Which gender are we more likely to conceive?

[Shakti]

My husband and I are 3 months away from trying to conceive. We've been back and forth about whether to even try swaying at all, but if we do, it's going to be a very lightweight sway as this will be our first child. As far as our reasons for swaying go with this being our first pregnancy, we're both in our 30s, so we're more than likely only having 2 pregnancies. Both genders would be nice, but both of us especially want a daughter. So we're still deciding whether to play with some lightweight swaying for our first.

I'm a vegan, while my husband is vegetarian, but still eats cheese, and hardly any other animal products. His breakfast and lunch is usually sandwiches, we normally share a smoothie made out of frozen fruit, usually berries but sometimes mangos, as well as kiwi fruit and spirulina powder. For breakfast, if I'm in a hurry I'll have a piece of fruit, usually an apple but sometimes a banana, if I have time I'll have muesli with soy yoghurt and frozen berries on top. Lunch is usually a salad, soup, or leftovers from dinner from last night. Dinner for us is usually a curry, stir-fry, pasta, sometimes burritos. Generally, my husband likes his food salty, I like mine spicy. Items that we especially eat a lot of include quinoa, yams, kale, tofu, ginger, tomato, zucchini, eggplant, etc. I try to eat about 1800-2000 calories per day, my husband needs more like 3000+, I really hope our children have his metabolism!

My husband is 33, works in IT, drinks a lot of coffee, is not the type to stress out easily at all. He lifts weights at the gym 2-3 times per week, and has great muscle definition, but does have a very hard time putting on weight. He thinks his testosterone levels may be on the low side, but this hasn't been tested. He's 2 meters (6'5"), and my guess is that his BMI at the most is 20.

I'm 31, and haven't worked since I moved to this country to be with my husband as I haven't quite yet mastered the language but am getting very close. So I'm probably going to be going back to work shortly after our first child is born. I usually wake up with coffee and then continue the day with herbal tea, and have recently switched to raspberry leaf to prepare my body for pregnancy. I stress out way too much for my own good, as I had a very traumatic childhood, but my husband and my yoga practice have been very soothing influences in my life. I practice yoga every day, sometimes twice a day, with Ashtanga being my main practice but I also incorporate some Kundalini and Yin. I go to the gym about 3-4 times per week as well, usually doing a cardio class such as spinning or fat attack, and 2-3 times per week I'll also do a core strength class such as pilates or XCO. My BMI is 21, and I'm 1.75 meters (5'9").

So just wondering if we don't do anything different from what we are doing now, what we are more likely to conceive?

[Shakti]

And I should have added that I'm currently on the pill, we've agreed to stop using it in April, and because of my periods being irregular before I was on the pill, I'm thinking of ordering some Vitex strictly to regulate my periods, so we can try and minimize the time it takes to conceive. My husband wears boxer briefs.

From the research we're done, it seems like we're a bit more likely to conceive a girl anyway, but then again, I am very fond of avocados, tomatoes, and mangoes, which I've heard are more boy foods, and my muscle definition isn't too bad, I have a hint of a 6-pack and very visible arm muscles.

What to do. It seems kind of silly to sway for our first, but then again, we know that if we have a boy for our first, then we'll definitely want to sway for a girl for our second, and we're aware that even if we sway hard then the odds of having a girl are only about 2/3 anyway. But it's also a balance as well, as our top priority is getting pregnant as quickly as possible.

So, basically, if our odds for a girl look very good while carrying on with our current lifestyle, we'll just do that, but possibly modify our diet a little bit if it would help our odds.

[atomic sagebrush]

I think you should sway because you can't know if you are set for a particular gender to begin with. it can't hurt to sway.

[The Anchor]

LOL...if only it were that easy! If you plan on swaying you've got LOTS of reading to do...check out the TTC boy and TTC girls there are tons of essays to get you started :)

[Shakti]

I did do my research quite a while ago, then felt like it's better to leave everything to chance, now my husband is obsessed with the idea of a daughter, which is warming me up again very quickly as well!

He says it's up to me, but my intuition right now is telling me to do a little bit, but not an all out pink sway. So primarily, he would be upping the tofu and coffee, I'd be trying to limit my tofu, avoid adding salt to anything, try to limit my calories to 1800 per day and avoid snacking between meals, skip breakfast only during the 2WW(I experimented before with skipping it, I definitely tend to binge eat later in the day if I skip breakfast), and avoid potassium rich foods such as bananas and potatoes. Our favorite tea at the moment is mainly liquorice and mint, so maybe try and drink only that. Based on the research we've done, if we do these tweaks, I think our lifestyle is already very pink-friendly anyway. My understanding is that it helps too that I'd be coming off The Pill, and that I'm using Vitex to regulate my cycle anyway, as knowing my cycle then otherwise I'd probably be one of the women who needs months after coming off The Pill before being fertile.

As I said, if we do sway, since this is our first I'd rather it not be an intense sway, especially if it means it takes longer to conceive. I figure just do small things, get excited about either possibility, and if we get a son then take it as a sign and embrace it.

[Cinss]

Im not too sure... If you were eating meat i would have said you are definatly swaying boy with your lifestyle. I think you have a good chance at a dd though with the few tweaks you mentoined.

[Shakti]

Interesting, which parts of my lifestyle would sway blue?

I was thinking earlier today exercise-wise, that I am probably best off between now and when I'm pregnant limiting my strength training to just yoga (which is very essential for me), then going to the gym only for cardio classes/training. It would be very difficult for me to do my yoga practice and 6 hour-long cardio sessions per week, however between the classes at my gym and the fact that like most Dutch people I use my bicycle to go everywhere, that would easily exceed 6 hours of cardio per week.

[luvalittleman]

Hi Shakti. I am in no way an expert but I have three girls and I can say your diet is much more nutrient dense than mine ever was.
I have never eaten red meat before conceiving but also was a very small eater. Not enough fruit and veg or good grains. In saying that, I'm not unhealthy (no fried foods or take-out - just plainer foods).
I am still learning about swaying (am 8 weeks pregnant and have done a big boy sway) but to try and have a boy I loaded up on nutrient dense foods. I also exercise a lot and always have. Am 5'9'' and naturally very muscly for a woman but still had three girls.
Also, my PH is a dead giveaway - always around 5 which favours girls. Maybe check your PH and you can try to adjust your diet to lower or increase it.
You can always have atomic write you a diet that will help naturally sway towards what gender you want. Her research is amazing and approach very natural.
Good luck.

[harleyquinn]

This is what ~I~ think....I think by putting any pressure/anxiety/ towards a particular gender along with alot of planning and *focusing* on things related to TTC....tips the scales towards blue ESPECIALLY if you are naturally hard wired to have boys to begin with (if there is even such as thing as *hard-wired* to have boys which I have my doubts unless its like something real tangible we can point to, such as current toxoplosmosis (can never spell that) infection)

Looking at your lifestyle...I have 4 sons, and I have NEVER been as healthy as you, in fact...I am quite inspired by your habits. One of these days, I will learn to eat better and use exercise as relaxation instead of torture!! :) Good luck

[Princess of Pink]

I think your lifestyle heavily leans boy to be honest!! I never ate a diet like that, nor did I exercise. I limited my intake severely to diet or skipped meals regularly. When I gained weight it was from eating nutritionally empty calories like white bread, pasta, sweets, chocolate, and low levels of fruit, veg and meat. I drank diet coke like most healthy people drink water, 2-3 litres per day. My lack of exercise meant I had low muscle mass.

A lot of what you described about your lifestyle screams boy and are things I am starting to change about my own lifestyle to sway boy. If I were you and had really researched what girl mothers eat/do and the studies you can find on here...and I wanted a girl....I would be swaying without a doubt!

[Princess of Pink]

This is what ~I~ think....I think by putting any pressure/anxiety/ towards a particular gender along with alot of planning and *focusing* on things related to TTC....tips the scales towards blue ESPECIALLY if you are naturally hard wired to have boys to begin with (if there is even such as thing as *hard-wired* to have boys which I have my doubts unless its like something real tangible we can point to, such as current toxoplosmosis (can never spell that) infection)

Looking at your lifestyle...I have 4 sons, and I have NEVER been as healthy as you, in fact...I am quite inspired by your habits. One of these days, I will learn to eat better and use exercise as relaxation instead of torture!! :) Good luck

You know what I think the biggest problem here is? Ladies research or buy a swaying plan and expect to completely change their lifestyle in 6 weeks - 3 months. Getting all the factors included and changing the way you eat, etc is very stressful at the beginning. Once it becomes normal to you it becomes easy and a lot less stressful. Thats why I started changing my lifestyle 6 months ago, got my plan last month and have started preparing now for my sway in June. By June the boy friendly way of life is going to be happening naturally without me having to put in any effort and I can concentrate on the baby dancing and identifying O. The biggest factor I see on this board is ladies on LE unable to stick to the diet and saying it's impossible to survive on it. Most of us girl mothers have survived our whole lives on it! When you get hungry and struggle eat sweets and junk with no nutritional value...guzzle the diet coke and sit on the couch!!

But for the record I have 5 daughters and have always obsessed about everything!! I border on OCD when I decide to do something and obsess about it constantly.

[babydust]

You already have a great start and I think with a few changes to diet and cutting out the weights you will have a great girl sway without tons of effort put in. I would keep the yoga for sure as it relaxes me too. Can't wait to get back to it after I have my baby! :).

[atomic sagebrush]

I did do my research quite a while ago, then felt like it's better to leave everything to chance, now my husband is obsessed with the idea of a daughter, which is warming me up again very quickly as well!

He says it's up to me, but my intuition right now is telling me to do a little bit, but not an all out pink sway. So primarily, he would be upping the tofu and coffee, I'd be trying to limit my tofu, avoid adding salt to anything, try to limit my calories to 1800 per day and avoid snacking between meals, skip breakfast only during the 2WW(I experimented before with skipping it, I definitely tend to binge eat later in the day if I skip breakfast), and avoid potassium rich foods such as bananas and potatoes. Our favorite tea at the moment is mainly liquorice and mint, so maybe try and drink only that. Based on the research we've done, if we do these tweaks, I think our lifestyle is already very pink-friendly anyway. My understanding is that it helps too that I'd be coming off The Pill, and that I'm using Vitex to regulate my cycle anyway, as knowing my cycle then otherwise I'd probably be one of the women who needs months after coming off The Pill before being fertile.

As I said, if we do sway, since this is our first I'd rather it not be an intense sway, especially if it means it takes longer to conceive. I figure just do small things, get excited about either possibility, and if we get a son then take it as a sign and embrace it.

This sounds good to me.

[atomic sagebrush]

Interesting, which parts of my lifestyle would sway blue?

I was thinking earlier today exercise-wise, that I am probably best off between now and when I'm pregnant limiting my strength training to just yoga (which is very essential for me), then going to the gym only for cardio classes/training. It would be very difficult for me to do my yoga practice and 6 hour-long cardio sessions per week, however between the classes at my gym and the fact that like most Dutch people I use my bicycle to go everywhere, that would easily exceed 6 hours of cardio per week.

Your diet is very nutrient dense with lots of variety and colorful fruits and veg, and you seem very detail oriented which can = boys. It's NOT about the things you do and eat per se, it's about your overall condition. The things we do for swaying are means to an end of either being in declining or improving maternal condition - and you're in great condition already. So your diet being somewhat girl friendly, may not really be as relevant as you might think.

My thinking for you is, it can't HURT you to sway pink (unless, as harley points out, you get "swaycessed" to such an extent that it can raise your T levels), and swaying may help. At the least you can double your chances - two tries and if the first doesn't go your way then maybe the second will. A lot of us would have loved to have the opportunity to sway pink with our first child! :)

[Lydia]

Hi shakti. Like you, my husband and I both plan on only having 2 children and both of us really wanted a girl (one of each would be fantastic as well but that's probably pushing our luck!!).
We decided when TTC #1 that we would do a gentle sway for a girl and if we ended up with a boy, then we'd try a more hardcore approach for #2. We were lucky enough to get a girl first time round. I've put what I did in the TTC a girl add your sway section of the forum if you are interested in seeing what we did.

Good luck with whatever you decide :)

[Shakti]

I'm back, and we ended up not swaying for this one. Mostly because conceiving our first was scary in the first place, and I wanted to establish whether we were fertile or not. We conceived in one cycle. And we're having a boy.

Really conflicted on how to feel, I wish we had swayed, but I also feel like a bad mother for saying so. I found out a week ago, and still crying. My husband is happy to help me sway for our next child, who is also likely to be our last, and said he's happy to go as high-tech as we can afford to, though in all honesty I doubt we'll ever be able to afford to go high-tech, nor will we be able to afford adoption, which is even more expensive here than high-tech. My husband wants 2 children, and I want 3, if he gets his way then the next one is our last chance to have a girl. Because I'll be almost 34 when we start conceiving our 2nd, I feel like that's more reason to do a sway as hardcore as we can both manage for our 2nd.

We've got 2 years before we're going to start trying for our 2nd, so that does give me plenty of time to do our homework, and to tweak my lifestyle so that it is more girl-friendly. I'm in Holland, and the woman in charge of the Dutch study does run a service complete with blood tests and a personalized plan for around 1500 Euros. That one has an 81% success rate, so if anyone knows of any other methods that have a similar success rate, please let me know.

One more question is if you were in my shoes, had a really good solid sway for your 2nd, and ended up with an opposite, would you still do the same sway for your 3rd? If so, then the odds of having a girl for our 2nd or 3rd would go up to 96%, which is very comforting.

Thanks everyone. And hoping I can relax so I can enjoy our son. This is really hard. :-(

[Shakti]

Old thread as well, so I'll repost this in gender disappointment.

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks for updating this thread, it's nice when people can read the end to the story too. :)

I mentioned this in your other thread but there is NO possible way to get 96% success rate, that's not how statistics work. your odds are the same every time.

[Shakti]

Sorry for the confusion, but I did not mean 96% success rate out of 1 pregnancy, but rather if we had 2 more pregnancies. Calculated through 20% rate of opposite squared = 4% chance of opposite for both pregnancies 2 & 3 if we sway for both. I know even Microsort promises 90% success rate, but probably out of our budget, especially because we have to travel for it.

Basically what I'm trying to figure out is if we do sway for pregnancy 2, have a really good solid hardcore plan, and still end up with an opposite, is it worth doing the same plan for pregnancy 3? Especially because I doubt Microsort will ever be in our budget, that, and as I'll be in my late 30s if/when we go for pregnancy 3, low fertility would make that one even more expensive.

Really conflicted and just trying to have a clear plan for the future, that's all.

[atomic sagebrush]

But that is NOT the way statistics work. If you flip a coin 2 times, your odds of heads is 50-50 each time, your odds of 50-50 do not change. The same is true of swaying. Even IF you can get to 80% with diet (I don't entirely believe this to be possible for the population at large; while our stats indicate this number as well, there are too many variables that come into play and not everyone can sway that hard) your chances are STILL 80% with each subsequent sway. At no point ever do your chances go up to 96%.

I just do not want you to base your decisionmaking around a fundamental misunderstanding of what your statistical odds are.

[Shakti]

I never thought it would stay at 96% if we went for a 3rd pregnancy. Just like without swaying, I felt way more hopeful, as our odds of a girl if we had a total of 2 pregnancies without swaying would be 75%, now that we have one boy, the odds of a girl if we ever only have 2 pregnancies without swaying is 50%. Don't worry, I graduated Magna Cum Laude with an accounting degree and did several classes in statistics, so I get how statistics work!

That said, if I have a really good sway plan, if I have a failed sway plan for our 2nd, but it was still a good solid plan, is it worth doing the same sway plan if/when we have our 3rd?

Also really curious what aspects of my lifestyle would be worth tweaking now so that a girl sway comes more easily in a couple of years. I found diet the most challenging, but based on the reading that I've done, at this point I'm tempted to try a high calcium & magnesium/low sodium & potassium approach combined with douching to achieve an acidic environment. I know that my diet is very alkalinising, which is great for disease prevention, but not so good for having a daughter.

[atomic sagebrush]

Ok, I'm not trying to offend you, but you must keep in mind that in addition to you, many other people may also read this thread who lack your credentials, and they may not understand how statistics work. So when I read something that I feel could potentially cause confusion for people then I simply can't let that go uncorrected.

If you feel you have a good sway plan then I personally think that reenacting it for a 3rd go-round even if it produced an opposite, is actually a good idea. Where swaying is concerned, Lady Luck has her own role to play and I don't think there is anything wrong with doing the exact same thing and expecting different results. Swaying is like Yahtzee (dicing game), you can roll the dice more than once and have new and exciting things happen every time.

Now, that's not what ~I~ did and got my daughter on a low calcium, high sodium diet after a failed sway where I was taking tons of calcium and limiting sodium. But that's another topic entirely ;)

[Shakti]

No offense, I find it challenging sometimes to communicate effectively now that I'm switching back and forth between Dutch and English all the time! I thought the Yahtzee analogy might be the case. As far as what I see myself able to manage while I have a toddler, I can see myself managing a diet, though probably more of a raw foods one, I saw in another reply you posted in a thread that that could be a good one for a girl, and a good way to introduce our son to more healthy meal options.

Douching or using a lime-soaked tampon is of course very easy, and as far as timing goes, I think anything except frequent release should be doable with a child. For this child, we were making love at least every 2nd day, more for the sake of catching the egg, as there was no telling when I would ovulate coming off the pill. After we have our son, I've long known that I'll use an IUD as I didn't like what the pill was doing to my body anyway, but then use that as an opportunity to chart my cycles.

My husband says he's more than happy to cooperate on this sway, as he'd love a daughter too, so supplements are definitely a doable option for both of us. And he's a vegetarian, and is happy to eat vegan at home with me. On that note, we did test his sperm right before conceiving, and his sperm count and quality was definitely on the high side.

I saw on the thread for statistics that exercise is one of the more effective methods for the ladies that implemented it, which could be a challenge for me but also possible to overcome. I shouldn't do couch potato, I'm starting a yoga teacher training right after the birth of our son which goes for 2 years, at the end of which we'll try for our daughter. So I think in order for that one to be effective I would have to add an hour of cardio a day to that one. The biggest reason that one would be a challenge is that none of the gyms in our area that are in our budget have childcare, so I would have to go early in the morning or late at night. But this could be overcome is, say, we found a decent exercise bike that I could keep up the motivation to use, had some good XBox fitness games, or both.

For now though, just getting an idea of what's doable so that then I can know what's doable to get a daughter, put it at the back of our mind, enjoy our son, and then pick it back up a year or so after he's born. Thanks again!

[Bigwish]

Hi Shakti, we have a Dutch corner as well, come and join us

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/international-ivf-pgd-microsort-non-member/29278-low-tech-het-nederlandse-gedeelte-voor-gender-dieet%3B-mei.html

Just started diet for 2,5 weeks now and it is doable, i had my doubts, but it goes well!

[gurly]

I think your lifestyle heavily leans boy to be honest!! I never ate a diet like that, nor did I exercise. I limited my intake severely to diet or skipped meals regularly. When I gained weight it was from eating nutritionally empty calories like white bread, pasta, sweets, chocolate, and low levels of fruit, veg and meat. I drank diet coke like most healthy people drink water, 2-3 litres per day. My lack of exercise meant I had low muscle mass.

A lot of what you described about your lifestyle screams boy and are things I am starting to change about my own lifestyle to sway boy. If I were you and had really researched what girl mothers eat/do and the studies you can find on here...and I wanted a girl....I would be swaying without a doubt!

I just saw this thread and I realize its now too late but I agree with this poster I have quoted. My poor diet was similar to hers and I have a girl.

[Shakti]

I think I'm just challenging when it comes to diet. Just about everyone who knows me knows I'm pretty fanatical about health food, I've even had to persuade my mother-in-law to eat more vegetables and less sugar!

I do have a sensitive digestive system and an active lifestyle though, so if LE diet is doable on that, I'll consider it, but that's also why I'm thinking the high-calcium & magnesium/low-sodium & potassium route may be the safer way to go so that I can sustain my lifestyle. Especially because I read on the thread with the swaying statistics that it's most effective to be on the diet for 6 months beforehand. And another reason why I wanted to establish I was fertile before swaying, as if it took a year to conceive, my health would suffer if I ate low-nutrient food.

As far as my digestive system goes, something that was a huge challenge when I test-drove the LE diet is that if I was eating hardly any vegetables, white rice, refined grains, etc., my digestive system got clogged up. Adding artificial fiber also clogged up my system. Only natural fibers like vegetables and whole grains seem to work on my system. For a few weeks around the time we conceived, I was doing a lot of juicing, not as a fast but in addition to my normal food. This seemed to help. One thing to consider too is that aspartame is much more difficult to find in Europe than it is in the US, and rightfully so. Plus drinking diet soda or anything carbonated is one of the worst things for my digestive system, I stay clear away from it.

We're still a long time away from conceiving our 2nd child, but for now, I've banned myself from adding extra salt to foods. That, and I'm going to try label-reading and gravitating towards foods which don't already have added salt, which is a lot of the things we were buying. I also have a lot of the symptoms of magnesium deficiency, which is something I need to be high in if I'm following the Dutch study or French gender diet, so I'm thinking addressing that wouldn't be a bad idea. At least addressing those 2 nutrients would be good for my health anyway.

But yeah, douching, supplements, and timing (as long as my periods regulate with the IUD in), should definitely be doable. Exercise, good chance that's doable, my understanding is that it's best to start that a few months before swaying anyway so I might just work up the discipline to go do cardio first thing in the morning before my husband goes to work. Diet, I need to find one that's compatible with my lifestyle and my sensitive health issues, ideally that I can sustain for 1 year or more.

[atomic sagebrush]

Low carb vegetables are FREE on LE Diet. You can have as much as you like, you do not need to count calories, protein, or fat in them.

People have some misconception about what the LE Diet really is but it's NOT what you think. You can have fruit, veg, and whole grains if you would like them. The idea that white grains are "better" - it's just this one miniscule aspect of the diet as a whole and you can of course leave that out if you would like to.

The aspartame is not mandatory, I didn't use it with my LE Diet when I got my daughter. I got my 4th son while using it and I personally don't like it so I left it out. A lot of things that are kept in the diet are more because the majority of people wish to include them and not because they're critical elements of LE Diet.

I do not recommend anyone go onto diet for 6 months before TTC. People got better results with that in the stats, but those stats can be very misleading, because people who go for a long time not getting pg are often the people doing the strictest of the strict sways anyway. The people who get pregnant sooner, may simply be more laid back about swaying overall and possibly more likely to get boys because they're not doing as strict a sway. (and that is absolutely fine. There is room for all kinds of swayers on here and I don't tolerate the "my sway is better than your sway" kind of competition that goes on on some of the other sites - but it can affect the stats and so I am just reminding people of that.)

I actually don't think it's a smart idea to go onto the diet for too long before TTC - while we do not have the data to say, we have speculated that if you're on diet a super duper long time before TTC, your body may gradually become used to it over the course of time.

Under no circumstances should you do a French or IG-style diet longer than 6 months. This is right in the French Diet book itself - 6 months is the maximum to be on that diet due to the badly skewed mineral content.

Just my 2 cents, probably unwanted and unwelcome, but I find it a bit perplexing when people make this claim that LE Diet is in any way unhealthy or inferior to FGD/Dutch/IG diets when the nutrient guidelines overall are in fact very similar and when the FGD/Dutch/IG Diets are having people take megadoses of vitamins that are not proven safe, and avoiding minerals like potassium that can KILL people when they don't get enough. If you are convinced that the FGD/Dutch science is sound and you believe in it that's one thing, but if the idea is that FGD is in any way healthier than LE Diet, that's inaccurate. Some people choose to do an unhealthy diet and call it LE Diet, but that is outside of my control. I've done everything in my power to make a healthy set of dietary guidelines that will sway pink for people and is safe to stay on in the long term.

[fiszka]

My own example as well as examples of my friends and relatives prove that diet has nothing to do with the gender. My diet was 99,5% girl-like (not having swayed) and I conceived a boy. My husband's diet too.

[atomic sagebrush]

There is more than one diet out there and scientific studies have shown that diet does sway. A handful of personal experiences does not prove or disprove anything - you need studies involving hundreds of people to even begin to guess and draw conclusions about how swaying works.

It is NOT about diet at the end of the day. It is maternal condition. You can get a boy eating a girl and vice versa. All diet is, is a means to an end of altering condition and sending a message to our bodies.

[Hazela]

Me and my husband really wanted to have a boy after two girls.. :)

[Ugee]

Hi shakti, just wanted to add that I ate like you (just with meat also) was super healthy and fit and now have 2 boys. Please listen to atomic that it's more about poorer maternal health and that nutrition and diet is a big way to get that. Your going in the right direction by looking into all you can and making your own sway work for you but if your overall condition is still super super healthy still then just adding certain foods are not going to help.
You may just get your girl by doing no sway at all as there is no guarantee in life anyway.
I just wanted to say this as your diet was so so so like mine and I've never eaten much salt so don't think that is too affective as I have 2 lovely healthy boys.
For my sway I have cut down on all food like avacardos, olives and healthy fats basically and added white bread/rice. I still eat soups but just not the super healthy green superfood ones. I skip breakfast and that is something I introduced a year ago and slowly slowly over the corse of time reduced my healthy food (that I love) I have now been eating the strict LE diet for 3 months and I feel a huge difference in myself (I catch colds much easier) so hopefully this means my maternal condition is not a good as it was. It's not a forever diet as soon as I see my BFP I will eat an avacardo to celebrate lol!
I hope you enjoy your lovely baby boy and relax a bit until you start your next TTC time. Good luck and wish you all the best!