Are "girly" moms more likely to conceive girls???

[Houseofblue]

I was wondering this lately (and it could tie in to the whole testosterone/ Maternal Dominance theory as well). I have 3 boys and I am so not girly. Even since I was a very young girl I have always felt more bonded to male friends (with the huge exception of my bestie of 20 years, a girl), always preferred to hang out with guys or have guys as roommates, didn't and still don't really like to wear dresses, preferred boy toys as a kid (I was a kid of the 80s so I liked Voltron and He Man, Transformers etc). I did like my Easy Bake oven but not really into dolls. Loved building forts (literally with hammer and nails!) and running through the woods with my childhood friend, a boy.

As a teen/young adult I did do cheerleading (for the gymnastics, I hated the actual cheering lol) and liked the outfits ok. I also did dance and loved it. I have always been a good dancer (only pointing all of this out to show that while a tomboy I do have some girlish qualities lol), I was a go-go dancer at night clubs in a few big cities in my youth and was also a little rave girl (lol). But I still never really liked wearing dresses or much jewelry...my main "going out" outfit when I was a club girl were tight jeans, boots, tank top and had my hair in 2 side braids. I have always been considered pretty even though I wasn't so girly. When I was dating I way preferred to be the aggressor and seek out potential "targets" (lol). When guys came on too strong I was turned off, and when they appeared shy I liked it.

I do well with boys, but I still had GD at every one of my "big" u/s's. I guess I want my mini-me, you know? Also, I just want to experience both genders. And shockingly enough (since I am SO not girly), I actually really want to buy one of those big flower headbands and pretty dresses for a baby girl of my own! :)

So what gives? Does me being such a tomboy make me more likely to have boys??

Boy moms- do you consider yourself girly or more tomboyish??? (Girl moms please feel free to answer too!!). Do you think being girly or not, sways?? Would love to hear atomic's opinion on this too! ;)

[Tish14]

I had never thought of this,but I'm not sure this has any relevance to me and I am a mum of three boys (swayed for our little girl,or I'm sure I would have ended up with another boy)......in my opinion I think that I'm quite a girly girl. I like jewellary,dresses, shoes and most things girly.

Having said this I may be the exception to the rule and am interested in others replies.

[Tish14]

I also should add that hormonally I am low in the Testosterone department and all of this did not get me a girl without a lot of effort and I suppose dread that it wouldn't work.

[MIka1104]

House of blue, I'm a lot like you. I was a tomboy and preferred boy toys and sports. I grew up with all brothers and felt more comfortable around my guy friends. Even my mom was a tomboy. I didn't really get into girly things until later in high school. I just knew for sure that I would have boys because it made sense. But God blessed me with two daughters. With my girls I discovered just how girly I am. They are super girly and we love doing things together. It's kinda like having the sisters I always wanted. I still am hoping for my son but being a girl's mom makes sense for me now.

[Houseofblue]

Mika- that's exactly what I think would happen if I had girls- I really think it would bring out my girly side (I just KNOW there's one in there lol!) and I think it would be so much fun!! I worry that being in a house full of testosterone I am becoming less and less girly :(
I have a sister so never longed for that, while I am close with her my personality is more like my brother's (I'm close with him too). Having both sibs made me want both genders really bad because I know how awesome it is to have had the best of both worlds.

[Adia]

Honestly, no, I don't think being girly sways girl. I think body type and diet are the main influencing factors.

I am not girly. I like too look nice and up-to-date fashion wise but practicality always wins with me. I hate pink, always have for the most part. I wear very little jewelry that is very simple. I hate shopping (except online :oops:). I like simple hair styles. I can't stand ruffles, bows etc for me. I doll my kids up to a point but their are still very few bows and ruffles. More simple classic styles and designs are what I gravitate to.

My sister has 3 girls also. She and I are super similar in body types and eating habits. My mom had 3 boys and 4 girls but she was a big yo-yo dieter who gained a lot of weight at times, primarily when she had my brothers.

My MIL is very girly too but she had 2 girls and 5 boys. She said she gave up trying to lose baby weight and stay slim after she had DD2...she went on to have 4 boys after that.

My BFF and her sisters are VERY girly they LOVE anything beautiful that screams girl. They are very stylish and they love dolling up little girls and going all out for anything like birthday parties, weddings, etc. I have always envied their creativity and thought they should have the girls and I should have the boys. They have mostly boys because they are very healthy and robust. They aren't fat but super healthy because of their body types. One girl is dying for a girl and has 3 boys. She is a farmer's wife and gardens and cooks a lot. Classic boy sway factors.

HTH!!

[Houseofblue]

Adia thanks for weighing in!! :) I appreciate your post, makes me believe then maybe I'm not predetermined to only have boys ;)
Hmm speaking of your mom and MIL make me think maybe the weight really does have something to do with it, although I was very fit when I had DS1 (119 lbs), but gained weight and was 20+ pounds heavier when I conceived DS2 and DS3 (I have since lost much of that weight in the last year). FXed it helps me get that girl!

[atomic sagebrush]

First of all let me say a huge THANK YOU ladies for keeping it civil, this is the kind of question where everyone would immediately get their panties in a wad back on IG but we need to be able to have reasonable discussions about the trends we see if we ever want to figure out how it all works. I SO appreciate everyone being adults and neither rude nor oversensitive.

I am somewhat tomboyish and was mistaken for a boy on more than one occasion when I was a little girl (hey it was the 70's and we all had those dang Dorothy Hamill haircuts and dressed the exact same in our bellbottoms and ski coats;)) I do like "man" things I would say more than the average gal and while I do like dressing up, I"m not fussed about it. I like a lot of boy-related things like superheroes and Tarantino and Supernatural, and NOT some girl-related things like the Real Housewives, Lifetime movies, and shoes. So for me, it's true.

That having been said, humanity is so vast that there are plenty of girly moms with all boys and vice versa. Is there a trend in this direction, I do think there is but it's nowhere near as strong as diet/body type. I think you can see it in celebrities with all one vs. all the other - it's not that boy moms are "mannish" at all whatsoever, but there is just something about them that is a little more "grrllish" LOL if that makes any sense. Like Gwen Stefani just seems more like someone you want to have your back in a fight than Faith Hill does. ;)

But certainly nothing one can hang a hat on where anyone should decide, "well I like the Incredible Hulk so now surely I am too ugly and mannish to have a daughter" ;) and TOTALLY not "I have all girls so that must mean I'm too weak to have a boy" because neither of those things is the case at all. I like the Incredible Hulk and I have a daughter, and Nuthin has girls and she is a badass and I would have her at my back in any fight!! :)

And just like Adia mentioned, where does body type and lifestyle start and personality factors begin - no one can even say. Somewhere on here there is a thread where some of us were talking about how we actually LOOK like some celebrities that have the same gender as us! Genes are weird deals and dog breeds def have some personality factors in common that are different than other dog breeds - certainly we are NOT genetically preprogrammed to behave a certain way nor to have one gender vs. the other but might we have some overall tendencies coming out of the womb - I don't count that out.

[Adia]

First of all let me say a huge THANK YOU ladies for keeping it civil, this is the kind of question where everyone would immediately get their panties in a wad back on IG but we need to be able to have reasonable discussions about the trends we see if we ever want to figure out how it all works. I SO appreciate everyone being adults and neither rude nor oversensitive.

That's Gender Dreaming for you! We are all in this together!

[Tish14]

I'm not so sure that for me personally the weight side of swaying factors in. When I fell pregnant with my ds1 I was at my smallest at 42kgs and my diet was certainly one that would make my body think times were tough(as per the pink sway),so by rights he should have been a she.

[Dreamofpink]

This is such a good question & one that has been on my mind too. I always wanted a brother when I was little but I have a sister. She's always been the girliest out of us both but has no children yet. I was always being told that I should've been a boy as I was the first to climb up a tree, charge about the place, get dirty - you know all the usual stereotypical behaviour of boys, lol! :wink: I'm not into make-up, shoes & the only shopping I enjoy is a few hours peace in a large bookshop!

However, I think that for me there's a crossover with my personality & diet. I always ate well & regularly. I was never bothered about being slightly overweight & had never dieted in my life before LE! :D

The thing is though, I may not be girly but I am very maternal compared with my sister. My biological clock was ticking from when I was 21, but then I did meet DH aged 18. My sis has only recently settled down & she's 29. I'm very broody & where I don't necessarily think there's any correlation it's an interesting difference between us.

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[maria02]

Not a girly girl at all previously, but as a PP said, I think DD has brought out that side of me. I'm definitely more girly now than I was before having her.


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[Adia]

I'm not so sure that for me personally the weight side of swaying factors in. When I fell pregnant with my ds1 I was at my smallest at 42kgs and my diet was certainly one that would make my body think times were tough(as per the pink sway),so by rights he should have been a she.

No matter what we figure out that sways things in the direction of our DG their will always be exceptions. The more I apply the Gender Dreaming mentality of swaying and gender to people around me the more it makes sense but I always see exceptions to any trend, that's just nature for you!

[1+2+3boys]

I only had time to read the original post so will read the comments later but I just wanted to say that I could have written quite a lot of it myself. I have three boys and I was and still am quite the tomboy. I really am a good all boy Mum candadite. But why then do I feel such a strong yearning and sadness at not ever having a daughter?

[1+2+3boys]

Mika- that's exactly what I think would happen if I had girls- I really think it would bring out my girly side (I just KNOW there's one in there lol!) and I think it would be so much fun!! I worry that being in a house full of testosterone I am becoming less and less girly :(
I have a sister so never longed for that, while I am close with her my personality is more like my brother's (I'm close with him too). Having both sibs made me want both genders really bad because I know how awesome it is to have had the best of both worlds.

I grew up with a Sis and Bro too. Having a mixed gendered family was what I always knew and I assumed I would always have and it is certainly what I always wanted.

[Princess of Pink]

I am so un-girlie it's not even funny!! I could care less what I wear, usually it's just jeans and some shirt I toss on. I rarely wear dresses, don't do my nails ever, only dye my hair to cover the greys starting to appear, only style it for work, wear make-up only if I go out (which is rare) or have a big meeting or interviews at work. I prefer man stuff (cars, camping, 4wding), prefer male friends. I do enjoy shopping but I find it therapeutic and love hunting for a bargain (competitive nature), not buying the latest fashion etc… like most women.

My girls are a lot like me, but they also like make-up and things that I don't. If anything having them has made me slightly more girlie! Mine has been diet and lifestyle, having so many so close together (poor maternal condition, 10 pregnancies in 9yrs) and possibly something genetic as my brothers are having all boys?? The girls in my family and extended family all have girls?? It's not weight related for me at all. Was super skinny with #1 and progressively fatter with each child.

I am also super obsessive and micro manage my entire life which is apparently a boy mum trait….god knows but I have a super strong feeling I will have girl #6 and never have a son no matter how drastically I have changed my life.

[laVieEnRose]

I think I am a girlie girl: I love makeup, dressing up, beauty treatments, beautiful objects, I was a ballet dancer when I was younger, I am naturally petite and slim ....and I am the mum of 3 boys!!! I still don't understand football rules nor cricket, I don't like mud and mess so I wouldn't say that I was born to be a boys mum lol
My husband kindly says that I have enough feminine touch to balance out our testosterone family but that's just making me want a DD even more. Hahaha!

[SamS_TTCPink]

I've often asked myself this question too! I am not at all girlie and I have six boys! It was a running family joke that I'd wear jeans or gym clothes to my wedding, and although I did wear a dress, it's almost the only time ever that I have! I don't wear make up or jewellery (except for a pandora bracelet) and I love footy, tattoos, and motocross and utes and Harley's! :) I am however a HUGE P!nk fan!!

I've never gotten along great with other girls/women but usually get along fine with males. Other women do not like me and I'm not a "girly wife" at all. I do long for a daughter though, who will understand some female things that guys just don't get, who I can dress up in cute girl outfits (although probably not dresses) and someone who will make an effort to remember my birthday! Here's hoping anyway. ;)

I've probably become a little more girly as I've gotten older, and a daughter will probably bring more of that side out in me, or she will probably be a huge tomboy with me as her mum and six older brothers! :)

I really hope what I'm like doesn't influence what gender children we have, but the girly girls I know do have more girls and I do have six boys. :think:

[onebigwish]

I am very girlie Girl and love to do girly things,i love pink :oops:
and have two Boys! when i was pg with ds2 People said to me,thats impossible another Boy?! you are so girly...haha

[sallygal]

I am very girly. Love make up, fashion and pretty things. I grew up playing with dolls constantly and loved all the girly stuff. I have three very boyish boys! In saying that I am also a strong, confident personality, quite sporty too. Perhaps that is the testosterone coming out? Who knows really??!!

[6bluewant1pink]

I am very girly and have 7 boys. I never thought I'd not have a girl. I make myself be into boy things now for the sake of my boys like sports. I think the fact that I like to eat and snack really swayed boy for me.