The more I read the more I think I should just give up

[mom2_2many]

The more and more I read the more I think I should just give up. I am not what changed iny life that I went from having 4 girls in a row ( imagine Duggar size family.... That's almost us) then had 2 boys... Lost my dd @22 wks and then went on to have 5 boys. I don't think it is possible to even sway girl. At one point I was very under weight, didnt eat well and still got a boy. I don't know what in my life sways boy, but I am doubting that even if I swayed with all my heart I would get a boy :(

[ELP]

Would you be happy calling your family complete atm:) or do you mean your just gonna roll the dice?? What Id say in regards to swaying is that at least you know you can conceive girls:agree: where some of the current swayers will have the worry from an all blue family that they just cant kwim:) If your happy to still add a few more little bodies to the brood then give it a go!!

[boymama]

Something I would really, really recommend if you are going to add one more to your family is to purchase a personalised sway plan. You can stop reading and stressing yourself out - the amount of information is so overwhelming! It outlines what you have to do, personalised to your lifestyle and medical issues and is really, really straight forward.

The best part is if you have a question you can just write a message to atomic and she answers within a day and you don't need to trawl threads looking for the answer yourself.

It has been a godsend for me and the whole swaying thing has been very relaxed. But, I also know that if I get a boy I am ok with that. I don't think I could have gone down this route if I didn't feel this way. If I felt like I couldn't handle another boy, we would have gone HT or stopped with the beautiful babies we have. But, this is going to be a different decision for every family.

Good luck.

[1+2+3boys]

Goodluck and sorry to hear about your baby girl.
I felt really overwhelmed at first when I joined this site and wondering how on earth I could change my life so much to sway and that I couldn't possibly but I just read little bits at a time including the odd essay and before I even realised I was much more clued up and seemed more achievable.
I no longer feel like the more I learn, the more I realise the less I know!
I plan to purchase a sway plan so I can question Atomic Sagebrush in depth and have her expert knowledge tailored to fit me since swaying is not a one size fits all kind of thing. Maternal condition is a big part of swaying but not the only part, so I would try not to worry about the time you conceived one of your boys when not in the best health.

Just take things one day at a time and everyone on this website is pretty supportive I find. Ask all the questions you need and you will get there in the end :)

[atomic sagebrush]

There is something deeper beyond swaying because while diet does seem to play a part, there are many peopel who "should" have girls but have boys. After talking to literally thousands of people I do think there are personality factors that come into play.

That doesn't mean that you should necessarily give up, but it may mean that you need to work on changing your approach - it may not be about swaying with all your heart, it may just mean changing a couple little things and making peace with the idea of another boy. Oddly, one of the keys to getting a girl seems to be keepign things in perspective and remaining a little more laid back about swaying - it's not about having the perfect sway because that doesn't exist. It's about saying, well, I will just eliminate those things that are swaying strongly blue, and then let the chips fall where they may.

[Dreamofpink]

Sorry to board-crash, but Atomic I couldn't agree more. I am convinced that that was my biggest downfall, the desire to throw absolutely everything at my sway in the blind belief that if only I tried hard enough it had to work! Now after seeing a fair few recent sways where the pink swayers have been really at peace with having another boy, they've had a girl. I am working on being at peace with my gd & accepting the beauty of 3 boys BUT I am very aware of not turning it into a project :wink: I think that attitude of trying a little but perhaps not believing too much (even though swaying does work) helps a lot more than blind belief that it has to happen if you try hard enough. These thoughts have been knocking about in my mind for the last few weeks and it's fab to see them verified. Thank you!

BTW a big :welcome: to you mom2_2many and I hope you get your dg. :hugs:

[1+2+3boys]

Those last two comments are good advise for me actually. I will try to relax and not obsess. And already I am starting to find the idea of another boy fine even though I really want a girl

[AKMommy]

I swayed in summer 2007 and did everything I could find to sway (my how far information has come in just a few years!). I really thought I was having a girl, but ended up with a perfect opposite. After I dealt with my disappointment, I realized I was being blessed with a healthy baby boy. I thought he was going to be our last one, but it's been gnawing at me for a long time. Only within the last 6 months am I totally fine with another baby boy. We start TTC in December. You have to do what you feel is right in your heart. It took me 5 years to get to the point of being at peace potentially being a mom to 4 boys. But I'm going to try for a girl anyways. If it's a boy, that's cool. I'm a pro at raising them. :D

[1+2+3boys]

It took me 5 years to get to the point of being at peace potentially being a mom to 4 boys. But I'm going to try for a girl anyways. If it's a boy, that's cool. I'm a pro at raising them. :D

Well said!

[atomic sagebrush]

I've posted the first bit of my essay on this topic here http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/33517-maternal-dominance-hypothesis-priviledged-daughter-hypothesis.html