Why I want a Girl/Boy Article

[nuthinbutpink]

Hi everyone who read this!

I am interested in writing an article to post on the main .com page that would be Tweeted and posted on FB.

I am looking for anyone(more than one is great) that is willing to write a brief explanation of why they are swaying for a boy or girl to increase awareness of Gender Desire.

If anyone is interested, you can simply reply to this thread OR PM me if you do not want your name associated with it- I will not include usernames in the article but I thought it might be a good idea for a thread regardless of what I do with it...sometimes it's good to get it out!

So, why do you dream of a boy or girl to raise?

[4devochki]

1. I want some boy energy to balance the highly emotionally charged interactions of our 4 girls; I want them to have a brother to love, to be used to men;
2. It's a childhood dream of mine, growing up in a house with 3 sisters, that I would raise a little boy and do sports, science fairs, monster truck games (!)--all the boyish things my old-fashioned parents didn't encourage in their girls (my girls do many of them, though);
3. Little boys, pre-teen boys, teenagers--they are so adorable! There is something so poignant about the child finding his way to become a good man (though the path from girlhood to womanhood is also very poignant). I guess I like men!
4. I want my husband to have a guy to bond with (he says he doesn't care); I'd like to see how the manly qualities I so admire in him might be translated or adapted in our son (even a non-biological, adopted son who would grow like him through nurturance).
5. Though I know there's no way to predict or guarantee what your relationship with any of your children will be like, it seems to me that the mothers and sons I know do have a special bond. Girls, bless their hearts, can be so *mad* at mom all the time (though we always make up)!

[nuthinbutpink]

It doesn't have to just those swaying either...any HT gals that care to post, please do! We all have the same goal no matter our paths:HH:.

[nuthinbutpink]

Bump:-)

[4devochki]

really, am I the only dork who obsesses over my reasons non-stop?

[4devochki]

really, am I the only dork who obsesses over my reasons non-stop?


The answer seems to be yes!!!

[cravingsalt]

Just saw this. Not sure if you've seen it but I started a similar thread last year. Check it out, it may be able to help you. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/chit-chat-lounge/11975-why-do-you-want-dream-gender-anyway.html

And 4dev- this thread is strangely quiet but I think the answer is definitely not!! I was very angsty all last year over this. Ten months ttc later and I really just want another baby so I can be done building my family and move on.

[inshaallahxx]

really, am I the only dork who obsesses over my reasons non-stop?
No your not. I have been quite obsessive.

[inshaallahxx]

I have two boys and a step-son. I have always wanted a girl. With my second I cried.
Reasons:
1. I had such a wonderful relationship with my mother.
2. I feel out numbered.
3. My boys are mommas boys, I would love my hubby to experience a father daughter relationship.
3. I truly don't know so much I just know the desire is there and immensely strong. It's all I think about some days.

I feel like somethings wrong with me :hide:

[rainbowflower]

I'm one of 4 girls and have always wanted daughters for as long as I can remember. I probably want for my children what I had myself. I loved having 3 sisters and we're all really close.

I think maternal grandparents have more involvement and closer bonds with grandchildren than paternal ones. I'd also like to help my children with any pregnancies and babies they have, and I think if you are the MIL not the mother you can be seen to be interfering/annoying/pushed out/unnecessary

I have some heirlooms I want to pass on to a daughter that a boy wouldn't appreciate (jewellery, wedding dress, baby memory boxes, etc), but I guess if I get any granddaughters they could have them instead. Wouldn't be quite the same, but still!

I think I'm very girly. I love crafts, making things, baking etc. I love making pretty things and I think a girl would probably appreciate sparkly/flowery things more than my boys would ;)
I think I'd be a better mum to girls than I am to boys, although my DS1 does enjoy helping me with baking so far.

it sounds silly, but I'd feel more feminine if I had a daughter. I feel like I must be quite masculine to get boys and, whilst I love them deeply and wouldn't change them, in a small way it does make me feel self conscious.

finally, my shallow reasons - I'd love to be able to buy (or make) pretty clothes for a DD, and to not have to have her hair cut in order to conform like boys do


Whilst I know it's all personality-dependent and a daughter doesn't guarantee those things, I might end up with a tomboy daughter who hates girly things and never wants children, it would still give me a chance of having a daughter I can have a close bond and more similar interests with.

[atomic sagebrush]

I just have not had a chance to reply. I will asap

[The Anchor]

LOL...I really DO want to reply NBP, but just not sure how to do it! I swayed for (and got) my boy back in 2009, but this time around I'm just swaying for a healthy sticky bean.

[6bluewant1pink]

I am a mother of 6 boys. I have been wanting a girl since I was pregnant with my 3rd son, so I can't even tell you all how many tears I've cried over the years because I don't have a little girl. When I'd go shopping for clothes for my boys, I wouldn't even look in the direction of the girls' department and would avoid it as much as possible, because just seeing all those pretty pink things would make me feel extremely depressed send me to tears. I have prayed and asked God over and over again why He won't give me a little girl. I've even felt anger towards Him(sorry not trying to come off wrong) for depriving me of a daughter, especially when I see so many other women giving birth to little girls and mistreating and neglecting them. But then I think there MUST be a reason I only have boys. I haven't found that answer yet, but I hope someday i will if i never get a girl!

I do love my boys, but I can't help feeling somewhat incomplete. For 12 years I've been the only female in my home, and it feels quite lonely when I see my sons and my husband doing their boy stuff together. I feel left out. I want a little girl whose hair I can curl (or straighten! lol), who will enjoy Disney Princess films, whose bedroom I can decorate in pink, yellow, purple, with flowers and butterflies (I'm very girlie, as you all can see, lol). I want to go shopping for cute little dresses and shoes, hair accessories and even play dress up. When she's old enough I want to do each other's nails and talk about girl stuff and make fun of the boys, lol

I am scared to get pregnant again not cause I don't want another son, but because I think I may never have a daughter I can have that special relationship with. That's the main reason why i want a daughter. I never had a mother-daughter relationship with my own mother. I pray my last in final child is finally a girl if it is Gods will, i pray.

nuthinbutpink you can use my screen name 6Bluewant1Pink
thanks!

[Tree]

I love my boys more than anything in the world, in fact I always wanted two boys and a girl. As a teenager I so treasured their Say it like it is, fun loving, care free attitude that boys of that age, and older(!) have. Most of my friends were boys and they taught me not to take myself too seriously, to laugh at myself and not to dwell on things that don't deserve such time. I already enjoy the humour my boys are bringing into my life and am so very grateful.

As I started by saying... I always wanted two boys and a girl. A girl forever when my boys have wives and likely gravitate towards her family. Certainly I will, and hope, to be replaced by a woman who will become more special to them than me but my wanting for this is extends to a sadness that I believe I would not have with a daughter. Of course our relationship would change as she got her own life but as my mother is to me, I would hope to always, forever and ever be part of her life in a close and more full on way. I'd love a girl to talk to about the things that boys have little interest in. To be there through her pregnancy, for her children. Of course there is the prettiness too, sharing the typical girlie past times... Clothes, make up and health spa's. And as excited as I get buying the boys fun toys, and I do, I love it, I would so enjoy getting my girl things that I could actually know the feeling of excitement they would bring.

Two boys and a girl, they can keep her grounded and she can keep them sensitive and wise to the world of women. I am so lucky to have my beautiful boys and any other children I might be fortunate enough to have I will be eternity grateful for. A little girl in the mix would complete me and be a dream come true.

Tree x

[atomic sagebrush]

bumping for more responses