Why...oh...WHY Did I have to look?

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

So, in the middle of my TTC, my brother and SIL announce their pregnancy. At my grandmothers 75th bday party yesterday, she passes her U/S pictures to me and OF COURSE I look. :( Mrs. TOTALLY BOY LIFESTYLE is most likely having the girl I so desperately want. I do not know how reliable 12 week potty shots are, but there are 3 pretty distinct dots there. I wanted to cry. In fact when I got home, I did cry. I know if God wants me to have a little girl, I will...it's just SO HARD. I just want to crawl up on the couch with a pint of ice cream and pout. LoL

[coocoobananas]

:(
That would hit me like that too!
Hope you get your girl too one day:)

[foxymrsg]

Oh god I feel your pain I gad that with SIL, didn't see a potty shot but all up convinced myself she was pregnant with a girl and so did she! She didn't even believe 20 week scan that told her boy and wasn't till he was born that she finally accepted it but I related to her to a degree as know that yearning for a girl so bad! However had she had the girl I'd be sick to my stomach and be feeling awful! It was a torturous 8 weeks for me for sure after her 12week scan! Thinking of you Hun

[dreamingofwin]

Its hard. My sister in law had the girl she desperately wanted a few months back. She'd made it very clear she didn't want a boy which offended me. She hot her dream for her first child. Even though I knew it was a girl from 20 weeks I sobbed when she was born. I think seeing her name, a girls name with my surname tipped me over.
My other sister in law is due a baby next week. Not sure on the gender, I am telling myself girl to prepare myself but know it'll hit me just as hard x

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

Yes...it is hard. As women, we long for that mother/daughter bond. I think, sometimes, people just don't understand that yearning or think you're being selfish for wanting a girl so badly. I guess all we can continue to do is pray and sway :D On a different note, does anyone know just how reliable a 12 week potty shot is? It looks classic girl to me, but I keep reading that they both "supposedly" look the same at this gestation?

Praying we all get those girls we want so badly!!:pray::XX:

[foxymrsg]

I think I read somewhere that at 13 weeks is the most reliable for nub shots so could possibly be too early? Was it a side shot or actual potty shot? Personally I wouldn't say potty shots that early are reliable at all. Think private gender scans will only do them from 16 weeks.

[QueenB3blue]

When my SIL was pg with her son she swore it was a girl called it by name even. It drove me crazy! Then she found out she was having a boy and I felt relief:( now she is pg with her daughter and I have to go to her baby shower that she is hosting herself in a couple weeks.....not excited.
Anyways, I think 12 weeks is really too early for a potty shot. I think a "nub" view is what people go by at that gestation:)

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

This was an actual potty shot, just not sure from what angle....The nub was straight...didn't look "forked" like some, but the potty shot had three clear either lines or dots or whatever you want to call them and there did not seem to be anything protruding out. I could be totally wrong, I just know as soon as I looked at it my heart started racing and I felt sick. I just knew it was a girl. I am happy for them, I truly am, it just makes my longing much worse. QueenB I can absolutely see why you are not excited. I am sure I will have similar feelings if SIL's is a girl.

[Hopingforaprincess]

I feel your pain!! My step sister had a little girl after her boy...I cried for awhile but now I know if it's meant to be it will happen for me.

[QueenB3blue]

I really think a potty shot at 12 weeks is too early. Both genders look the same from that view because the part haven't separated yet. So you will see 3 lines or dots boy or girl. I am NO expert but I really think gender could go either way from what you noticed in those pics.

FWIW, I know how you feel:(
And......I can't help but hope my sil pics were wrong and she is actually having another boy!!! It is awful! I know!

[jmomof3girls]

I hope you get your girl!

[Nahri]

I feel you. I wanted a little girl the first time around and shortly after announcing our pregnancy my husbands cousin announced they were pregnant with a girl. First girl in his family in DECADES. Jealousy reared its ugly head that they got the girl they wanted. To make matters worse because of the rarity of girls in the family their child was the star and still is for all the attention and our DS is off to the way side. But that is ok because he does n't need such petty people in his life. And because fate hates me guess who just announced they were pregnant again while we have been secretly TTC... And with the amount of zyrtec and vegetarianism in that house they are likely to get another girl oh joy here we go again >_< So dont feel bad we all have those thoughts it just comes with the territory of wanting something with all your being.

[lyagirl]

Oh gosh, I would be and have been the same! Everyone around me has had girls except me! My SIL had a girl 4th time so I'm hopeful after 2 boys. Love my boys to death but sooo want that girl. My dh laughed at me when I cried when my niece was born and told me I was selfish. He understands a bit more now. I just long for that little girl to share girly things with. There's only so much blue, green, monsters and super heroes I can try to relate to!! lol

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

I know the feeling lyagirl!! :) Hopefully we'll get our girls :fx:

[Petal]

GD is a horrid horrid emotion, its affected me for around 10 years now, ever since my ds2 was born. Ive since had ds3 and 3 rounds of ivf pgd and im finally pregnant with a girl but the strange thing is, it still bothers me when friends get girls! a good friend of mine is having her first baby, a girl and I just felt that pain hit me again, such a horrible feeling. I pray you will get your daughter too hun, we all deserve them :-)) x

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

thanks, petal :)

[LilithWiser1979]

It's probably best to be prepared in case she does have a girl. Even with a complete boy sway lifestyle, opposites are totally possible.

Having said that, a potty shot at 12 weeks means NOTHING. Potty shots are completely unreliable at this stage, and even a nub shot (from profile, no other angle) is better at 13 weeks. Mrs. Incredible was CONVINCED she was having another boy because of a turtle she saw in a potty shot at the NT scan stage. She is having a girl.

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

The nub shot I saw was side profile and pretty darn straight, no fork, but no rise (yet)...I'll just silently prepare myself and wait and see :D I didn't really know how reliable the U/S is at 12 weeks it just looks SO like later girl u/s...I'll be patient.... and CONGRATS on your girly Lilith!!:flowerz:

[Linzshine32]

FWIW I totally would have reacted the same way. It's weird - when someone tells me they're pregnant (someone I know IRl) I almost immediately know if its a boy or girl based on my reaction. I really get upset when i'm not happy for my friends having the girl I desperately long for. I feel so bad!

[LilithWiser1979]

Also keep in mind that pretty much all nubs are straight and flat early on, and some are late risers. I trust a boy nub guess at just about any point, since once they rise they don't fall, but I only trust a girl guess after the 13 week mark.

Thanks for the congrats. It's been amazing! Good luck getting yours :)

[atomic sagebrush]

12 week potty shot is not reliable at all. Useless as a matter of fact.

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

I keep hearing that, I just looked and saw nothing poking out in between the legs and three little dot/lines and of course my mind went crazy :)

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

Can/do boys have the "three dots/lines" starting out as well with nothing in between the legs? If it were a boy wouldn't there be SOMETHING there? I don't have the potty shot I looked at available but here is the profile pic...I don't think you can tell a lot from it, though. I am wondering if the skull looks more boyish...


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[QueenB3blue]

I think early on both boy and girl could have three dots/lines. For a girl the middle dot/line becomes the clitoris. For a boy it becomes the penis. I don't see a nub in this shot. I think maybe you had this pic up in the ultrasound board.

Time will tell:)

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

THanks for the input. I've only ever had boys and never knew enough to look at Nub/skull/potty shots early on to get any clues. I thought maybe someone else would know if boy U/S can have three lines/dots as well as girls :)

[atomic sagebrush]

Can/do boys have the "three dots/lines" starting out as well with nothing in between the legs? If it were a boy wouldn't there be SOMETHING there? I don't have the potty shot I looked at available but here is the profile pic...I don't think you can tell a lot from it, though. I am wondering if the skull looks more boyish...


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Boys and girls have identical genitalia at 10 weeks (both have girly-bits). It's only at that point that the Y chromosome kicks in and begins to make testosterone that causes the girly-bits to turn to boy bits in boys. This process is barely started at 12 weeks and cannot be distinguished from a potty shot.

I would stop obsessing over these pics hun. Focus on your life and don't worry about what she has going on. :)

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

I'm good with my life, thanks :) I asked more for my own info. I like knowing things and have no idea how the gender thing progresses during pregnancy. I went blindly through 3 pregnancies, barely looking at ultrasounds (which I have since pulled out to see what I can see) and since this will be my last pregnancy, I probably ask too many questions, but I'm more curious. (thanks to this site) Kinda want to know what to look for when I get my nub pics and THOSE, I will be obsessing over...I don't think I'll be able to help that. LoL Thanks for all your knowledge, it's appreciated!

[atomic sagebrush]

Ok sorry, didn't mean to offend in any way! Happy to explain, just never sure if someone is really uptight or just curious. :)

[Nahri]

I feel you. I wanted a little girl the first time around and shortly after announcing our pregnancy my husbands cousin announced they were pregnant with a girl. First girl in his family in DECADES. Jealousy reared its ugly head that they got the girl they wanted. To make matters worse because of the rarity of girls in the family their child was the star and still is for all the attention and our DS is off to the way side. But that is ok because he does n't need such petty people in his life. And because fate hates me guess who just announced they were pregnant again while we have been secretly TTC... And with the amount of zyrtec and vegetarianism in that house they are likely to get another girl oh joy here we go again >_< So dont feel bad we all have those thoughts it just comes with the territory of wanting something with all your being.

yup they just announced today like I mentioned in the post from a few weeks back, its a girl. Here comes the ugly green jealousy monster lol

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

aww :( Well I hope you get your girl as well. It is hard seeing others get our dream, when it seems so hard for us to get it for ourselves. GOod Luck!