Jacqmarie
October 22nd, 2014, 09:20 AM
I am a working Mom of 2 little boys dreaming of a little girl to add to our family. I am not quite sure I want to go through with another pregnancy and I would love any advice! I suppose I feel guilty for wanting a little girl when I have 2 beautiful, healthy boys. I have many friends who would love to just have 2 healthy children. I am extremely grateful for what I have, but can' t help feeling my life isn't 100% complete. Also, while my husband and I have much love and more than enough financial reserves for another child, I worry about our age and energy level. I am turning 39 and my husband is turning 50. I fear the sleep deprivation newborn stage, and also the challenge of juggling 3 children. My family and friends, when I express my little girl dreaming and thoughts of going for child #3, simply tell me that I'm crazy. My brain keeps telling me to accept the beautiful family I have and move on, but I grew up among large families and my heart longs for a little girl. We used "natural methods" to try for a little girl for #2 but we were blessed with a little boy instead. I'd rather not rely on natural methods in the future since it's not that effective. Also, getting pregnant is a difficult process for me as I suffer from endometriosis pain when I am off birth control. I actually feel like a million bucks when I am pregnant compared to when I am trying to get pregnant!
So hear I am, off birth control since April 2014, with endometriosis symptoms having recently returned and beating me down, contemplating IVF/ PGD. Baby#3 would definitely be our last IF we move forward with this crazy dream of mine. I worry that the IVF process will be very painful/ uncomfortable combined with endometriosis, and also the IVF success rates do not seem that high for a 39 year old! Does anyone have any advice? Thank you and best wishes to you all.
So hear I am, off birth control since April 2014, with endometriosis symptoms having recently returned and beating me down, contemplating IVF/ PGD. Baby#3 would definitely be our last IF we move forward with this crazy dream of mine. I worry that the IVF process will be very painful/ uncomfortable combined with endometriosis, and also the IVF success rates do not seem that high for a 39 year old! Does anyone have any advice? Thank you and best wishes to you all.