Does spacing between pregnancies affects a sway? How?

[Dreamsplanner]

Hello,

How could pregnancy spacing affect a sway? Is it the closer together, the more pink the sway or not necessarily as it may depend on other factors?

Thank you

[Dynazyme]

Breastfeeding sways pink. So one fact that maybe argues for pregnancys close together?

[lovemy2blessings]

I agree w/pp. My SIL's all had babies back to back less than 13-15 months apart and have girls, so maybe it does.

[atomic sagebrush]

I think close spacing between pregnancies tends to sway pink (due to Trivers Willard hypothesis - lower maternal condition = more girls) BUT at the same time my Fertility Theory predicts that people who are ABLE to get pregnant sooner may be coming in more "set" for boys to begin with. It ain't always easy to get pregnant with a quick turnaround and those who are able to do so, may be in better condition than those who cannot.

[atomic sagebrush]

Breastfeeding sways pink. So one fact that maybe argues for pregnancys close together?

But at the same time breastfeeding can prevent ovulation from coming back except in those who are in super high condition! It's a very tangled web!! Overall, I do think close spacing between kiddos and breastfeeding both tend to sway pink (and are very probably among nature's ways of altering the gender ratio) but no magic bullet to be sure. Thus, above all else ladies, do what is RIGHT for you and your family. Don't rush TTC trying to get a girl, because it can be tough to have two super close together. :)

[atomic sagebrush]

I agree w/pp. My SIL's all had babies back to back less than 13-15 months apart and have girls, so maybe it does.

My husband and his little sister are super close together and she is a girl! :)

[eleena2014]

how does large age gaps sway? i have a 12 year old and a 8 year old,lol and will be ttc starting august!

[Dreamsplanner]

But at the same time breastfeeding can prevent ovulation from coming back except in those who are in super high condition! It's a very tangled web!! Overall, I do think close spacing between kiddos and breastfeeding both tend to sway pink (and are very probably among nature's ways of altering the gender ratio) but no magic bullet to be sure. Thus, above all else ladies, do what is RIGHT for you and your family. Don't rush TTC trying to get a girl, because it can be tough to have two super close together. :)

Thank you Atomic, that's a tough one, but of course I will see how it goes and take it a step at a time, as breastfeeding did not work for me last time. It could be different this time. Thank you again for all info x

[hotdogz&boyz]

Mine are all what I consider "close together," although the definition of such varies depending on the person. I conceived when my children were 15 months, 11.5 months, and 13.5 months. So, right around the year mark each time. The 15 month conception (22mo spacing) was a second boy. The 11.5 month conception (19mo spacing) was a girl. And we don't know what the 13.5 month one is yet (we will in March).

I *personally* think you can make a close gap work for swaying, but don't depend on it alone to get you a girl. I think it does tend to sway pink, for various reasons from the general lack of sleep (from having a baby) to the breastfeeding to the potential for ovulation to be less regular and even because sex is often less frequent with a small baby in the house (thus increasing the chances of a one-attempt conception). But I agree with Atomic that some women bounce back from pregnancy and childbearing much quicker than others and thus might be naturally inclined to have a boy because of that recovery of health.

I think that if you were to pile swaying on top of a close gap, you would further increase your chances of pink, much like I did with my daughter. I am hoping that what I piled on this time is enough to lean pink as well. But I 100% agree that putting what is best for your family FIRST before a swaying tactic is always the right way to go. We have a super-busy household right now (4.5, 2.5, 14 mo, and preggo). Which is what we wanted, all the kids close. But if it wasn't what we talked about beforehand, we would not have tried for close spacing simply because I thought it was more likely for pink (heck, my aunts boys are 11.5 months apart...meaning she was pregnant at 2 months postpartum. So I know it's not a magic bullet!)

[3girl]

I got pregnant with DS2 when DS1 was 10 months. It wasn't planned. But---I was eating a lot of boy friendly foods, eating lots of calories, and taking loads of boy friendly supps (didn't know it at the time). I was not breastfeeding anymore at that point.

[ratcliffe1811]

I have 11 months between my eldest two, they are both boys. There's 2 years between my youngest and middle munchkin and again all boy! That aid other stuff I was doing would have swayed boy so who knows lol

[atomic sagebrush]

how does large age gaps sway? i have a 12 year old and a 8 year old,lol and will be ttc starting august!

I don't think they do. That large a gap, your body would be fully recovered from childbirth and it wouldn't even really matter any more.

[atomic sagebrush]

Thank you Atomic, that's a tough one, but of course I will see how it goes and take it a step at a time, as breastfeeding did not work for me last time. It could be different this time. Thank you again for all info x

Well, none of these things are a magic bullet at all. If something sways 5% of the time (which is statistically speaking, HUGE) and you come into TTC 75% set for a boy, and you end up 70% set for a boy, it still swayed pink for you but that's still gonna be a heck of a lot of boys.

FWIW I got 3 boys without breastfeeding, and a boy and a girl with breastfeeding. I think it helped.

[Hopingforaprincess]

my oldest two are 17 months apart.

[Hopefulmama]

My boys are 29 months apart. DS1 was 19 months when I conceived DS2 and I was still breast feeding. Albeit only for naps/bedtime.


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[Dreamsplanner]

Thank you everyone, I know it is not a magic bullet, DS was conceived when DD was 13 months. I was not breastfeeding though as it did not work out, I only managed it for her first seven weeks and then my milk supply just went.

Maybe I will try closer spacing next time around if DH is OK with it and it feels right.

I like closeness in age between little ones, as I hope that will bring them closer together, plus I am already 36...

[Hopefulmama]

I would love to have mine closer together. They would have so much more fun together. Unfortunately the timing didn't work out for us bc DH job. But if you can swing it go for it! Good luck :)


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[atomic sagebrush]

I really, really want you to stop and think for a minute DP - 2 close age gaps back to back will be tough on you physically and emotionally and your son also deserves to be a baby for a little while. I just really hate to see you put yourself and your son into a position that may not be desirable for something that is very far from a magic bullet. If that is your preference for other reasons then that is of course your choice, but just gives me pause as a sway tactic. :)

[The Anchor]

I was swaying boy...but I literally conceived on my DD's first b-day :wink:

Oh, AND I was still bf'ing...

[Dreamsplanner]

I really, really want you to stop and think for a minute DP - 2 close age gaps back to back will be tough on you physically and emotionally and your son also deserves to be a baby for a little while. I just really hate to see you put yourself and your son into a position that may not be desirable for something that is very far from a magic bullet. If that is your preference for other reasons then that is of course your choice, but just gives me pause as a sway tactic. :)

Thanks a bunch AS, yes my reason to try to sway early was to TTC a girl. I believe you are right and I should know that :wink: It has been so tough this time working full time and being pregnant with an active one year old. DH had to step in and help with so many things and we are both exhausted with no family around to help. I do agree I should connect with DS first and then start again for a third when I am ready physically and emotionally...

[atomic sagebrush]

Having 21 months between DS 3 and 4 was one of the hardest things I ever did and I had two teenage sons available to help! I think you're making the right call. :)

[Dreamsplanner]

Thank you Atomic, out of curiosity what is the age gap between your DS4 and DD? How did you manage coping with that, if too short of a gap? Thanks a bunch

[atomic sagebrush]

DS 3 and 4 were only 21 months and in addition my 3rd son is very difficult. So it was even MORE difficult than it would be otherwise.

DS 4 and DD were closer to 3 years apart (2 yrs. 9 months) and while it wasn't easy, it was a heck of a lot easier than the previous experience! DS 4 is an easier child as well which helped.

[Dreamsplanner]

Thank you atomic, helpful to know! Hope DD will be OK and not give me a hard time when DS arrives, she seeks attention all the time already... I admire you and all moms out there with more than 1 child, I think people cannot understand how hard it can be for us until they had kids... I will definitely take all these in account TTC next time

[justalittlepink]

My DS2 was conceived when I was ebf DS1, who was only 5 months old when I got pregnant. 14 months apart and they are both all boy! Oops, but now it's nice because they play really well together (now they're 3 and 2).

[2blue1pink]

DS1 and DS2 are 18 months exactly apart--it was pretty hellish the first year. They play together but they also fight a lot. I would not have kids that close intentionally again! (DS2 is difficult, to say the least!) We are ttc now that he's 20 months so we will almost have 3 yrs between them.