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katewantsagirl
May 1st, 2013, 12:57 AM
So we gor pregnant the month before we were going to start trying so pretty much no sway. I wanted to leave it up to fate a wee bit but now im like ughh what have i done! I truly will be happy with a third little boy, but im starting to feel abit emo and scared that its not going to be my girl :(. We said this is our last, we cant afford four. We are both only 24 though so could have another in 10years or so. Whos finding out the sex? I found out for both boys but we told everyone we didnt know for the first. Not sure whats going to be better this time

I Love Ladybugs
May 1st, 2013, 01:57 AM
We had a team green pregnancy with DS1, found out at 19w with DS2 and it probably was good doing it in that direction. With all of DS2 issues around and after birth, accepting gender already was good for me. We kept it secret...but it is common fact now that I knew. We will find out and most likely share the news, but I have lots of conflicting feelings about my family's reaction.
We are going to be 10 years older than you.....this is our last chance.

katewantsagirl
May 1st, 2013, 04:41 AM
I'll be praying you get your girl. That we all will get our DG. I don't think we could wait. I think I'll plan a date night the day we have our scan and plan to get some cute boy clothes if its a boy! I think if I pick out an amazing name for him etc it'll be less of a sting

aftmjt
May 1st, 2013, 07:56 AM
I'm dreading this being a girl which I already know it is, I was bad enough after dd3 this is my very last DH wants the snip after I have this one. Got pregnant first month with dd3 took 2 yrs so worried as never properly swayed. Ill defo b finding out.

katewantsagirl
May 1st, 2013, 09:14 PM
You can have all my blue dust and ill have your pink, good luck xx

The Anchor
May 1st, 2013, 09:16 PM
HUGS to you...GD is a hairy beast isn't it? I'm so sorry you're hurting, I hope you can find peace somehow.

dreamsofxy2013
May 2nd, 2013, 07:12 PM
We will be booking a private gender scan for 15 weeks, because I am way too impatient to wait ;) We are really hoping for a boy this time around. But for some reason I just feel like its another girl....maybe I just keep telling myself its another girl, so by the time our scan rolls around I won't be '
shocked' to hear its not a boy and maybe be less disappointed that way. We did sway for a boy, but I am not counting on it working. Since we already have a girl, part of me feels like I can't " have" a boy, even though that makes no sense really. In the meantime, I am just trying to focus on all the positives of having another little girl and I know it will be special for DD to have a sister. And I also know that if we do have another little girl next, DH has agreed to try for # 3 and even # 4 in hopes of a boy because he knows how much I want my boy. If our next is a boy, DH doesn't want anymore( DH has always wanted two regardless of gender). I think it would be wonderful to have a larger family! But, we just feel so blessed to be expecting baby # 2 and regardless of what we are having, boy or girl, he or she will be much loved and welcomed into our family. I trust that whatever we have next, God sent him or her into our family for a reason.

Has anyone else convinced themselves they are having a boy or girl?

afy
May 2nd, 2013, 11:23 PM
I know exactly how you ladies are feeling!!

Dreamsofxy I know what you mean about wanting the boy.. I've even convinced myself and I am like 99% sure that its another girl, yet I'm so happy for her to have a Sister I know how special that relationship can be. But I would just love to experience a baby boy just to call somebody my son and to buy boy clothes etc. and have best of both worlds.

I've pretty much told myself before I even concieved it probably will be another girl, to even think of a Boy gets me way to Overhwelmed at the thought of carrying a boy but I am so so so blessed for either gender be it a boy or a girl

It's right he/she will be given to me for a reason and Im only human and there is only so mch my human brain will comprehend, who knows later in life how truly blessed we could be through our DDs/DS's...and I went into this swaying knowing in my mind that this has never been in my Hands and never will be!

dreamsofxy2013
May 6th, 2013, 01:23 PM
afy, you couldn't have said it any better: it is overwhelming to think of the possibility of carrying a boy! It just seems too good to be true for me, a boy next to have one of each. Two of my friends are also pregnant and found out recently they are both having a boy and each already has a girl ( only a few months older than my DD). We all had girls back in 2011; will I be joining them for a boy next too? I don't think so to be honest...somebody has to have DD#2 and it will probably be me. I am really trying to focus on the positives of having two girls. I just want my boy soooo badly!
ps. I think you may have mentioned this before, but its funny how our lives are so similar: got married in 2009 and had baby # 1, a girl, in 2011 and now expecting baby # 2 in December!

2lovelyboys
May 10th, 2013, 02:59 PM
I know this feeling to well!
I found out gender with both boys, with DS1 I had a strong feeling he was a boy and I had no preference so was thrilled. DS2 I did an IG girl sway, was convinced that he must be a girl due to sway, so glad I found out at 20 weeks. I feel no disappointment at all now, he is such a wonderful boy!
This time I will definitely find out gender, am contemplating a gender scan at 16 weeks (!), I would love a little girl and still dream and hope of one but if I hear blue then I know he was meant to be (esp with the odds he has had to overcome to get here, pills, potions, diet etc)

3boys
May 10th, 2013, 04:13 PM
I will probably book a gender scan for 16 weeks also. I would love a delivery room surprise but I have absolutely no patience to hold out until 20 weeks let alone nine whole months lol.

Last time I was pregnant I went to a specialist who does early gender ultrasounds at 12 weeks. I will NOT be doing that again!

I Love Ladybugs
May 10th, 2013, 04:39 PM
I know this feeling to well!
I found out gender with both boys, with DS1 I had a strong feeling he was a boy and I had no preference so was thrilled. DS2 I did an IG girl sway, was convinced that he must be a girl due to sway, so glad I found out at 20 weeks. I feel no disappointment at all now, he is such a wonderful boy!
This time I will definitely find out gender, am contemplating a gender scan at 16 weeks (!), I would love a little girl and still dream and hope of one but if I hear blue then I know he was meant to be (esp with the odds he has had to overcome to get here, pills, potions, diet etc)

2Lovely...you sound so much like me with the DS2 outcome. Our darling babies on board will have done a lot just to get here!! I do think that I will know gender in 10 weeks from today if all goes well!!! Just think..we could find out days apart about these tiny ones!!!!

hlmcdaniels
May 13th, 2013, 09:11 AM
I am in the same boat.. we are expecting our third and I already have such GD after I had a few ramzi guesses for boy:'(..I hope we get our girl and I pray for team pink daily. two more weeks until our scan so I am hoping to hear team pink!

3boys
May 13th, 2013, 12:51 PM
I am in the same boat.. we are expecting our third and I already have such GD after I had a few ramzi guesses for boy:'(..I hope we get our girl and I pray for team pink daily. two more weeks until our scan so I am hoping to hear team pink!

I hope you hear pink Hun. Are you actually finding out in two weeks or are you hoping for a good nub shot?

hlmcdaniels
May 13th, 2013, 08:56 PM
I hope you hear pink Hun. Are you actually finding out in two weeks or are you hoping for a good nub shot?

No i'm going in for an early scan on June 2nd.. hoping to find out early just so I can mentally process it before my 20 week scan

2lovelyboys
May 15th, 2013, 02:29 PM
No i'm going in for an early scan on June 2nd.. hoping to find out early just so I can mentally process it before my 20 week scan

Good luck for you scan!

hlmcdaniels
May 17th, 2013, 02:46 PM
thank you! I will keep everyone posted

grace03
May 28th, 2013, 09:18 PM
Hello, I am due 14th Dec with my 4th, I have 3 beautiful boys but I am going crazy with the idea that this could be my girl, it would almost be better if I knew from the pregnancy test that its a boy then I wouldn't get my hopes up. I am probably going to pay for a 16 week gender scan (Australia) so that I can enjoy the 20 week scan without getting upset. I can be more prepared I think??
I hope all of you get your desired gender and a healthy baby xxx

3boys
May 29th, 2013, 05:38 AM
Grace I will probably find out at about 16 weeks too. If I'm having another boy (which I feel in my heart he is) I would rather get any notions of him being a girl out if my head straight away. I hope you get your little girl this time xx

oxox2013
May 30th, 2013, 12:01 PM
This is something that I have been debating with myself over and over! Part of me thinks I should not find out that way I can hold on to hope for as long as possible! But then the realistic part of me has convinced myself that this is boy #3 and the sooner I know, the sooner I can accept it and get the girl wishes out of my head! Oh the joys....

crazyladyneedsababy
May 30th, 2013, 12:24 PM
hey ladies, Im not pregnant yet but wanted to stick my neb in :)

I went for a private gender scan with DS2 and I was beyond devastated that it was another boy. I cant even begin to explain the despair I felt. I wrestled with myself if I would have felt like this when he was born and I may have but I don't think it would have been anywhere near as bad. On here I saw a fantastic idea for staying team green and Im pretty sure its what Im going to do for my next baby. When the baby is born Im not going to have the whole 'its a boy' 'its a girl' thing. Im going to have them passed to me wrapped up and find out myself but give myself time to bond with the baby first regardless of gender. Im sure I will be a little disappointed if its a boy but not gutted as the emotions of love will come first and gender will have no part to play in the situation. I thought it was a wonderful idea.

Also I adore my second son (and first) beyond belief. I love the relationship they have as brothers and I love dressing them in matching outfits etc (it rocks) If we are blessed with another boy, I really think I will be ok this time as Ive experienced how ace it is having brothers (im one of 3 girls and have never had this) so I feel I can deal better with any GD I may have. I am nervous about feeling the same as I did last time mainly because I was shocked at myself for how I acted (like a spoilt brat that didn't get her own way) but hopefully the fact I came out the other side means I wont have this problem again.

fourthtimesacharm
June 4th, 2013, 04:53 PM
No matter how many girls or boys you have you will love them to death. I have 3 girls and we swayed blue and this is baby #4 due December 10th, but even if we have another girl I'm totally going to be thrilled either way! We are going for team green and going to let it be our last surprise baby!!!