Trying to figure out best frequency for me...

[deaks66]

As it stands if I attempt this month it will be at o+12 (I'll consider dropping this after a couple of months perhaps). Would it be better to attempt this after abstinence (if so how long?) or after every 4 day releases? If the latter, I presume the releases are better if not bd? Presumably however if that option is chosen it might not coincide with o+12 right as my cycles are far from clock work meaning I could end up with an 0+12 after a release 2 days before or something. I guess this is what makes me think abstinence would be better but is it rubbish for swaying girl or rubbish for getting pg altogether? Sorry for the ramble x

[deaks66]

Thinking about it...what with dh being 35 (with an adequate sperm count, not brilliant by a long stretch) and me and my mildly dodgy fertility being 34, perhaps i need to rethink the abstainance! really want to stick with o+12 at the minute though as i get a sky high ph during ov.

[Pink rose 76]

Hi Deaks, I tried swaying in between ht cycles and had a miscarriage early on. I always put it down to the ridiculous long abstinence we did, 30 days. I think you are right that abstinence for too long may not be good but if it's in between a week and two it's supposed to be fine. And I did 0+12 a lot easier to pinpoint than o-days.

Good luck Hun. You'll have to keep us updated on the ht group ;)

[deaks66]

so perhaps around 10 days abstinance is good? trouble is ov can be very delayed so its impossible to judge it which makes me think dh should release every 4 days up until our attempt. But i just dont want to do anything that sways boy at all. decisions...

i will keep you updated. another ht cycle isnt out of the question but i just dont know how much more of it i can handle... feel like someones trying to tell me something!

[deaks66]

Another question to add to the list on this thread, how many times would dh need to FR if we did go down that route? Atomic i know im a pain and im sure you have probably answered these a million times but id so appreciate your wisdom!

[HopeandDreamG]

Deaks- go for frequent not abstain. And can you get clomid?

[covered in blue]

Just found the frequency essay. Thought it might help someone if I link it here :) http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/5636-frequency-bd-pink-blue.html

[deaks66]

Deaks- go for frequent not abstain. And can you get clomid?

Need to research the clomid. As for FR I really want to but if I have a very long cycle I think dh will end up struggling. Was thinking though if I use opks and get dh to start FR when the second line starts appearing. I'm sure that would be a good week or so before ov. Might add a lot if stress though x

[Luvmyboys]

so perhaps around 10 days abstinance is good? trouble is ov can be very delayed so its impossible to judge it which makes me think dh should release every 4 days up until our attempt. But i just dont want to do anything that sways boy at all. decisions...

i will keep you updated. another ht cycle isnt out of the question but i just dont know how much more of it i can handle... feel like someones trying to tell me something!

Deaks, this is me too. I feel like someone is trying to tell me to avoid ht...

[atomic sagebrush]

The answer is...it depends.

I don't recommend abstain for guys over 35 but yours is right on the fence, and the nice thing about abstain is that it really is a lot less stress than any of the other frequency patterns. WE haven't gotten great results with any of the frequency patterns, unfortunately.

If I may suggest a compromise, I'd have DH release every 2-4 days and then whenever you plan on having your one attempt, do a hurry up FR - have him release once, dump it, then DTD again as quickly as you're able to and use only that second batch for insemination. I think it's the least stressful option without having to do abstain.

[atomic sagebrush]

Just found the frequency essay. Thought it might help someone if I link it here :) http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/5636-frequency-bd-pink-blue.html
thank you! I do want to mention that I don't feel the frequency patterns have gotten the results we'd need to see to justify their existence, BUT if you want to play around with them, that is of course up to you. But be sure you guys keep the one attempt longer than the frequency, because one attempt is getting it done!

[atomic sagebrush]

Another question to add to the list on this thread, how many times would dh need to FR if we did go down that route? Atomic i know im a pain and im sure you have probably answered these a million times but id so appreciate your wisdom!

once daily for 7-10 days. I am really not loving this method any more though. It is making people get too stressed out and inhibiting odds of conception way too much, and only to not sway at all anywya.