HopingForSaskia's 12 week nub

[The Anchor]

GAWD could the clock go ANY SLOWER??? Thinking of you today :)

[kaseybaby]

Is it time yet?

[Falling2Grace]

I consulted Dr. Google. He said it is only 5:38am Saturday for you (its 2:38PM Friday here)... i feel all anxious for you like i did before my u/s. Can't wait to hear the update.

[shiningstar]

My fingers are crossed for you!!! Can't wait to hear!!

[Navywife620]

Cant wait to hear!!!

[Wanting-a-girl]

3ish more hours

[meeks32]

What time is the appointment? 7.30am in Aus now!!

[Adia]

Nothing like a herd of hungry gender swaying momma's to make your stomach turn in anticipation!!
Yep, I'm stalking too!!!:bigsmile:

[hopingforsaskia]

What time is the appointment? 7.30am in Aus now!!

:D 9am..

[Cinss]

http://dl10.glitter-graphics.net/pub/2080/2080390nc0q6jlvyk.jpg (http://www.glitter-graphics.com)

[Wanting-a-girl]

http://dl10.glitter-graphics.net/pub/2080/2080390nc0q6jlvyk.jpg (http://www.glitter-graphics.com)

literally lol

[ynwa]

How long left until scan now:.)

[Violet_]

Approx an hour until 9am her in Aus. But she did say she will be on a couple of hours after that as she will be having a coffee with her hubby.

[Wanting-a-girl]

praying that this baby co operates this time!!! been on the edge of my seat for so long about this one!!!

good luck :)

[Justjessica]

Good luck!

[pinkin2011]

Its 9.08 am here in victoria. Is she is WA?

[Salsa]

no she's on the east coast! Im on the west coast and got up early to stalk lol
She must know by now!!! I sooooooooooo hope she's heard PINK!! WIll be checking every 5 mins hahaha

[Mum2boys]

She would only just be on her way.... 20 mins till her appt time :)

[pinkin2011]

Oh I thought she said her app was for 9.

[meeks32]

no she's on the east coast! Im on the west coast and got up early to stalk lol
She must know by now!!! I sooooooooooo hope she's heard PINK!! WIll be checking every 5 mins hahaha

Hi Salsa!! I'm in Victoria, stalking, stalking!

[Mum2boys]

Yeah she is QLD so no day light savings

[Cinss]

its 8.50 in QLD right now

[Adia]

This is crazy...we are a bunch of lunatics! :rofl:

[pinkin2011]

ohhh right.

[pinkin2011]

Stupid day light savings!

[Salsa]

Hi Salsa!! I'm in Victoria, stalking, stalking!

Hi Meeks!! How are you going??? Havent spoken to you in a while! Hope the clomid is going well, I must admit I do stalk your chart!! You are my most anticipated BFP I cannot wait for!!
Cant wait for Hoping's news...... So exciting for everyone finding out! I had a grumble to DH last night about us not finding out!! I cant twist his arm though... he wants to wait till the birth....

[cvd]

Any update???

[pebmcpd7]

We are still impatiently waiting, I am going to bed now, but I am gonna take the iPad with me and check in when I wake to go to toilet!!!!! Stalker or what!!!!!

[hopingforsaskia]

9849

Hey guys... It's another boy. I didn't really see it but she was sure. So. There you go! :(

[ynwa]

9849

Hey guys... It's another boy. I didn't really see it but she was sure. So. There you go! :(
I don't see it,but congrats on healthy baby.

[Bimby]

Oh hun, I am so sorry you didnt hear girl, I too have no idea what that is in the pic, doesnt look like your typical boy shot but Im not sure what parts Im looking at. We are all here for you hun, it will take time to have it all sink in and to come to terms with Im sure but we'll be here to support you along the way xx

[ynwa]

Any other pics?

[StPaddyGirl317]

Congrats!! It took me a sec to see the bits, but I see them.

[Nachelle]

:( Ive been stalking this like others! I was sure it was a girl! Im sorry! Welll 3 boys arnt that bad its kind of fun having a bunch of monkeys running around! :) IS this your last?

[Thorz300]

I don't see them either, this is the most elusive baby ever!!! I am sorry you didn't hear girl, but I am happy that the baby seems healthy! Boys are great too! So sorry you didn't hear girl!

I zoomed in really close with my ipad and I do see the boy bits, it is camouflaged by the cord!

[Mum2boys]

So sorry you didn't hear girl :(
I don't see the boy parts??? Take time to adjust and know we are all here for you xx

[5boysandcounting]

Congrats on a healthy little boy. Sorry you didn't hear pink. I hope your doing ok.:hugs:

I really can't see a penis in that pic at all though.

[pebmcpd7]

Awh sorry you didn't hear Girl, but you already know that boys are the cuddliest most loveable little guys, take care of yourself!!! XXX

[meeks32]

Oh honey. All I can say is that you did everything possible to make a girl so it's not in your control and this was just your fate. You and dh together must only make boys (as I suspect is the case with my dh and I too).

I don't see the boy bits at all, but if she was sure then I guess there is no argument. I was so sure you were having a girl.

9850

This pic has been circulating fb and I just love it. I saw it the other day and it gave me a sense of calm about TTC and swaying. If I get 3 boys, this is me in 20 years, surrounded by handsome sons and happy. I think it's you too.

[twobeautifulblues]

So sorry you didn't hear pink, was sure you would. Little boy determined to have you as his mummy xx

[cvd]

Ah so sorry you didn't hear girl :( ugh I hope you're doing ok!

[hopingforsaskia]

Any other pics?

That's all we have so far. I'll get my negatives at my next prenatal appointment.

[Tree]

I'm sorry you didn't hear girl but thrilled to hear you're growing another healthy little boy. You probably feel a little bit strange at the moment and like you have lost your girl but remember you've gained a boy, another beautifully perfect little human being. Once he is here you'll find it impossible to imagine he could have been anyone else and that you wanted him to be. Saskia may well still be in your future. Sending big hugs and enormous congratulations from the other side of the world. X

[The Anchor]

So sorry you didn't hear girl...HUGS

[Falling2Grace]

HUGE ((((HuGs)))) So sorry mama <3

[Smiley13]

Congrats on a healthy baby boy:)

[Adia]

So sorry you didn't hear girl. I remember the sinking feeling I had when I heard DD3 was indeed another girl and I so desperately wanted a boy.
Time will help the sting fade and having a new little baby to snuggle will help separate the desire for a girl from that little bundle of joy.
Lots of love and understanding!!

[Cinss]

Not the best pic! So sorry it didn't turn out the way you had planned :(

[Mum to three girls]

I'm sorry your baby isn't a girl. But there's something very special about three of the same.

[queen-bee]

Sorry you didn't hear pink.. Your nub shot did look
quite boyish. I am sure he will be the most delicious little
boy. My DS#3 certainly is the love of my life.

[Wanting-a-girl]

^^^^^ totally agree my third boy is by far my strongest bond :)

Sorry you didnt hear girl :(

[kaseybaby]

I am sorry you didn't hear pink, but congrats on your boy! I hope you are doing okay

[Salsa]

Im sorry you didnt hear what you wanted. I too cannot work out that pic. But I think Fish has refreshed our minds that gender really is not our top priority. Having a healthy beautiful baby in there is really what counts. I know it doesnt make that disappointed feeling any easier.... sending you biiiiiiiiiiiiigggggggg hugs from Perth...... Wish I was closer I'd say we could catch up for a coffee and go buy something reallllllly cute for the new bundle.
I always went into swaying with the mentality that I'll try all that I can for a pink one, I'll sway as hard as I possibly can. If I still end up with a boy, then boy oh boy was he meant to be a part of this family!! After all the hurdles I threw his way lol
So your new little man is certainly going to be so special.... he was meant to be here x x x

[Violet_]

I have to tell you that I've shed a couple of tears for you hun, as I know how much your really wanted a little girl, and I understand that longing for a daughter. Little boys are adorable and I love mine very much. My third son is so so sweet and his big brothers love him very much. It's separate completely, loving your boys and wanting a little girl to feel complete. I'm so sorry you didn't hear girl. I'm sure you little one will be so lovely and bring you lots of joy for years to come.

[OneLastDream]

I am so so sorry you didn't hear girl. I am expecting our 4th boy and it hit me like a ton of bricks this time. Am just longing for the birth as I know I felt like this with ds3 and as soon as he was born it all just melted away. I can't imagine life without ds3 but its not that thAt hurts its trying to imagine life without a dd that hurts. Am thinking of you xx

[Girlsway]

Sorry hoping, but at least you can planing now. Think of a name and start on the nursery. Keep yourself busy if you need to xx

[Jadis]

Sorry you didn't hear girl, Hoping. I was really crossing my fingers for you. I'm sure this little man will be perfection, congrats and big hugs to you.

[Navywife620]

So sorry you didnt hear girl! Congrats on your healthy baby boy!

[wilma_five]

Congrats on your third charm!!
3 boys is amazing, a brother band is for life!!
Can you imagine the future, 3 of those "men" sitting on your dinner table?

[Butterfly Spirit]

:HH:Oh Hoping, my friend. I am so very sorry to hear that you did not hear pink. I am shocked, I really thought you had your DD. You did absolutely everything in your power to sway. I believe she will come, she just has one extra and wonderful brother now that will probably be the light of your life!

[Bigwish]

Sorry you didn't hear pink... Just remember your third will have an own, lovely personality. He was very determinant to come to your family, that has to mean something!

[lisvna]

Im sorry hun, so my husband wasn't right.....I will spank him hihihihihihi. How are you right now? I think with 3 boys in the house and your husband you will be the queen and the boys will carry you on their hands!

[lollylegs]

I'm glad there is an answer for you Hoping, but surprised and sorry that Saskia is having you wait out and stocking a home of big brothers.
Your support and knowledge has been so essential to many of us here.
Know that we all have some inkling of what you're experiencing and that there is a great big network of women out here for you. It's our honour to support you in the grieving for your not-this-time daughter, and to also celebrate your beautiful boy.

[Ipadmad]

So sorry it wasn't the magic "it's a girl" you were desperate to hear. I too found out this week we're expecting our third boy, after doing everything in my power to sway pink.
For 3 days I just sobbed, uncontrollably at times, the sadness at never experiencing a daughter broke my heart and the guilt this feeling brought was heart wrenching. I was so angry at myself for feeling that way, when I have a gorgeous boy growing in my belly. But it is fine to feel disappointed.
After 4 days though, I am feeling more positive and excited. I went through denial, sadness, anger and acceptance. Now I can genuinely say that whilst I am still sad, I feel more positive. We are planning on how we are going to decorate the nursery, thinking of a name and I'm stupidly watching birth programmes. All of these are taking the focus away from my longing for a daughter, towards excitement at my gorgeous son, who started kicking me for the first time yesterday.
Anyway, I guess with all of this rambling, what I'm trying to say is that it does get easier. I think the immediate shock and disappointment is heart wrenching, but that does disappear and feels less raw. Even for me, just in 4 days, I feel so different to how I felt Tuesday.
Take each day as it comes, let yourself cry and come to terms with it all, focus on doing nice things, whether its eating your favourite food or putting on your favourite music. Just things that get you through each day. With time, you will get excited and thrilled with your new son, a beautiful little brother for your two boys.
Take care x

[atomic sagebrush]

I"m so sorry, but congrats on a healthy baby.

[nuthinbutpink]

I'm sorry. Hope you're okay.

[Sway&Wish]

I am betting it will be amazing in ways you can't yet imagine.

[hotdogz&boyz]

I am so sorry you did not hear pink. Your baby will be so special and loved. And he is sure to have a great name...I love your style! I hope you are taking some time for you and pampering yourself. Hugs!

[harleyquinn]

I'm sorry you didn't hear girl.

You are such a pretty lady in your picture, I bet your boys are just heart-breakers! Is your husband as good looking as you? What a beautiful family you must all be :)

You are three times blessed. I know it doesn't seem that way now...but someday you will busting at the seams with pride at your three handsome, wonderful boys.

Be ever so kind to yourself, I know our kids genders seem like a big deal, but its just a small portion of who we are. You are a strong, lovely lady that deserves the utmost happiness out of life, and as we all know at some point, it IS up to us how we deal with our cards. I have made up my mind that having all boys is something wonderful and I refuse to be sad about something wonderful. I hope you get there too <3

[Honeysucklelanegirl]

Sorry you didn't hear pink. I hope maybe you have another chance......you never know.Hope you are ok.xxx

[meeks32]

Well said ipadmad and Harley.

I would also add one of the mums in my town has 3 boys 2 years apart and she's got the nicest family and those boys just love love love her. It's like she's got a footy team of her own, but they are all very different. She cried after the third ultrasound too but now wouldn't have it any other way. She's beautiful like you and has a great job. The other day she came over and said "oh I'll just stay for one drink, the boys are at home (50m away) cooking me a roast, I don't want to be late". They are 8, 10 and 12!!! They are such amazing kids and it totally relaxed me about everything.

I still want to do my best sway and I will still have a week of disappointment if I hear boy, but I am actually quite excited at having three adoring little men in our house that play together and (hopefully) love their mum as much as hers.

Take the time to process this, nobody says you have to feel good about it yet. The beauty of finding out early is you have time to accept and move on. Take the time hon, and don't feel bad for it.

[TTCPink]

Hi Hoping, I remember you from the forums my first month TTC. I was silently stalking this thread because I remember what an amazing sway you had and was so curious what the outcome would be after seeing the tricky nub shot. Thinking of you and wishing you peace and acceptance. I know your new little boy will steal your heart when you meet him. :)

[Hoping4aPrincess]

I don't post much, but I've been stalking this thread for a bit. I'm so sorry that you didn't hear girl today. I remember hearing that my third was another boy. I am ashamed to say that I was disappointed and a bit in denial. But once he was born... It was an immediate bond and of course immense love. He was so beautiful. He still is. He's a complete mama's boy and I wouldn't trade him (or his brothers) for a daughter. I know you'll feel that same way, if you don't already. Congrats on your sweet little boy. Hugs.

[love-my-kids]

congrats!!!

[luckylass]

Congratulations on your healthy little baby boy. Sorry you didn't hear pink though, I was really hoping you would hear your DG.

[fish2012]

Oh Hun sorry you didn't hear pink I remember having massive sway envy your sway was amazing! This must be a very special lill dude to make such an effort to join you xxx

[cherryswirl]

Hugs. Your precious new little man is the same as my second DS, a 'meant to be-by' he is all man despite your swaying attempts and has so much to teach you and so so much love to gve you x

[mariposa]

I'm sorry you didn't hear girl, but congrats on your beautiful healthy baby. This little boy is going to be very special and close to you. Hope you are feeling everyday better :hugs:

[lindi]

I am so sorry you didn't hear girl. Thinking of you. :HH:

[Gimmeapinkone]

I've been following your thread with my fingers crossed tightly that you were going to get your little girl. I'm so sorry that you didn't but congratulations on your healthy baby boy. I'm sure once he's in your arms, you couldn't imagine life without him xx

[Justjessica]

Congrats on a healthy baby boy. Sorry you didn't hear pink, you had such an awesome sway he must be pretty special to break through all that!

[hopingforsaskia]

Thanks everyone. I'm doing better now. I have my moments of course, but that's really only because I just don't have anywhere to go from here. There are no other options available that could maybe give me my girl. I won't sway again. If we want a fourth, I'll just throw caution to the wind and not consider the gender. My dream is all but dead. It's sad, but as I said to my dear Aussie group on Facebook, I am not defined by what I possess, and the genders of my children are no different. I would hate to think I saw my babies as a thing to own or achieve. So I have had to do some really big soul searching and keep my feelings in their rightful place. I am in love with my baby no matter what. I just wish that I could know that some day I would have my little girl. I think I'm still a little in denial that this is a boy, and because of several reasons that only sound crazy I am going to have one more confirmation of gender before I start calling baby "him" or "he".. I will visit my naturopath/iridologist (a very very special man with insight that I have never seen before.. He told me both my boys were boys from 10 weeks just from looking at my eyes) and I will 100% believe whatever he tells me. Boy or not .. ;)

Thank you all again for your lovely and insightful words. It really is wonderful to have all of this support. I know I'm no one special, but you've all made me feel like I really matter. So thank you. :) :HH:

[Tree]

Oh you really do matter! Funnily enough I was telling my husband about the forum and how bizarre it is to find comfort in strangers and how you come to care for them and I told him about you. Hoping for Saskia who lives the other side of the world. :-)

I really think you will have your girl. Your husband is clearly very fertile so I'd just go for the one attempt next time.

I've absolutely no doubt that this little person will bring you a joy that will full your life with unimaginable happiness. In all the reasons we have in desiring a particular gender we forget that it is the sole and character of the person that's most important and actually defines who they are. Whoever you are growing is very special and whether your girl is in there now or still waiting, you will have her.

X

[lindi]

Thanks everyone. I'm doing better now. I have my moments of course, but that's really only because I just don't have anywhere to go from here. There are no other options available that could maybe give me my girl. I won't sway again. If we want a fourth, I'll just throw caution to the wind and not consider the gender. My dream is all but dead. It's sad, but as I said to my dear Aussie group on Facebook, I am not defined by what I possess, and the genders of my children are no different. I would hate to think I saw my babies as a thing to own or achieve. So I have had to do some really big soul searching and keep my feelings in their rightful place. I am in love with my baby no matter what. I just wish that I could know that some day I would have my little girl. I think I'm still a little in denial that this is a boy, and because of several reasons that only sound crazy I am going to have one more confirmation of gender before I start calling baby "him" or "he".. I will visit my naturopath/iridologist (a very very special man with insight that I have never seen before.. He told me both my boys were boys from 10 weeks just from looking at my eyes) and I will 100% believe whatever he tells me. Boy or not .. ;)

Thank you all again for your lovely and insightful words. It really is wonderful to have all of this support. I know I'm no one special, but you've all made me feel like I really matter. So thank you. :) :HH:

Wow I wish I knew you in person, you truly have words that express an incredible spirit, a wisdom, strength and a humbleness that just doesn't belong to a woman who is so clearly powerful. Thank YOU.

[meeks32]

Thanks everyone. I'm doing better now. I have my moments of course, but that's really only because I just don't have anywhere to go from here. There are no other options available that could maybe give me my girl. I won't sway again. If we want a fourth, I'll just throw caution to the wind and not consider the gender. My dream is all but dead. It's sad, but as I said to my dear Aussie group on Facebook, I am not defined by what I possess, and the genders of my children are no different. I would hate to think I saw my babies as a thing to own or achieve. So I have had to do some really big soul searching and keep my feelings in their rightful place. I am in love with my baby no matter what. I just wish that I could know that some day I would have my little girl. I think I'm still a little in denial that this is a boy, and because of several reasons that only sound crazy I am going to have one more confirmation of gender before I start calling baby "him" or "he".. I will visit my naturopath/iridologist (a very very special man with insight that I have never seen before.. He told me both my boys were boys from 10 weeks just from looking at my eyes) and I will 100% believe whatever he tells me. Boy or not .. ;)

Thank you all again for your lovely and insightful words. It really is wonderful to have all of this support. I know I'm no one special, but you've all made me feel like I really matter. So thank you. :) :HH:

So well put. Keep us posted on what happens with the naturopath, I love mine too.

Was the radiologist certain? Did they come across as knowledgable or new? It's not like there has never been a mistake before. Don't want to give you false hope but a friend of mine was told boy for her dd2 and she was a girl at birth!!

I completely agree with what you said about not being defined by what we have and I too have been thinking more lately about why exactly I want a girl so much, and questioning my own motives (in a good way).

I think each child teaches us something we need to know. This time around I've been taught to wait (TTC 12 months now). My first taught me how to deal with things that aren't planned, and just about every lesson in being a hypocrite and/or parenting. My second taught me some kids are just chilled and happy no matter what you do/how you raise them.

Did you get a potty shot other than the one you posted? Because I don't see 'it' there. Did you get a DVD?

[Emily]

So glad to hear that you are in such a clear place. If your naturopath agrees it is a boy please start a names thread so that we can all get excited with you.

It is far too early to think of other children in this post but i wont know when you are thinking it (if you do) so will post this now. If you do decide that you are a 4 child family you could adopt a girl or go for an almost not-sway - breastfeeding, one attempt and trying to lose baby weight(if you are anything like me).

Congratulations again on your healthy baby. - just think of the gorgeous smell of his baby head! Getting broody already:)

[hopingforsaskia]

So well put. Keep us posted on what happens with the naturopath, I love mine too.

Was the radiologist certain? Did they come across as knowledgable or new? It's not like there has never been a mistake before. Don't want to give you false hope but a friend of mine was told boy for her dd2 and she was a girl at birth!!

Did you get a potty shot other than the one you posted? Because I don't see 'it' there. Did you get a DVD?

I asked her if she was certain, and she said yes. She was really lovely and knew how much we wanted a girl, so I can imagine she would have really tried to be as sure as she could be.

This is the thing.. And I'm going to sound like a lunatic. Right in the beginning, she measured the femurs and there was NOTHING there in that shot. I'm no expert so it might not be something that's really visible in that procedure. But I got a little flutter in my heart. Then, twice, I saw VERY definite 3 lines. Like, I said OH MY GOD! out loud.. She seemed to think "he" had "his" hand down there grabbing at "himself" so I assumed that was the lines. Then it got me thinking though.. If the hands were down there so much, and the only proof shot is the one I posted, how can I honestly know for sure that what she saw half the time wasn't a hand? In any case, I understand that me going to the naturopath is simply going to confirm one way or the other. I'm not looking for him to disprove her gender analysis, but more to lay any doubts to rest for me so that I can start a names thread like Em suggested. ;) the facial shot she gave me to stare at and bond with (in 3d - did I post that??) is soooo pretty and the people I've shown say dumb stuff like - oh she has your lips or her nose is like yours... And then they correct themselves and say he or him. It's little things like that that really play on my doubt and I don't want to spend the rest of my pregnancy hoping this babe will pop out a girl.

I know. I'm a nutcase. ;) xx

Here's the 3d pic of the face btw:

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[meeks32]

I asked her if she was certain, and she said yes. She was really lovely and knew how much we wanted a girl, so I can imagine she would have really tried to be as sure as she could be.

This is the thing.. And I'm going to sound like a lunatic. Right in the beginning, she measured the femurs and there was NOTHING there in that shot. I'm no expert so it might not be something that's really visible in that procedure. But I got a little flutter in my heart. Then, twice, I saw VERY definite 3 lines. Like, I said OH MY GOD! out loud.. She seemed to think "he" had "his" hand down there grabbing at "himself" so I assumed that was the lines. Then it got me thinking though.. If the hands were down there so much, and the only proof shot is the one I posted, how can I honestly know for sure that what she saw half the time wasn't a hand? In any case, I understand that me going to the naturopath is simply going to confirm one way or the other. I'm not looking for him to disprove her gender analysis, but more to lay any doubts to rest for me so that I can start a names thread like Em suggested. ;) the facial shot she gave me to stare at and bond with (in 3d - did I post that??) is soooo pretty and the people I've shown say dumb stuff like - oh she has your lips or her nose is like yours... And then they correct themselves and say he or him. It's little things like that that really play on my doubt and I don't want to spend the rest of my pregnancy hoping this babe will pop out a girl.

I know. I'm a nutcase. ;) xx

Here's the 3d pic of the face btw:

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I really hope I'm not feeding a bad thing here, but from that story I would say go get a second opinion in both your naturopath and another scan... At the very least it will bring piece. I could see the boy bits so clear with both of mine, and with ds2 I made the tech show me, but actually knew just by looking at his man legs, lol!

Or maybe do the intelligender wee test?

[hopingforsaskia]

Maybe if my naturopath says girl I'll go get a scan while I'm visiting my parents next week. But if he says boy I'll leave it, cos he will be right and it will have the other guesses backing it up. I'm not getting my hopes up - don't worry!! ;) Just looking for a feeling of peace with the "diagnosis". :) x

[hopingforsaskia]

Oh and like you, I told my techs both times with my boys that they were boys just watching the screen. Ds1 was so crazy obvious that I knew minutes into the scan and with ds2 they scanned the bits and asked me what I thought .. Needless to say I thought 1000% boy. So I know what I'm looking for. ;)

[Falling2Grace]

Im hoping you get some reassurance either way. Being in limbo and doubt makes it really hard to either deal with GD head on or to know that you got your dream gender. It cant be easy, so i pray you get a solid answer either way <3
I think you have a good plan. You dont sound like a nut at all. I would feel the same way, especially given the hands and all of that during the scan.

[nuthinbutpink]

With my third DD, I didn't look at the u/s and had her do the envelope thing. When I opened it with obvious girl parts staring back at me, I still did not believe it since I did not see it during the scan with my own eyes.

I booked a 3D scan because I had never had one before and told DH it would be cool to do but in reality, I wanted to confirm gender so I could mentally move on. So, I totally get the denial part and I am sure your scan will help you move forward.

[lindi]

Yes, I really understand how if YOU didn't see it, it would be very hard to totally accept it. YOu don't sound crazy about the hand thing, either, it makes sense. Instead of ultrasound, have you thought of having that blood test done? Can that be done in australia? I don't know how expensive it is. But, it might be a good option, because if your naturopath says girl, and you get another scan that says boy... I would think you'd still feel the same way, hoping a girl will, in fact, pop out.
A blood test might feel definitive. It seems there really could be genuine doubts with these other methods.

[Mum to three girls]

Yes, I really understand how if YOU didn't see it, it would be very hard to totally accept it. YOu don't sound crazy about the hand thing, either, it makes sense. Instead of ultrasound, have you thought of having that blood test done? Can that be done in australia? I don't know how expensive it is. But, it might be a good option, because if your naturopath says girl, and you get another scan that says boy... I would think you'd still feel the same way, hoping a girl will, in fact, pop out.
A blood test might feel definitive. It seems there really could be genuine doubts with these other methods.

I just had the bloods done. It's new to Australia and I was referred by the fetal medicine consultant, had to be counselled beforehand and it cost over a thousand dollars. It was a bit of a palaver, not sure if they'd recommend it just for gender.

Good idea though!

[meeks32]

Maybe if my naturopath says girl I'll go get a scan while I'm visiting my parents next week. But if he says boy I'll leave it, cos he will be right and it will have the other guesses backing it up. I'm not getting my hopes up - don't worry!! ;) Just looking for a feeling of peace with the "diagnosis". :) x

Understand and completely agree with your plan. Let me know. I can't make piece with yours yet either!!

[meeks32]

I just had the bloods done. It's new to Australia and I was referred by the fetal medicine consultant, had to be counselled beforehand and it cost over a thousand dollars. It was a bit of a palaver, not sure if they'd recommend it just for gender.

Good idea though!

Wowsers! I have heard of the blood test but that's so much! You could have 5 ultrasounds for that price!!

You poor thing, I assume you had to have it for other reasons too, and hope all is ok.

[hopingforsaskia]

I just had the bloods done. It's new to Australia and I was referred by the fetal medicine consultant, had to be counselled beforehand and it cost over a thousand dollars. It was a bit of a palaver, not sure if they'd recommend it just for gender.

Good idea though!

Oh gosh!!! That's incredible! Talk about bleed you dry... Hope your LO is ok though Mum. xx

Don't think I'll go for a blood test (obviously?) ;) but I will certainly be booking a second scan. I really will believe my naturopath though. He is an amazing guy with unbelievable talent. He sees so much that he doesn't say. I would put more stock in his answer than 10 ultrasounds if I'm completely honest. :) He will probably say boy - let's face it - but that will be the confirmation I need to make peace and move forward.

[Tree]

I felt that my ds2 was a girl and booked a 3d scan. Even after that confirmation a part of me still thought he was a girl. So when I delivered him I still have a tiny question mark. Honestly though I was so happy to have another boy. But what is quite funny is that most people that don't know me have mistaken him for a girl. And some of my friends have even said he looks like a girl. He is so engaging and gorgeous and pretty. :-)
My point is, as I said above that its the sole and character that I think really defines the person. That being said, I won't be dressing my boys in girls clothes so there is always that...
Whatever the result I'm sure you'll be just fine. Better still really happy.
Please do keep us updated!

[Mum to three girls]

Wowsers! I have heard of the blood test but that's so much! You could have 5 ultrasounds for that price!!

You poor thing, I assume you had to have it for other reasons too, and hope all is ok.


Thanks Meeks, I'm pretty sure everything is fine (as is my ob). I just had a pregnant freak out over my blood results (my scan was fine) and wanted extra reassurance - very expensive reassurance! DH has a science background (we both do) and we had intense discussions about stats and risk before he gave in to his crazed hormonal wife.

Hoping, if I were you I'd get another scan too. You won't believe it till you see it for yourself, I know I wouldn't.

[meeks32]

Oh gosh!!! That's incredible! Talk about bleed you dry... Hope your LO is ok though Mum. xx

Don't think I'll go for a blood test (obviously?) ;) but I will certainly be booking a second scan. I really will believe my naturopath though. He is an amazing guy with unbelievable talent. He sees so much that he doesn't say. I would put more stock in his answer than 10 ultrasounds if I'm completely honest. :) He will probably say boy - let's face it - but that will be the confirmation I need to make peace and move forward.

When do you see him?

[hopingforsaskia]

I'll go on Monday. :)

[meeks32]

I think trust what he says and go from there.

I was looking back at your nub shot again, and it does look boy when I compare to these two galleries:

CONFIRMED GIRL
Post your GIRL nub ultrasounds once confirmed :) - In-Gender.com (http://www.in-gender.com/cs/forums/t/26427.aspx?PageIndex=2)

CONFIRMED BOY
Post your BOY nub ultrasounds once confirmed :) - In-Gender.com (http://ingender.com/cs/forums/t/26426.aspx?PageIndex=25)

[kaseybaby]

Good luck on Monday. I am really surprised she didn't show you the goods during the ultrasound. That would drive me nuts, so I don't blame you for wanting more confirmation.

[meeks32]

Good luck on Monday. I am really surprised she didn't show you the goods during the ultrasound. That would drive me nuts, so I don't blame you for wanting more confirmation.

Agree!

[hopingforsaskia]

I think trust what he says and go from there.

I was looking back at your nub shot again, and it does look boy when I compare to these two galleries:

CONFIRMED GIRL
Post your GIRL nub ultrasounds once confirmed :) - In-Gender.com (http://www.in-gender.com/cs/forums/t/26427.aspx?PageIndex=2)

CONFIRMED BOY
Post your BOY nub ultrasounds once confirmed :) - In-Gender.com (http://ingender.com/cs/forums/t/26426.aspx?PageIndex=25)

This is fine, but all it is at this juncture is speculation. Nubs aren't the be all. In fact from what I've read neither are scans before 20 weeks. I am soooo aware that this is 99.9% surely a boy. But I need that last .01% to be sure. I am never going to be able to go ht and I sure as hell won't sway again, so this is it for me. I need to do this - whether or not it's ridiculous. I know you understand that. I feel like a psycho. :o

[harleyquinn]

I hope this isn't too nosy, but i am genuinely curious what an iridologist can tell you about your eyes? I haven't heard of this before.

Hoping you find the peace you are looking for. :)

[hopingforsaskia]

I hope this isn't too nosy, but i am genuinely curious what an iridologist can tell you about your eyes? I haven't heard of this before.

Hoping you find the peace you are looking for. :)

They can see just about everything if they know what they're looking for. :) at the very least he will be able to give an insight into this baby's personality and some extra tidbits for me to help me bond.

[meeks32]

This is fine, but all it is at this juncture is speculation. Nubs aren't the be all. In fact from what I've read neither are scans before 20 weeks. I am soooo aware that this is 99.9% surely a boy. But I need that last .01% to be sure. I am never going to be able to go ht and I sure as hell won't sway again, so this is it for me. I need to do this - whether or not it's ridiculous. I know you understand that. I feel like a psycho. :o

You are absolutely not not not psycho and I would feel the same way. Scratch that, I DO feel the same way FOR you. I know all indications show boy but I also believe you have had two boys and would know if you saw a doodle on the ultrasound!!! If you have doubt at all, even a bit it's worth satisfying that with further investigations, even if they end in the same result. At least then you can move forward to acceptance and move onto excitement and bonding. I would so do everything you are doing and don't at all think its strange or ridiculous.

You just need to be sure to embrace it. I get that completely.

[Sway&Wish]

I also don't think it is crazy!

[lindi]

This is fine, but all it is at this juncture is speculation. Nubs aren't the be all. In fact from what I've read neither are scans before 20 weeks. I am soooo aware that this is 99.9% surely a boy. But I need that last .01% to be sure. I am never going to be able to go ht and I sure as hell won't sway again, so this is it for me. I need to do this - whether or not it's ridiculous. I know you understand that. I feel like a psycho. :o

Please don't feel this is psycho. It all makes sense.

[rabbit]

When I was about 8 weeks pregnant I was told by an iridologist that I was pregnant with a boy at a holiday party for my husbands work. We hadn't told anyone I was pregnant yet (and we swayed for a boy!). We won't be finding out until birth (13 weeks to go!!) but I am very curious to see if it is true! She said she could just see it in my eyes.

Good luck- I hope you get confirmation and peace of mind soon!

[meeks32]

When I was about 8 weeks pregnant I was told by an iridologist that I was pregnant with a boy at a holiday party for my husbands work. We hadn't told anyone I was pregnant yet (and we swayed for a boy!). We won't be finding out until birth (13 weeks to go!!) but I am very curious to see if it is true! She said she could just see it in my eyes.

Good luck- I hope you get confirmation and peace of mind soon!

Argh! This just makes me want to find an iridologist asap whenever I finally get pg!!! So cool.

[Inky]

I hope when you go for confirmation that it ends up being girl after all, and that if not you can find peace with it soon. I agree the nub looks boy and I've "felt" it was a boy for you, but I really hope I'm wrong.

good luck and keep us posted.

[kaseybaby]

any update?

[meeks32]

She will go in 24hrs or so, it's Sunday here in Australia.

[kaseybaby]

She will go in 24hrs or so, it's Sunday here in Australia.


Thanks Meeks! I get really confused with the time difference :)

[meeks32]

Thanks Meeks! I get really confused with the time difference :)

Ha I'm the same back the other way so I know how you feel!

[hopingforsaskia]

I hope when you go for confirmation that it ends up being girl after all, and that if not you can find peace with it soon. I agree the nub looks boy and I've "felt" it was a boy for you, but I really hope I'm wrong.

good luck and keep us posted.

It's not going to be a girl. I just need the confirmation. :) I wish it was a girl. But it just won't be. Once I know for sure though, I'll be able to say he and him and figure out a name for sure. That's the plan anyway. ;)

[OneLastDream]

I don't have anything helpful to say just wanted you to know am thinking of you and I do understand as do loads of others on this site x

[meeks32]

It's not going to be a girl. I just need the confirmation. :) I wish it was a girl. But it just won't be. Once I know for sure though, I'll be able to say he and him and figure out a name for sure. That's the plan anyway. ;)

It would be interesting for you to ask what the naturopath thinks before telling him the ultrasound result. Keep us posted hon!

[hopingforsaskia]

It would be interesting for you to ask what the naturopath thinks before telling him the ultrasound result. Keep us posted hon!

He told me its a very healthy boy! :) I'm actually completely fine - feeling very positive and excited. Now to think of a name! :)

[Tree]

He told me its a very healthy boy! :) I'm actually completely fine - feeling very positive and excited. Now to think of a name! :)

Congratulations! You're going to have so much fun. Boys are great!

[Hoping4aPrincess]

Congrats again mama :) You'll love having 3 boys. I know I do!

[hotdogz&boyz]

Congrats! I am happy you are feeling so much peace with it and are looking forward to name hunting. I am fascinated by this iridologist. I am 99% sure there is not one within 100 miles of here ;) But its awesome stuff. How neat to get insight into the baby you are carrying, personality and health. Heck, I would go just to hear baby is healthy. It's always that craziness at the back of my mind that there might be something wrong. Very good news for you :)

[kaseybaby]

I am so happy you are excited and have peace of mind. I have said it before on GD, but I come from a family of vast majority boys, and almost everyone in my family has 3 boys, and they all adore their mothers. I am sure you will have the same experience.

[lisvna]

I'm happy for you your feeling happy! Enjoy your pregnancy!

[meeks32]

So glad you have some peace and closure now, and can move forward without doubt. I'm absolutely sure if this boy found his way through that sway, it must be for a reason. He clearly has something to say or do in this world and will be loved unconditionally I have no doubt.

Xx

[luckylass]

So glad you have some peace and closure now, and can move forward without doubt. I'm absolutely sure if this boy found his way through that sway, it must be for a reason. He clearly has something to say or do in this world and will be loved unconditionally I have no doubt.

Xx

Couldn't have put it better than that.

[Adia]

So happy to see you are doing well. Something about DD3 being the dream of a boy killed 3 times over was extra hard. And their was a good possibility DD3 was our last...

I held onto that .01% sliver of hope until the moment DD3 was born. We lived overseas on a military base and didn't want to pay the extra money for confirmation but it would have saved me some grief.

Once I had DD3 she was my mini-me and still is. Love that monkey to pieces.

I still want a boy so we'll see!

[Falling2Grace]

Glad to see you have found some peace hon.

Have you thought up any names? Name picking is always such a hearth warming thing <3

[hopingforsaskia]

I think we may have picked a name... Might keep it a little secret though! I'm quite excited! ;) thanks for all the kind words! :) xx

[lisvna]

Great!!! I'm curious now hahahahahha

[Dreamofpink]

He told me its a very healthy boy! :) I'm actually completely fine - feeling very positive and excited. Now to think of a name! :)

I've been following your story from the start and remember your bfp. I'm sorry that you haven't got your little girl this time, but would like to tell you that your strength in the face of gd is inspirational. I'm sure this little one will be so special when he arrives and can't wait to hear the name you've picked!

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