Atomic Please Help!

[lovemy2blessings]

I'm on CD 13 and still having negative opk's with partial ferning on my microscope for the past 4 days. Cervix still feels medium somewhat hard w/ no CM. I feel like I can't continue having DH abstain (today marks day 10) because he already told me he is afraid that he "might" end up having a nocturnal emission. What should I do? Should I go ahead and DTD with Rephresh and then have him FR everyday until I get a positive OPK or Have him release now not using that batch and have him release twice a day until positive OPK? Last cycle I ovulated on CD27 (coming off bcp)..So I'm not sure when I will O this cycle...
TIA

[atomic sagebrush]

Have an attempt, since pregnancy is unlikely I would not have him do the release/dump process. He does not need to switch to FR (unless he wants to.) I would resume abstain and then if another 6-7 days passes and ovulation is nigh, you can do a straight up attempt, if you O before that, then you can do the hurry up FR (release once, dump it, DTD again using second batch.)

[lovemy2blessings]

Thanks Atomic, so to clarify... if we do dtd now he abstains until I get a positive opk right, but if I O before the next 6-7 days I have dh release twice that day of the positive OPK and use the second batch right?

[lovemy2blessings]

Also when is the best time to test with OPK's? My test don't say it :(

[lovemy2blessings]

Bump

[Kittybear]

I usually test with FMU but i have also tested at night before bed as well (just make sure there is at least 4 hours between pees for the hormones to build up in your wee!) x

[lovemy2blessings]

Oh ok thanks

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks Atomic, so to clarify... if we do dtd now he abstains until I get a positive opk right, but if I O before the next 6-7 days I have dh release twice that day of the positive OPK and use the second batch right?

yes

[atomic sagebrush]

Also when is the best time to test with OPK's? My test don't say it :(

Most OPK are best taken after lunch. But some are designed to be used with FMU. I would test after lunch and then again after dinner if you think you're getting close

[lovemy2blessings]

Awesome, once again thanks a bunch!! :)

[lovemy2blessings]

Atomic as of today I'm on Cd23 with no positive opk or sign of ovulation ;( we dtd.again after another 10 abstinence poor dh ;/...anyway I guess we continue with abstinence until positive opk right? Is this even healthy? I've heard something about egg maturity by this stage not sure if its ok to still TTC? Also, I've slowed down on my intense cardio not sure if that's delaying O...I still dominutes6 days a wk but don't run anymorei just walk is that ok? And I apologize for switching questions, but I have been on Le diet 9 weeks and dropped down to 106..BMI 18.8 (I initially started at 116 lbs) now I'm working to gain a tad bit because I look so sick to everyone..they see me AMD think I'm anorexic..I want to be at 110lbs (4lb gain, but 6 lost from beginning) maybe that would help with O as well. I have my pap Tuesday and will be asking for Clomid, I'm ok...or swaying blue by those changes?TIA

[atomic sagebrush]

Well, it's not ideal to gain weight. I would rather see you hold steady where you are, reduce exercise slightly, up cals and try to hold steady, then try to put on weight. Your body will catch up to itself eventually.

Re the egg maturity, first of all you aren't even "late" yet in terms of ovulation. You're still in normal range. Secondly, the "late" ovulation/overripe egg thing is only in people who go 3-6 months or more without ovulating. No one needs to even worry about it unless they've gone 6-8 weeks without ovulating. Thirdly, it's totally unproven anyway and is just a theory. People get pg with normal helathy babies, every day, who haven't had a cycle for a year.

RE the Clomid, I would prob. leave out the part about the exercise and weight loss or they aren't going to give it to you.

[lovemy2blessings]

Thanks for the reply atomic ;) so should I go ahead and ask for Clomid? I have upped my calories to 1800-2000 still within LE limits only stwtched to doing 60j minutes of walking no more running. Waiting for O and still abstaining...I did notice a bit of a gain this morning (a few weeks back I was at 106lbs and today at 109lbs) initially started at 116lbs. I'm still good for a pink sway right? Oh almost forgot to add dh recently started working out jogging, walking and lifting up to 30 lbs. (maybe like 3-5 times p/ week) is that a no no?

[atomic sagebrush]

dh exercise great

don't worry about the weight gian, you needed it

it's best not to ask for Clomid because they won't give it to you, just tell them you aren't ovulating and they will usually offer it

[lovemy2blessings]

Thank you so so much atomic just exactly what I wanted to hear to stay sane here lol. You are such a blessing ;) I will keep you updated!