Siblings with close birthdays

[Jamie86]

I'm on CD 21 and am on my 2nd day of a "high" fertility reading on my clear blue advanced ovulation test (it is suppose to read high for 2 days and peak for 2 days). I was "supposed" to ovulation 2 weeks ago (based on past cycles) and I knew that would put my EDD in the same month as DS1 and I didn't think it was a big deal. However now my EDD (if we conceived of course) would be the day of DS1's birthday. The birthdays we have so far are spaced equally one in March, one in June, and one in September. We haven't made an attempt yet and I'm looking for any experience with siblings with really close birthdays and the pros and cons. Do you think it matters that it will be a 7 year difference as oppose to siblings close in age with close birthdays?

[Abifasc]

When this baby is born we will have a dec (Christmas Eve) birthday, January (dh), feb (this baby), March (ds1) birthdays. I just shop the other half of the year and save up so I don't have to spend so much at one time and we'll do birthday parties every other year-ish. My bday is in June.

[atomic sagebrush]

mine aren't THAT close but are two weeks apart and also in the same month as Christmas (my 4th son's bday is 3 days away from Christmas) and I ended up liking it that way. It doesn't detract from the festivities, it adds to it.

[Jamie86]

I guess that's why I'm having a hard time we are all so spaced out (in our immediate family) we have January (DH), March (DS1), June (DS2), September (DD), and November (me). But when I start to think about extended family my sister's is 3 days after DS1 and my moms is 4 days after DS2 and DD's is 1 day after FILs.

[Jamie86]

mine aren't THAT close but are two weeks apart and also in the same month as Christmas (my 4th son's bday is 3 days away from Christmas) and I ended up liking it that way. It doesn't detract from the festivities, it adds to it.

Yeah I was thinking about that too, that the celebrations will just be bigger and we can be sure to make each feel special. DH was having a hard time letting go of some past stuff so he is the one who started me worrying about it but then I reminded him (and myself) that we are nothing like his family. He has a nephew who is 1 year younger and who's birthday is a couple days after DH's. However their family dynamic is pretty dysfunctional. DH was adopted and the biological children of his parents didn't agree with the adoption because his parents were older in age (hence the nephews and nieces so close in age to DH) so they often treated DH like a second class citizen of the family and sharing a birthday with someone they considered "real" family made it worse.

[Jamie86]

We actually had a pretty cool joint birthday for my sister and son! She was turning 18 and he was turning 1. They each had their own cake and we had pink and black decorations on one part of the house and blue sports decorations on the other and it was the best birthday party we've had for any of our kids. How I forgot that until this moment is crazy!

[TRL]

I have three in March and 1 in February. Clearly my fertile time! I just go into Bday mode, and make all plans and once and pull through. Then I am done for the year. Not a big deal at all. I always do separate birthday party's. There ages are spaced out. If they were closer in age then maybe I would do a big party together. I don think that's a reason not to try a get pregnant.

Good luck!


3 boys and 1 HT princess!

[Rosie85]

Not siblings but my birthday is November 3rd and my second sons is November 4th. I dislike it a lot actually because no odd wants to go out two days in a row and it would be too much cake for both of us to get our own so I've basically stopped celebrating my birthday at all. A few days in between would be better! Or even the same day.

[Jamie86]

Not siblings but my birthday is November 3rd and my second sons is November 4th. I dislike it a lot actually because no odd wants to go out two days in a row and it would be too much cake for both of us to get our own so I've basically stopped celebrating my birthday at all. A few days in between would be better! Or even the same day.

I'm sorry that really sucks! My DS1s due date was actually April 8th but I was induced 2 weeks early. However my next two I had naturally and DS2 was born 2 days after his due date and DD was born 4 days before. So I'm hoping that the due date being on his birthday will make them at least a couple of days apart. Although the whole issue may be moot, we might not even get a BFP this month (past experience we always conceived 1st month trying but that doesn't mean it will happen this time).

[Rosie85]

Ha I'm sorry! I didn't mean to complain. I was being honest though. But we all know moms bdays aren't important anyway haha. It will be what it will be and I'm sure it will all work out. My husband was due on the same day as his brothers bday. He came 6 days early so it worked out perfectly.

[Jamie86]

No problem at all. But I agree about the moms birthday thing. This past birthday my husband was trying to tell DS1 it was my birthday and he just looked at me and said "ok what's for breakfast." And IF I get gifts and IF they are wrapped the kids are the ones to open them. I was thinking if my due date happened to be on his birthday it more than likely means they won't have the same birthday given how few babies are born on their due dates. No matter what I know it will work out. I posted in a moment of panic but the more I think about it the less of an issue it really seems.

[hotdogz&boyz]

I actually enjoy having birthdays close. My boys are a month apart, which is kinda far on the "close spectrum" but its great for parties (we do joint so no one really gets "jipped"). My mom and I are a week apart AND it's the week of Christmas (I am the 18th, she is the 25th) and we have a BLAST having our days so close. We always make it special for the two of us and it does kinda feel like the holidays are "ours." We both really enjoy having our birthdays close to one another and my mom even said that she wanted me to come ON her birthday, since it was such a fun one to have.

I don't think close birthdays detract from the specialness of them. I think you can play it up to make them even more fun. (My brothers were also only about 3 weeks apart in birthdays and they enjoyed having big joint parties despite being 4 years apart).

(That said, I do have a cousin whose twin brothers were born on her 8th birthday and she kinda didn't like it for many years. Until she was an adult, since it felt like they took her day. But there were other aspects coming into play there. But I think having close birthdays is more fun than the exact same one. Although folks work with everything they are given!)

[blueeyedguys]

Ds4's original due date was 3 days after my birthday & ds3's was on dh's birthday. Neither of them came those days, ds3's is 6 days after dh's & ds4's is 20 days after mine.

I was kind of sad because I grew up in a family where my dad's birthday was April 27, my sister's was April 28, my mom's was May 3 (& her dad's was May 2nd). I was all alone in Janary (& adopted, turns out)

We have birthdays Jan 9, Jan 29, Feb 27, March 3, July 15 & Aug 19, so there's a bunch pretty near each other. It's a bit overwhelming, especially so soon after Christmas and it is influencing when we're hoping to conceive.

[covered in blue]

My first 2 have birthdays on consecutive days (24 months apart), and my brother and I have our birthdays 2 days apart. It really hasn't been a problem at all. We have done combined birthdays, and separate birthdays. Whatever works at the time. As long as everyone has their own cake and presents it's all good :). I wouldn't worry about it. Get BDing lol.

[ratcliffe1811]

My older two boys have 2 weeks between their bdays they are also close in age (11 months) so I usually use the weekend inbetween as a party day, inviting school children isnt too bad as my middle munch only has 5 in his class so theres plenty of room for my eldest's friends

[SamS_TTCPink]

Rosie, were the same. DS2s birthday is a week before mine, DS5 is a few days before mine, my mums is 2 days after, then it's Mother's Day and then DS6's is a week after mine...so my birthday is forgotten about too. Even growing up, I want allowed to have a party or anything as it wouldn't be fair on mum or we'd have a joint family party but if I wanted balloons or something I was told no, because it was mums birthday too.

And now as a mum, there's been a few years where my birthday has been totally forgotten all together, but even if it's remembered I'll get a "oh yeah, happy birthday" if I'm lucky. No presents, no going out, no cake, nothing.

But I always make sure our kids have the best days every year despite being close and I think they actually like having close birthdays. It's just expensive for us! Lol!!