impatientlywaiting
August 2nd, 2013, 08:31 AM
This has probably been talked about a lot but I'm just wondering what the reasons are (or were if you are done having kids) for wanting a specific gender.
My desires for a dd stem from a few different reasons. Firstly, I have a brother 2 years younger than me. He made my life hell growing up to the point that it could have been classified as abuse. He was/is very impulsive and has anger issues. Just to give an example one time he dumped a bowl of boiling hot soup on me because I asked him why he was crabby...it wasn't out of the ordinary for him to pull kitchen knives out on me so I would do what he wanted. My parents have said that he was much more difficult than myself and my older half sister to raise. He is still very immature, victimizes himself, won't hold a job and has anger issues now as an adult. I know rationally not all boys are like this but based on my experience I'm quite nervous that my son will end up like him and be a terror. My husband's personality is completely different so I should expect my son to be more like my husband but I can't get over worrying a son would be like my brother. I love my brother but he is very difficult to get along with.
Secondly, my sister, my mom and I were really close...my mom passed away 5 years ago and something in me would like to try to recreate that formation in my own family.
Everyone expects me to want a son next but if I'm completely honest with myself I have a desire for another girl. I feel guilty about this because I'm blessed to have a daughter and should just have a desire for another healthy baby but I guess there are sort of irrational reasons for wanting another girl. DH would like another girl because DD is such a daddy's girl but he does still want a son someday and a part of me does too but I'm just irrationally worried about it.
My desires for a dd stem from a few different reasons. Firstly, I have a brother 2 years younger than me. He made my life hell growing up to the point that it could have been classified as abuse. He was/is very impulsive and has anger issues. Just to give an example one time he dumped a bowl of boiling hot soup on me because I asked him why he was crabby...it wasn't out of the ordinary for him to pull kitchen knives out on me so I would do what he wanted. My parents have said that he was much more difficult than myself and my older half sister to raise. He is still very immature, victimizes himself, won't hold a job and has anger issues now as an adult. I know rationally not all boys are like this but based on my experience I'm quite nervous that my son will end up like him and be a terror. My husband's personality is completely different so I should expect my son to be more like my husband but I can't get over worrying a son would be like my brother. I love my brother but he is very difficult to get along with.
Secondly, my sister, my mom and I were really close...my mom passed away 5 years ago and something in me would like to try to recreate that formation in my own family.
Everyone expects me to want a son next but if I'm completely honest with myself I have a desire for another girl. I feel guilty about this because I'm blessed to have a daughter and should just have a desire for another healthy baby but I guess there are sort of irrational reasons for wanting another girl. DH would like another girl because DD is such a daddy's girl but he does still want a son someday and a part of me does too but I'm just irrationally worried about it.