Kittybear
July 31st, 2014, 08:38 AM
My SIL just texted me to say that she has gone into labour; her scheduled c-section was booked for tomorrow but I guess baby has other ideas! :) Why am I upset? This is her second daughter. The first has the middle name I would have chosen had DS1 been a boy, and according to my FIL this baby will be The name I wanted to call the little chap I'm currently preggie with, if he'd have been a girl. I've also had to buy all the adorable NB stuff for their new daughter that I would have loved to buy for my child (pink! Cats! Bows! Etc), and DH totally doesn't understand why that is hard for me. I guess I'm just feeling like the butt of some hilarious cosmic joke right now, although I'm failing to see the funny side...
Just a bit of background; I'm not blood related to my niece(s), who is about as differently behaved to my DS1 as possible (she sits quietly, my BIL has nicknamed my son 'Danger Bear') and we rarely see them, so I don't feel close to them or really know them, so no satisfaction for my desire for a daughter from that POV. I don't discuss names before baby is born so it's not like they have done this vindictively, however my BIL did say to my DH when we knew DS1 was a boy (bearing in mind this was a couple of months before they even got pregnant with DD1) that we 'couldn't use Leon or jake' as those were 'his son's names' even before he said congratulations!?! WTF is that about??!! They've also peed me off recently as they gave my 2 yr old son a nasty, plastic, cheap bubble blowing MACHINE GUN (clearly labeled 3yrs+) for his CHRISTENING gift?!? I am absolutely dumbfounded by this (and horrified) and I've refused to give it to my boy. The b*tch in me was thinking of inappropriate gifts to give their daughter for her 2nd birthday (I thought of some slutty 'Bratz' type doll to horrify my BIL lol) in a few months time, but I'm not like that really so she will get a nice, generous, suitable gift that is completely unappreciated as per usual.
I'm also feeling sore as 2 of my NCT 'boy' mummy's were also pregnant at the same time as me (both team yellow); one had her daughter a couple of months ago and the other is due 2 weeks after me and I am CONVINCED she will also have a DD (from her 12 week scan nub) so I am dreading the prospect of being the only 1 with 2 boys (the other ladies had a dd first anyway) and that I might be ostracised from the group as our kids continue to grow up (they are only 2 at the moment) and the gender differences become more obvious.
Sorry for such a moaning, 'woe is me' post, just really needed to offload somewhere. I know I'm giving my boy the best present of a playmate and confidant for life, I'm just scared that my longing for a daughter will never leave me. I always imagined I'd have 1 girl (I'm an only child), soon I will be a mum of 2 boys. Life does like to surprise sometimes, doesn't it?
Xxx
Just a bit of background; I'm not blood related to my niece(s), who is about as differently behaved to my DS1 as possible (she sits quietly, my BIL has nicknamed my son 'Danger Bear') and we rarely see them, so I don't feel close to them or really know them, so no satisfaction for my desire for a daughter from that POV. I don't discuss names before baby is born so it's not like they have done this vindictively, however my BIL did say to my DH when we knew DS1 was a boy (bearing in mind this was a couple of months before they even got pregnant with DD1) that we 'couldn't use Leon or jake' as those were 'his son's names' even before he said congratulations!?! WTF is that about??!! They've also peed me off recently as they gave my 2 yr old son a nasty, plastic, cheap bubble blowing MACHINE GUN (clearly labeled 3yrs+) for his CHRISTENING gift?!? I am absolutely dumbfounded by this (and horrified) and I've refused to give it to my boy. The b*tch in me was thinking of inappropriate gifts to give their daughter for her 2nd birthday (I thought of some slutty 'Bratz' type doll to horrify my BIL lol) in a few months time, but I'm not like that really so she will get a nice, generous, suitable gift that is completely unappreciated as per usual.
I'm also feeling sore as 2 of my NCT 'boy' mummy's were also pregnant at the same time as me (both team yellow); one had her daughter a couple of months ago and the other is due 2 weeks after me and I am CONVINCED she will also have a DD (from her 12 week scan nub) so I am dreading the prospect of being the only 1 with 2 boys (the other ladies had a dd first anyway) and that I might be ostracised from the group as our kids continue to grow up (they are only 2 at the moment) and the gender differences become more obvious.
Sorry for such a moaning, 'woe is me' post, just really needed to offload somewhere. I know I'm giving my boy the best present of a playmate and confidant for life, I'm just scared that my longing for a daughter will never leave me. I always imagined I'd have 1 girl (I'm an only child), soon I will be a mum of 2 boys. Life does like to surprise sometimes, doesn't it?
Xxx