, but I think that the tone there is different from here.

[rh1985]

I remember when I first went on there to find out if I could ever do PGD for a first child for non-medical reason and a couple people actually told me I should just have two kids even if I really didn't want two because two isn't too many. Ugh... they don't know my situation.

[geminispinkmoon]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. I know there are good ladies there, I made some great friends. But there were enough mean ones that I finally ended up leaving, after having been there for many years. I got tired of how cold & rude people were once I conceived my first daughter, after many boys, and had the "nerve" to wish for another daughter & a sister for her. The change in how I was treated really upset me. :sad: I feel we ALL deserve to be treated with support & respect, as we grow our families & wish & hope for certain genders.

I haven't been here long but I read around for about a year before I joined b/c I wasn't sure if this place would be the same or not. I can say, it really isn't - I've yet to come across anyone even remotely as nasty as some of the ladies over there, which I'm grateful for! I have no one else to talk to about our ttc wishes and a girls gotta talk!! lol So I'm grateful to be here amongst super nice ladies :awe:

Whew! That was a novel :giggle: