Another weight question...lose as much as possible or just lose..

[PinkPaisley]

So I am small boned and only 5 feet tall. I have been a different weight when I got pregnant with all three boys. My first and second son I was probably around 115. My last son I was around 107 but had been 103 before and had put on a few pounds. I am now the heaviest I have ever been. So do I have to get below what I conceived my sons at or do I just need to be actively losing weight and the specific number doesn't matter? Thanks...I'm so confused!

[Out of the Blue]

Hi, PinkPaisley! I think the recommendation would be to lose enough to be lower than your lowest weight when you conceived. Even better would be to be at your lowest adult weight. It could have been that you started to gain w/your last son and that sent a signal to your body that things were looking up and that having a boy would be a great gamble. Maybe if you stayed at 103 or were losing a bit, your body may have thought otherwise and it could have swayed "girl" enough. I say "maybe" b/c we just don't know for sure and there are soooo many other variables which come into play when you conceive. I don't want to oversimplify things and make you think that if you'd only stayed there at that weight (or get to that weight or lighter again) that you would have had (or have) a girl.

I hope this makes sense to you. Sometimes I don't explain things very well...:worry: Best of luck! :luck:

[zanacal]

Hi PinkPaisley :D

I agree with OotB in that nobody really knows! It may be enough to be actively losing weight when you conceive because that will signal to your body that times are hard and that a girl would stand a better chance of survival, however I've decided to hedge my bets and lose as much weight as possible and hopefully get to my lowest pre-conception weight before we start ttc. But I have weight to lose and I know I'd wonder if I didn't do this - obviously you're not heavy to begin with!

Have you read about the low-everything diet? There are many studies which suggest that lower levels of testosterone in DW means a girl is more likely and a low protein diet is a good way of lowering testosterone levels. There is also evidence that low blood sugar levels are good for a girl conception, which is why we skip breakfast on the girl diets. So losing weight (even if only a little) on a low-everything (particularly protein) diet and skipping breakfast and limiting yourself to 2 or 3 meals each day might be enough for you!

I think you have to read the evidence and decide what is best for you :D

[PinkPaisley]

Thanks, Girls. I am still going back and forth on this one. If I wait until I am at my lowest weight it will be awhile before I can TTC, I am up to 130lbs. Highest I have ever been in my life! I am so anxious to get PG though so I might just go with losing some weight. I am going to really have to think about this because my gut says to lose it all before trying...

[zanacal]

It's difficult isn't it? I had my Mirena out in May and I was going to go on a girl diet for 6 weeks - I told myself I could do it because it would only be 6 weeks. But the more I read the more I felt I should lose more to have no regrets and we've finally decided to wait until September. I think you have to weigh everything up and do what your gut says.

[purplepoet20]

You have to loose enough weight fast to make your body think the food supply is to low to have a boy..... In the olden days when people had their own farms they tended to eat less and work hard. They were not getting enough of the good stuff so their bodies natural gave them girls. When Farms and Hunting was good and people ate a wide variety of the high nutri foods they had boys.

I have lost over 30lbs (10-15 is req) but since I am over weight I chose to loose more. I eat the veggies that are lowest in everything. Before I ate 2,500-3,000 cals, tons of fats/salt/sugar, and I always stayed the same weight... Now I eat 1,800 or less, no fats/sugars/salt, very little meat, and tons of fake sugar crap. I feel starved all the time but it has worked because being starved means my body is not ready for a boy.

[atomic sagebrush]

It is best to be at your lowest adult weight but you know, do the doable. Getting back to 103 may just be too hard at this point in your life. It may very well be that losing weight, even if you don't get quite that low again, you'll have lost a larger % of muscle mass and that will help sway pink.

[zanacal]

Atomic, I'm sure you've explained this elsewhere but I haven't come across it - what's the reason for it being best to be at your lowest adult weight?

[atomic sagebrush]

Atomic, I'm sure you've explained this elsewhere but I haven't come across it - what's the reason for it being best to be at your lowest adult weight?

Because you will be 100% guaranteed to have less muscle and therefore lower testosterone than you have ever had.

[queen-of-harts]

Well i have no chance of being my lowest adult weight when i sway but i did tell myself no swaying until i have lost 50 pounds.hopefully the shock of losing the 50 plus then starting the low everything for 2-3 months and hopefully losing a bit more will really be a shock to my body and it will say "whoa what the heck happened to me,i dont think a boy would be a good idea right now" I think 20 pound weight loss for a heavy person like me would sway fairly but a 50 pound loss would sway well dont you think?

[zanacal]

I'm aiming for 40-50lb too queen-of-harts and, for what it's worth, I think it's quite achievable on the low-everything diet in a relatively short space of time. I've lost 25lb in 7 weeks and there are another 6 weeks until my attempt so fingers crossed it doesn't slow down too much!

[atomic sagebrush]

Well i have no chance of being my lowest adult weight when i sway but i did tell myself no swaying until i have lost 50 pounds.hopefully the shock of losing the 50 plus then starting the low everything for 2-3 months and hopefully losing a bit more will really be a shock to my body and it will say "whoa what the heck happened to me,i dont think a boy would be a good idea right now" I think 20 pound weight loss for a heavy person like me would sway fairly but a 50 pound loss would sway well dont you think?

Losing 50 pounds will sway pink for sure!!! :agree: