Hoping for either a girl or twins!

[Momi]

I am new to this site but would like info on how to sway for a girl but at the same time sway for twins! How do I naturally sway for twins and/or a girl. I had Mirena removed early august. I am drinking a lot of diary, taking 4 mg of folic acid, taking flax seed oil and planning on eating cassava. All advice is appreciated.

[Momi]

Anyone?

[Dana-Alicia]

You can find lot's of info on the sway forums or use the search tool. Good luck on your sway!

[stephk]

Highly recommend a personal sway plan from atomic, she will take all of the thinking and agonising away :) good luck

I don't think drinking lots of dairy is recommended here for a pink sway, definitely do some reading on the LE diet as this is the main thing most people do to sway.

Flaxseed is also not recommended but I can't remember the reason. Not sure what cassava is.

[Momi]

thanks i will look into other posts and find out what they have done

[atomic sagebrush]

Hi and welcome! Sorry I missed this one.

In my signature below, is a link to the Complete Index which has tons of info in it!!

I would lose the flax seed oil for a girl!

[Momi]

thank you I will check out your link. I heard flax seed oil sways twins. At this point it is my last pregnancy and would do anything (naturally) to conceive twins

[atomic sagebrush]

There is mixed info about how flaxseed sways and it is also very possibly not safe when TTC. I would stay away from it.

[Momi]

okay I will try to stay away from the flax seed oil and I was wondering if rephresh would be enough to sway girl. I really don't want to have to go on a strict diet.

[atomic sagebrush]

We are getting poor results with RepHresh and in fact all the jellies. THey are getting the same results both for those using them and those not using them, which are identical to the overall rates of the site, indicating they are doing nothing. They do drastically cut odds of conception, though.

If you don't want to do diet, that is always at your discretion. You can get a girl making mild changes in diet, though. Even if you only change one little thing, it may make all the difference. I know a lot of times people think if they can't do everything, they may as well do nothing, but it is FINE to only do just as much as you are able to do. Still better than a boy-friendly diet, YK??

I would stick to one attempt in fertile window above all else. That has gotten outstanding results for us.

[Momi]

I thought rephresh was the sure fire way of ensuring I would conceive a girl. I was looking at the LE diet and I normally have about 90-120 g of protein a day which seems like a lot looking at the diet. Would doing the diet for a month prior to conception be enough to sway girl. I already eat a low amount of calories and but I always need the high amounts of protein so I do not feel hungry.

[atomic sagebrush]

our numbers are clearly showing the RepHresh is not helping.

The reason why it's called "low everything" is because it's lower in fat, protein, and calories. Lowering calories may help sway pink but not as much as lowering everything is. :)

[stephk]

I allowed myself up to 60g protein a day on LE. It's easier than you think when you get started

[Momi]

I will give it a go! I hope it works! I would love to have another baby girl but I have been completely stressed cause I cannot stop thinking about my desire for twins so bad. If i have a singleton I will be happy but I am obsessed with the idea of having twins.

[ejk741]

Twins are cute. But most people fail to realize how dangerous it is to have twins. They are often born prematurely and sometimes there are lasting effects. I love my twins, but I am still dealing with post traumatic stress from my pregnancy, their delivery, and NICU stay. I won't go in to details, but please be thankful for a singleton. There are so many complications that can arise with twins that many people don't think about. When they think of twins they think of cute matching outfits and a "twin bond". They don't think of NICU stays, cerebral palsey, IUGR, TTTS, and even infant death.

[Momi]

With both my pregnancies I was hoping to conceive twins and was never disappointed when I found out I was only having one. This will be my last pregnancy and ideally I would love four kids but timing wise I can only have one more pregnancy. I understand that their are many risks and complication and I still cannot fight my desire. Its been a burning desire that atleast one of my pregnancies were a twin. I have read about the risks to try to stop the desire but it just so strong. Maybe its a clairvoyance into my future pregnancy. But again whatever I am blessed with I will be more than happy! I believe that people are only blessed with what they can handle. Power to you for being a strong mama.

[1+2+3boys]

I believed the 'you only get what you can handle phrase' and then I had twins! With an older child and not much help I did get post natal depression because I just couldn't do it all. In saying that though they are almost 2.5 and life is alot easier. I love having twins, they are so amazing and their unique bond melts my heart. The heart wants what it wants and if you do get twins then I hope all goes well for you. Goodluck on your sway. Mine are identical and I had a cold when I conceived. Also I had had a MC 4 months before, not sure if any of those things affected it. I had awful OV pain that month too. They are in mine and DPs family and were due to crop again so it could have been that too. Or if you talk to my DP he will tell you his super sperm split the egg in two!

[atomic sagebrush]

Please please please take the risks seriously. "God only gives you what you can handle" sounds fine on paper but it's different when one or both babies does not make it or has a serious disability. :(

I never thought twins were a big deal at all but I have seen SO many sad stories over the past 6 years that I have completely changed my mind. It's fine if you are going in fully informed but no one wants to believe it can happen to them.

[Momi]

Thanks for all the advice and suggestions. My heart still desires twins. I will be happy with whatever I get. I can say that I am prepared for the complications that can come with twins but I know that isn't true until I am actually in the situation. I cant help to feel the way I do and if I get pregnant with twins than whatever comes with it I will have to deal with it wheb the time comes.

[Momi]

I believed the 'you only get what you can handle phrase' and then I had twins! With an older child and not much help I did get post natal depression because I just couldn't do it all. In saying that though they are almost 2.5 and life is alot easier. I love having twins, they are so amazing and their unique bond melts my heart. The heart wants what it wants and if you do get twins then I hope all goes well for you. Goodluck on your sway. Mine are identical and I had a cold when I conceived. Also I had had a MC 4 months before, not sure if any of those things affected it. I had awful OV pain that month too. They are in mine and DPs family and were due to crop again so it could have been that too. Or if you talk to my DP he will tell you his super sperm split the egg in two!

Congrats on twins and the super sperm lol...thanks for your reply

[Dana-Alicia]

our numbers are clearly showing the RepHresh is not helping.

The reason why it's called "low everything" is because it's lower in fat, protein, and calories. Lowering calories may help sway pink but not as much as lowering everything is. :)

A funny sidenote to the name LE diet that has nothing to do with this thread but I'm going to share it anyway, is when I first read it, I thought it was a French diet :giggle: In my head I pronounced it in French too haha 'le diet!' :cool: yes, you may all laugh at me!

edit: only read the rest of the posts now. I also had a strong desire of twingirls. Because my husband only wants one more baby and I want two more. But I have suffered the loss of a child once before and I can tell you now: no one can handle that, no one. Grieving mothers are often told we are so strong and people don't know how we do it. Let me tell you this: I am not strong, we can not carry this grief, we are utterly gutted and it has destroyed a big part of my life and my family. I would never risk that happening again. So I am letting go of my dream of twins, because I do not wish that suffering onto my children. I know with a single pregnancy the baby can also die (I've been there after all) or get disabled or ill (been there as well!), but the risks are so much higher with twins. And nothing can prepare you for a doctor telling you 'I have bad news...'. You think you are able to carry the consequences now, but you will kick yourself if disaster strikes in your home, it's just not worth the heartache and trauma.

[atomic sagebrush]

There actually is a French diet called "Le Diet" LOL.

If I would have known this would take off like it has, I'd prob. have selected a different name!

[Dana-Alicia]

There actually is a French diet called "Le Diet" LOL.

If I would have known this would take off like it has, I'd prob. have selected a different name!

Nah it has a nice ring to it ;)

[trying4twins]

Momi, are you still swaying for twins? What's your plan?