October 2013 babies!

[Alyssasmom789]

Its hard! I'm broken.

[True Blue]

It is hard Alyssasmom :( let yourself feel what you need to, we are hear to listen and understand xx know that it truly does get easier, it doesn't go away but it does get easier.

[Nachelle]

Elp- I saw you were good at the skull thoery on a post what do you think from my pics on the skull theory?

[My3SweetPeas]

Nachelle- If I had to guess with the skull theory I would say girl!!

[My3SweetPeas]

Anyone want to try the skull theory for me?
http://i362.photobucket.com/albums/oo65/cmr200/scan0001.jpg (http://s362.photobucket.com/user/cmr200/media/scan0001.jpg.html)

I am thinking girl?? I was looking at ultrasounds of my DD and 2 boys an I think this looks closer to my DD's ultrasound pictures

[Nachelle]

Im so bad at nub and skull guessing? Ok so if the nub is paralell with the spine its a girl and if there is a 30 degree angle upward its a boy???? And I dont know what the skull theory is I heard 2 different things, what is the real one?

[Lld2006]

Alyssasmom, I know EXACTLY what you are going through. I went through it EVERY SINGLE DAY last week upon seeing my baby's potty shot at 12 weeks. A very obvious boy nub and I was praying my little heart out (and swaying) that it would be a girl. I'm not sure if you've been following along, but my mom actually drove in on Saturday from out of town because she was so concerned. I don't know if it was that or if it was time (I grieved so much for a whole week), but I am feeling a bit better this week. I still get very bad anxiety when I think about it, but I haven't cried (knock on wood) since Sunday...that's huge as I was crying ALL DAY LONG every day. I think I am going to cancel my 16 week appt since I'm feeling better and don't want to be told boy THREE times....once again at 20 weeks will be enough I'm sure. I bet I go through a very rough time again at 20 weeks, too. For the sake of my marriage and my children, I have to pull it together. But all in all, IT SUCKS. IT SUCKS BAD. How I wish our gender results were reversed and I heard girl and you heard boy. I'll pray for you along with praying for myself to get through this!

Now that everyone is starting to find out, I'd LOVE to know one thing...let's either prove or disprove shettles among our group! I tried so hard for O+12, but screwed it up and ended up conceiving exactly on O day...which would mean my third shettles boy. I hoped and prayed the theory was wrong once I realized I screwed up, but looks like for me, it is dead on. How about everyone else? I"m sure you are all smarter than me and didn't mess up your timing...UGH!

[Alyssasmom789]

Alyssasmom, I know EXACTLY what you are going through. I went through it EVERY SINGLE DAY last week upon seeing my baby's potty shot at 12 weeks. A very obvious boy nub and I was praying my little heart out (and swaying) that it would be a girl. I'm not sure if you've been following along, but my mom actually drove in on Saturday from out of town because she was so concerned. I don't know if it was that or if it was time (I grieved so much for a whole week), but I am feeling a bit better this week. I still get very bad anxiety when I think about it, but I haven't cried (knock on wood) since Sunday...that's huge as I was crying ALL DAY LONG every day. I think I am going to cancel my 16 week appt since I'm feeling better and don't want to be told boy THREE times....once again at 20 weeks will be enough I'm sure. I bet I go through a very rough time again at 20 weeks, too. For the sake of my marriage and my children, I have to pull it together. But all in all, IT SUCKS. IT SUCKS BAD. How I wish our gender results were reversed and I heard girl and you heard boy. I'll pray for you along with praying for myself to get through this!

Now that everyone is starting to find out, I'd LOVE to know one thing...let's either prove or disprove shettles among our group! I tried so hard for O+12, but screwed it up and ended up conceiving exactly on O day...which would mean my third shettles boy. I hoped and prayed the theory was wrong once I realized I screwed up, but looks like for me, it is dead on. How about everyone else? I"m sure you are all smarter than me and didn't mess up your timing...UGH!

Thank you :*( today has been a nightmare and I have been starving myself....we had family plans and I ended up canceling and just staying a lone crying like crazy. I don't know where to go from here. I dtd on o day this time and with my first two girls it was literally the day after my period ended....that's why I was so sure this would be a boy....:'((((

[ICB3]

Hi ladies, I haven't been on in awhile since I was feeling pretty bad and just needed a break from it all. Alyssasmom and Lld I know how you guys are feeling. I got a nub and potty shot that screamed boy even at 12 weeks. I cried the whole week and woke up in the night with what I think was a panic attack. What I can say is that for me the first week was the absolute worst but somehow it seems to be getting easier. I have probably driven my husband crazy with all of it! Hang in there, I know it doesn't seem like it will get better, but it does.
I DTD the night before Ov even though I tried not too but I ovulated way early and I never got a +opk. Both boys were conceived right around O too, day before and day of.

[xokatietatie]

My husband and I did a 3 day cut off. We DTD once a day for 3 or 4 days before that -- shallow penetration and drop off, and no big O for me.

[Danielle88]

Im nearly 15 weeks pregnant with my first & my stomach cramps are getting worse and i have been getting sharp shooting pains in lower abdomen which are getting worse and lasting longer i could keel over with the pain at times. Is this normal?

[Dreamofpink]

Im nearly 15 weeks pregnant with my first & my stomach cramps are getting worse and i have been getting sharp shooting pains in lower abdomen which are getting worse and lasting longer i could keel over with the pain at times. Is this normal?

Just saw this and didn't want to read and run. PLEASE ring your midwife and get yourself checked out today. It's really important to make sure everything's okay. It maybe nothing to worry about like round ligament pain but still best to be sure. :)

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[Danielle88]

Thanks, I have done all they told me to do was take paracetomal which haven't helped the past 4 days ive had it :(

[Nachelle]

I hope everything is ok! I will send out prayers for you today!!!!!!

[Kiara]

Im nearly 15 weeks pregnant with my first & my stomach cramps are getting worse and i have been getting sharp shooting pains in lower abdomen which are getting worse and lasting longer i could keel over with the pain at times. Is this normal?

Its better you get it checked. Its normal to have some pain but not too much. Call your doctor or midwife just to be sure!

[Kiara]

Im sorry for all of you that didnt get to hear what you wanted:( but congratulations on your babies! They are going to be soo wonderful :HH:

[Navywife620]

Ugh now I had a boy dream last night..I went from feeling it's probably a girl from the dream night before last to it's probably a boy from this dream. Such an emotional roller coaster!

[xokatietatie]

I'm starting to reconsider my decision to not do an early scan. I don't know if I can wait 5-6 more weeks!

[My3SweetPeas]

Ugh now I had a boy dream last night..I went from feeling it's probably a girl from the dream night before last to it's probably a boy from this dream. Such an emotional roller coaster!

I keep going through the same thing. I feel strongly that it's a girl for a few days and then next I feel that it is a boy. I will be put out of my misery in 2 days though!! Can't wait to find out for sure so I can get on with enjoying the rest of my pregnancy!!

[My3SweetPeas]

I'm starting to reconsider my decision to not do an early scan. I don't know if I can wait 5-6 more weeks!

There is no way I could wait!! Get a scan!!!

[motherofboys]

Alyssasmum I'm sorry you didn't get your boy.

I think my day time thoughts and fears are creeping into my dreams. After hearing my friends tragic news yesterday I had a dream last night that I was bleeding.

I think its a lovely way to think that every baby was meant to be with us for some purpose. I think that about my niece, her parents were using the pill and condoms and one little swimmer got through and her she is. She is 7 years old and so bright and confident and I can't help but think she was meant to be here and put on the earth for a purpose.

I didn't sway this time, but I hope if I get a boy DH will agree to one more baby to sway. Even if I get a 5th boy I know I will be upset for a while and I think its important to embrace those feelings and grieve for the lost dream in order to move past it and find peace.
I just want to know that I gave it my best shot, if I know I have tried then I will know its just the way its meant to be.

They hold a coffee morning at my church once a month and it was on this morning. I had planned to pray for a daughter but when I got there I found I just couldn't do it. Instead I prayed for a healthy baby, and tagged on the end "and if it could be a girl that would truely complete my family" because I just couldn't say please let this baby be a girl, I've spent days walking around saying it in my head over and over but for some reason once I was actually inside the church all I could think was I wanted a healthy baby.

Had a midwife appointment today as well because they messed up my bloods. I'm 15 weeks today so she decided to do my whole 16 week appointment so I don't have to go back for a while. She said it was a bit early to try but because I'm so slim she would see if she could hear the heart. It took ages to find the heart beat but she assured me that even if she couldn't get it she was not in the least bit worried as she could hear the baby "swimming away" and wriggling around every time she got close enough to hear a few beats in the back ground. In the end she did find it but it looks like this baby is a little monkey (why am I not surprised) s/he was trouble at the scan as well and took ages to get to move so that they could get a good shot of the spine and kidneys.

Its funny but it seems to have given them this little personality already (though if s/he is being such a pain for medical professionals I hope we don't see any crossed legs at my gender scan LOL)

Also been told I've really 'popped' today. Feeling very good atm and I hope this feeling lasts because I'm still convinced I'll hear boy but hoping I wont be as sad as I thought I would be because I am expecting it and have already started getting used to the idea

[motherofboys]

Wow sorry for the essay LOL

[pinkprincess85]

Hi ladies, I've been coming on here very often and reading all your posts to keep up to date :-) sorry to all those ladies who haven't got their DG - I feel I may be joining you very soon + am very worried how I will cope this time round, this is number 4 for me (3 boys already) and we couldn't possibly afford anymore after this so this really is it for us, we had such negative comments with ds3 (especially at family parties-which is the reason we decline all invites now!) I'm 14+3 and have booked my gender scan for the 8th may. We haven't even told anyone we're pregnant yet just for fear of the 'boy' comments creeping in, I personally just couldn't handle weeks of it!
I was feeling quite positive about this pregnancy until the last few days when I've been reading up on peoples NUB shots and what to look for- so I re-looked mine over, there is no clear nub shot when baby is lying flat (baby was upside down) BUT there is a clear shot of one of the legs from the bottom angle (only 1 leg tho) and sticking out is what looks like a willy - but it very clearly looks like one if you know what I mean! do all babys have this to start with in between the legs then it changes to gender or at 13 weeks was that 'his' willy?? im worrying myself sick as I didn't see it before! i'm thinking of taking a photo of it + uploading it.
Sorry to go on I don't think I can sit here + search through anymore posts. xx

[pebmcpd7]

Have many of you told people you are pregnant, I haven't yet, I am gonna hold out until I am around 21 weeks, until I know all is OK at the normality scan.
I also hate the comments. I know a girl that has 6 kids too, we both go to mother and toddler group together and she has just revealed she is having number 7. (She is 2 weeks behind me) People are already saying to her, OMG 7! What will they say when they hear about me!! and I have all the one gender they have extra ammunition for me LOL!!!! I also feel a bit sneaky not saying when she is telling everyone!! But I have not told my Mum or anyone.

[pinkprincess85]

Pebmcp6 - i'm exactly the same (just behind you at 14+3) i haven't told anyone- not even family, it's a shame people constantly feel the need to comment on our family make-up + know from my boys its so hard to deal with, i'd have loved to announce it at the 12 week mark but just due to others i felt i couldn't :( . are you having an early gender scan hun? x

[pebmcpd7]

Pebmcp6 - i'm exactly the same (just behind you at 14+3) i haven't told anyone- not even family, it's a shame people constantly feel the need to comment on our family make-up + know from my boys its so hard to deal with, i'd have loved to announce it at the 12 week mark but just due to others i felt i couldn't :( . are you having an early gender scan hun? x

Had a scan yesterday, but she wouldn't guess as I was only 14+6 and she said she would only be 70% accurate and she wanted to be sure, so I am back in 2weeks (8th May) :nails: Even if I hear girl at this scan I am still not telling, we are gonna keep it to ourselves until birth!!!

P.S. Of course I'll tell here!!!!!

[motherofboys]

I have told people. I also have 3 boys. I have had a few people ask and I tell them that I'm pretty certain we will only have boys and that I am happy with this because I am much more comfortable with boys and always wanted boys. I also throw in that my boys are adamant that they are going to have a brother and only want a brother and I'd like them to have a brother if thats what they want. I've also had a couple of comments along the lines of "must me mad" or "you brave woman".

[pinkprincess85]

Had a scan yesterday, but she wouldn't guess as I was only 14+6 and she said she would only be 70% accurate and she wanted to be sure, so I am back in 2weeks (8th May) :nails: Even if I hear girl at this scan I am still not telling, we are gonna keep it to ourselves until birth!!!

P.S. Of course I'll tell here!!!!!


OOOH that sounds promising fingers crossed for you! :-) I've also got my gender scan on the 8th of may - very nervous! do you just want to keep it private for yourselves till birth or worried a girl guess might be wrong? I've though every possibility through - we initially said we'd tell everyone after the 16 week scan regardless of the gender outcome but the 2 scans will only be 2+ half weeks apart + i'd be worried if they did say girl at 16 weeks it would change by the time the next scan is due and i'd have to backtrack! so i think im going to stay quiet until the 20 week one +the day after that we go on holiday! x

[pebmcpd7]

Think we are the same due dates motherofboys!!

[pebmcpd7]

No we just wanna keep it private for us!!! like to keep everyone guessing!!! LOL
We only ever found out gender on our last baby, the other 5 boys we didn't know until birth. My DH still would like to wait, but bless him he is going along with what I want!!!

[pinkprincess85]

I have told people. I also have 3 boys. I have had a few people ask and I tell them that I'm pretty certain we will only have boys and that I am happy with this because I am much more comfortable with boys and always wanted boys. I also throw in that my boys are adamant that they are going to have a brother and only want a brother and I'd like them to have a brother if thats what they want. I've also had a couple of comments along the lines of "must me mad" or "you brave woman".

People make me so sad + angry at their stupid comments! Unfortunately we're in the situation where everyone knows from previous pregnancies that we would love a girl + it just so happens my horrible sister in law (the one that was adamant she didn't want anymore kids after 2 boys) got the girl , my other sister in law is also due with a girl in june after 1 boy - all the family are all over her like a rash and no one was interested when ds3 was born :( .
I wish i had your courage to turn round and hide my feelings especially where family are concerned! think i need to find some good comebacks in preparation! :p x

[pebmcpd7]

People make me so sad + angry at their stupid comments! Unfortunately we're in the situation where everyone knows from previous pregnancies that we would love a girl + it just so happens my horrible sister in law (the one that was adamant she didn't want anymore kids after 2 boys) got the girl , my other sister in law is also due with a girl in june after 1 boy - all the family are all over her like a rash and no one was interested when ds3 was born :( .
I wish i had your courage to turn round and hide my feelings especially where family are concerned! think i need to find some good comebacks in preparation! :p x

No one knows my G Desire, I always say as long as they are healthy I don't care, that bit is true but if I had a girl it would be a big bonus!!!

[aussiettc]

Thanks to everyone on here for being so supportive-its so great that such a forum exists to share our thoughts about gender desire as its such a taboo topic in the 'real world'. I'm grateful to have a place where I can shout 'I'd love to have a little lady' and know that if I don't hear those magic words at my next scan, that I'll be supported to deal with my gender disappointment. Its such an emotional roller coaster and I'm just really glad to be sharing the journey with the lovely ladies on here xx

[pebmcpd7]

I remember watching a programme on Channel 4 (English channel) about gender desire!! the girl was devastated when she seen boy on the scan. It was the topic of conversation the next day with my friends and family. They were all disgusted with her attitude, I had to sit and agree!!! I felt such a fake. I wouldn't of had as bad a reaction but I would feel a bit sad.

[My Three Sons]

Everyone that knows me knows we want a girl. Of course when they say such things, I usually reply that is what I am hoping for but if we have another boy he and my youngest will be such great friends.

[Kiara]

Danielle88 ; How is it going? Are you feeling better?

[motherofboys]

I remember that program being on but didn't watch it.
I have a friend who had 4 girls first, then a boy, she tried for a brother for him and got a girl, then had 2 more boys so almost evened out her family. I remember her wanting a boy and even then I could understand why she would, I guess because I love boys. Maybe back when I was more naive about it if she had had all boys and wanted a girl I wouldn't have understood because at that time I only had 1 boy and was happy to have another. The idea of a daughter never even entered my head.
Some times I think people can see through me, but I always try to make light of it. I say I only have brothers, I'm not very girly, even if I did have a girl, with my influence and 3 older brothers she'd be like a boy anyway LOL I say a girl would make a nice change because I'd get a shopping spree and have more choice of things to buy at Christmas. I pick silly little things to try to convince them I'm not bothered.

pebmcp6 looking at your ticker, yes we do I'm also due the 17th.

[ELP]

Have many of you told people you are pregnant, I haven't yet, I am gonna hold out until I am around 21 weeks, until I know all is OK at the normality scan.
I also hate the comments. I know a girl that has 6 kids too, we both go to mother and toddler group together and she has just revealed she is having number 7. (She is 2 weeks behind me) People are already saying to her, OMG 7! What will they say when they hear about me!! and I have all the one gender they have extra ammunition for me LOL!!!! I also feel a bit sneaky not saying when she is telling everyone!! But I have not told my Mum or anyone.
peb, when you do announce if anyone asks why you kept it quiet you can just say you had a little scare early on, you dont haveto say whay the scare is, you know a bit of bladder leakage when sneezing should count;) then that stops the immediate gender comments:)

And for those who might be getting their 3rd 4th + in a row, just tell them 'Well its like winning the lottery 4 times in a row! We just can't stop buying tickets!!!' Big families are Cooool!!! Heres hoping that everybody is about to start their run of new genders xxx

[motherofboys]

Another one for us, this baby will be DHs paternal grandparents 18th great grandchild and out of all of those, there are my 3 boys, and 1 of our nephews that will carry on the family name. All of the boys have had girls, and the girls have had the boys. So I can use "well someones got to keep the name going, theres only 4 atm so another boy would help the cause"

[My3SweetPeas]

Well ladies tomorrow is the big day!!! I have done a lot of soul searching the past few weeks and days and even though I would love a little girl I will be ok if baby turns out to be a boy!! I hope for my DD that it is a girl so she has a sister, but for myself as long as the baby is healthy I will be happy!!! I may be slightly let down, but I know that God has a plan!! I am hoping for a girl, but I totally expect baby to be a boy. I am going into thinking this way so I won't be let down. (hopefully). I guess we will see what happens on Saturday!

[motherofboys]

Good Luck for tomorrow

[Navywife620]

Good luck tomorrow! What time is your appointment?

[ELP]

Best of luck tomorrow sweet peas:luck: I'll be checking in all day for news!!!!

[My3SweetPeas]

Good luck tomorrow! What time is your appointment?

12:30 est

[Alyssasmom789]

I haven't told anyone except dh we are having another girl :( dhs parents already have 5 granddaughters no boy this will be #6 and they were so excited for this one. I'm stuck and still so down I haven't left the house in three days and don't want to see anyone...I just want to be alone

[Kiara]

Do you feel your babies move? I feel mine sometimes but not that often. But its normal to not feel it all the time when it is so small , isnt it?

[motherofboys]

yes Kiara, the baby can move to different areas or facing the back of your uterus and you wont feel anything at this stage. A lot of people still wont have felt any movement at all for another few weeks yet.

[pinkprincess85]

12:30 est

Good Luck Hun .x

[Nachelle]

Good luck sweet peas!! :) HOpe you hear girl!!!

I have been feeling the baby on and off too, I think its normal this early on.

[pinkprincess85]

I wrote a post last night to say there was one of my scan photo's that I definitely think points to a boy, baby was upside down for the whole scan and the pic that the baby is the right way round was because she wanted us to get a good pic (I think!) the photo that Im concerned about is a close up of babys leg/bum - if you look closely u can see a dangly bit, I've heard that the nub theory doesn't work if baby is upside down but surely at 13 weeks this is a boy-part- what do you ladies think?

[Lld2006]

pinkprincess, it's not a suuuuper clear pic so i wouldn't stress too much. but i will add, that i had QUITE the dangler at my 12+3 ultrasound. total between the legs shot and the most obvious penis i have ever seen. UGH. i've resigned myself to knowing it is a boy...but yours isn't as clear as mine was...so could be a cord or something for all we know. fingers crossed for you!

on the moving subject...i felt mine move at 12 weeks...a couple times that week. and now today i am 14 weeks and don't think i've felt it for at least a week. weird.

i think now that i'm feeling better the weight gain is kicking in...and that stinks! i've gained about 2-3 pounds in the last two weeks. eeeeeek!

okay so some of you played along on my shettles game inquiry...but not all! so if you know the gender for sure, i'd love to know when you DTD. :)

[True Blue]

Lld I dont know the gender for sure but have gotten all girl guesses on my nub shot so I am pretty certain of another :DD:
I do know when we DTD for my last 2 :DD: :DD: I was charting and using OPK's
DD3 we DTD once 3 days before O.
DD4 we DTD 2 days and 1 day before O.

This baby we DTD every other day the whole cycle, we conceived from DTD O-3, O-1 and O day. We did 3 attempts in 24hrs from first positive OPK.

[pinkprincess85]

[QUOTE=Lld2006;395257]pinkprincess, it's not a suuuuper clear pic so i wouldn't stress too much. but i will add, that i had QUITE the dangler at my 12+3 ultrasound. total between the legs shot and the most obvious penis i have ever seen. UGH. i've resigned myself to knowing it is a boy...but yours isn't as clear as mine was...so could be a cord or something for all we know. fingers crossed for you!

Hi hun, really appreciate your positivity :-) but I feel exactly the same as you, I've resigned myself to baby being a boy, I've literally spent the last 24 hours searching every post/picture of potty shots of both boys + girls and it seems every boy potty shot at 12/13 weeks of a dangly no matter how big or small always gets confirmed boy at 16 or 20 weeks :tissue:
I haven't come across any potty pics of a girls bits poking out like the bit on mine- on the girl ones theres always nothing there!
Are you having an early gender scan or waiting till your 20 week? I've had such a headache since last night - it hasn't gone anywhere + I literally feel sick to my stomach, all I honestly feel like doing is crying my eyes out and I've got to wait till may 8th for the gender confirmation!

[Lld2006]

I have an early one booked for 16 weeks BUT I'm canceling it. Even though the tech wouldn't confirm it is a boy, it is so obvious that I have been extremely depressed. Better this week, but still very down. So I think seeing it again at 16 weeks AND AGAIN at 20 weeks would be too much. Ill just hold off till 20 weeks. I pray a miracle happens for both of us and our danglers turn into girls.

[pinkprincess85]

I have an early one booked for 16 weeks BUT I'm canceling it. Even though the tech wouldn't confirm it is a boy, it is so obvious that I have been extremely depressed. Better this week, but still very down. So I think seeing it again at 16 weeks AND AGAIN at 20 weeks would be too much. Ill just hold off till 20 weeks. I pray a miracle happens for both of us and our danglers turn into girls.

I totally understand + have considered cancelling myself. :fingers: the danglers disappear.x

[xokatietatie]

My DH just told me to go get an early scan!!

[Nachelle]

Any updates sweet peas?

I dont know where even to look for places that do elective sonos. Where do you guys go?

[Lld2006]

Just google it for where you live. It's called Stork Vision in my city.

[Navywife620]

My DH just told me to go get an early scan!!

So exciting!!! when are you going to go??

[Navywife620]

12:30 est

I hope you are out celebrating!!

[Nachelle]

Ladies wanting pink: My friend was told boy at 14 weeks and at 20 weeks she found out shes having a girl. They said her lady bits must have been swollen still. So keep hope alive! :)

[My3SweetPeas]

Sorry it took so long. We had to tell our family and well... IT's A BOY! I have to admit I am a little depressed. I know it will get better, but everything pointed to a girl. I tried not to get my hopes up but it was hard not too. He is adorable though and I know after I grieve for the little girl I thought I was getting I will be ok!! It doesn't help that our family is a little let down also. IT was hard to keep a smiling face when your family said "Oh no" "are you sure" "we were hoping it was a girl" I know that they will come around in time as well.

[Nachelle]

Im sorry sweet peas!!! I hate when people make remarks like that. I already warned my friends to just say Yay COnGrats! instead of oh man that sucks! They just looked at me funny. I tried to explain but if you dont have mulitple genders you just cant understand. I hope feel better soon!

[Navywife620]

Sorry it took so long. We had to tell our family and well... IT's A BOY! I have to admit I am a little depressed. I know it will get better, but everything pointed to a girl. I tried not to get my hopes up but it was hard not too. He is adorable though and I know after I grieve for the little girl I thought I was getting I will be ok!! It doesn't help that our family is a little let down also. IT was hard to keep a smiling face when your family said "Oh no" "are you sure" "we were hoping it was a girl" I know that they will come around in time as well.

Sorry you didn't hear girl! So happy you have a healthy baby boy in there!

[aussiettc]

Congratulations sweet pea! It may not be your dream gender, but you will love your darling little boy so much and he will bring huge joy to your life xx

[Lown]

[QUOTE=Lown;395758]Pinkprincess, I do not see anything that is penis like in your photos. I went for my scan a week ago and it looked just like yours, so different from everything else i had seen on the forum, because baby is upside down and viewed differently. all the lines seems to point in a different direction compared to the other 'nub' shots we see. If you look at the studies they discount all babies upside down. I asked the question about baby being upside down on the forum and the reply was you cannot tell.

I too spend the last week thinking I am having a boy because there was nothing girly about the scan and things just ' dangled' or looked 'stacked', I have finially hidden the scans and realised it is back to 50/50. You too are still at 50/50-hang on in there, fingers crossed we get our girls. /QUOTE]

[motherofboys]

I know with my 3 boys I DTD the day of O for DS1 and same again for DS2. DS3 I DTD 3 days before O. This time we DTD the day before O.

I've got just over a week till my gender scan now!
I hate that little voice in my head that every time I think "I'm going to see my baby boy, its going to be a boy for sure" says "its a girl" In the first weeks I thought it was my instinct because I had been right with all 3 boys but now after a very boyish nub and the more I learn about swaying and see what I probably did to get my other boys and how those things were not changed I think it has to be a boy. Theres no way it could be a girl.
A few little things were changed with out me knowing about swaying but not enough.

Just keep telling myself its a boy its a boy its a boy. And that voice is just wishful thinking.

[xokatietatie]

So exciting!!! when are you going to go??

I am going to call to schedule it tomorrow morning. So hopefully I'll know little one's gender sometime this week!

[Navywife620]

I am going to call to schedule it tomorrow morning. So hopefully I'll know little one's gender sometime this week!

That is awesome!! Hopefully they can get you in quick. i want to go for one but my doctor will do the anatomy scan at 18 weeks so I figure save a little money and wait the extra 2 weeks. But if they didn't do it until 20 I would definitely get one!

[My3SweetPeas]

I am feeling a little more depressed this morning and have been crying that baby is a boy. I prepared myself for this and promised that I wouldn't feel this way, but it still aches. Why couldn't it have been a girl!! I hope that these feeling go away soon.

[xokatietatie]

My3SweetPeas, I'm sorry that you're feeling this way! I hope the pain will not last long and the excitement for that precious boy will take over for you.

I called and got my scan scheduled -- FINGERS CROSSED, I will know my baby's gender this Wednesday morning. And I'm NOT TELLING ANYONE!!! Well, I told you girls, two close friends and DH... but nobody else needs to know. :-)

[pebmcpd7]

I never thought I would feel this way, but because I swayed this time I feel I will be upset if I hear boy :( I am crying here for you sweetpeas!! this is gonna be me on the 8th!!
My DH is hoping for girl too but he would be happy with boy as long as everything is OK.
I know I am gonna have to go away on my own and have a good cry, I would hate my DH to see that I was upset about it.... I am shitting myself now!!!

[motherofboys]

Good Luck for wednesday Katie!

I'm so scared for mine now

[True Blue]

Good luck to those of you with gender scans soon :luck: :fx:

I am waiting until my 21 week u/s & feel after the nub guesses we already know the sex of this baby.

However
I had a reading last year from Cheri22 and I have sent off to her for another reading as I conceived in a different month to her prediction. I'm hoping she guesses a boy for us this time. Clutching desperately at straws?

[Nachelle]

Im scared tooo! Im going to stay patient and happily clueless till my 20 week scan. Im even inching closer and closer to a surprise delivery! Im going to have them put it in an envelope and go from there.
Oh and for the gender predictions lol I got obsessed with them for a while and had about 15 done (some free some paid for) I got 12 girl guesses and 3 boy so Im a little curious who was right and who was wrong. And I know I was psychic crazy for a while! I was such a nimrod! ha ha

[wannagirl21]

Sorry it took so long. We had to tell our family and well... IT's A BOY! I have to admit I am a little depressed. I know it will get better, but everything pointed to a girl. I tried not to get my hopes up but it was hard not too. He is adorable though and I know after I grieve for the little girl I thought I was getting I will be ok!! It doesn't help that our family is a little let down also. IT was hard to keep a smiling face when your family said "Oh no" "are you sure" "we were hoping it was a girl" I know that they will come around in time as well.

Sorry you didn't here girll but congrats on a healthy boy, and I'm starting to wonder about all these nub shots and guesses your like the third or fourth girl I have seen latley get all girl guesses on nub shots and then be told boy. I'm kinda glad I didn;t get a clear nub shot and posted it cuz being told girl guesses for nub and then be told boy is a little frustrating.

[xokatietatie]

Im scared tooo! Im going to stay patient and happily clueless till my 20 week scan. Im even inching closer and closer to a surprise delivery! Im going to have them put it in an envelope and go from there.
Oh and for the gender predictions lol I got obsessed with them for a while and had about 15 done (some free some paid for) I got 12 girl guesses and 3 boy so Im a little curious who was right and who was wrong. And I know I was psychic crazy for a while! I was such a nimrod! ha ha

That's how I felt for so long. I wanted to cling to the idea that it could be a girl. DH was against an early scan. He said it was a waste of money. Then, yesterday afternoon, we were talking about the baby and he told me I should just get a scan done. I was pretty surprised he had a change of heart. Part of me still wants to wait, but I do think I'll be happier if I can start preparing for baby either way. I do want to be able to know. DH has to work, so I am going to go alone. I know a close friend would go with me if I asked, but I actually think I want to just be by myself. When the scan is done I am going to buy a little outfit to take home with me to give to DH to open.

[Nachelle]

lol Thats exactly what I was thinking of! If its a girl of course its going to be the girliest pink dress and if its a boy Im going to buy a pair of tiny fuzzy blue footie pajamas, they always make my heart melt :)

[motherofboys]

I used to get them done when TTC, after it got past the year mark and I started to wonder if it would happen at all. I had loads done. They all predicted I'd have a girl and be pregnant with in a couple of months. All but one which predicted I'd have a boy in December 2013. That was the closest, just off by 2 months LOL And most likely right with the boy guess too. I gave up after they all (but that one which was still a long way off) proved to be wrong for conception dates.
One was really believable told me all sorts of things that had apparently come from my Nan that was really spot on.
I haven't found anyone who will tell you the gender AFTER you are pregnant though LOL And its probably a good thing or I'd get obsessed again.

[motherofboys]

Anyone else having good days and bad days? Days when you think you can handle hearing that you are having the opposite from your GD, days when you are fully expecting to hear you haven't got your girl/boy this time? And then day when every little thing gives you hope even when you know that your not getting what you want, and you feel that desire so badly? I just want to know now. Today is a bad day after a few good ones. My morning sickness, which was worse than I have ever experienced and never completely went away, just died down to nausea, has returned. And even though I know it means nothing and is just an old wives tale, and even though I know my baby has an extremely boyish nub, I can't help but hope. I'm sure all the differences in this pregnancy are just my body tricking me.

[Navywife620]

Anyone else having good days and bad days? Days when you think you can handle hearing that you are having the opposite from your GD, days when you are fully expecting to hear you haven't got your girl/boy this time? And then day when every little thing gives you hope even when you know that your not getting what you want, and you feel that desire so badly? I just want to know now. Today is a bad day after a few good ones. My morning sickness, which was worse than I have ever experienced and never completely went away, just died down to nausea, has returned. And even though I know it means nothing and is just an old wives tale, and even though I know my baby has an extremely boyish nub, I can't help but hope. I'm sure all the differences in this pregnancy are just my body tricking me.

I definitely have my good days and bad days. I have my days where I am very optimistic and am I this is my girl! then I have days where I am like no way you are kidding yourself it's probably another boy. Today is actually a good day. Had another girl dream last night so of course I wake up feeling happy and excited. I pray a lot and we prayed a lot to give us a healthy baby girl, I know I just need to put my trust and faith in God that he will give us one. That is why I have those bible verses in signature.

[motherofboys]

I have my scan on the 7th of May! 1 week tomorrow!
The only one I found after pregnancy they want to know the month you conceived and your age at conception. Who else thinks they simply look at the chinese gender predictor chart LMAO

I will tell you girls after my scan but I wont be telling anyone else. If its a boy I will want those weeks to get used to the idea. If its a girl I will probably not believe it and want to wait to have it confirmed at 20 weeks LOL

I have decided that either way I'm going to put on a brave face and do a gender reveal picture.
I will lay out one each of DS1,2 & 3s T-shirts, just slightly over lapping so you can see size difference with the biggest at the back, then lay a baby vest or t-shirt or something with them and take a pic.
Hopefully even with a boy that will give the appearance of being really happy and excited about another boy. Hopefully by that point I'll have got used to the idea anyway and wont be so upset anyway.

I can't help feeling the more I want a girl the less likely I am to get one.
I had a dream last night in which the baby was going mad in my belly and even in that I forced myself to think of the baby as my baby boy as if I was awake.
Only had 1 dream of a girl so far. I was hoping for loads of boy dreams as I always end up having the opposite of what I dream LOL

[xokatietatie]

Good luck Katie!!! How far along will you be on Wednesday?
I am crazy. curious.
I also booked my "early" scan at 16 weeks, 6 days!!!!
I feel that I just need to know and get it over with and then move on with life.

I feel that the sooner I know, the better it will be for me.
If it's a boy, then at least I will be prepared to hear the words and be much more calm about the 20 week u/s that I am going to go to with my husband.

I know that my relatives and friends will be bothering me right after the 20 week u/s! They'll all ask about the gender!
If it's a boy, I will have a few weeks before the 20 week u/s to deal with the news, then I know that I'll be able to handle it much better since time heals.

I know many of you might disagree with me, but no matter what I find out, I won't tell my husband that I'm going to the early u/s. He doesn't need to know and I don't feel guilty in not telling him as it won't harm him in any way if he does not know. My husband does not care about the sex of the baby at all and if it was up to him, he would be just as happy to find out at birth.
From a practical standpoint, it ultimately should not matter to anyone either, as a healthy baby is what is most important in life, but I can't help being curious and I would feel better prepared if I heard boy earlier than my 20 week scan. I just know that I'll be bombarded with texts and phone calls after my 20 week u/s with questions from family/friends, "Is it a boy or a girl?" THE PRESSURE!!!!

I'll be 16 weeks, 4 days along on Wednesday... though at my last ultrasound I was measuring a couple days ahead of my due date. I think maybe 3 days?? It wasn't enough for them to change my due date or anything.

[Alyssasmom789]

Although I got an us at just 16 weeks DH is not convinenced its a girl...I think he's in denial...they only printed me out a 3d pic of the babys profile yup for $50 I got maybe a 10 min us and one pic....anyway, he swears he sees testicles I think he's crazy so I'm going to wait until my 20 wk from the dr to tell everyone

[motherofboys]

1 week today till my scan! This time next week it will all be over and I'll know. I am soooooo ready to know! Boy or girl I just want this bit over with so I can get used to the idea and start bonding with my baby, I feel like its not real atm.

[xokatietatie]

At this time tomorrow morning I will be in my car and on the way to my ultrasound. I'm starting to feel sick over it!!! Darn these nerves getting the best of me.

[Navywife620]

At this time tomorrow morning I will be in my car and on the way to my ultrasound. I'm starting to feel sick over it!!! Darn these nerves getting the best of me.

wooo hoo that is so exciting!!! I will be stalking the page tomorrow!!!

[Nachelle]

LOL Motherofboys: It's better to spend the money on an early gender scan than psychic readings ; P Nachelle and I had a bunch done after pregnancy and it does add up! Are you getting an early gender scan done as well?

By the way, Nachelle, I think that you're very brave to want to wait until birth!!!

Im just going to wait till my 20 week scan and put it in an envelope and go from there. Ill open it right away though! lol

[Nachelle]

Good luck Katie!!! :) FIngers crossed!

[Navywife620]

Anyone else boobs still tender? Mine are! I remember this going away by now with my boys.

[motherofboys]

Good Luck Katie I will also be stalking the page!

My boobs are really tender, when I cuddle my boys and they lay their head on me its so sore.
The only time my boobs ever hurt with my boys was in the beginning if I was really cold they would hurt and at the end when they were getting bigger and starting to fill up.
I'm 15+5 now and still so tender.

Trying not to think it could mean anything, I'm pretty sure my body is just being mean and tricking me because I have had quite a few differences this time.

[Lld2006]

Mine are still really tender and are getting so big all of a sudden! Wish that meant girl but my 12 week potty shot was just too convincing. I went to Pea in a Pod today and bought some really cute maternity Capri jeans & white jean legging capris...made me feel good! A little retail therapy for my GD. It is getting rough for me again...as well as just not wanting to be pregnant in general. The weather is warming up and that makes me want to sit on my patio and enjoy a few, no, a LOT of beers. This summer is going to be brutal. I feel guilty thinking this would feel a lot more "worth it" if it were a girl. :( I'm a terrible person! Just wish I could do this attempt over, ya know?

Katie, good luck tomo! I forget what had you so down and thinking boy...did you have a boyish nub shot?

[Alyssasmom789]

I have never felt so alone and hurt about having another girl. I wish so bad I never even tried again and to just be happy with my 2. My kids and husband are getting it bad from me . I'm so bitter sad and think that I will just never feel and have my dream come true. Everyone around me is having boys except me :*(

[ELP]

Is there anyway you can have another scan just to completely confirm?? It may help you bond a little more with your new little one:( I wish there was a switch for choosing gender, things would be simple then xx

[Navywife620]

Well I just scheduled an early gender scan and now I feel like I just need to cancel it!! Tell me to cancel it!!! I have this crazy feeling that God wants me to be patient and if I am not patient and get this scan done it will be a boy, if I wait and be patient then it will be a girl. I am having this internal battle with myself right now. I keep praying on what I should do.

[motherofboys]

Well I just scheduled an early gender scan and now I feel like I just need to cancel it!! Tell me to cancel it!!! I have this crazy feeling that God wants me to be patient and if I am not patient and get this scan done it will be a boy, if I wait and be patient then it will be a girl. I am having this internal battle with myself right now. I keep praying on what I should do.

I felt exactly like this weeks ago when considering booking my scan. I was sure if I found out I'd have a boy. Some said to me "there is no tempting fate, the sex of your baby was decided at conception and there's no going back whether you find out early or not at all" and its true. I have to keep reminding myself of this as well. I often find myself thinking "I will do anything if this can just be a healthy baby girl" (also feel if I just say girl, with out the healthy bit then I'm jinxing myself) then I think that its too late, baby is what its going to be and that's that.


As for retail therapy, I really need a hair cut, but I'm waiting an extra week so that if I do hear boy I have a little something to cheer me up and make me feel good. I just bought myself some new maternity clothes last week LOL

And the 'worth it' feeling. Although I love being pregnant, when we were TTC it was taking what felt like forever (was a total of 2 and a half years and I still now feel I should just be grateful to be pregnant at all) but I kept thinking "after all this time and all this heart ache it better be a girl so that its worth all this" but I know in the end my baby will be worth it all and all that is still to come to get him or her here. And I'm sure once you have your LO you will feel the same.

[motherofboys]

Also Navywife I think God has a plan for each of us and if that includes a girl it will include one whether we find out or not, I don't believe he would take away some thing as precious as a daughter just because we were excited to know a little earlier.

[Nachelle]

Ive been feeling better lately. More good days than bad. Even though I REALLY I think Ill br fine with another boy. My friend just had a baby boy last week and hes so cute. I think Im excited for a newborn regardless of gender. And I was staring at my 1 yr. old today and he is just such a doll
, so it just made me realize if god wants me to have another boy then I will
be happy about it and I will him just as much as my other 3. Now I might have totally different feelings after my Sono! But Im just happy that Im content now and not as crazy as I was last week.

[xokatietatie]

Mine are still really tender and are getting so big all of a sudden! Wish that meant girl but my 12 week potty shot was just too convincing. I went to Pea in a Pod today and bought some really cute maternity Capri jeans & white jean legging capris...made me feel good! A little retail therapy for my GD. It is getting rough for me again...as well as just not wanting to be pregnant in general. The weather is warming up and that makes me want to sit on my patio and enjoy a few, no, a LOT of beers. This summer is going to be brutal. I feel guilty thinking this would feel a lot more "worth it" if it were a girl. :( I'm a terrible person! Just wish I could do this attempt over, ya know?

Katie, good luck tomo! I forget what had you so down and thinking boy...did you have a boyish nub shot?

The tech said that if she had to guess she'd say boy. That was at my 12/13 week ultrasound. She also said cord was between his/her legs though.

[xokatietatie]

Well I just scheduled an early gender scan and now I feel like I just need to cancel it!! Tell me to cancel it!!! I have this crazy feeling that God wants me to be patient and if I am not patient and get this scan done it will be a boy, if I wait and be patient then it will be a girl. I am having this internal battle with myself right now. I keep praying on what I should do.

This is exactly how I've felt since scheduling my scan the other day!!

[Navywife620]

Well I am glad I am not the only one feeling this way.

[motherofboys]

Its wednesday here now, not sure what time it is where you are Katie but I'm thinking of you and will be watching the page all day.

[Pangea]

Good luck for today Katie, I hope you hear girl.

[motherofboys]

Oh thanks, I now have some idea instead of just sitting refreshing the page all day LOL
Yes I need to know so I can deal with it by myself so that when it comes time to tell everyone else after my 22 week scan I can put on a brave face, or maybe be genuinely happy about a 4th boy. Still hoping girl but feel its less likely today.

[Navywife620]

Good luck today Katie!!! I hope you hear girl!!!

[fish2012]

This is exactly how I've felt since scheduling my scan the other day!!

i felt like that too lol patience is a virtue and all that - not one i have thou !

[xokatietatie]

It's a boy.

[Adia]

Well you sure make cute ones Katie, so it will be another heart breaker for sure!!!

[Southern Butterfly]

It's a boy.

I know I'm not in this group but I wanted to say Congratulations!!!

As you can see, I too am expecting my 4th boy and I really think our families are something special!:happy:

[Nachelle]

How are you doing Katie?

[Wanting-a-girl]

I'm in the 4th boy club too ;) congrats!

[motherofboys]

How do you feel about it being a boy Katie?

[Pangea]

Congratulations on the boy Katie. I hope you're ok xx

[Navywife620]

It's a boy.

:( I am so sorry you didn't hear girl. How are you holding up?

[xokatietatie]

I don't really feel anything right now. Just kind of going through the motions. My head is throbbing.

[motherofboys]

Hugs hun. Perhaps tonight when the boys are in bed and it quiet you'll have a chance to sit and process it. Hope your OK

[Wanting-a-girl]

Be happy :) your having a healthy baby boy! Nothing sad about that :)

[Southern Butterfly]

I don't really feel anything right now. Just kind of going through the motions. My head is throbbing.

That's how I was after finding out I was expecting DS3. Took me quite some time to wrap my head around it before I could really feel anything. Give yourself time.

[xokatietatie]

Just spent $95 with DS1 -- 4 outfits, a pair of shoes, two stuffed animals, two jittery car seat toys, a pack of pacifiers and an easy squeeze spoon. It did help a tiny bit. Retail therapy always feels good.

[Navywife620]

I don't really feel anything right now. Just kind of going through the motions. My head is throbbing.

My heart is breaking for you. I know how it feels and I know that there isn't really anything we can say or do. You just need time to process it.

[ELP]

I'm sorry you didn't hear girl Katie, but congratulations on your beautiful little boy:) I'm also guessing by your avatar that he's going to be a platinum blonde and complete your set of gorgeous blues!!

[motherofboys]

Retail therapy is good. Are your boys happy about another brother? I know mine are adamant that they do not like girls and do not want a sister so they will be happy with a boy. (Which is odd seeing as it was DS1 wanting a sister as well as DH wanting a girl that first started off my desire for a girl) I think it helps to see other people happy and excited about it.

[Lld2006]

Oh Katie....totally bummed for you...yet also very happy the baby is healthy. :) I know it isn't easy...in fact it sucks! But this little boy will be such a blessing to your family in his own unique way. (I have to keep telling myself the same thing...) enjoy retail therapy and perhaps knowing for sure will make moving on from GD come that much sooner. Big hugs to you!!!

[lime]

Congratulations on your healthy precious baby boy, Katie

[pebmcpd7]

Congrats on a healthy baba Katie, I have my scan on the 8th. Am very nervous now as no one seems to be getting their desired gender.

Anyone know the stats on the genders!?!?!?!?

[Kiara]

katie, im sorry you didnt hear what you wanted but congratulations on your little boy!! Your boys are so lucky to have each other:)

[xokatietatie]

I'm in such a foul mood suddenly. I just snapped at DH and told him to either bite me or leave me alone. And I'm sick to my stomach. It hurts so bad.

I physically can't cry anymore, I don't think. I had to take my contacts out and wear my glasses because I cried so much and so hard that my contacts got cloudy and I couldn't see.

[Navywife620]

Congrats on a healthy baba Katie, I have my scan on the 8th. Am very nervous now as no one seems to be getting their desired gender.

Anyone know the stats on the genders!?!?!?!?

The stats are on the first page!

[strawberrymom]

Congrats on a healthy baba Katie, I have my scan on the 8th. Am very nervous now as no one seems to be getting their desired gender.

Anyone know the stats on the genders!?!?!?!?
I was wondering if there are any more updates for me to put in/ anyone I missed? I know Danielle88-when are you due?
Katie I am sorry you are feeling so sad right now. At least you have some great names picked out for this lo (I like both, but prefer Declan).
I had my apt. yesterday-just a standard listen to heartbeat. DS1 was in the room with me and said "Mommy your stomach is saying Woof Woof!" So I guess it is a dog for me. Also mentioned switching to a midwife and dr. was ok with that.
Even though I had my Mat21 test and it said girl I made the mistake of googling it and found all these wrong gender stories on babycenter. So I had my dr give me a copy of the report which says 99% positive on gender. There is that 1% though... I have bought one dress but only because it was on clearance at a store way out of town. I hate to get anything before 24 weeks as I always worry.

[Nachelle]

Im sorry your so sad right now Katie! :( Guys dont really understand what a woman goes through when she wants a certain gender. DH would be happy with 6 boys and no girls. I know you will love your son just as much as the others, your just grieving for the daughter youve always wanted. So just grieve how ever you need to and tell everybody to F off! :) I hope you feel better soon!!!

[motherofboys]

I'm sorry your so sad right now Katie. Its ok to feel that way. You have to give yourself time and allow those feelings to be what they will so that you can move on. if you bottle them up it will take longer and be harder.

It really does seem that not many of us are getting our desired gender atm, and so many people on boy 4. This along with watching 12 week scans that have been confirmed either way on youtube (post made by ELP in Ultrasound Gender Predictions) has me even surer that I'm getting a boy. Feel OK with this atm but I bet by tuesday evening I'll be feeling just as bad as Katie. Just hope that the GD is short lived for all of us.

[motherofboys]

Actually looking at the front page, of those of us who know so far it would seem its split at 3 with their desired gender and 3 with the opposite. I don't think theres enough to see a trend yet.

[Pangea]

It seems to me that most people are getting boys whether they desire them or not!

Every birth group I've ever been on has had a disproportional amount of boys born, every mother and baby group I go to, even at my midwife appointments all the women there were having boys. All of my friends who have had babies in the last few years have had boys. Maybe it's my fault, maybe I've jinxed the group by my presence!

[strawberrymom]

I was at the WIC office the other day and noticed that everyone there had girls except me.

[motherofboys]

There is usually a slightly higher percentage of boys born per year, but its only like 1 or 2 %. It does seem that there are boy booms and girl booms. When I had my 1st the midwife commented that there had been a real high number of boys born. But thats one area and in the next town there may have been a higher number of girls.
The beginning of last year it seemed ever single pregnant person I knew was having a girl and my friend kept saying to me "hurry up and get pregnant its a girl year!"

[Navywife620]

Actually if you look at september is it pretty even and its normally pretty close. Of those confirmed in September there is 7 boys and 5 girls. And that is not counting the one who did HT to get a girl. I think once people start getting more gender scans we will see it start evening out a bit.

[Navywife620]

Ok just because I am crazy and I went and looked at all the stats up until now.
These are the ones that have been confirmed, some are team green and other probably never came back to update. April was a crazy boy month. I am praying October is more even for us!

Due in:
March 4 girls 3 boys

April 3 girls 10 boys

May 7 girls 8 boys

June 10 girls 7 boys

July 7 girls 6 boys

August 7 girls 3 boys

[xokatietatie]

I want to scream and cry, and pound my fists today. I won't ever know what it's like to brush my daughter's hair or teach her how to paint her nails. I won't ever get to take her shopping and try on dresses and bows. Forget that perfect nursery I planned, it'll never happen. I won't know what it's like to plan a wedding. No dance recitals. I won't ever know what it's like to buy pink things and have girl's days. All the things I fantasize about are never going to happen. I can't stop crying. My head won't stop pounding. My broken heart is more than just emotional, I physically feel pain in my chest. I swear I could see her. I could see her with her brothers and with my husband. I could picture her as part of us. My husband is devastated. He's even cried over the baby being another boy. My mother tries to be understanding, but she just doesn't get it. I feel so broken, so crushed and unhappy. And I'm angry. I feel so mad when friends announce they're having girls. I want to throw things and scream, just have a tantrum like a child who hasn't gotten their way. Life just feels so unfair right now. I keep trying to be okay, but I feel worse with every passing minute. I wanted her so badly. I prayed for her every single day. And she'll never exist. This is the worst pain I've ever faced.

[Navywife620]

Hugs Katie!!! I think what you are feeling and thinking is completely normal. This is our last baby and if it is another boy I am sure I will be definitely feeling the same way. I try to look at it as well then I will be the only princess in the house. And I can buy myself cute clothes, shoes, and get my hair done. I know it's not the same but It helps a little bit. Also after this one DH has agreed to let me get my boobs done, which really excites me. Let yourself be angry and mad, its all apart of the process.

[strawberrymom]

Actually looking at the front page, of those of us who know so far it would seem its split at 3 with their desired gender and 3 with the opposite. I don't think theres enough to see a trend yet.
There was also a poster early in our forum who I saw posted her sway w/confirmed girl (katNmatt).

[motherofboys]

Hugs Katie, I think what your feeling is probably normal and part of the process. I know if I hear boy on Tuesday I will feel the same. Life seems so unfair at times. I can really see a little girl, I've struggled to imagine what a boy would be like this time. So it is like grieving for a lost daughter when you have seen her so clearly. I have even felt anger over the last few weeks, so sure that I will have a boy that I have thought what did I do? Don't I deserve a daughter? I'm a good person!
Let yourself feel what you feel, I don't know if it will ever completely go away but I hope that one day we will be able to accept and be happy with what we have got.

[aussiettc]

Katie I'm so sorry that you're feeling so low-please be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to grieve this loss. Its so had to let go of such a heartfelt wish but remember, your little boy will bring you so much joy. He and his brothers will share such an amazing bond growing up (and throughout their lives).

I have to say also, it really feels like so many ladies are missing out on their dream gender and its making me feel incredibly nervous about my gender scan which isn't for another 6 weeks! I only have 1 DS but am desperate for a DD-I know if this baby isn't my dream gender then there's still a possibility of trying for a third baby but I had a really, really difficult birth experience with my first, this pregnancy is high risk and I'm not sure I'll be brave enough to try a third. I keep hoping and praying this will be my little lady but I know in 6 weeks time I could be feeling exactly the same GD as many of the mums here. My thoughts are with all of you xxx

[desperate4blue]

I want to scream and cry, and pound my fists today. I won't ever know what it's like to brush my daughter's hair or teach her how to paint her nails. I won't ever get to take her shopping and try on dresses and bows. Forget that perfect nursery I planned, it'll never happen. I won't know what it's like to plan a wedding. No dance recitals. I won't ever know what it's like to buy pink things and have girl's days. All the things I fantasize about are never going to happen. I can't stop crying. My head won't stop pounding. My broken heart is more than just emotional, I physically feel pain in my chest. I swear I could see her. I could see her with her brothers and with my husband. I could picture her as part of us. My husband is devastated. He's even cried over the baby being another boy. My mother tries to be understanding, but she just doesn't get it. I feel so broken, so crushed and unhappy. And I'm angry. I feel so mad when friends announce they're having girls. I want to throw things and scream, just have a tantrum like a child who hasn't gotten their way. Life just feels so unfair right now. I keep trying to be okay, but I feel worse with every passing minute. I wanted her so badly. I prayed for her every single day. And she'll never exist. This is the worst pain I've ever faced.

Hi Katie

Im incredibly sad u feel this way. I totally understand being on the opposite side of the spectrum with 3 girls and yes I so long for a son! Each time I go to shop for clothea and have to walk right past the boys section makes me upset; if only god listens to us?
I only wanted 2-3 kids and now because of my desperate desire am deciding on swaying or hi tech. I DONT know which road to take at all. All I can say lovey is I totally understand and wish others around us to. The empty feeling on my tummy never goes away and I know it wont until I have my dream boy. Amen.

[Wanting-a-girl]

Hi Katie

Im incredibly sad u feel this way. I totally understand being on the opposite side of the spectrum with 3 girls and yes I so long for a son! Each time I go to shop for clothea and have to walk right past the boys section makes me upset; if only god listens to us?
I only wanted 2-3 kids and now because of my desperate desire am deciding on swaying or hi tech. I DONT know which road to take at all. All I can say lovey is I totally understand and wish others around us to. The empty feeling on my tummy never goes away and I know it wont until I have my dream boy. Amen.


I think you should go high tech if your going to be upset with another girl... Swaying you need to go into expecting to get an opposite... Im also having my fourth boy I just have never experienced gender dissapointment... I don't quite understand it to be honest... I have two disabled children so I think we should all be thankful for healthy babies

I'm sorry your having a hard time Katie but embrace your new little man his penis makes him no less special than a vagina would have

[harleyquinn]

Hi katie...I am due in Oct too but I don't really post very much. I wanted to tell you I had very bad GD with my 4th son, who was born 4 years ago. I probably would of given this baby to a stranger off the street, was in a foul mood my entire pregnancy, and even driving over to the birth was swearing he was a boy and saying "I just wasn't in the mood to give birth". Ay-yi-yi.

Looking back Katie, it wasn't so much that HE was a boy...in fact, I had ZERO GD with my previous 3 boys....I laughed at my 3rd boy's ultrasound and his pg was probably the happiest time of my life. What was different with the 4th...is I went into getting pg thinking "if this is girl (which it will be because its my turn now, thank you very much), it will *fix* this or that and I will be sooooo happy!"...meaning, that there were areas of my life that needed work but the fun and excitement of having a daughter would blunt all those things.

But no, I had to learn that the hard way and let me tell you, getting over GD completely and honestly and at your very deepest core, takes some work and some soul-searching and you will find yourself asking questions that you never would of otherwise. I would ask yourself the real real real real reasons why you think a girl would make you happy and it may take you many months to figure that out. I don't assume anything but your reasons of dresses and weddings and dance are not good enough to be ruining your life over. (sorry) The truth is, weddings cost so much damn money for one day and everyone is so stressed and at each others throats, and the couple may get divorced anyway so whats the point? (sorry!!!!!!!) And personally, when I peek in on dance recitals, its a bunch of girls with stringy hair and grungy leotards that are just hopping about. I dont' feel we are missing out. YOu have to put all this in perspective.

So, one day you will look back and see your 4 sturdy sons and wonder why on earth you wanted DS#4 to be a girl. You will think "whoa...that was so short-sighted of me! And in fact, what I really wish is this wonderful human being was a twin"...truly. Thats where I am at honey and it is ok to feel all those things you are feeling because you really need to get it all out before you can come to peace. But you will slowly find yourself coming around.

I think I am having a boy this time. My 5th son died at 12 weeks pregnant. I went into this knowing I wanted a baby, not a gender. I wish I could share with you my joy for having all sons. It really almost makes me cry and its sweet tears, not tears of pain. I love my boys and I love my life and there is lots I would go back and change in life but one of those things is not the gender of my children. You can get there too and wear your badge of "Mother of Sons" with great pride and happiness. I also really love my husband alot and this is his life too and we want a good one, not one full of "if only....*this* we could of been happy". <3

Take care xx

[My3SweetPeas]

I want to scream and cry, and pound my fists today. I won't ever know what it's like to brush my daughter's hair or teach her how to paint her nails. I won't ever get to take her shopping and try on dresses and bows. Forget that perfect nursery I planned, it'll never happen. I won't know what it's like to plan a wedding. No dance recitals. I won't ever know what it's like to buy pink things and have girl's days. All the things I fantasize about are never going to happen. I can't stop crying. My head won't stop pounding. My broken heart is more than just emotional, I physically feel pain in my chest. I swear I could see her. I could see her with her brothers and with my husband. I could picture her as part of us. My husband is devastated. He's even cried over the baby being another boy. My mother tries to be understanding, but she just doesn't get it. I feel so broken, so crushed and unhappy. And I'm angry. I feel so mad when friends announce they're having girls. I want to throw things and scream, just have a tantrum like a child who hasn't gotten their way. Life just feels so unfair right now. I keep trying to be okay, but I feel worse with every passing minute. I wanted her so badly. I prayed for her every single day. And she'll never exist. This is the worst pain I've ever faced.

I am so sorry. I understand your pain. I hope that we both feel better soon.

As or me still struggling daily with the idea that this is another boy. To be honest I never wanted this many children. I had my DD and then my DS and wanted another girl. So we tried for DC#3. When we found out it was a boy I knew right then and there I would be trying again. Now we are having our 3rd boy and even though I don't really want anymore children I m considering trying a really good sway to get a girl. So DH and I are planning on trying a girl sway probably next summer. If we get another boy I am so done. I have tried everything I could to get another girl. Anyone else thinking of trying a sway next time?? I checked into IVF with PGD, but it was like 26,000 dollars!! Too rich for my blood!!

[My Three Sons]

Katie, I can totally understand. I don't know what this one is yet, but if I find out it's another boy, I will feel the same way. It's almost like a loss to someone that you once had, even though it was only in your mind. Eventually I know I'll get used to it, and I'll love #4 no matter if it's a boy or girl., but it's definitely a grieving process for some of us. That's why I want to find out, so if it is a boy I can get through that grief before the birth.

As far as people saying you should go high tech...well, that's just not always an option. We should all support each other no matter what the sway, how the sway, high teck or not as we are all here due to a common bond.

[Wanting-a-girl]

I was saying that to desperat4blue as she is still deciding which approach she wants to go with

I am supportive of everyone's feelings and I understand that some people have a hard time with gender dissapointment... But in the grand scheme of things gender is not what's the most important thing

[harleyquinn]

Well I think gender is pretty important.

For example. I would not want to be married to my husband if he was a girl. I am married to him because he is a man. :rofl:

As moms, alot of our hopes and dreams and identity can be pinned with the gender of our kids and what we want out of life etc. Its different for everyone. I completely understand GD because I lived through it.

Saying gender doesn't matter is like saying to a starving person that Big Macs don't matter. In the grand scheme of things, Big Macs don't matter. But they do to some ;)

[Lld2006]

It's soooo hard to deal with feelings of GD....especially when those in our "real lives" can't relate or empathize because they don't understand. This group is the only place I feel comfortable sharing my GD feelings, and I hope that you still feel you can, too Katie. We are here for you!!!

[motherofboys]

I think its great that some of you have all one gender and never experienced GD, and I know that those who have and have moved on are trying to help, but when the cloud of GD is over you, it doesn't feel like it will for you.
I had Post Natal Depression after my 2nd son was born (not because of his gender, this is my 1st experience of GD) and I could have happily given him away. I remember people who had been through depression telling me there was a light at the end of the tunnel and I wouldn't be this way forever and I would eventually love my baby. I couldn't see it. Thats my biggest fear, is the return of PND after this baby, I didn't get it after number 3 but I didn't are about his gender. I was happy with 3 boys and after quite a lot of bleeding early on I was thankful he was still here. It took me until DS2 was 2 years old and I was pregnant with DS3 to actually feel he was my child and I never want to go through that again. So I will embrace the feelings I feel during my pregnancy after my scan on Tuesday, I've already began grieving after my sure fire boy nub, and will allow myself to feel that way because then I will hopefully have accepted it by the time my baby is born and can love him for who he is.
We all know deep down that gender shouldn't matter the things we want from a particular gender are usually just stereotypes, after 3 brothers and with the most un-girlist girl ever as a Mum I doubt if I had a daughter she would be into any girl things anyway. It doesn't stop me wanting one. I know that the person my child becomes is much more important that their gender and health is paramount. I have felt awful for even caring, I think we have all struggled with our feeling of gender desire because we know that we should only care that the baby is healthy. But it doesn't stop what our heart wants, and sometimes no amount of logic will make our desires any less.
We are all here because we want a certain gender, even if when we get the opposite we are able to deal with that and be happy with out needing time to adjust.

I know every one of us gives our advice or shares our feelings to be helpful to each other, but I do think we need to allow each other the time to get our heads around the fact that the child we dreamed of is now going to be a different child, who wont be loved any less, but it still takes time to change that image in our heads. I feel this site is great because we can share our GD with out fear of being judged, we can hear "at least his healthy" anywhere, and we do know that that is the truth. At least he is healthy and he will fit right in with the family and I know I would never change one of my boys for a girl, so if this one is a boy, I will love him and I would never swap him. It wont stop me wanting a girl though.

I think I'm probably rambling now and I hope I got my point across with out sounding like I was saying anybodies opinions are wrong. xx

[motherofboys]

So I've been catching up on my washing with the lovely weather we have been having and now am so excited to get all the boys old babies clothes out of the loft. I can't wait to see little baby vests hanging along side my big boys clothes.

[Southern Butterfly]

motherofboys you make some great points and if anything I said was upsetting or unsupportive then I do apologize as that was not at all my intentions. I really do try hard to balance showing my understanding and empathy for GD with also trying to share something positive. In my personal experience I always cringed when someone told me "sorry you are having a boy" and it still drives me nuts this pregnancy. I have heard and still do hear that from everyone IRL so I'm very careful to never say it here (it may just be me personally who feels this way). When I respond to someone I ttry to tell them the things that helped me when I had GD. When all the responses to my announcement were doom and gloom about what a tragedy my baby's gender was, it just made me feel worse whereas getting some congratulations made me feel a little better that maybe things weren't as bad as I thought. Again I know everyone is different and is helped by different kinds of support but for me what helped me most was hearing from ladies who had all one gender and still got over their GD. It gave me so much hope that these feelings wouldn't last forever and I would be ok. I don't at all mean to put anyone down for how they feel or make them feel bad for sharing their feelings. I just want to offer some understanding along with hope, that's all.

Sorry for my long ramble too. I know this isn't my group and I don't mean to crash it :(

[Navywife620]

So I've been catching up on my washing with the lovely weather we have been having and now am so excited to get all the boys old babies clothes out of the loft. I can't wait to see little baby vests hanging along side my big boys clothes.

Did you have your scan already??

[motherofboys]

Like I say I know no one meant to upset anybody and we all simply share our experiences in order to help each other.
I just thought it worth pointing out the other side.

[motherofboys]

Did you have your scan already??

No its Tuesday, I'm just feeling good today. I'm pretty certain I'm having a boy, but I feel excited to sort through all the old clothes, something that will need doing whether we have a boy or a girl, and to see tiny clothes hanging out on the line whatever colour.
My friend had her baby boy today so I'm thinking about that time just after having a new baby I guess.

[harleyquinn]

You know, my sister died about a year and half ago and I have written a big long poem about all the things people say to make me feel better but just don't. They just don't KNOW. Grief is very private and what comforts one doesn't another. As well, after my 8 miscarriages, if I had a nickel for every person and doctor that told me just to give up and move on...well, I would be a rich lady.

GD is the same way...there are NO words, its something you have to come to terms with yourself. But just as former amputees are coming forward to provide inspiration to those that lost limbs in the Boston bombings...showing a fresh perspective and healing....its pretty powerful to reach out and show a suffering human being some hope.

Here is another thread where I thought there was some great perspectives on having an all boy family.
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/due-june-july-august-2013/27710-who-else-having-their-fourth-boy-here.html

If I were to fully say how much it sucks, I would be no better than the people who feel sorry for us that we have all boys. Instead, I prefer to say "hey..this hurts now but we are strong and you can get through this with some work". And I do understand.

Hoping you all find peace.

[wannagirl21]

I don't know what I'm having yet but when I found this site and was browsing around I remember coming across this ladies comment which said " It's not about wanting what you don't have, it's about wanting what you have. ! " So even though I would love to have a girl I want my boyu's and wouldn't of even traded them if God gave me the opportunity before they where born. I'm not saying it's bad to want a girl cuz I want one but if I don't get one I will just have to be at peace with what I got. Sometimes I would catch myself being so obsessed with the idea of having a girl I would waist time worring about it then spending quality time with the kids I do have. I also made up in my mind that I do not have to have a girl to control my happiness in life because no matter what I get I am blessed no matter what because I don't want to take it out on my boy's or my husband because it's completly not their fault in any way shape or form. I find out in a couple weeks and I have just made up in my mind I am gonna be at peace with whatever theis baby is because there's not too much I can do about it. These are just some things I have pondered over the last couple weeks hope it helps if not I'm sorry but the pain does go away and you alway's end up loving an adoring your child in the end, I'm not saying it's gonna be eaasy it's something you will ahve to work at everyday and take each day at a time.

[Navywife620]

Tonight has been a bad evening. DH is gone a lot with his job and has been gone for the last 2 weeks. I was at a friends for dinner and the boys were acting up being wild and crazy and acting like boys. So I came home crying on the phone to DH saying if this 3rd one is another boy I don't know how I am going to do it. I am SO stressed taking care of them with DH gone all the time that bringing a third crazy boy in the mix is going to drive me over the edge. I am praying a lot and I always do, I need God's strength because my life is so stressful right now and I know it is not good for the baby either.

[motherofboys]

I'm feeling very calm the past few days, I think maybe after being so certain since my 12 weeks scan that I have mostly dealt with the feelings of not getting a girl. Its not having anther boy thats the 'problem' because I love boys and am happy to have boys, it would just have been nice to get a girl in the mix somewhere.
I feel like I'm just waiting for confirmation so I can get on with getting ready for my boy and have DH finally discuss names with me after his been so certain its a girl he wont talk about boy names.
I may feel differently once I know for sure and then see others announcing girls but I hope that I don't feel as bad as I did after my 12 week scan.

[True Blue]

I feel the same motherofboys just waiting for comfirmation that this little one is a girl so we can pick names, shop and look forward. There seems to be baby boys being born all around me and apart from the very odd pang I feel fine :)
I feel pretty certain once I know I am going to be fine :)

[Nachelle]

I know exactly how you feel navywife. Some days it gets so crazy but I think its those "Awe" moments that keeps me going. I love when its the whole fam together. If you do have another boy, you will adapt. Boys are ddef. will wild and crazy, but ya gotta love em! They make me laugh so hard sometimes! :) And like people always say to me when Im stressed, "cherish these moments now because your gonna miss it when theyre older!" he he:) Hang in there it will get easier! :)

[motherofboys]

Theres a lady at school who has 2 boys and recently had a baby girl. I kept avoiding walking out the gates after her (I don't talk to her anyway, her son bullied my son for quite a long time and the school did nothing until my younger son started at the school and stepped in!) but I just couldn't be behind her. I could see into the pram and this tiny pink bundle and I kept thinking I'll never have that.
Yesterday it was unavoidable, I was walking up to collect them and she was in front of me talking to a friend about the baby and obviously saying "she and her" and I though "I'm never going to refer to my bump as she, I'm never going to say I'm going to change HER" But I actually felt ok.

When I decided to have another baby it was because I wanted a baby, of course I liked the idea of a girl, but if I couldn't have faced another boy I wouldn't have tried again. I think I lost sight of that recently, mainly having such different symptoms got my hopes up (on that note has anyone got super super dark nipples I swear mine have never been this dark, but could that be because I only quite breastfeeding 5 days before I got my BFP?) and I had a feeling in the very beginning that it was a girl.
Like Katie I had this image in my head of my baby girl, all my boys are blonde and each one has slightly curlier hair than the last so I could see a little curly haired girl with big blue or green eyes like my boys.
When I had my 12 week scan and saw guess after guess of 'Boy' it hit me hard. ELP explained to me in great detail why it looked like a boy and I can see all the things she said. I've 'nubsessed' but I've managed to control that.

I love that I can be honest here and I know I make a lot of long posts but I really feel I can pour out all my thoughts and feelings that I can't talk to anyone else about.

Has anyone got any names? I'm having a hard time with no input from DH. I have a few names I like but some don't sound right with the middle names or last name, others seem to be growing in popularity which I try to avoid, others I feel don't fit with my other boys. My favourite atm is Seth, but I'm not sure if thats a bit 'old man' or maybe because our girl name is Beth and thats about as close as I'm going to get to using it LOL

[Nachelle]

Awe I love Seth! :) We picked out Lucas and the middle name either Abraham or Jackson. We have always picked a couple names out then name them at birth. Im very indecisive! :) But if its a girl (which I doubt) then Ella Rose. Im actually getting excited about a little boy! Weird! But I think I might like the idea of 4 boys. Even number no more 2 on one lol

[motherofboys]

Haha its my younger two sticking together most of the time so will be interesting to see if my eldest and the baby form a team or if it forces the older two and younger two to pair off.
Its not really felt that real until now, but I think now I have a bump rather than bloat and I'm starting to thin it wont be long until I feel proper kicks as I felt them around 16/17 weeks with my others, and things like that it seems more real and I'm becoming more excited for a baby, which ever gender.

I hope I do end up falling back again.

[Lld2006]

Having a tough day today. Gosh I've had such a good streak lately but am so down today. My husband swears there is a chance it is a girl...says he's seeing and hearing "signs" everywhere that say girl. Why in the world would the tech give me a 12 week potty shot if she swore she couldn't tell? One so obvious, too? I feel like this was ruined so early for me and it's making me bitter. I feel like I never got the chance to bond w the idea of a "baby" in general...instead I feel like I have been unable to be one bit excited after seeing the penis staring back at me so early. Just crying and needed to stop and vent somewhere.

[Alyssasmom789]

:tissue:

[pinkprincess85]

I'm feeling very calm the past few days, I think maybe after being so certain since my 12 weeks scan that I have mostly dealt with the feelings of not getting a girl. Its not having anther boy thats the 'problem' because I love boys and am happy to have boys, it would just have been nice to get a girl in the mix somewhere.
I feel like I'm just waiting for confirmation so I can get on with getting ready for my boy and have DH finally discuss names with me after his been so certain its a girl he wont talk about boy names.
I may feel differently once I know for sure and then see others announcing girls but I hope that I don't feel as bad as I did after my 12 week scan.

I feel exactly the same, even though my potty shot was upside down + I know it's not reliable in that position but having seen a dangly bit that early (13 weeks) has somewhat prepared me to hear those 3 words again on Wednesday! I spent ages obsessing over everyones pics on here + mine after the scan but now im relatively calm + know whats coming, no doubt i'll still feel crap afterwards tho! As for names I've made a list of boys names already it's one of the things that has really helped me over the last couple of weeks + have also found all of DS3's newborn clothes. I have also got someone who I do not want to be announcing 'im having another boy' to - my next door neighbours.....they don't look after the 3 boys they've got- they are just left to roam the streets + annoy random neighbours! , they have no manners, the list is endless + guess what - yes she is having a girl very soon! Lucky we are also moving - think i'll wait till then to announce it to anyone!
Hope everyone who isn't getting their DG are ok + i'm sure i'll be joining in with you with my rants later on in the week , I remember so well finding out DS3 was a boy + completely broke down in the U/s room in front of the tech (who looked at me like I was bonkers)I was so frustrated at me, my hubby + everyone who was having girls who in my opinion didn't deserve it as much as me, I felt my heart snap when the tech told me, I felt sick to my stomach +empty + only when you've felt that pain can you pass a judgement/opinion on having GD, we're all happy + lucky to have healthy babies but those few weeks are always the hardest after finding out the gender + I sure as hell don't appreciate hearing/reading things like ' at least the babys healthy or gender doesn't matter etc etc, we all know we're extremely Lucky ladies either way :-) .
I've read all the posts from the last week or so + always try to keep updated with you all , good Luck to everyone having their scans this week. xx

[motherofboys]

Just realised my other post should say "I hope I don't fall back" as in don't go back to the sadness of GD.

Good Luck for wednesday, pinkprincess.
Lld my husband keeps going on about a girl, I'm so sure its not from my nub shot.

I've not made a list of boy names because I can hardly think of any I like. I've been looking for a couple of years now. If I could bounce ideas off DH then it'd be much easier LOL

[pebmcpd7]

Have my scan on Wednesday, anyone else with gender scans this week I'm very nervous, only 3 days left!!! Don't know if I want the tech to say straight out to us, I have said to DH we will get it wrote on a piece of paper, but he just says get it over and done with. He really doesn't understand.

[Nachelle]

I get really sad when I see people are having twins since I miscarried twins last Sept. I dont think I ever really grieved, I jumped right away trying to get pregnant again. So when I see Were having twins, it makes my heart ache. :( I still cant shake the feelling one of them were girls. It makes me think maybe a couple of my miscarriages were girls and what if I cant carry them, so I think Im making myself believe its a boy, so I dont get sad. I knew 100% Ds3 was a boy and I didnt get sad at all. I thought Ds2 was girl because the pregnancy felt so different and cried at the sono. lol DH and the tech were very silent and looked at me like I was crazy lol HEy I cant contorl my hormones sometimes!!!!! ha ha I was fine shortly after. So I think believing that this is another boy will help me to be happy at the sono if I hear its a boy, like it did with DS3.

[motherofboys]

My scan is tuesday, 2 more sleeps! Can't believe I spent all that time thinking it was forever away and that I wanted it to hurry up but was also scared, now I'm 2 days away and excited!

[motherofboys]

Is it just me (slightly off topic) normally I wouldn't like to see my kids with dirty faces and hands etc but after a lovely sunny day like today, coming in from the garden with them absolutely filthy, like 3 little street urchins from Oliver Twist, there was something really satisfying about it. I said to DH "that is how all children should look on a day like today" it shows they have been out playing and having fun rather than stuck in watching TV and moaning at each other LOL

[Danielle88]

My gender scan is tomorrow, I'm very nervous but excited everyone keeps telling me it'll be a boy, I'll be happy either way but I'm dying for a girl! Here is my 13 week scan, anyone got any guesses before tomorrow?!11092

[pebmcpd7]

Looks. Like boy, but I am not very good at guessing!! GL tomorrow!!

[Navywife620]

Good luck at your scan tomorrow!!!

[motherofboys]

My scan is tomorrow as well. I've had almost all boy guesses. All boy here, all boy on in-gender and mostly boy on other sites. Maybe about 3 girl guesses.
I THINK I'm ready to hear boy now although I would still love to be surprised with a girl, I just don't think that will happen for us and I've got used to that idea now.

[pinkprincess85]

Good Luck Danielle + Motherofboys :fx:

[xokatietatie]

I was very busy all weekend with baseball games for DS1 and DS2 and my laptop was acting up, so I missed a lot on here!! I have a baby check-up this morning and then I'll come back and get caught up on all these posts I missed. Good luck today to those who have scans!

[motherofboys]

Aw Katie I almost asked after you this morning as I hadn't seen you.

[motherofboys]

This is my 12 week scan, this picture was taken a couple of days after my profile one but is the same picture just a bit clearer and should come up bigger.

http://i33.photobucket.com/albums/d83/kayleighwhitehead/Snapbucket/7f1865b2-orig_zps2eee56f5.jpg (http://s33.photobucket.com/user/kayleighwhitehead/media/Snapbucket/7f1865b2-orig_zps2eee56f5.jpg.html)

[Navywife620]

Mother of boys I am not an expert but that nub does look quite big. Maybe it has part of the leg? I am not sure. I can see why people say it's boyish though. I guess you will have no more guessing tomorrow!

[motherofboys]

I originally thought it was the leg as both legs were up through out the scan and had just disappeared as the pic was taken. But it does look like boy parts (although I never thought about whether it looked big for a nub, just the shape and angle) and ELP explained in lots of detail about shape and the length of the white line under it (which is what I thought was the nub and was looking at the whole time so possibly missed that other bit during the rest of the scan)
I'm OK with it being a boy I think. I'm looking forward to seeing my baby tomorrow as I was so obsessed with looking for the nub that I missed out on a lot of the scan itself last time. At least this time I wont have to sneakily look, they will just tell me and show me and I can concentrate on what else is going on and all the little fingers and toes etc

[Danielle88]

3 hours to go before I find out, nerves are kicking in cant wait to see my little one!!

[motherofboys]

Eeeee! so close Danielle! Good Luck!

I think I may have just felt some little taps from the baby! I've felt wriggles on an off for a few weeks but today I had managed to convince myself those wriggles were not the baby and something was going to be wrong because I had been so desperate for a girl and I know its a boy.
I can't wait to get the boys to bed tonight so I can lay down with a cold drink and see if I get a reaction! I had 3 little taps all in the same spot so I hope it was baby.

[lime]

MotherofBoys, did you post that pic on babycentre's (.com the American group) group called, Ultrasound ? There is a tech on there named Turtle and 1lena4littles guesses on that site as well (she guess on in gender and this forum, too).
Good luck today, Danielle !!! Good luck MOB and all others who have their scan this week!!!

[motherofboys]

No I didn't post on there, do you think I should? Or did my scan just look similar to one on there?

[lime]

I would post for fun to see what Turtle says if you want. It's completely up to you. I can't read u/s and maybe Turtle will see something the others that said boy did not see.

[motherofboys]

Cool, may as well give it a go LOL

[motherofboys]

I've posted on there now. Be interesting to see what they say over there. Still only 18 hours to go until my scan!!! Then fingers crossed (and not legs lol) no more guessing

[motherofboys]

1lena4littles says boy.

[True Blue]

They both said possibly girl for me over there :)
Only place I got boy guesses was fertility friend. Sometimes I sneak back just to see those guesses while knowing there isn't really hope for a boy :D

[lime]

They both said possibly girl for me over there :)
Only place I got boy guesses was fertility friend. Sometimes I sneak back just to see those guesses while knowing there isn't really hope for a boy :D

When is your anatomy scan? Good luck

[True Blue]

I see a tiny turn up in my nub pic if what I think is the nub is right. I think I am the only one to see it :confused: it still compares to a girl nub shot though and nothing like the stacked boy nubs I see.

[True Blue]

Not until the end of the month :) coming around super fast.

[motherofboys]

I've seen a few with all girl guesses turn out boy but not seen any with all boy guesses like mine turn out girl. I truly think I'm ok with it, we shall see how I feel tomorrow once I actually know, I guess its just once last attempt at hope.

[True Blue]

I'm ok with it now too :) I'd say I'm more than ok with it to be honest :D right now just looking forward to knowing for sure and starting some shopping/planning :)

[motherofboys]

Yeah I just want to know so I can start planning. I want to buy something, anything, and I want a name, then I will probably not buy much (I don't need much anyway) until after our holiday in August by which point I'll be 31 weeks and then will start thinking about things like the pram and that. Be nice just to buy a teddy or a little sleepsuit for now.

[True Blue]

You've just basically said exactly what I have in mind :D

[motherofboys]

It will be here and over before I know it now, tomorrow morning I'll be rushing around making pack lunches and school runs etc then less than an hour back in doors and we will be setting off!

[True Blue]

Good Luck :luck: I'll be watching for you :)

[Nachelle]

Good luck ladies!!!! :) FIngers crossed!!! :)

[Alyssasmom789]

FYI I was told boy three times by doctor and techs with DD1.... They were wrong!!!! Up to 7 months! I don't know what they saw but I had a huge feeling it was a girl so Dh wanted to settle it once and for all so we paid for a 3d and got confirmation that it was 100% girl!!!!

[Lld2006]

Danielle I've been stalking for your results!! :)

Alyssasmom you just have all us potential boy again moms a glimmer of hope! Ha!

So DS1 had the throwing up flu on Thursday night, DS2 had it on Saturday and Sunday and now my husband has it. EEEEK! How do I keep myself healthy through this??? I feel like its inevitable that ill get it. Help!!!! I've been carrying Lysol & Clorox wipes all over the house trying to keep things clean. So frustrating.

My 16 week scan is on sat morning but since its a $125 elective scan, I'm going to cancel. Lots of other things I could spend that money on and I can wait till 20 weeks to hear boy. Uggggh.

[Danielle88]

We have a healthy little boy on the way!! I had no girl guesses so everyone was right!! The woman gave us a 4D scan of him, he was so active we got a yawn, suck of the thumb and he scratched his wee nose! Now to start preparing for him coming!! 11119

[motherofboys]

Congratulations Danielle.

Just a quick update to say Turtle also said boy.
Will know for sure soon, 3 hours time I'll be mid scan!

[Danielle88]

Good luck for today!!

[strawberrymom]

Congratulations Danielle!

[motherofboys]

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Baby boy number 4 for us too!
I was expecting to hear boy today and really glad that I had such an obvious boy nub now because I feel like I had those few weeks to adjust to the idea so when she said boy I experienced a moment of "well thats that then" and then got on with enjoying my scan.
I feel fine atm.
DH admitted in the car before we got there he was scared in case it was a boy but his fine about it as well. DS3 is home from pre-school and happy to have a brother too.

[Pangea]

Congratulations Danielle and Motherofboys on your baby boys!

[True Blue]

Congrats on your new baby boy motherofboys :)

Congrats on your baby boy too Danielle :)

Cute scan images!

[Nachelle]

CONGRATS Danielle and Motherofboys!!!!! I love the pics! Seems like theres a lot of boys coming. Congratss again!!!!!!! :)

[motherofboys]

The bonus is my user name is still fitting, and I'm going to save a bomb!

[lime]

Congratulations on your healthy baby boys Danielle and MotherofBoys!!! Looks like a lot of boys will be born in October !!!

[motherofboys]

There does seem to be quite a few boys the last week or so, I bet we get quite a few girls in the next bunch to even things up LOL

[True Blue]

Lol that's usually the way it goes, I will be in the girl bunch :cheer:

[Navywife620]

Congratulations Danielle and MotherofBoys on your Health Baby Boys!!! I kind of knew October would be a boy month 3 of my nephews and dad are all born in October! I do hope we start seeing it even out soon though. Who is next for their scan?

[xokatietatie]

Congrats ladies! Your ultrasound pics are wonderful. :-) Do you have names picked?

My check-up went well. I am back up to my starting weight. I had lost five pound, but I've gradually gained it back. My blood pressure was good, I'm measuring right on, and baby's heart sounded nice and strong. I go back on June 3rd for my next appointment and ultrasound.

I haven't told family and friends (with the exception of a very close few) about my early scan and people are killing me with all their girl talk. I don't have the heart to tell anyone yet. I feel as though I've been dealing fairly well but once I drop the bomb and everyone else is so disappointed then I will go right back to feeling that way as well.

I've been doing A LOT of shopping lately. I enjoy looking at little baby clothes, so little DS4 is going to have a ton of stuff. I've already filled up a decent size box with stuff -- sleepers, layette sets, plush toys, car seat toys, onesies/bodysuits, and all kinds of other things.

For any of you who have already found out gender (specifically those of you who found out you were having opposite of your sway), do you find yourself still dreaming about having your dream gender? I've been really trying to be excited about DS4 and most days I do pretty well (of course I have my moments but overall I feel I'm adjusting well), but every night I still dream about my girl. I don't understand!

[Navywife620]

Oh another note, Does anyone feel like this are actually getting their energy somewhat back? I have been busying redoing our room. I got a wooden king size headboard and footboard for only $30. I love refinishing furniture so I am painting it this beautiful aqua color and distressing it. I will post pictures when I am done. It definitely has helped me keep busy and not think about the gender of this baby.

[xokatietatie]

Oh another note, Does anyone feel like this are actually getting their energy somewhat back? I have been busying redoing our room. I got a wooden king size headboard and footboard for only $30. I love refinishing furniture so I am painting it this beautiful aqua color and distressing it. I will post pictures when I am done. It definitely has helped me keep busy and not think about the gender of this baby.

Mine comes and goes, usually just depends on how well I sleep! I can't wait to see pictures, that sounds like it's going to be very neat looking.

[motherofboys]

I still am ready to sleep before lunch, but I've also still got sickness. (This pregnancy has been so different from my other boys, just goes to show) I obviously haven't slept yet since my scan but with my other boys I always dreamed the opposite of what I was having, so I dreamed of girls with them.


I'm stuck on names. Atm the only one that I think both fits with my other boys names and fits with the middle and surname is Seth, our girl name was Beth so this may be why I like it LMAO

[Kiara]

Congratulations on your boys and girls:) Its seems like this year will be a real baby boom. I think about ten or more of my facebook friends have announced that they are having babies! And a lot in october. I dont know the gender of their babies but it does feel like a boy year.

[motherofboys]

I really want to go buy something as well but can't for a while as I spent far too much recently LOL Maybe I'll just go window shopping on DH next day off LOL

[motherofboys]

Oh and I've started telling people already, but I haven't said anything on facebook as I want DH to phone his Dad first or he'd be upset reading it on there. The other people I've told wont speak to him and I've told them not to write it on facebook. I think if I had been upset like I feared I would I would have kept it quiet, thats what I planned to do. But DH told his family we were having a gender scan and I feel OK about a 4th boy, there was an obvious bulge between his legs, so I've told people.

[xokatietatie]

I just posted it to Facebook!!! I couldn't deal with it anymore!!!!!!!!!

And we've decided on Duncan for DS4. I always preferred Declan, but DH liked both equally. The boys were all pretty upset about not getting a sister, so in an effort to make them feel better we told them we wanted their input for their brother's name. They all liked Duncan over Declan. So DH and I agreed that we should go with that name. It made our boys feel important and included. So Duncan Phillip is coming in October!

[strawberrymom]

I wasn't going to buy anything as I still don't fell comfortable until 24 weeks, but there was a consignment sale this weekend and ended up getting quite a bit. :worry: I also sold quite a bit which was really sad going through the boys stuff, remembering them in it, and knowing I was done with that. For those expecting boys, I saw the cutest dinosaur romper at Target the other day! As far as names I have way too many and probably won't decide until I see her. I wouldn't say my energy level is high, but I have been doing a lot around the house, with the sale and trying to make our storage room into a proper bedroom for my bro,sil, and their daughter who are moving in soon. They are in a country with war and famine and just found out that their 21 month old daughter has severe mental/ physical defects, so they have to bring her here to get treated and probably stay (as mental deficiencies are seen as the devils work there). They are having trouble getting the visa for sil though. With that and both boys being sick I have been super stressed and trying to relax.:sigh:

[strawberrymom]

I just posted it to Facebook!!! I couldn't deal with it anymore!!!!!!!!!

And we've decided on Duncan for DS4. I always preferred Declan, but DH liked both equally. The boys were all pretty upset about not getting a sister, so in an effort to make them feel better we told them we wanted their input for their brother's name. They all liked Duncan over Declan. So DH and I agreed that we should go with that name. It made our boys feel important and included. So Duncan Phillip is coming in October!
That is super sweet that they got to decide!

[motherofboys]

Aww thats really sweet they got to decide. I've been asking the boys for ideas the past few weeks but their suggestions haven't really been usable, what with Jabba the Hut and Iron Man as their current favourites LOL
DH has told his Dad now so I will be posting on facebook later.
Hopefully it will stop any comments for you Katie and you'll be able to get on with preparing for little Duncan.

DS2 asked on the way home from school and was really happy, DS1 wasn't exactly bouncing around with a face splitting grin like DS2 but said he was happy with another brother.

[pinkprincess85]

Congrats ladies - your scan pics are great - hope I get a clear shot too! doesn't look like a lot of us are getting our DG'S in October :( , My scan is tomorrow - I know it's a boy from the early u/s+ am prepared (at least I think I am!) but I cant help myself feeling nervous (it will be 11am uk time) Hubby is pushing for us to tell everyone we're expecting tomorrow too, I think it will depend on how I feel after the scan.

KATIE - I bet your boys loved helping you decide on the name, i might just do that with mine too! I'll also be feeling the pressure of 'facebook' friends/relatives soon!

[aussiettc]

Wow ladies! I've been away for the weekend so just catching up-Congrats to you lovely mummies with darling little boys on the way and to those who've made the announcements to the world! I am so, so jealous of everyone having scans-mine isn't until June 12th which feels like forever away! So thrilled for everyone and loving seeing the scan pics. Every baby is a true miracle isn't it? Can't wait to see more results in the weeks ahead!

[pebmcpd7]

Congratulations Danielle and MotherofBoys on your Health Baby Boys!!! I kind of knew October would be a boy month 3 of my nephews and dad are all born in October! I do hope we start seeing it even out soon though. Who is next for their scan?

ME, tomorrow :nails: panicking now!!!!!

[pebmcpd7]

Congrats ladies - your scan pics are great - hope I get a clear shot too! doesn't look like a lot of us are getting our DG'S in October :( , My scan is tomorrow - I know it's a boy from the early u/s+ am prepared (at least I think I am!) but I cant help myself feeling nervous (it will be 11am uk time) Hubby is pushing for us to tell everyone we're expecting tomorrow too, I think it will depend on how I feel after the scan.

KATIE - I bet your boys loved helping you decide on the name, i might just do that with mine too! I'll also be feeling the pressure of 'facebook' friends/relatives soon!

I'm tomorrow too, 2.15pm GMT!!! Good luck pink princess!!!

[Nachelle]

ME :nails: panicking now!!!!!

When is your scan?? I feel like Im going to be last to find out! They schedule mine tomorrow, so prob wont be until June.

[Nachelle]

Oh nevermind you answered right when I was asking! lol

[Nachelle]

GOOOD LUCK LADIES!!!!!!!! FINGERS CROSSED!

[xokatietatie]

Nachelle!!!!! I didn't ever realize you were only one state away from me!! :-)

[motherofboys]

Good luck to the ladies with scans tomorrow! I hope you get your dream genders.

[pinkprincess85]

I'm tomorrow too, 2.15pm GMT!!! Good luck pink princess!!!

Good Luck to you to hun :-) x

[Pangea]

Good luck for tomorrow Peb and Pinkprincess!

My scan isn't for a whole month, the 7th of June. They might not even tell me at that scan, depends on the person doing the scan whether they like telling or not. The woman who did my 20 week scan with DS1 refused to tell me at first, but then blurted it out in the end resentfully. If they won't tell me then I'll have to book a private scan.

[Nachelle]

Nachelle!!!!! I didn't ever realize you were only one state away from me!! :-)

Really? Where are you from? Thats awesome! :)

[Nachelle]

Good luck for tomorrow Peb and Pinkprincess!

My scan isn't for a whole month, the 7th of June. They might not even tell me at that scan, depends on the person doing the scan whether they like telling or not. The woman who did my 20 week scan with DS1 refused to tell me at first, but then blurted it out in the end resentfully. If they won't tell me then I'll have to book a private scan.

Why the heck didnt she want to tell you???? I would have freaked out on her! lol

[xokatietatie]

Really? Where are you from? Thats awesome! :)

Dayton, Ohio!!

[True Blue]

Good Luck to those of you with u/s tomorrow :) can't wait to hear your news :luck:

[Nachelle]

Duh! ITs right under your name!!!! lol Wow I def have pregnant brain!!! Thats awesome thats really not far at all!!

[My Three Sons]

I can't imagine the tech not telling you! Good luck to those that have their scans tomorrow!

[xokatietatie]

I JUST FELT THE BABY!!!!!

I've felt tiny little flutters already, but they were so soft and barely noticeable.

This time is was obvious!

[ICB3]

Well it's been confirmed today that I'm having another boy. I already knew it from my nub/potty shot at 12 weeks so I've had a month to digest it, which has helped ease the pain. I'm glad the baby is healthy and can now just look forward to him coming! Here's a couple pics from our u/s today.1112911130

[Nachelle]

Congrats Icb3!!! :)

[xokatietatie]

Congrats ICB3!! Boys are wonderful, aren't they? I find myself more and more excited to meet my boy the more I think about it. Happy for you!

[Navywife620]

Congrats on your boy ICB3!!