Do you look at your DG's baby stuff online before you know gender?

[Houseofblue]

I'm soooooo tempted to look at baby girl stuff online...in the past I never allowed myself to because I was worried if I had a boy it would make my GD worse. So I didn't. I've never bought any baby girl...anything (unless it was for my niece or a friend's kid etc). I also didn't want to jinx anything......well it obviously never helped!

I want to look but am afraid to... I know it's not logical but I am still afraid it'll jinx it, and make me feel worse when/if I hear boy.

What about you guys? Do you look and dream?

[sweetdream]

I did! And do. I have Some girly outfits. Its just what it is. It night make it worse. Sometimes my hart akes. But it also night give some satisfaction.

[SamS_TTCPink]

Yes I do! 😞


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[Mulberry Smurf]

I just look at baby clothes in general they're so cute :) although I do pay particular attention to the dresses in monsoon (uk). Before we knew we were having a boy last time round I picked out a little sister sleep suit just in case - although we didn't buy it! We bought the little brother one instead which had an awesome hat attached and was much cuter than the sister one thankfully!! I think it depends on the kind of person you are as to whether it's helpful or harmful to do that. Only you know the answer to that really xx

[kitkat18]

Hey ladies I don't see the harm :) I often look and think of my friends DDs which is still fun but not the same :( xxx

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[WillowsGirl]

I don't look just because it makes my heart hurt. I don't even pin anything girly on Pinterest. But I don't see any harm in it if it makes you happy. :)

[LilithWiser1979]

I know better! If I even let myself look in the general direction of cute baby girl stuff, there will be tears and freakouts! I'm trying to pretend I'm not even pregnant until I get Panorama results. Silly, I know, but if I try not to even imagine a baby, then when I get results I can accurately dream about the one I'm having!

[bluebonnet22]

I prefer not to even look! Every once in awhile I'll get an email from baby gap with dresses on sale and just seeing the email makes my heart sink.

[Houseofblue]

Thanks ladies for weighing in!! Sorry for delay my computer has been acting up.
I prefer not to look but I want the satisfaction of feeling like I can kwim? <sigh>

[lfc_sarah]

I always see amazing baby girl clothes and my eyes are drawn to them! I don't go out of my way to look though as I would be disappointed that I maybe couldn't buy certain things I've seen!


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[momto4boyz]

I have a little bit, but I have sort of shut my self off from thinking girl. I think it is so I am not overly disappointed. I even bought 2 boy outfits because I just can't think there would be a possible way to have a girl. If that makes sense.

[Babybeaublue]

I have a bag full of baby boy clothes from before dd2 was even born so they must be about 9 years old! I can't bring myself to give them away tho. Also I haven't looked at them in about 3 years ( when preg with dd4) they are in my mums I was actually thinking about bringing them home but not sure what to do.

[Houseofblue]

Babybeaublue- did buying the clothes help or hurt? I was chatting with a good friend of mine who has 6 girls and bought boy clothes when she was first PG with DD6 and she said it sort of helped her in a way. I just worry if I buy a girl outfit that looking at it will bring me a lot of sadness if this is another boy?

[Mrs_Incredible]

I find myself catching a glimpse of the forbidden fruit, sighing/smiling at the cute outfits and walking away. I was going to virtually girl shop (by saving links to nice things, as this is my absolute last baby and therefore my last chance to kid myself on) til its confirmed boy but I think that will set me up for too much heartache x

[Houseofblue]

Mrs Incredible, this is my last baby too...I hope and pray we both get to buy pink this time!! In the past I never let myself think girl for a second, to protect myself, but I was still so upset at the u/s so I don't think it helped me at all? My friend with the 6 girls said buying some boy stuff helped her because even tho she didn't use it, it felt like she had a boy for a few months. So it got me thinking, will buying a couple girl outfits help me too? Or will I feel worse?

Are you going to do the Panorama test? My doc wants me to since I am over 35...it tells gender too (around 9 weeks). That won't give me very long to daydream tho lol.

[Mrs_Incredible]

I'm 38 and in the uk it's £650 for the test. Trying to find a day dh can go with me so might be another few weeks. Maybe get a blatant nub before then but I'll still do the test. I think I'd be lost if I had to buy pink for myself. Probably realise that a lot of it isn't all that I thought it was lol, would still like the experience! Also I'd get into debt for a girly pram regardless of my dh thinking we are reusing ds3's!! Xx


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[Babybeaublue]

Buying the clothes made me happy because I had only one DD at the time and felt sure I was bound to have a boy at some stage. After dd3 looking at them made me cry to think I would never have the baby they were intended for.

[Houseofblue]

Mrs Incredible- lol you made me laugh about the girly pram, because I am SOOO too buying the girliest stroller/car seat out there if I hear pink!!! Actually now that I think of it, I'm buying a new one even if it's not a girl, although like u I'm sure my dh will have a fit about it. I didn't realize you were further ahead than me, you're at a stage where you don't really need the Panorama (as long as you're doing the NT scan and other D.S. tests). Can't wait to see your nub shot! Hoping it's very very flat and girly!!!

Babybeaublue- mmm, see that's what I'm worried about...that I'll buy some adorable outfit with ruffles on the butt, something I fall in love with, and then I'll hear boy and looking at it will be a knife to the chest. <sigh> I hope you hear blue this time and can use those baby boy clothes you bought!!!! Please take all my blue dust I don't want it or need it!! ;)

[Babybeaublue]

Babybeaublue- mmm, see that's what I'm worried about...that I'll buy some adorable outfit with ruffles on the butt, something I fall in love with, and then I'll hear boy and looking at it will be a knife to the chest. <sigh> I hope you hear blue this time and can use those baby boy clothes you bought!!!! Please take all my blue dust I don't want it or need it!! ;)

Thank you! Have my pink I have sh*tloads

[Mrs_Incredible]

My sister was given a 1:17 chance of a baby with ds. My nephew was born in January and although 6 weeks early was just perfect. All that stress and worry clouded her miracle but high risk pg (she's been diabetic since childhood). Another friend was very low risk after the nuchal test, yet her son was born with ds. I'll do the nuchal tests but feel the harmony type blood test will give me accurate info x


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[Houseofblue]

Thank you! Have my pink I have sh*tloads

I will gladly, happily and joyfully take it from you!!!! ;)

[Houseofblue]

So I did it. I went to Carter's yesterday (to buy clothes for my 2 younger boys) and bought a pink/salmon colored girl sleeper with bows that says "Daddy's Princess"!! It felt good. I know there is a good chance I won't be able to use it but it felt good to buy something for *my* daughter, whether or not she exists. I went home and immediately hid it in a tub of clothes. This is the first time I have ever ever ever bought girl baby clothes for myself...usually I don't allow myself to even LOOK at them. This was sort of vindicating in a way. If I hear pink I will wrap it up and give it to dh. If not, not sure what I'll do with it or how I'll feel, but I don't regret buying it.

[Mrs_Incredible]

Wwww that sounds beautiful! I'm beginning to think I should do some pink shopping these next few weeks .... Before I say goodbye to the dream forever!! As in, never again in my life will a daughter be possibility and it's making me pretty sad xx


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[Babybeaublue]

Aww it's just so nice to buy the "opposite" colour isn't it?!!? :)

[Houseofblue]

It really is!!!!!!!

[kitkat18]

Good for you house ofblue!!! Mrs incredible you should why not??
I've always been too scared but I might for this one when i get my BFP!! same reasons as you guys xxxxx

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[Mrs_Incredible]

Too late! Saw a turtle at 12+4 (no pic tho) so it's blue again for me! Xx

[SamS_TTCPink]

You must have good eyes Mrs_Incredible! I never know what they're looking at during scans. Lol!! Did the sonographer comment on whether or not they thought it was another blue bubba too?

[Houseofblue]

Mrs Incredible, I thought potty shot (turtle) are no good until 15+ weeks?? Did you get a nub shot, from the side? That's what will give you a much better idea. I still think you have a chance at pink, I have seen girl nubs on the u/s board that I swore were boys!!

[Mrs_Incredible]

No nub shot. Typical. Felt the turtle said enough!! Told everyone it's a boy. That way there's no more questions and I can get my head round being an all boy mum as we are done after this buba. Baby factory is too old and dh went over his initial number of kids by 100%, we've done our bit for overpopulation of our house and the planet :) xx


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[Houseofblue]

I think what you're doing is the healthiest, that way you can accept earlier and be totally surprised if you're wrong. :) Congrats on healthy bub Mrs Incredible! I feel you on the age thing, I'm 36 (will be 37 in Dec).
Not to give false hope but I just think a turtle at 12 weeks means nothing...I remember when I used to post on IG, Charlie Cats (a u/s tech on there who was REALLY good at seeing gender early on) wrote a post about "why not to get a potty shot at 14 weeks" because she said it was totally unreliable at that stage...if it is unreliable at 14 weeks it is most DEF unreliable at 12!! I can't help but think it's still 50/50 for you, but I do think it was a smart move to tell people boy.

[Mrs_Incredible]

Thanks houseofblue!! The boys told their entire school they are having a Brother as an announcement of my pregnancy today, we only told them on Monday, so that saves the whole "you hoping for a girl?" conversations from even taking place. I'm up and down just now. I mean, how bloody hard can it be for a girl sperm to beat the boys, just once ...!!!???? I mean seriously. Dh will have 5 boys, surely we flipped the coin enough times lol. Ah well, just now I'm waiting on results on downs etc, so that's really my next big hurdle, all going well and I might start to enjoy the excitement of being pregnant (outwith the times I've been scanned and been amazed to see this little buba go from a blob to a fully formed baby in such a short space of time, that has been amazing & I've felt really excited that I might just get a take home baby!) Only thing is I have another front lying placenta, gutted, really wanted to feel every squirm and wriggle from my last baby, that was as disappointing as seeing the turtle, I hoped to luck out on one or both of those things, can't control a thing about pg can you!!? Xx (i will be 39 in September and baby due November!)


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[Houseofblue]

Aw glad you're getting excited!! :) I kwym about it landing on heads just once! I always wonder how so many people get one of each, right out of the box!
Are you going to have anymore scans coming up? I'm gonna cross my fingers that whatever turtle you saw disappears, still think there is hope for sure since you're so early! :) FXed all the genetic tests come back good too!
I'm not excited yet about this PG, wish I could "get there". I mean it was planned and everything, but all I do is worry. My doc called yesterday and said I am a carrier for CF (so is my sister), I was never tested before since my dh is a different race and it is rare for people in his race to be carriers. Our 3 boys are totally fine so not TOO worried but now they want dh to get tested etc and I am full or worry...wish I never had it done, only reason they did it is because I am now over 35 (which makes NO sense as being a carrier of something has NOTHING to do with age!!!). I worry about something wrong w baby, worry abut gender, worry I won't be able to handle another kid, worried no one will be excited for us, etc...wow what a Debbie Downer am I lol.

[Mrs_Incredible]

That sounds just like me this entire pg! I had little bleed this morning, suddenly I'm thinking "that's what I get for being ungrateful because of gender". Got checked and all seems well, not a scan tho, so I guess I better just suck it up and accept things. Spent ages last night looking at potty shots at 12/13 weeks. Went full circle back to it definitely being a turtle!! Feeling slightly crampy today which along with the bleed has freaked me out. Feel exhausted and can't wait til bedtime xx


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[Houseofblue]

Mrs Incredible, have you bled anymore?? Can you get in for a scan? Was it brown or red? Do NOT blame yourself for the bleed!! These things happen. A bleed later in PG (after 12 weeks and after seeing a good hb etc) usually doesn't mean something is wrong with baby but something else is going on, like an infection (such as a yeast infection) or a simple hematoma, etc. Later on in PG (later in 2nd tri or 3rd tri) it could mean placental abruption which is serious, my mom had it with my brother but he was fine and just born about 5 weeks early...but again this doesn't usually happen until later on in PG. I would get a scan right away to ease your mind, if they give you crap about it act CRAZY (I've done this before and been seen immediately lol). I bet all is ok, but it is always good to have a peace of mind...sending prayers to your little bean! Please keep me updated on how you're doing!!

[Mrs_Incredible]

Thanks houseofblue. It's fine now. They checked me over and found baby's hb, took a sample to check for infection. I'm picking up his hb on my Doppler it's 150-170 so feeling reassured that all is ok for now. Usually use tapatalk for this site but miss seeing the tickers!! How are you doing? Xx


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[Houseofblue]

Oh that's great news Mrs Incredible!! SO glad all is ok! I have a Doppler too, aren't they the best? :) It got me through all of my PG's, I had many losses so was always on pins and needles.
Happy Mother's Day to you!

[Mrs_Incredible]

Happy Mother's Day houseofblue!! Xx


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