It's my second and last boy... Dreams of a girl are broken! Scan at 16w2d

[Ale2011]

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[Kay1987]

Aw sorry you didn't get a girl. I have two boys and they are so adorable together, how r u feeling? x

[Ale2011]

I felt very bad during the scan, I cried! This will be my last son and I've dreamed a girl... My husband is agry with me for my reaction... But I think that I won't ever have a daughter and I feel sad.

[Kay1987]

No I completely understand, I would love a daughter too and the thought of never having one is upsetting. I don't think men understand and are quick to judge. I promise it gets better once you have given yourself time to come round, and once he's here it will be amazing. You never know what the future holds. x

[pinkin2011]

Ale2011.. I had my baby boy 6 month ago and my reaction was the same as yousr at my 20 week scan.. My d/h was supportive for the first hr afterwards but then he got angry with me. It took a few weeks but I did come good and even with a terrible pregnancy I was really excited to meet my baby boy . He is just beautiful and I can not imagine my life without him... And I know everyone says oh two boys are so nice and they will play and ect but at the time when you find out its a boy those comments make you angry... ( well they made me angry) only because I couldn't see how it was possible to be happy But I am happy with my 2 boys.. Yes I will try for that girl but I believe in my heart that I will not get her so I am still and believe always will have that missing part in my life but I am going to have to deal with that some how. Just letting you know you are not alone in your feelings

[atomic sagebrush]

I"m sorry. Having two boys is very nice though, mine really adore each other.

[Inky]

yes, that's a boy.

i was certain we were done after 2 kids, then we had a 3rd. then i KNEW we were done after 3 kids. 5 years later, we're having a 4th. ya never know...

[Ale2011]

Thanks inky but This willbe my second cesarean and I will be 36, and the economic situation too doesn't permitt other child...

[wilma_five]

Brothers are friends given by nature!

[Inky]

Thanks inky but This willbe my second cesarean and I will be 36, and the economic situation too doesn't permitt other child...

I know people who have had more kids in your situation, and you never know what the future holds financially ;) I hope my optimism doesn't both you, but 90% of the people I know who thought they were "done" having kids had at LEAST one more after that.

[Mrs_P]

I know people who have had more kids in your situation, and you never know what the future holds financially ;) I hope my optimism doesn't both you, but 90% of the people I know who thought they were "done" having kids had at LEAST one more after that.

We were done at 3, there was no way i was entertaining a 4th! yet here i am

I know its not easy i hit rock bottom with GD with ds3 after my sway failed but i was honestly excited by the time he came. Yes i still desperartley longed for a daughter but i managed to separate that from how i felt about him. Now he is the most precious little thing that adds so much to our family and loves his mama to bits, we wouldn't trade him for the world

[Mummy-P]

It's completely ok to feel upset, you build your hopes up on a dream. I have two girls and I swayed blue for my second so at the 20 wk scan I was, to put it mildly, completely devestated when I found out it was another girl. I'm glad I found out tho because it gave me time to get used to the idea I was having another daughter and by the time bubba gets here you will have put this cloud behind you and he will bring you a joy you didn't even realise possible. God give you the opportunity to get your baby girl somehow in the future, sending you all my pink dust, big hugs and lots of love xxx

[lena]

Don't feel bad for crying. After I found out DS2 was a boy at my 20 week scan I walked out and bawled on my mum. We went shopping and I started crying again (so not me as I hate people seeing me cry). That night when everyone else was asleep I cried and cried again. DH never knew I cried and we were talking jsut last week about it as my best friend is pregnant no.3 and wants a girl so bad and he doesn't understand it at all hense why I never cried infront of him.

Anyway what made me feel better is finding a name and bedroom theme to start decorating. It really got me over it and I was excited. Now after having two boys I have to agree 2 boys are great. I went back for a 3rd and got my girl I wanted but I am pretty sure I would have been alright with another boy after my two boys.