Help for our next attempt

[Abifasc]

Ok, so not unexpectedly, we did not get pregnant our first month ttc. Honestly, I had my hopes up really high that we would, but that's ok.
For this past attempt, we did one attempt at +opk! dh took a long hot shower before, and I j&d afterwards.

For this attempt this month, dh thinks we should make more than one attempt at +opk in the same day. I think we should just drop the hot shower and the j&d.

Advice?:pinksperm:

[aidansmum]

I'm sure you'll do what sounds right to you, but I would drop the J&D and still do one attempt! Good luck, keeping my fingers crossed for you x

[carmella_marie]

I'd keep one attempt as it's getting great results. Are you temping? As on, are you sure of O day? Maybe bd every 4 days (that's still one attempt I'm your fertile window) and skip the jump and dump ?

[Abifasc]

Ok thank you! That's what I was thinking. I'm not temping- I did when ttc my boys and decided it would be a "Martha" thing for me. I may try the every 4 days method though...we don't want to drag out ttc although we do want our best chance for a girl!

[carmella_marie]

I've found that I get +opks quite a few days before I O and sometimes get a weird +OPK even a week before O. Although I have some thyroid issues that affect Lh and other hormones. so a temp shift is the only way I know I O'ed for sure. I totally understand not temping as to not obsess and get all martha but opks are not always 100% so bd every 4 days may help.

Honestly you should be GLAD you got a BFN this month-- it means whatever you're doing is lowering fertility a lot and that sways girl ! Please please don't do more than one attempt! That is the one thing I would go back and change about my failed sway. One attempt is getting great results so stick with it!!

[Abifasc]

Ok great, we'll stick with one attempt! Since I'm not temping, and don't know exactly when I'll get the +opk should we bd on that day and then 4 days later just to insure we have an attempt around o?

[carmella_marie]

I just thought that if your husband wanted to do more attempts you could "appease" him with the once every 4 days and still be getting in one attempt, plus not worry about temping.

[Abifasc]

Ok. He is just worried that we won't conceive with only one attempt.

[maidentomother]

It is pefectly possible to conceive with one attempt and should be the LAST sway tactic you drop. I am convinced multiple BD attempts within the fertile period (even, if not especially, 2 attempts close together on the same day) are why most past sways failures occurred. It shouldn't be too easy to conceive, either- that's the point!

[Abifasc]

Ok thank you! My boys were conceived with multiple attempts so it makes sense to me why one attempt would sway.

[bluebonnet22]

FWIW, I haven't started TTC yet, but for our first month we plan on a long hot bath beforehand and J&D (and FR with one attempt).

I'm a total martha, so I've already planned if we don't get pg on our first attempt we will drop the hot bath and J&D and stick with the one attempt.

Sounds like you've got a great plan - GL this month! Like you, our DS was conceived in the first month but with multiple attempts in my FW (3 I believe?). I'm thinking the one attempt will be a big change and should help!

[Abifasc]

Honestly, I'm not really a Martha type or type a personality, but I'm a planner which makes it bad for swaying pink!

[atomic sagebrush]

he is wrong and you will really cut odds of pink with more than one attempt.

drop everything but diet and exercise before dropping one attempt.