you really can get pg with just one attempt pink swayers!

[atomic sagebrush]

I know that a lot of pink swayers are concerned because I advise one attempt. But here is an article about a study that shows it's def. possible to get pg that way. BBC NEWS | Health | Once often enough to get pregnant (http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/3788209.stm)

Our stats have clearly shows one attempt is a stronger sway than frequency, jelly, and antistamine. Yet whenever people get BFN, they keep those things and start adding attempts. I think this may be a part of why we are getting opposites. So please, please, I beg you guys, drop frequency, jelly, and antihistamine before you start adding attempts. An attempt at pos OPK has a good shot of conception and it's much better to drop things that are not even giving good results while keeping something that actually seems to be working, at least until you're 100% sure you can't get pg without adding attempts.

[Alyssasmom789]

Here just ask me :) I'm proof. My first 2 DDs it was one time only.

[Soar]

I am also got pregnant with 1 attempt. We don't know the outcome yet, but we DTD at +OPK and here I am 10 weeks pregnant!

[dloui128]

My DD2 was conceived with 1 attempt

[mommymachine]

My DD was one attempt:)

[Lld2006]

This baby I'm currently pg with is a result of 14+ abstain & only one attempt...it's a boy.

[atomic sagebrush]

It can still be a boy with one attempt - there are no magic bullets. But a lot of people don't believe that it is possible to get pg with one attempt.

[Emily]

Just wanted to say that one attempt can work for us oldies too. I got pg with 1 attempt despite the hot bath, FR , antihistamine and rephresh. It will probably still be a boy but at 38 it is just nice to be having one last baby.

[atomic sagebrush]

Great point Emily, I also got pg with one attempt at 41. No jelly, no rephresh, no frequency and no J and D for us.

[Dreamofpink]

Both of my ds's were from one attempt , I think the night before ov as I knew nothing about swaying or opks at all then! I just went with my natural instinct, so to speak, lol! ;)

[Mrs_P]

Both of my ds's were from one attempt , I think the night before ov as I knew nothing about swaying or opks at all then! I just went with my natural instinct, so to speak, lol! ;)

My ds1 was a one time oopsie baby a month after we'd signed contracts on our first house - baby makes three happened a LOT quicker than was planned but he was the best 'mistake' i ever made!

I think so many people can struggle to get pregnant when they are actually trying, people assume its really difficult to catch but i know so many where just the once was more than enough! Shame its not a magic pink thing though or that would be sooooo easy LOL (but then i wouldn't have the family i do know and i do so love my boys with all my heart!)

[2lovelyboys]

DS1 was the result of one attempt, this time I swayed pink but had 3 attempts at +OPK, oh dear just keeping my fingers crossed for a pinkie

[crazyladyneedsababy]

mmmmmmm I was a mad shagger with both boys so definitely going for the solo shot this time around :fx:

[2lovelyboys]

mmmmmmm I was a mad shagger with both boys so definitely going for the solo shot this time around :fx:


Hee hee that made me chuckle! :rofl:

[3blue?pink]

I am 19 weeks preg with my 1 attempt after 10 days abstain (a lot of other sway factors also but) I am having a Girl.

[Dreamofpink]

mmmmmmm I was a mad shagger with both boys so definitely going for the solo shot this time around :fx:

Hahaha!! You have quite the way with words! You're not Northern Irish are you at all?!! :rofl:

[bunnywabbit]

mmmmmmm I was a mad shagger with both boys so definitely going for the solo shot this time around :fx:

Well put LMAO! In all seriousness, I personally have no previous reference but definitely looks like this is the way forward. Hoping this works for us still TTC pink. Thanks AS!

[BabyGirl4Me]

I'm another successful girl sway with one attempt. We got pg 1st try.

[iwonder]

Thanks for this info. I am thinking of doing one attempt this month. But how long is too long to abstain? DH is not a frequent-releaser (he has low-ish testosterone and when he is focused/busy at work or sleeping less he has low drive). So we have not DTD since our attempts last month, so it will be 3-4 weeks when we try on Sunday. Is the sperm still good quality or should I have him release a day or two before our attempt? I should O on Wed or Thursday...does this seem to early? Maybe we should try tomorrow and Tuesday?

This is our 5th month trying and I am getting discouraged. I had low progesterone the first couple months but now my 1.5 year old has weaned so I think it will be higher.

[WantingPink]

All three of mine were one attempt for one month... none of which were "planned" however I can't really say they weren't planned either... we had been talking about it. Every time I knew I was PG because I know exactly when I ovulate. Three times we haven't used contraception at or around ovulation and three times we have gotten PG.

[6bluewant1pink]

I am pregnant with this baby boy 1attempt.

[crazyladyneedsababy]

Hahaha!! You have quite the way with words! You're not Northern Irish are you at all?!! :rofl:

haha no Scottish :fight:

[Minki4]

Great read here ladies, I has wondering about the one attempt but looks like the way to go. FX!

[Cauliflower]

I am going for one attempt too, but by experience (only twice actually), my OPKs turn pos 3-4 days before O, and then it is neg. is it too long cutoff? What if it get pos we have one attempt and then I find out I m ovulating after 4 days maybe? Should I then wait one cycle or go for second attempt? Confused:(

[rainbowflower]

I have to say I do believe it's possible for the "average fertility" woman to get pregnant with 1 attempt, but of course pink swayers are doing a lot to lower fertility

I'm not sure that for everyone one attempt sways more than multiple attempts with J&D/douches/etc, though

[Mrs_P]

on the other side of it just to share both experiences (particularly for everyone reading this currently pg with multiple attempts and panicking - as i know i did when new things came to light after my sway) i had more attempts for this little lady than with any of the boys - so a girl is still possible!!!!!!!

[1+2+3boys]

I might have to try this. The boys were conceived both times with sex every day or second day and making sure we did it the day of positive OPK and after. (I count my identical twins as one in terms of first conceiving as was one egg to begin)

Since he has 6 sons it is likely he has a high sperm count so I am guessing I should make my one shot a bit before positive OPK to get the count down by the time I ovulate?

I am also cracking up at the manic shagger and one shot wonder comment ;)

[BabyCakesTor]

One attempt at +OPK with abstaining and finally having a girl. There was many other sway factors but with my boys, we DTD from the end of AF past O.

And we got pg on first month....

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks for this info. I am thinking of doing one attempt this month. But how long is too long to abstain? DH is not a frequent-releaser (he has low-ish testosterone and when he is focused/busy at work or sleeping less he has low drive). So we have not DTD since our attempts last month, so it will be 3-4 weeks when we try on Sunday. Is the sperm still good quality or should I have him release a day or two before our attempt? I should O on Wed or Thursday...does this seem to early? Maybe we should try tomorrow and Tuesday?

This is our 5th month trying and I am getting discouraged. I had low progesterone the first couple months but now my 1.5 year old has weaned so I think it will be higher.

That is too long and while you can certainly try having him release once before attempt, that will not do a whole lot for helping his sperm quality - most of the "jellybeans" will still be the licorice ones. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/10156-jellybean-factory-%96-understanding-sperm-count-frequency.html

My advice for someone who has gone 5 months without getting pg is to drop frequency all together, have him release every 4 days and then go for the one attempt in your fertile window (pos OPK is easiest)

[atomic sagebrush]

I am going for one attempt too, but by experience (only twice actually), my OPKs turn pos 3-4 days before O, and then it is neg. is it too long cutoff? What if it get pos we have one attempt and then I find out I m ovulating after 4 days maybe? Should I then wait one cycle or go for second attempt? Confused:(

I need more information. Why do you think you're ovulating 3-4 days later? Based on what symptoms??

As a general rule, people will ovulate 8-48 hours after their first positive OPK. It doesn't matter how long they stay dark for, it can be pos. for 15 minutes or for 5 days and it still works like that. It is like crossing a finish line - once you are across the threshold, your body gets the signal, whether the signal keeps coming for days afterwards or whatever, it's irrelevant. All that matters is the signal is sent.

Now it is possible that your body can get the signal and due to things that are going on in your environment, decide "eh, maybe not just yet" and keep the egg in a little longer.

[atomic sagebrush]

I might have to try this. The boys were conceived both times with sex every day or second day and making sure we did it the day of positive OPK and after. (I count my identical twins as one in terms of first conceiving as was one egg to begin)

Since he has 6 sons it is likely he has a high sperm count so I am guessing I should make my one shot a bit before positive OPK to get the count down by the time I ovulate?

I am also cracking up at the manic shagger and one shot wonder comment ;)

I think that "getting sperm count down by DTD before pos OPK" doesn't work in any reliable way (or otherwise SHettles would be a lot more successful!). The entire female repro tract is designed to keep sperm alive for a long time in there, days and days. So a guy with a high sperm count and a woman whose body was good at keeping sperm alive could easily end up with a lot of sperm even with a cutoff. Plus, the stress of trying to decide when to DTD sends your T levels skyrocketing.

[myrainbowgirl]

Just got my BFP this morning with one attempt at first + OPK!

[atomic sagebrush]

good luck!!!!

[GimmeaG]

Great point Emily, I also got pg with one attempt at 41. No jelly, no rephresh, no frequency and no J and D for us.

Sorry I have to ask though...I was reading your post that frequency and timing doesn't play a big part. I was planning several BD with FR and refresh...should I just do one attempt then?

[atomic sagebrush]

Sorry I have to ask though...I was reading your post that frequency and timing doesn't play a big part. I was planning several BD with FR and refresh...should I just do one attempt then?

Yes! One attempt has really seemed to be a good sway tactic, more reliable than frequency or Rephresh. I cringe inwardly when I see people add attempts and keeping frequency and jelly.

[Cauliflower]

I need more information. Why do you think you're ovulating 3-4 days later? Based on what symptoms??

As a general rule, people will ovulate 8-48 hours after their first positive OPK. It doesn't matter how long they stay dark for, it can be pos. for 15 minutes or for 5 days and it still works like that. It is like crossing a finish line - once you are across the threshold, your body gets the signal, whether the signal keeps coming for days afterwards or whatever, it's irrelevant. All that matters is the signal is sent.

Now it is possible that your body can get the signal and due to things that are going on in your environment, decide "eh, maybe not just yet" and keep the egg in a little longer.

I actually saw this reply now Atomic.

I have been charting my cycles, noting CM and other symptoms, like pain, and OPK. I noted that it was positive 2-3 days before O. How do I know when I Oed? I counted 14 days back ehen I got my periods. I know that LP can vary, but I have always had 28 days cycles...almost.

So earlier I have tested for 2 cycles and got pos OPK on CD 11-12 and CD 13 and Oed on CD 15 (counted back from CD1 from next cycle, dont know how accurate it is).

This time after BCP, OPK was pos on CD14, and I expreienced a lot of pain, but CM was non existing. I have not taken BBT, so I really dont know. I took one more OPK on CD 16, and it is neg. DTD on CD 14.

It is so good to read about all of you having gotten BFP after one attempt. Gives me hope. My hubby is not sure if he wants 3 kids and says we can try for 3-4 months, if BFN, then he wont try for one another:tissue:
If I get 2 BFN, I am just going to add more attempts, I just want another baby more than a DD.....

[atomic sagebrush]

I can't tell you when you ovulated without an ultrasound and/or blood tests. But if you are thinking you are Oing 2-3 days after you get a pos OPK, that's fine, just wait 8-12 hours after the night of pos OPK and then BD. (so instead of DTD that night, you would try to have your attempt the next morning.) You will still be covered if you O a bit earlier and yet your odds of conception will be up.

If you have only 3-4 months to TTC and would rather have another boy than no baby, then by all means pull out all the stops to get pg quickly.

[Cauliflower]

I will try this at least for 3 months! I want a DD too bad to stop at this point, and O have worked hard too! I am sure Ai can convince DH to try for a longer period, just hoping for BFP in three months, FX!
If AF arrives, at least I will know when I ovulate when OPK is poitive, so I can move my attempt closer to O.

[English Rose]

So just to clarify. We are doing FR, but we can only DTD once in the cycle at +Ov ? Not even early in cycle when not in fertile window?
Sorry if I sound really stupid but we have been DTD at least once early in cycle then DH has done fr until we do a attempt just before Ov. is this wrong? if so glad I am yet to get bfp as would feel awful if I have been doing it all wrong.

[English Rose]

Also can we not even DTD with a condom?

[Cauliflower]

We DTD with condom until pos OPK, DH over 35, so had too keep sperm as fresh as possible ;)
Atomic approved of that ;)

I think it is worse if you do several attempts around O, or after pos OPK, she said one attempt at pos OPK....good luck !

[atomic sagebrush]

So just to clarify. We are doing FR, but we can only DTD once in the cycle at +Ov ? Not even early in cycle when not in fertile window?
Sorry if I sound really stupid but we have been DTD at least once early in cycle then DH has done fr until we do a attempt just before Ov. is this wrong? if so glad I am yet to get bfp as would feel awful if I have been doing it all wrong.

It is fine to BD before your fertile window opens. What you have done is fine.

You can DTD with a condom and some might even want to use a spermicide condom in case the residue might sway pink.

[myrainbowgirl]

Just curious, here...what would you consider to be your fertile window? We actually DTD 5 days before O (not an attempt, in my mind), but I had started to get some EWCM already. :( At our ages (36 & 38), what is the likelihood that we got pg from that? I automatically assumed our 1 attempt at pos OPK 4 days later was what had to have done the trick. Thoughts?

[atomic sagebrush]

Odds of conception from that first attempt are slim to none.
Fertile window as defined by science - O-5-O day

Fertile window for practical purposes - O-3 thru O+1

Fertile microwindow - O-2 thru O day (vast majority of conceptions come from BD on one of those three days)

It's possible to get pg from earlier attempts but really not likely at all. It is possible but not probable. there is a rule called "the two day algorithm" that says that if you had fertile mucus the day before you DTD and the day that you DTD, you are way more likely to get pg. That is WAY WAY WAY more likely to happen at pos OPK then 5 days before.

[o18e]

This is very encouraging!

[2bnaday]

Both of my boys were conceived with just one attempt - one at O day and one with a 4-5 day cut-off (that's all I, so naively, thought at the time would get a girl!). So I had assumed we should dtd a lot this time, to be opposite from the one shot boys....but your research and data has convinced me to do the one attempt at +opk. I don't think (even from my own experience) that timing matters, so I will affect the environment through my other sway elements and use the one attempt at +opk to give conception the best chance within that (hopefully) girl-favorable environment. Makes total sense to me now -- thank you, Atomic!!!

[atomic sagebrush]

bump to possibly update

[Hallie]

Hi
Does 1 attempt mean no dtd at all that cycle until ovulation ? Is that abstaining ? Or is it better to dtd with a condom (or him on his own) then just one attempt at ovulation ? Sorry just a bit confused about if it's better to not do anything at all until attempt
Thank you in advance xx

[atomic sagebrush]

No, it just means one unprotected attempt in the fertile window.

You can do that with abstain or with FR or without any frequency pattern at all and there's an essay on how to do that here: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/showthread.php?2728-abstaining-frequent-release-and-mixing-cutoff-with-O-12