Of course you have 3 girls!!!

[carmella_marie]

I was talking to a coworker with three daughters who desperately wants a son. I asked about how she got her daughters....

DD1--very heavy and not ovulating, dr. Prescribed clomid and she decided to go vegetarian to help lose weight...

DD2--interrupted sleep from a baby, working in a coffee shop drinking tons of coffee and skipping breakfast, still vegetarian and had lost significant weight from dd1

DD3--still vegetarian, still drinking coffee and skipping breakfast, and training for a marathon, which she ran the week she conceived!!

I didn't say anything to her but I'm now not surprised she has three daughters!!!

[Mulberry Smurf]

Funny you should mention that but I keep thinking when I see people I wonder which element of their lifestyle had swayed that gender. My friend whose little girl is the same age as my son had had a recent loss and she used to smoke so I think that swayed girl for her xx

[carmella_marie]

I know right! I totally analyze my friends who have all girls or all boys!

[Adia]

Me too....the theory fits most people I can think of. Their are a few exceptions but for the most part, the HE and LE lifestyles seems to win when I do my mental surveys of gender in families.

[dreaminginblue]

I started on myself with this than started noticing habits in other people that indicates why they have more of one gender than the other, if at all. I'm pretty convinced my newly pregnant friend is having a girl due to her LE lifestyle and I've since found out another actually used this site to conceive her boy!
I'm certain my diet and lifestyle is very much girl friendly so am making the necessary changes to (hopefully) get my boy. I keep asking my friends IRL inappropriate questions but so far their open to it and the majority have agreed that it makes sense that they've got the genders they have.

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[sbowman]

I do the same thing. Most people give me a strange looks when I start talking about gender swaying though, like it's dark magic or something. I tried explaining about the diet to a friend (has two girls and really wants a boy) who totally brushed me off claiming that the male sperm controls the gender and there's nothing a female can do. I would say 90% of the people I know believe this. So frustrating.


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[dreaminginblue]

I mentioned it to the lass I think is expecting a girl but she has been trying for 3 1/2 years so I think whatever sex it is, it will be wanted. I know they'd love a girl but she said you get what you're given. I think she's half right but if I can sway the odds in a boys favour than that's what I'll do. I never struggled to conceive either so I don't know her internal struggle.
Most have never heard of GS either so I have to explain it. As I said the majority are supportive, the ones who aren't are the ones who don't have GD for their own reasons but usually because they have b/g or g/b and don't plan on expanding their family. I'm learning who to approach and who not too.

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[maidentomother]

Why are the pigeon pair/well-mixed fams the people who seem MOST offended by the idea of swaying? I casually brought it up with a friend here who has 1 boy then 3 girls, and her immediate response was 'that's awful it should be illegal!'. On other forums I notice PP mums most often bashing those who express GD. It's so very narrow minded and judgemental.

[carmella_marie]

I agree people can be so judgmental about GD. The older I get the more I realize I'm shouldn't judge anyone as I gave no idea what their private struggles are or what they've been through in their life and it's better to just be supportive when I can or mind my own business when I can't.

Yesterday I was at a friends house who is expecting her third boy. There was remnants of a large breakfast on the table including bacon and eggs and I know she's very into cross fit and paleo diet. I know she desperately wants a girl but like pp said, she thinks the sperm controls it and you get what you get.

I wish everyone got their DG or a PP and never had to feel this way, I had very serious gender desire with DS2 (failed sway) I love him to pieces but there's still a yearning for a daughter that really only you lovely ladies understand!

[dreaminginblue]

MtoM I have been told numerous times that I should be happy with my two healthy girls by many PP families. I have no intention of stopping at 2 so that's not an issue but my cut off is 4. I don't want more than that. I hope I remain as humble if we have a successful sway. I know how strong GD takes hold. My issue is why they are bothered we are trying for what they already have? I did want b/g/g and only because I have a big brother and loved it and wanted that for my daughters. In fact the less smug PP have gone on to have another or are planning another so I wonder if PP is as perfect as they make out. I could theorise on this all day but I that's all I'll be doing. If either daughters had been a boy I think we'd still be wanting one more just no GD.

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[carmella_marie]

If ds2 had been a girl I might have stopped at that , or tried for one more girl. Now I see my 2 boys playing together and think maybe just One daughter isn't enough, I'd love to have 2 girls to even out the score!!!

[Alyssasmom789]

I am a doll machine :) the classic LE diet! Never realized it though.

DD1 we only dtd once and it was the day my period finished. I was so skinny low bmi, diet coke like crazy, lots of cardio, no breakfast ever, starving always.

DD2 same as DD1 their a year apart and always always mistaken for twins lol

DD3 I swayed hardcore for 3-4 months but I think I messed up on not lifting weights because I'd always been skinny my body is just thin no muscle, also worked overnight and had no sleep, not active

[atomic sagebrush]

I do the same thing. Most people give me a strange looks when I start talking about gender swaying though, like it's dark magic or something. I tried explaining about the diet to a friend (has two girls and really wants a boy) who totally brushed me off claiming that the male sperm controls the gender and there's nothing a female can do. I would say 90% of the people I know believe this. So frustrating.


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One thing I have learned in my old age is that there are a ton of people who think you are stupid for knowing MORE than them, not less. And they won't listen because they're immediately and irrevocably convinced that you're ignorant, superstitious, etc.

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/swaying-studies-scientific-research/32383-defense-swaying-part-1-a.html

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes I don't need to hear "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit" by people who already have what I want LOL. These are the same people who would raise H-ll if the color of granite countertop they wanted was temporarily out of stock.

People without any kids (who don't want any) are actually WORSE than the PP ones IMO. The ones who go around muttering "breeders" under their breath.

I agree with Carmella though, I have a whole new perspective on people in situations where I previously would have been less understanding. I can now understand how different things can look from the outside and how you can have a very pure feeling in your heart that appears bad to others, if that makes any sense.

[atomic sagebrush]

Funny you should mention that but I keep thinking when I see people I wonder which element of their lifestyle had swayed that gender. My friend whose little girl is the same age as my son had had a recent loss and she used to smoke so I think that swayed girl for her xx

and in many cases, the ones that don't have the "right" lifestyle have the Mary-Martha issue coming into play. I knew a gal who was petite to the point of frailness but OMG her personality was a total dragon lady! 4 boys.

[carmella_marie]

I once heard someone say "everyone's fighting a battle you know nothing about" and to therefore treat everyone with as much grace as possible. I try to do that now, knowing how hard my own GD is.

[Adia]

and in many cases, the ones that don't have the "right" lifestyle have the Mary-Martha issue coming into play. I knew a gal who was petite to the point of frailness but OMG her personality was a total dragon lady! 4 boys.

I have definitely seen this! Can think of many examples!