Failed girl sway. Devastated beyond belief

[Kazmac]

Had 20 week scan on the 9th october. Found out its a boy and haven't really stopped crying since. I don't feel an ounce of excitement for this pregnancy now at all. If I had known I was going to be this devastated I probably would not have gotten pregnant. I'm 40 now so this was my last child and now my dreams of my beautiful daughter Sienna are gone. Everyone else's sways seem to have worked and I don't know why mine didn't. I feel robbed. Sorry for venting.

[nuthinbutpink]

So sorry. Big hugs.

[Dana-Alicia]

So sorry, vent as much as you need.

[sweetdream]

I'm sorry. Guess your boy was the 20-30% chance against him.
You can vent all you need.
I hope you can look forward in the near future again as I know you will adore your son.

Wish you strength

[Kittybear]

Hi Hun. I don't know if this baby is your first or if you have other boys. I had my second son a month ago. When I saw that he was a boy in a private gender scan @ 16 weeks I was gutted and only just made it to the car before breaking down. I swayed and prayed so hard for so long and I was bitter as to why I 'failed' when so many others succeed or just have an pops and get their DG.

Now he is here I can see him as my perfect opposite; he was just meant to be. I'm not saying that when other people get their pp it doesn't hurt like a b*tch because it does however as soon as I saw him and held him, all I knew was that I loved my CHILD I didn't even think of his gender.

You will be ok, give yourself time.

Xxx

[ever hopeful]

Not sure which number DS this is and so so sorry your sway didn't work. Don't give up total hope of having your DD just yet though, I had DS2 and DS3 at 41 and 43 (naturally) and HT DD at 45....after DS3 was born my dreams were all shattered too and I was in a very very bad place. It will get better I promise and you will fall in love with him. Hugs xx

[3girlsnwaiting]

Sending many bear hugs your way.

[Eneli]

Sorry to hear you. But you are young and can be pregnant again.... For sure your boy will be so cute and georgeous that when you'll see his face you'll fall in love with him. Big huges

[atomic sagebrush]

OH no I'm sorry it didn't go your way. It isn't anything you did or didn't do, it's just luck at the end of it all. :(

[Kazmac]

Thanks everyone for your support and kind words. This is DS2. I told my partner I wanted another child (girl) and he was not impressed! He just doesn't understand how I feel.

[Petal]

Huge hugs Kazmac, ive been there too, I was distraught when I found out ds3 was a boy, it took me a good few weeks to come to terms with it, but from the moment he was born we had such a strong bond, so much more so than with my other 2 boys at birth. He's my little gd baby and I love him so much more than I ever thought possible. You will too, im certain of it, ive said this a million times but theres something so special about a gd baby, they were sent to us for a reason.

Never give up on your girl though, she may very well be in your future ;-) x

[Mrs_Incredible]

My ig opposite gd baby is extra special too, melted my heart from the second he was born xx


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[Nahri]

If this is truely your last go around you have two things to mourn. The actual GD and the loss of a DD that will never be. You rant, scream, beat up pillows and get it all out any way you need to! Dont let anyone tell you that you are wrong for feeling this way and I know lots of other ladies on this page have been in the same boat and will tell you the same! It will take time and when you see your little man things will get better! *hugs*

[Mrs_Incredible]

We were sure ds3 was our last. I grieved for my lost dd dream, i cried and felt guilty for that but i knew i had to deal with it long before his birth. Then i shopped. I bought beautiful bedding, did his room, bought the cutest outfits i could find, new pram, gorgeous blankets .... Just like I would have had it been the girl I'd hoped. It sounds trivial but it helped to celebrate my new baby because it wasn't his fault I'd hoped he was a girl. It helped me bond with him. The GD still stung but it was secondary to my new little baby. It took us a few years to actually ttc again but my dh did it for me, not for the dream as we never imagined it would happen for us. Hugs xx

[keepthefaith]

How are you about things? Hoping you are feeling bit better xx