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Kerrin2b
July 16th, 2013, 01:24 PM
I am currently 14 weeks pregnant and I have my gender scan in 4 weeks and I am dreading it, I cant stop thinking about how I am going to feel if they tell me it is a boy. I was told by a fortune teller (i know they not reliable) this was a girl so for the first few weeks of this pregnancy I was convinced it is a girl, that is until earlier when I booked my scan I just broke down as I am sooo scared its a boy, I feel like I am losing my mind, Please help, am I the only one like this?

nuthinbutpink
July 16th, 2013, 02:01 PM
Well, we are all here for a reason. I am sure many can relate to your fears. Good luck with your scan!

rainbowflower
July 16th, 2013, 02:07 PM
We swayed and I had a girl gut feeling and 3 "psychics" had predicted a girl too, even had mostly girl nub guesses... I don't put a huge amount of stock in those things any more (think a sonographer needs to do the nub predictions rather than random people who like to guess) because we had a boy, finding out at a gender scan at 16 weeks. It was a shock, and a negative experience if I'm honest. I cried constantly for several days grieving my girl, but then we picked a name and started to get my head around the idea and by the time we were well into the pregnancy I had made peace with the idea of another son and actually enjoying things and excitedly anticipating him.
He is here now and he's a delight, so happy and content most of the time. He might not be what I *thought* was best for me, but he genuinely is what my DS1 and my family needed. Seems fate knew best!
What I'm trying to say is even if it is the worst case scenario for you it doesn't mean that things won't work out for the best and that you won't make peace and find loads of happiness

sushikitty
July 16th, 2013, 02:33 PM
I am terrified too. :( I wish I could bring you ladies in with me to the gender ultrasound appt in like 3 months. My husband is deploying and I am going alone. How I imagine it is me laying down on the ultrasound table and covering my eyes anticipating the judgment call. Something we just have to face. I send you all of my luck and hugs to the gender you want so your family is complete! :)

Kerrin2b
July 16th, 2013, 06:23 PM
Thanks for your replies girls, oh I know I'm not the only one here feeling like that hence why I'm here I just feel like I'm the only one going round the twist, I've my fingers and toes crossed for ye all, it's so hard x

Lizzie Lizard
July 16th, 2013, 09:54 PM
I just couldn't handle the anticipation of mine and just had the doc write it on a piece of paper so I could look at it and deal with it later. That really helped take the pressure off of the scan. The doctor laughed and said we would be opening it in the elevator and I said probably yes, but it was just still nice to get it home and open it together. I really liked doing that, but understand it's not for everyone.

sushikitty
July 16th, 2013, 10:04 PM
Thats a great idea lizzie! I think I will do that next time I go in for a gender u/s

Lizzie Lizard
July 16th, 2013, 11:25 PM
Sushikitty, I can't imagine your husband will be deployed! I live in Cali too. Want me to go with you? haha Good luck! I hope you get your gender you want too! I did and I still don't regret him writing it down. Glad it helped!

Kerrin2b
August 1st, 2013, 05:13 AM
i booked my gender scan 2 weeks earlier and found out it is indeed a boy, so upset words cant describe how i am feeling its awful

grace03
August 1st, 2013, 06:32 AM
i booked my gender scan 2 weeks earlier and found out it is indeed a boy, so upset words cant describe how i am feeling its awful

oh sweetie big hugs to you xxx
im having 4 th boy and gd has hit the hardest with this one I hope we can rise above it soon and not feel so sad ..
I just want the preg over so I can be in love with him and then it will be easier xxx

Waiting4Daisy
August 1st, 2013, 09:06 AM
I personally found the gender scan the worst part of it which is why im not finding out with this little one. I know when that precious baby is in my arms gender will be irrelevant and if there is GD it will be a fleeting moment.

Kerrin2b
August 1st, 2013, 06:07 PM
Its awful isnt it big hugs to you, will you try again this is baby number 6 and I dont think we really can which is worse maybe ill get around hubby :-(

1+2+3boys
August 1st, 2013, 07:15 PM
I see you have twin girls Kerrin2b. I really wanted my twins to be girls so I could have a girl but now I wonder if they had been girls would the twin relationship have gotten in the way of the Mother Daughter relationship. Does that make sense? It is how I think to make myself feel better anyway. I'm sorry you are feeling so down. I hope you can find acceptance or if not, get to try one last time. Next try will be my last chance at a DD and I am starting to wonder if I will go team green.

3littleladies
August 23rd, 2013, 03:48 AM
I know its a terrible feeling isnt it, I couldnt wait to find out but when I did gosh was I shocked & very sad, but once she was born I fell in love, but my desire for a boy is still very much with me.

Hopefully you hear 'its a Girl'