DreamInBlue
November 25th, 2013, 11:42 AM
I'm not sure to where to post this, so I figured this might be the best place. I am obsessing over the gender of this baby, and already feeling disappointed that it might be another girl.
DH only wants 2 kids, so this is our last chance. With our DD, I remember feeling so disappointed at the gender scan because I really wanted a boy first. As the pregnancy went on, I felt better because I knew I still had another chance at a boy for the next one. And once I held her in my arms, she was perfect and any trace of GD went out the window. I can't imagine life without her.
But now, as I am pregnant with what is likely my last child, I am hoping so much it is a boy. When I first became pregnant (it took me over a year with this one), I was over the moon excited. I had strong feelings that I was having twins, and I also had strong feelings that one or both would be boys. Well, 2 ultrasounds so far have proved it is not twins, and I have completely lost the feeling that I am having a boy. Guesses from my 12 week shot have been mostly girl.
My entire family and DH's are mostly girls. My parents only had 2 girls. DH's parents had 2 girls and 1 boy (him). My sister has 2 girls, and did an IG sway and finally got a boy. DH's sister that has children has 3 girls, and her last was just a boy.
Everyone in my family wants me to have a boy, and I just know if this is another girl I will never hear the end of it. "You should have done all of the crazy things your sister did to get a boy." (I never told anyone I was swaying, and I didn't follow the same sway she did.) "Now you have to have another one to get a boy" and on and on. I just can't handle it.
The comments from others are sometimes worse than the way I feel. I feel like I could deal with it if this was another girl, and I would be disappointed but I would be able to get excited about it (not to mention DD would be over the moon to have a sister). But I can't deal with other people's reactions and comments.
My family knows I will be going at 16 weeks to the dr for an ultrasound (Dec 16th), and we are hoping to find out, but part of me wants to tell them I've changed my mind and I don't want to find out. That way, they will have to wait until the baby is born to find out, and I won't have to deal with their comments because who is going to say anything mean about a sweet little newborn. Maybe I will wait and see... and if it's a girl, I will just say the baby wasn't cooperating and the tech couldn't get a clear picture.
Sorry for rambling on, I just feel like nobody around me understands what I am going through. Thanks for "listening."
DH only wants 2 kids, so this is our last chance. With our DD, I remember feeling so disappointed at the gender scan because I really wanted a boy first. As the pregnancy went on, I felt better because I knew I still had another chance at a boy for the next one. And once I held her in my arms, she was perfect and any trace of GD went out the window. I can't imagine life without her.
But now, as I am pregnant with what is likely my last child, I am hoping so much it is a boy. When I first became pregnant (it took me over a year with this one), I was over the moon excited. I had strong feelings that I was having twins, and I also had strong feelings that one or both would be boys. Well, 2 ultrasounds so far have proved it is not twins, and I have completely lost the feeling that I am having a boy. Guesses from my 12 week shot have been mostly girl.
My entire family and DH's are mostly girls. My parents only had 2 girls. DH's parents had 2 girls and 1 boy (him). My sister has 2 girls, and did an IG sway and finally got a boy. DH's sister that has children has 3 girls, and her last was just a boy.
Everyone in my family wants me to have a boy, and I just know if this is another girl I will never hear the end of it. "You should have done all of the crazy things your sister did to get a boy." (I never told anyone I was swaying, and I didn't follow the same sway she did.) "Now you have to have another one to get a boy" and on and on. I just can't handle it.
The comments from others are sometimes worse than the way I feel. I feel like I could deal with it if this was another girl, and I would be disappointed but I would be able to get excited about it (not to mention DD would be over the moon to have a sister). But I can't deal with other people's reactions and comments.
My family knows I will be going at 16 weeks to the dr for an ultrasound (Dec 16th), and we are hoping to find out, but part of me wants to tell them I've changed my mind and I don't want to find out. That way, they will have to wait until the baby is born to find out, and I won't have to deal with their comments because who is going to say anything mean about a sweet little newborn. Maybe I will wait and see... and if it's a girl, I will just say the baby wasn't cooperating and the tech couldn't get a clear picture.
Sorry for rambling on, I just feel like nobody around me understands what I am going through. Thanks for "listening."