Have you told anyone about your sway?

[soontobesix]

Hello All!
I'm new to this board and very appreciative of all the information and supportive environment you have here on GenderDreaming :happy: I've been spending endless hours trying to read everything I possibly can to figure out how to sway blue after having three sweet little girls! I am the picture perfect example of what a girl sway looks like... probably 2-3 times the recommended amount of calcium daily, eat hardly any meat or salt, exercise like crazy, etc. It makes a lot of sense now! I started my boy diet and supplements last week and am planning to start TTC at the end of August.

One thing I'm wondering though... have any of you told anyone (other than DH) that you are swaying??? I haven't told a soul and don't even know if I want to fess up to my doctor. But I'm sure he'll wonder when he asks what meds I'm taking and I have a nice long list of supplements :bigsmile: I just don't think anyone else would understand (but of course all of you ladies!).

[begonia]

Welcome Soontobesix! STBS, for short, perhaps?!? Join us on the monthly blue thread in TTC boy; it's a sticky, it's something like If you want Blue this is the thread for you ... anyhow, it is a great thread for general support as well as specific answers to your boy-sway questions.

I haven't told anyone about my sway ... DH isn't into the idea of it. So it's just little ol me and my cyber friends here :happy: I mean DH does know that I changed my diet, vitamins, etc. It isn't like I kept him in the dark on it, he just wasn't going along and doing whatever it is DH's who sway do.

Anyhow, I just don't want anyone to think if we have a 3rd DD (I have 2 and am swaying boy) that I will be upset with that. The truth is I will, of course, or I wouldn't sway... but it won't be extreme and I'll get over it fast, and I'll pray long and hard for some grandsons. But people have looooong memories, and I'd just hate for people to see her ten years from now and ever think her parents somehow didn't think the world of her, KWIM?

Good luck to you!

[TTC5]

I have told my sister and a very good close friend! Only told them a few weeks ago lol

[twinkle]

Im swaying pink but just wanted to say im the same just people on here know im swaying and also ttc we have kept quiet as well, less presure. Dh isnt into the whole swaying thing and doent want to change his diet. He is aware that i have changed mine and that im taking sups. I havent told anyone else just incase we have another boy i would hate people to think i would love the baby less if it was a boy. Good luck with your sway

[rainbowflower]

my DH told my mum (to my annoyance as I hadn't wanted anyone else to know) because he wanted her to tell me how stupid I was because of how unhealthy the girl diet is, but actually she was really supportive and that surprised me!

[3boys]

My mother in law and Best mate know. I think DH has told a few of his pals as they noticed he had stopped drinking beer and coffee!! Apart from my mother who I don't want to know I am TTC period (thinks three is enough) I will tell whoever asked about it. I do not feel ashamed or wrong for wanting to try for a girl. People can be cruel though so I understand why people keep it to themselves.

[swish]

Hi and welcome!!! I haven't told anyone else but dh for the very reasons other people have said. It is really hard to keep a massive change of diet in secret though!! Good luck!

[Zivic-Bubac]

Nope, my mission is top-secret :cool: lol! Only DH knows of course and he promised to keep his mouth shut!

He is not on board, he feels we are done having kids :rolleyes:

[tweedledeedum]

just DH knows here too. Might tell my sister tonight, though.

[Out of the Blue]

Only DH knows...I don't want to deal w/other people's comments as all of this is hard enough and sometimes puts me in a fragile state. DH is really sweet and supportive and he'll take any sups or do anything I ask him to do...even abstain. He's my rock!

Best of luck to you, STB6!

[DoulaMama]

Welcome and good luck to you!!!
As for who knows we're swaying....my mom, my 4 closest girlfriends, my hubby of course and you guys! I'm a very open person and my friends have known I've wanted a girl for years, so they aren't shocked at all and are very supportive. One of my friends has 2 girls so we've been discussing what she needs to do to increase her chance of a boy :) It's fun! As for my mom....if she had gone on to have 10 children they would have all been girls! LOL So she's a fountain of knowledge when it comes to swaying because she's a prime example of how to get a girl! LOL

[zanacal]

Hi and welcome :D

I hadn't planned on telling anybody except DH but my sister knows. First she was at my house while I was making a sandwich and she wondered why I was using unsalted butter and I made something up about trying to lose weight and salt making me bloated - then a couple of days later I was at her house and I casually (I thought!) asked her if she was dieting when she conceived her little girl. She figured it out straight away!!

[soontobesix]

I'm glad I'm not alone in not wanting to tell anyone! I've contemplated telling my sister, but she has one of each so I know she wouldn't understand. MaybeI'll tell my mom... after I'm pregnant!!! I'm just not sure what I'm going to tell my doc... anyone have an OB get mad at them for taking the supplements or doing the diet? Just curious.

[Glittergirl]

Welcome!!! Dh knows and one of my sisters know. Although she has NO idea the extent I go as far as pH testing. I just mentioned I'm keeping low salt and lots of dairy because "I heard" that increases your chances of a girl but I have kept it low key even to her. She doesn't know I go on this site every day and really research it LOL! My mom knows I'm trying for a girl and she has mentioned it to some family but again it's really low key. I'm playing it off like I kinda want a girl so I'll do a few tweaks and if it's a girl...then great. Reason being: if I have a boy, I want everyone to be just as happy for me and celebrate him just like they would if it's a girl. I don't want anyone's pity because I know I will be just as happy with another darling boy. Dh isn't so into it as I am...he was going along and when I got preg in April we were thrilled only to have a miscarriage so now he's just not into the whole sway anymore...it was a let down :(

[atomic sagebrush]

My experience in life has been that it's best to never tell anyone anything at all ever about anything and swaying/gender disappointment are no exception! :) ;)

Welcome STBS, glad you found us!

[begonia]

My experience in life has been that it's best to never tell anyone anything at all ever about anything and swaying/gender disappointment are no exception! :) ;)


LOL!!! This is totally my philosophy :bigsmile:

[purplepoet20]

Hubby knows of course...

A good college gal pal of hubby knows but she is very supportive and is happy with my weight lose and self control. She is currently 4wks pregnant with her third and wants a girl but doesn't think she could do the diet so she is expecting to have another boy. With the info I got from her she has 60% chance at having a girl.

I told one of my cousins because he has 3 girls and his wife is 15wks pregnant. They want a boy so I told them about me swaying so maybe if they have a girl they will join this site in a year or so.

I told a neighbor only because I wanted to ask her some questions because she has two girls and her neighbor friend has 4 girls. I don't care what they think only because they are not friendly with me so whatever they have to say I don't care. But I did learn that they both lost weight before conceiving and ate very little. The other neighbor drank 12 diet sodas a day and they are smokers.

I mentioned the swaying to my SIL and my dad... they both rudely said I would be doing so much work and just end up with another boy. POO on them! SIL just doesn't want to loose her step-MIL's attention because she has 1 child who is a girl.

I would love to tell my MIL because she really really wants a girl. She would be the one to go out and buy whatever we need but I really want to surprise with either a picture of a girl or at delivery. She loves the boys and DS1 always says he is grandmas-boy (never anyone elses) and grandma has to sleep in his room when she comes to visit. DS2 is to wild to sit still but he has always goes to her if I am not around.

I don't tell my older bro or sisters anything because I know it would get back to my mother and she is the type of person who sees a mom with 4 kids of one gender and 1 kid of another gender and has to say to them "you just had to keep trying for a ____". My mother had GBGGB and she wanted my younger sis to be a boy and my younger bro to be a girl, ha on her. My mother thinks anyone who has more then 2 kids is after a certain family balance but look at her.

[Mochagirl]

I've never made my desire for a girl a secret at all, so I told my 4 closest friends and my Mom about swaying. They don't know all the gritty details, but they do know about the diet. There's no way I could have kept it secret anyway - I have a reputation for loving food and never dieting, so they would definitely have noticed I'm not eating much of anything. I'm so happy I told them all, because it means when I don't have to hide anything when I eat with friends. It also takes a lot of stress off me to be able to complain to people IRL about how hungry I am!

[Layla]

Other than DH, I have told my 3 closest girlfriends that I am on a "boy diet" that is it. I did not really want to tell them but they did think it was a bit weird when I was closely examining their eating habits over the last year or so (they all have 1 DD each followed by 2 DSs) and asking them questions like so what did you eat before you conceived DD, did you eat the same and "did you always put salt on your sandwitches" etc etc. One is really supportive and keeps telling me that the diet is right and it will work because it matches completely what she ate before DSs as opposed to what she ate when she conceived her DD. The other wanted another DD and tried Shattles with DS2 but it did not work and wishes she knew about the diets, but is considering having another one so wants to see how I go. The last says stuff to me like "you will always only have girls." She is a bit like that though she is a great friend and does not mean to be b...hy, so I don't get upset but I don't talk to her about it anymore. Other people in my family know that I have always wanted 3 kids and expect me to have another one so it is great that there is no pressure or expectation on the gender.

[Mommyof3boys]

My mother and family also think three is more than enough. So we are not telling anyone either. I plan on acting like we accidentally got pregnant because of irregular cycles after my iud had to be removed.

[bigchrista]

Hi and welcome! No one knows about my sway. Not even dh. I like atomic's stance on swaying.