What to say to a friend expecting DS3?

[ilovemykids]

I have a close friend who recently found out she is expecting DS3 (definitely her last baby). I find myself feeling both guilty and relieved that we went HT for our #3 and despite that I remember my GD all too clearly I just don't know what to say except "congratulations your boys are so sweet and this one will be too." is that ok to say and is there something else I could or should say? Part of me wants to tell her about my GD in case she is feeling that (doesn't everyone?). I just don't know what to do or say.

[TTC5]

I would def say congratulations when
I had my third girl i found it awful when p
Would feel the need to leave out the congrats but mention something smart :(

[nuthinbutpink]

You know what they say, all good things come in threes! That was my Xmas card one year!

[Liv]

I was in a similar situation. I wouldn't bring up GD, sometimes people get defensive even though they may be going through it. I think what you wrote is perfect :)

[4BlueLooking4Pink]

I found it best when I heard positive things such as "awww, 3 boys will be so cute/fun/etc.!" I think despite the fact I felt a little bad about having a 3rd ds I would have been totally put off if someone said something to me about GD - especially if they had both genders and mentioned it. I realize not all people would feel that way but I know I would. Don't assume she's feeling GD though. I do know people who prefer all girls/all boys. When I found out I was having a 3rd ds I knew someone who found out she was expecting a girl after 2 boys and was slightly bummed because she wanted 3 boys saying I had her "dream family". You just never know!

[swish]

I agree with 4bl4p, I'm swaying for girl this time after 2 boys and definitely wouldn't want someone to mention GD. One of my worst fears about the whole thing is people feeling sorry for me if I have 3 boys because above all else I WILL feel lucky to have 3 healthy children (fx) and will just want to get on with it at that point. I think the comment she mentioned is exactly what I would like to hear and I might walk away thinking someone actually thinks it's nice to have 3 of the same gender.

[Zivic-Bubac]

Don't assume she's feeling GD though. I do know people who prefer all girls/all boys. When I found out I was having a 3rd ds I knew someone who found out she was expecting a girl after 2 boys and was slightly bummed because she wanted 3 boys saying I had her "dream family". You just never know! That's true, unless you knew for sure she was aiming for a girl. My dream family , ever since I was a little girls were 3 boys, and I had 2 ladies on IG telling me 2 girls are all they ever wanted....

For example, if I were expecting girl #3, "congratulations" would be all that I could handle....

[NYFamilyOfFiveRoses]

You know what they say, all good things come in threes! That was my Xmas card one year!

I love this. This is definately going to be something I will say.

[AnnaG1]

Things I loved to hear-
Aww three boys- they will always have one another
3 boys- you will be so protected
Just an aww that's great - simple but nice

I loved hearing ( this may just be me) how I would be raising 3 "men" - -3 men at my dinner table for Sunday dinner still makes me smile

[Ashgirl]

I had someone say to me once "Three boy families make the BEST, most well-adjusted families" and then proceeded to tell me about their friend or sibling, etc. and how close they all were. I really found comfort in hearing that.

[Myloves]

I had someone say to me once "Three boy families make the BEST, most well-adjusted families" and then proceeded to tell me about their friend or sibling, etc. and how close they all were. I really found comfort in hearing that.

Aw what a sweet comment! :heart: