Currently in L&D due to preterm labor

[sweetpea]

Hey everyone,

I haven't had much time lately to come on the boards and chat, but I just wanted to give an update on me and the babies...and maybe ask for some prayers, perhaps some advice as well?

Long story short (I'm on my phone and can give the whole story later), I was admitted into the hospital last night for preterm labor symptoms. I was having strong contractions about 5 min apart. They also did that swab test to see if I was at risk for delivering within the next week, and it came out positive. I'm only 30 weeks today, so I've been very scared and nervous about this.

My husband's been wonderful, right by my side through it all, except for several hours today because I told him I wanted him to go to church and spend Easter with our boys so that they wouldn't be without BOTH parents on Easter. He's coming back tonight to stay with me, and my kids will be with our parents until I'm discharged. Our parents have been so great through this all, too.

Anyway. They've been able to mostly stop the contractions, and I've been given the steroid shot to help the babies' lungs mature a bit (my second and last shot is tonight at midnight). After that, I will be sent home (probably tomorrow morning).

My questions to you ladies: Have any of you been through this before? Were you on bedrest afterwards? How long were you able to keep the babies in? I'm thinking bedrest would be wise in my situation, as my contractions are now very rare when I lay down, but seem to come back a bit when I get up and move around. However, if I were to go into labor after today, I don't think they would do anything to stop it now, as the babies will have had those steroid shots. I'm going to ask in a little while, but I don't think they're going to require bedrest. If they don't, should I just put myself in bedrest? It's kind of a weird situation, and I'd love to hear thoughts/advice/experiences from others.

I didn't expect to be in the hospital on Easter, that's for sure. :(

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[atomic sagebrush]

Oh no, I'm praying!!!!!

My sister actually just had a baby on the 27th at 34 weeks - she wasn't having preterm labor but some symptoms of pre-e and had only one vessel in the cord and IUGR, so they took the baby early. The baby was 3-12 but because she'd had the steroid shots was able to breathe on her own without too much help, right away and is doing well.

I really really hope they're able to keep the babies in longer.

[suregena]

I wish you all the best and that those babies stay in there a little longer! How scary/stressful.
I worked in a NICU before and 30 week+ preterm babes do well, but hopefully everything calms down for a while. Thinking of you and your babies. <3

[nuthinbutpink]

I would do bedrest to try and get them to 32-33 weeks. The longer they stay the better obviously.

[Mrs_P]

oh no sweetpea i hope everything is ok and those babies stay put a while longer

[Rosie85]

I had a friend that had that happen, she was able to carry to 39 weeks but hers was not twins. I would do self bed rest if I were you. If you have no contractions you can be up and around but if they start, lay down. Just try to stay down as much as you can though! Hoping those babes stay put for at least a few more weeks.

[Hopeandwishes]

Sweet pea I am saying a prayer for u and the babies. I am sorry I have no advise to give. Just go with your mother instincts. Rest and relax sweet pea.

[5boysandcounting]

Sweetpea, so sorry to hear your going through this. It's good that they have stopped the contractions and that you will be going home. I would rest as much as possible and try and take things as easy as you can - not easy I know when you have other children!

It sounds like you have a good and supportive DS though.

With my second son I started with contractions at 32 weeks. I stayed in hospital a couple of days and they gave me steroid injections to help mature his lungs before I went home.

I started spotting at 34 + weeks and was admitted to hospital. I was in for a week as I was still spotting and I went into labour whilst still in hospital, he was born at 35 weeks plus a few days, he was 6 pounds 2 oz and had no trouble with his breathing at all. The steroid injections really help and I know babies born 30 weeks + tend to do very well. Try not to worry too much and get lots of rest xx

[Wanting-a-girl]

This happend to a friend but her water was also leaking they gave her steroids and she was sent home she was 31 weeks and expanded up delivering at 34 weeks

I hope things are going well and you can hang int there for a few more weeks

[iluvmy4sons]

Praying for you and your babies. On my July FB group one of the girls just had her twin girls 3 days ago at 25wks and a few days so far they are doing well. If the one dr. took her seriously though she probably would of not delivered them when she did though.

I was put on bedrest with my 1st three. I lasted two wks for my 2st son I was 35wks when they stopped labor and a week and a half with my second I was 34wks 3 days when they stopped my labor (water broke). With my 3rd I was put on bedrest from 32-36 weeks and did not have him until 38wks.

[ThePack]

I wish you all the best and that those babies stay in there a little longer! How scary/stressful.
I worked in a NICU before and 30 week+ preterm babes do well, but hopefully everything calms down for a while. Thinking of you and your babies. <3

As another former NICU worker: I couldn't agree more. 30 weekers do really well. Every day beyond today they hang out is great. Follow your dr's advice. It's scary as there's only so much you can do about it. Prayers for you and your whole family!

I'm not sure how you process/handle things, but I like a lot of information/research ahead of time to help me cope. If you're the same way, and the NICU is unfamiliar territory, it might be worth learning about the various equipment, etc. used in there (isolettes vs. open beds, etc) and the various rules (can family visit-when would your boys be able to meet the babies, etc). Hopefully it'll all be info you won't end up needing!

[Tree]

Good Luck! I'm sure everything will be fine. Also I had a friend who did actually deliver that early and all was/ is fine!

[Cinss]

I would assume they will get you on bed rest, that would be the best/safest thing to do. Thinking of you :)

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Sweetpea, I can't offer any advice but I am sending positive thoughts for you and your babies.

a lady in my DS2's birth group had her waters break at 23 weeks and the baby was born at 24 weeks. She was obviously tiny - 1lb 1oz! - and was in NICU for many weeks but now she's a bouncy boisterous 3y old! So, if your babies decide they want to come now and have managed to have both steroid shots, they will certainly have a fantastic chance!

I'd put myself on bed rest, especially if I had such a great support network! Keep them in as long as possible, and take the opportunity to rest before the chaos of twins ensues!

Best wishes!

[cvd]

Ah so sorry to hear sweetpea. I hope you're doing well and everything is going ok!

[Atsaukina1]

i have known a couple friends that get lotf of early contx. but are able to hold off real labro foe weeks. hoping those babes stay in as long as possible so def. take it easy if you feel more contx come on while you are up and doing something then you need to stop- babes will be ok though if they do come early with all our modern technology but every day inside counts:)

[Mrs_P]

just hoping you and the twins are ok and they are hanging in there x

[suregena]

Hi sweetpea - you haven't posted here for a while and I was thinking about you - hoping you and babies are okay! <3

[nuthinbutpink]

Did anyone ever hear from sweetpea? Hoping she and babies are doing well.

[sweetpea]

I just happened to log in here after a long while being away, and saw NBP's inquiry about me and the twins. I'm sorry I've been away for so long. The short story is yes, I was successful in keeping the babies in for several more weeks. Thank you all so much for all of your replies to this post, as well as your thoughts and prayers during that time.

However, the story gets more complicated from there. Again, I'm just posting a shortened version from my phone tonight, but I'm hoping to share the twins' full birth story eventually. I was able to carry them until 37 weeks. I delivered them vaginally, my baby girl first, and then my baby boy. Our daughter was born healthy and beautiful at 6 lbs 11 oz. However, our son was stillborn. He weighed 5 lbs 8 oz, and was just perfect in every way.

I am taking this very hard. It's been such an overwhelmingly emotional time for me and my family. Our children, even being so young, are also grieving. They understood that they were getting a little brother and a little sister, but now, only their sister is here.

I have to say though, that there still is joy in this story. We've been blessed with a beautiful baby girl, and for that we are so grateful. Our boys adore her, and my husband and I are totally in love with her. Our hearts are just hurting so much over the loss of our precious baby boy. :(

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[BabyCakesTor]

I just happened to log in here after a long while being away, and saw NBP's inquiry about me and the twins. I'm sorry I've been away for so long. The short story is yes, I was successful in keeping the babies in for several more weeks. Thank you all so much for all of your replies to this post, as well as your thoughts and prayers during that time.

However, the story gets more complicated from there. Again, I'm just posting a shortened version from my phone tonight, but I'm hoping to share the twins' full birth story eventually. I was able to carry them until 37 weeks. I delivered them vaginally, my baby girl first, and then my baby boy. Our daughter was born healthy and beautiful at 6 lbs 11 oz. However, our son was stillborn. He weighed 5 lbs 8 oz, and was just perfect in every way.

I am taking this very hard. It's been such an overwhelmingly emotional time for me and my family. Our children, even being so young, are also grieving. They understood that they were getting a little brother and a little sister, but now, only their sister is here.

I have to say though, that there still is joy in this story. We've been blessed with a beautiful baby girl, and for that we are so grateful. Our boys adore her, and my husband and I are totally in love with her. Our hearts are just hurting so much over the loss of our precious baby boy. :(

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SweetPea.... I am so sorry for your loss! I can not imagine the pain you and your family must be feeling. I hope they are able to give you answers as to why you lost your son. I am sending prayers for you and your family. :tissue::bighug:

[Tree]

Sweatpea, I am so sorry! There is nothing I could imagine to be worse than loosing a child. I too hope you get answers as to what happened.

Many congratulations on the birth of your little girl!!

[vickyaust]

Sweat pea I am so so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. An angel now watching over your family. Your in my prayers.

[bythestream]

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your little boy sweet pea, thoughts and prayers with you and your family. And congratulations on the birth of your little girl.

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Sweatpea, I was so excited to see an update from you, and I'm so so sorry that you've lost your baby boy. I can partly relate to what you're going through and hate the suffering I know you are facing. Please take your time to grieve and remember that little boy each time you look at your daughter, and always remind her she had a brother.

PM me if you'd like to talk. Please look after yourself xxx

[crazyladyneedsababy]

I just happened to log in here after a long while being away, and saw NBP's inquiry about me and the twins. I'm sorry I've been away for so long. The short story is yes, I was successful in keeping the babies in for several more weeks. Thank you all so much for all of your replies to this post, as well as your thoughts and prayers during that time.

However, the story gets more complicated from there. Again, I'm just posting a shortened version from my phone tonight, but I'm hoping to share the twins' full birth story eventually. I was able to carry them until 37 weeks. I delivered them vaginally, my baby girl first, and then my baby boy. Our daughter was born healthy and beautiful at 6 lbs 11 oz. However, our son was stillborn. He weighed 5 lbs 8 oz, and was just perfect in every way.

I am taking this very hard. It's been such an overwhelmingly emotional time for me and my family. Our children, even being so young, are also grieving. They understood that they were getting a little brother and a little sister, but now, only their sister is here.

I have to say though, that there still is joy in this story. We've been blessed with a beautiful baby girl, and for that we are so grateful. Our boys adore her, and my husband and I are totally in love with her. Our hearts are just hurting so much over the loss of our precious baby boy. :(

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Im so sorry to read this sweatpea, I hope time will make things a little easier for you all. Congratualtions on your healthy girl and im so sorry for the loss of your precious boy. xxx

[Mrs_P]

Oh no i am so so sorry things turned out like that. I have thought about you often but really hoped that no news was good news. I don't even know what to say other than how very sorry for you i am, loosing a baby at any stage is awful but at term just seems beyond cruel. I hope if nothing else they find some answers for you as to why this happened so you can at least find a little peace there.

The sweet part to this horrible tale is that fortunately one of your babies is well and you have been sent the little girl you always dreamed of, huge congratulations on her. It so awful that this happy moment should be marred by such tragedy though. I hope you have plenty of supportive people around you in this difficult time x

[Dana-Alicia]

Oh sweetpea, I can not believe this. I'm so so sorry you lost your son. I'm actually in tears for you and I don't even know you (I have been following your story though). When I had just lost my daughter, I met a mother online who also had twins, two boys. One of them died during labour. The heartache and the joy, so close together. Being proud of both your babies, but only being able to hold one of them close. And having to leave the other one behind. It's truly heartbreaking, such a complicated loss and grief process. I want to congratulate you on the birth of both your babies, your daughter and your son. They have made you a proud mommy again. I wish you and your family all the love and support, so so sorry you have to go on without your little man.

[kpmum]

I am so deeply sorry for the loss of ur darling boy but congratulations on ur little boy. What a bitter sweet moment. Sending u much love and strength xxx

[QOTD]

Oh Sweetpea!
I am so sorry for the loss of your little boy!
At the same time, congratulations on the safe arrival of your little girl.
Sending you strength to get through each day as you grieve your little boy that has been taken far too soon.

[Pearl327]

Sweetpea I am so so sorry for the loss of your son and congratulations on the birth of your longed for daughter.

[Sway&Wish]

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.

[wilma_five]

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your little boy!
At the same time I'm so happy for you with the birth of your little girl!

Remember they will always be twins, nothing comes between them!
:HH:

[nuthinbutpink]

I'm so sorry about your son. What a mix of emotions. I'm glad your DD is doing well and thank you for updating us.

[Pangea]

Sweetpea I'm so sorry for your loss. Congratulations on the birth of your little girl.

[sbowman]

I'm so sorry sweetpea! My heart just breaks for you. So glad your DD is doing well, but what a bittersweet feeling.


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[Wanting-a-girl]

So sorry for your loss but am very happy that your DD is healthy and thriving

[cvd]

Oh goodness. How sad. Sorry for your loss but congrats on your healthy baby girl. Hope you're doing ok.

[Yuzu]

Sweetpea, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your son. Please accept my prayers for him, and my congratulations for your sweet baby girl.

[sweetpea]

Thank you everyone for your kind words. It's been 7 weeks exactly since I gave birth to my babies. It somehow feels like it was both yesterday and a lifetime away. We're coping the best that we can, but it's just so hard. So many weird, mixed emotions. Sometimes I'm okay, sometimes I'm a wreck. And sometimes I'm just numb. Things seem to trigger my grief unexpectedly. For example, there's a lot of newborn babies in our church right now, and none of that bothers me. I'm happy to see the new babies (maybe it's because I *do* have a newborn of my own too). However, it's the pregnancies that are like a dagger to my heart. I see women who walk around with big, pregnant bellies, not a care in the world. Their babies are alive inside them, growing and thriving, and they have this peaceful, blissfully happy glow about them. I feel like that was me, just days before this tragedy happened. I never expected to feel that way towards pregnant women in my grief, but then...there it was. Took me totally off guard.

I'm missing my baby boy terribly. DH has wanted a son named Logan since our first baby, and he was finally getting his little Logan. My heart just aches and grieves over that. My two sons still talk about Logan. Just this morning, my oldest told me that he misses him (even though he never got to see him) and wants him here with us. Things like that rip my heart out. It hurts enough to grieve MY loss over Logan, but it nearly kills me to see my husband and my sons hurting in this way.

I wish I wasn't so gloomy in my posting. My daughter is such a beautiful blessing in my life, and believe me, we *are* having sweet, happy times too. It's just that my heart is so, so heavy at times, and it helps to get it all out.

[Dana-Alicia]

:tissue: just heartbreaking... of course you are enjoying your little girl, but at the same time you miss Logan so much. I wish you love and light mama, lots of it.

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Sweetpea, I am so sorry for your loss. I can somewhat relate to what you are going through, it's just over 10 weeks ago that Evelyn was born and it feels a lot closer, but then at times it feels like a dream that was very very distant.

Thinks also set me off for random reasons. There are two women who were due within a couple of weeks of me and seeing them every day on the school run and hearing them talking about their babies, it breaks my heart, yet seeing babies and mostly interacting with them, makes me smile. There are days where it will suddenly hit me and I break down. Unfortunately you have to accept the grief, embrace it and take time for it. You do feel better for it and I try to think of my girl every day. I also talk to her when I can, the other night my husband was away so I took the time to cry and talk to her, look at her photos and just generally miss her. I woke in the morning feeling better, as I felt I'd spent time 'with' her and wasn't keeping myself in denial about what's happened.

Enjoy that baby girl of yours, but take time to talk to and remember your baby boy.

[mommymachine]

It's so heartbreaking to read your words and feel the grief that is in them. Please know your beautiful son is in Heaven watching over you and praying for you. He is still a very big part of your family and has a big purpose in your family; to intercede for you, your husband and his siblings. Praying for your healing.

[bythestream]

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. Take your time to grieve and like mommymachine said take comfort in the fact he is in heaven and you will see him again one day. Someone posted this song elsewhere on the forum I thought it might help.


Laura Story - Blessings - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1CSVqHcdhXQ)

[Mrs_Incredible]

Sending you and your family lots of love xxxxxx
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[rainbowflower]

I've just seen this, I'm crying for you. So so sorry for your loss and congratulations on your precious new baby. How bittersweet :(