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[chachamama]

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[nuthinbutpink]

Totally. That was me and I got DD3...it wasn't as hard as DD2 was but it made me want a guarantee for number 4- never thought I would have a number 4! What you typed is what most people feel I believe.

[Lilac♥]

That's how I'm feeling right now, but only after the fact. Like if I could've known beforehand that #5 would be a girl, then I would've stopped at 4. Maybe I would've stopped at even less, like 2. But now that I have had #3 and #4 in my life and personally know them, I wouldn't want to not have them. So I know I'll feel that way when #5 is born. I could even be crazy enough to say if I had some guarantee that if I had a 6th it would be a boy, then I'd actually do it. But I would never ever want a 6th girl, so there's no way I'd do it just out of chance anymore. I'm so confused!

[atomic sagebrush]

It's not me because I always wanted a big family and I would have been happy to have 5 boys as long as there was a girl in there somewhere.

But just know that after having terrible GD with DS 3 and some mild GD with DS 4, I actually want a 5th boy now. It makes no sense for me to have a girl at this point. I just pray my husband has a change of heart and goes along with me!!

So you never know...feelings are powerful things and yours are perfectly valid, but they also have a way of changing in ways that you don't expect. If you did have a 3rd boy, I doubt you would regret it once he was there in front of you, KWIM??

[Jojogirl]

No...it makes sense. I'm in the same boat. I don't "need" a 5th! I am going for it (even with my very tough pregnancies) because of the "chance" to give dd a sister. I am very content with my family right now and an even #4. going for an odd number of kids is not necessarily what I wanted....but I'm going to give it a go!

[chachamama]

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[WantingButWaiting]

Yes I understand how you feel. Except I'm not sure I want a third at all even if it was a girl. Life with 2 kids is pretty easy and I like that. I would not ttc again. Even though I know I would love a third boy I don't want to make my life harder for one. I feel awful saying it because my #2 ds is my beloved baby boy even though he was my gd baby. I can't imagine my life without him. It's complicated.

[Claire]

The way I think about it is to imagine myself in 25 years when the kids are grown. Am I going to regret having another one? Or will I regret not trying?

And I know that I would regret not trying so much more.

I read a book called Stumbling on Happiness, about how people can't really predict what will make them happy. And one study found that people usually regret not doing something more than they regret actually acting.

[raspberry73]

I can relate to how you feel. I felt like that after I had my first two boys. I did always think I wanted 3 kids, but the idea of having another boy scared the pants off me. We swayed for a girl with number 3 (did with #2 as well) and are getting another boy. Now, I am having the same feelings you about having #4. Though, we would only go HT if we did try, so it's a little more daunting.

[raspberry73]

That's so good to hear. I followed your blog over at IG and I am glad to see that GD doesn't last forever. I can totally echo in the sentiments of having 5 boys as long as there was a girl in there somewhere too.

[skrimpy]

I understand what you're saying. I am having a really hard pg with #5 right now and also having some GD, but I'm happy to give DD a sister and I'm happy to give DH another girl b/c he wanted this one to be a girl... but when *I* was a little girl I always wanted BBGB for my family... I got G first, so I really want to have baby #6 to at least end with B... even though I also really like the idea of evening out to 6 kiddos. It's hard for me b/c I worry about if I don't have a successful sway and get another DD will I have an even harder time than I am now? Do I really want to go through another hard pg? It's a lot to think over... but in the end I know I will love another baby. Plus DH always seems to get what he wants and said he'll want a boy again next time :p

[mybluepilot]

I was very disappointed with my second baby girl it hit me really really hard I just wanted s boy and then I am done
Now that she is here I accepted the fact that I will be a mommy for two girls and I will just bury the blue shoes I bought with my dream
Never wanted more specially if it MIGHT be another girl
Till DH strongly agreed on HT for a Boy
My whole vision changed extremely changed over the number of kids
Now I am open to have 4 kids hoping for twins through ivf


I totally understand how you feel, I am in same boat

[TexasMommy]

With my first pregnancy I didnt care if it was a boy or girl, I got a girl....
Second pregnancy, I REALLLY wanted a boy....I got another girl
Now TTC #3..I really really REALLY want a baby boy to complete my family...

I guess you could say im TTC a boy, not TTC #3, but if it turns out to be a SHE, i know ill love her just as i do my other two. I hoped for DD2 to be a boy, but now I couldnt imagine life without her or DD1. Its all in God's plan.

[fivebabies]

No...it makes sense. I'm in the same boat. I don't "need" a 5th! I am going for it (even with my very tough pregnancies) because of the "chance" to give dd a sister. I am very content with my family right now and an even #4. going for an odd number of kids is not necessarily what I wanted....but I'm going to give it a go!

I'm in exactly the same boat with you JoJo! I have BBGB also.

And yes, I feel like this often. I'm obsessed with baby #4 (boy #3) but if was told for sure I'd have another next I'd have to think about it. If I knew it would be a girl I'd be pregnant right now. LOL

[Flava]

OMG same here...like Im thinking wth Im doing ttc again I don't want another girl and it will be a girl for sure because Im just not lucky at all. And I did everything I could last time and more still got a girl. So really why even try? don't know..hope I guess ...maybe finally the sun will shine on me to?

well have to edit this...it's not like the sun is not shining on me with my girls oh no! just to hear once it's a boy!!! would be sooo awesome !

[purplepoet20]

If DS2 would have been a girl we would not have had anymore kids... We decided to have one planned preg and sway for a girl with the deal that this would be our last and we would be happy with whatever we get. I could be the mom to all boys because it would be easy to do Boy Scouts, Sports, and Karate together... I wouldn't take my boys to dance or anything girly but I would want to be at all my kids events so a girl would make things a little hard. If we had a girl we would find a way to share mom and dad time with each kid, at least they can all do sports and karate together where we live.