Just got BFP- just know it's another boy

[Houseofblue]

I just got a BFP yesterday and I was really excited at first, but now it's sinking in that this is most likely another boy. This is my last shot at a girl. When I was PG with DS3 I just KNEW he was a girl!!And then the 11 and 12 week u/s's came and the 11 week (it was late 11 week, 11w6d or something) got ALL girl guesses on the u/s board (this was back on IG)...I was sooooo excited and the nub def looked very girly. Then I had to get another u/s a week later and it had risen a tiny bit. Posted it and got 50% girl 50% boy votes...was feeling a little worried but felt somewhat confident because one of the u/s techs on IG said it still looked very girly (the other one said boy). So let's just say I was absolutely floored when I was told boy at 20 weeks...it was awful. Of course that little boy is now 3 and the light of my life, but I can't shake this want of a daughter.

I just feel like why even hope? I obviously can't make girls. :( I just hate having hope and then having it dashed. And this is my last shot, dh and I agreed no more kids after this.

Sorry, just venting. <sigh>

[Rosie85]

aww hun I think there are a lot of us just like you. I am going to feel the exact same way, I already do and am not even pregnant yet but I know it will be another boy despite all of my hard work. I keep trying to remind myself we all have a chance, in the least it's 50/50 and eventually the other side of the coin has to show up and hopefully it will be this time. I know there isn't a ton to say that will help. My advice is to prepare for a boy, grow your love for him as much as you can and then either be pleasantly surprised with a daughter or be told boy and be more accepting of it since you have already created a place for him in your heart and family make-up.

[LilithWiser1979]

I am in your EXACT same boat, Houseofblue. Got my BFP yesterday, and I'm having a mini panic-attack that I just did all this to make another boy. I just HAVE to be confident that I did everything I could, and know that what was meant to be, will be.

Oh! I did want to say that if you want an accurate nub guess, go at 13 weeks. Anything before 12 weeks (even 11w6d) is a 50/50. The further along you are, the better the guess. It's over 90% after 13 weeks! I had a "96%" girl guess with DS1 at 11w6d, and I now know I will choose to wait for 13 weeks to get a more accurate guess (although, I plan to have results from Panorama weeks before that, though!)

[Houseofblue]

Thank you Rosie and Lilith!! Congrats on your BFP Lilith!! :)
I've been having a little panic attack too, like I'll be one of the few that did a good sway and still got a boy, grrr. I just have this feeling like it's not in the cards for me to have a girl or something...I've had that hope going into each PG and then spend the rest of it (well most of the rest of it, I do get excited in the last month) depressed and upset.
Lilith very true about the nub shots! This is only the 2nd time I've heard about the Panorama...what is the test for? Must be something new b/c I have never had it before. I am 36 btw is it something they give "AMA" moms lol? I don't know if I even want to know that early- more time to spend depressed lol.

[atomic sagebrush]

I was so sure my DS 3 was a girl, and he's the most boyish boy that ever lived.

[kitkat18]

Congrats lillith!! We are all.in the same boat :) like Rosie I have well I hope I have prepared myself for another boy , we have a name picked out, a boy colour.planned for nursery I just don't want to get my hopes up!! I haven't even had my BFP yet. Know you did all you could to try for your DG and be kind to yourself xxxx

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[Little Lunasa]

Thank you Rosie and Lilith!! Congrats on your BFP Lilith!! :)
I've been having a little panic attack too, like I'll be one of the few that did a good sway and still got a boy, grrr. I just have this feeling like it's not in the cards for me to have a girl or something...I've had that hope going into each PG and then spend the rest of it (well most of the rest of it, I do get excited in the last month) depressed and upset.
Lilith very true about the nub shots! This is only the 2nd time I've heard about the Panorama...what is the test for? Must be something new b/c I have never had it before. I am 36 btw is it something they give "AMA" moms lol? I don't know if I even want to know that early- more time to spend depressed lol.

Congrats on your bfp :)
There's always the chance of getting your DD, don't despair. One member on here was 100% certain she was having another boy when she got a surprise bfp after her mirena fell out, but in fact it's a girl she is having.
The panorama is a non invasive test that they can do from 9 weeks that looks for genetic abnormalities and can determine gender by analysing small amounts of foetal blood in the maternal blood. Its over 99% accurate.
Best of luck :)

[LilithWiser1979]

Panorama is AMA indicated. I think it costs about a hundred dollars after insurance, but it test for a LOT of chromosomal abnormalities. I think it's worth it. They didn't have these maternal blood tests when our last sons were gestating :)

[SamS_TTCPink]

I know how you feel! As soon as I got my BFP I was freaking about it being another boy! After the problems yesterday though, I'm now positive it's my girl but I'm going to lose her! 😢
Gender desire really is an emotional roller coaster!!


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[mommymachine]

I just wanted to pop in and say that I was in your exact shoes about 3 years ago. The hope for a girl was enormous but I often thought about "what if I only make boys." I knew nothing about the nub theory when I got my scan with her at 11w6ds so I didn't even know I could take a peak. So I wondered and wondered for weeks. I went in for a scan at 17 weeks and they couldn't see anything and told me to come back in 10 days. Those 10 days took forever as you can imagine. Then to be told girl at 19 weeks was the most bizarre feeling in the world.

So, no, none of us know whether your new little bean is a boy or a girl, but I just want to let you know that there IS a possibility of it being a girl. And I know sometimes its hard to imagine...if someone told me after DS3 that I would have 2 girls next there is no way I would have believed them.....but it IS possible.

Congrats on your BFP!

[Houseofblue]

THANK YOU so much ladies, hearing your words does help, at least knowing you know what I am feeling and knowing there is hope. ;)
With my 3 boys I always tried to think boy and prepare myself for a boy each time, not allowing me to look at girl stuff, etc, and I was still floored at each u/s. Towards the end of the PG's I did get very excited about meeting my little guys, and of course when they were born I was in love, but those months after the u/s's were HARSH. :( That's why I don't think I would want to find out at 9 weeks. :/

[iluvmy4sons]

I just got a BFP yesterday and I was really excited at first, but now it's sinking in that this is most likely another boy. This is my last shot at a girl. When I was PG with DS3 I just KNEW he was a girl!!And then the 11 and 12 week u/s's came and the 11 week (it was late 11 week, 11w6d or something) got ALL girl guesses on the u/s board (this was back on IG)...I was sooooo excited and the nub def looked very girly. Then I had to get another u/s a week later and it had risen a tiny bit. Posted it and got 50% girl 50% boy votes...was feeling a little worried but felt somewhat confident because one of the u/s techs on IG said it still looked very girly (the other one said boy). So let's just say I was absolutely floored when I was told boy at 20 weeks...it was awful. Of course that little boy is now 3 and the light of my life, but I can't shake this want of a daughter.

I just feel like why even hope? I obviously can't make girls. :( I just hate having hope and then having it dashed. And this is my last shot, dh and I agreed no more kids after this.

Sorry, just venting. <sigh>

Hugs!!! I would prepare for a boy just in case. I did with Liliana I knew she had to be another boy. I was very shocked. I do hope you hear girl. I knew my 4th son had to be a girl. Everything pointed to a girl and when I heard boy I was also upset.

[Pinkmeup]

I am in your EXACT same boat, Houseofblue. Got my BFP yesterday, and I'm having a mini panic-attack that I just did all this to make another boy. I just HAVE to be confident that I did everything I could, and know that what was meant to be, will be.

Oh! I did want to say that if you want an accurate nub guess, go at 13 weeks. Anything before 12 weeks (even 11w6d) is a 50/50. The further along you are, the better the guess. It's over 90% after 13 weeks! I had a "96%" girl guess with DS1 at 11w6d, and I now know I will choose to wait for 13 weeks to get a more accurate guess (although, I plan to have results from Panorama weeks before that, though!)

Congrats Lilith and house of blue!! I too am feeling as anxious as I am excited (got my BFP on Saturday and due 14 dec), but as long as we know we did all we could, within reason at least we got our bfp's! I'd never heard of Panorama either but will ask if it's available in Spain. I think that's the best thing, to find out as soon as so we can come to terms and learn to accept if needs be. I'm surprisingly less bothered now than I was. I don't know if you can I agile how I felt when I found out that every one of my tripkets was a boy, when I'd hoped for one girl!!!! They are seven now and truly adorable in every way, so I'm at peace that I would love another and also that this my absolute last shot... Fx we will all be blessed with our hearts desire.... Is there a dec due date buddy forum yet? I couldn't see one. X

[SamS_TTCPink]

I know how you feel Pinkmeup. When I was pregnant with our twins I was certain they were girls and then when we found out they were boys I was crushed! I had to have weekly ultrasounds and every week I'd get them to check the genders! Lol!! They'd get so cross at me, especially as they were identical but I'd make them check both "just in case" 😉

Hope we all get our girls this time! 💜💜


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[kitkat18]

I really hope you all get your girls xxx

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[Mrs_Incredible]

When I got pg in jan, I was sure it was a boy, blighted ovum mc, now sure it was a girl! Pg in February, caught the next egg - convinced its a boy to have fallen so quickly, had a bleed at the weekend, was sure I was about to mc as my symptoms had eased, then convinced it was a girl. Baby still snuggled in nicely yesterday at reassurance scan .... Back to being positive it's a boy! Don't think for a second I can make or carry a girl. At least with the knowledge we now have, I won't spend my life blaming dh for only making boys!!


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[Houseofblue]

At least with the knowledge we now have, I won't spend my life blaming dh for only making boys!!


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Lol that's how I feel too, esp since all 3 of my (long-term relationship) ex's have ALL had gone on to have daughters (no sons!!!)...WTF!!! lol ;)

[Mrs_Incredible]

At least you're with the man you love!! I sometimes wonder what my ex has kids wise, but even if it's a ton of girls i never ever wanted to have kids with him (even tho we lived together lol)!! My oh was my "one that got away" .... luckily we were meant to be 4 years later! X

[SamS_TTCPink]

Lol that's how I feel too, esp since all 3 of my (long-term relationship) ex's have ALL had gone on to have daughters (no sons!!!)...WTF!!! lol ;)

I've often thought that if my DH left me (he almost did for a much younger girl a few years ago that wasn't much older than our DS1 😠) that I bet he would have girl with someone else. I'd be so cross and I think he would then "blame me" for us having all boys but I'd also be more worried that she'd be his "favourite" and our boys would be pushed aside.

I don't think it would happen if we're together and have a girl but if he wasn't with us I'd be worried it would.

I think too much!! 😉 lol!!


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[Houseofblue]

HUGS Mumofsix... your dh would be a total dick to leave you with 6 or 7 children, esp with someone so much younger.... I hope and pray you get your girl, but for YOU ;) Big hugs girl!!

[kitkat18]

Hear hear house of blue!! Xx

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