My plan - will this sway at all?

[bodhi]

I'm getting ready to sway pink, but I'm not sure that you girls would even consider this swaying. I'd love some opinions as to whether what I'm doing is going to help at all.

I'm still breastfeeding my son, so I'm finding the diet very hard to stick to (I know, excuses excuses). I've decided to just make weight loss my goal. If I've lost weight, we'll try that month. I'm a vegetarian, although I was when I conceived my son, so I don't feel very confident that this will help.

I'm drinking Crystal Light and peppermint tea throughout the day.

My son was conceived with very frequent BD'ing through ovulation. Because of breastfeeding, ovulation isn't 100% predictable, so we plan to abstain for at least 7 days and then DTD once when I get a positive OPK. I plan to use Rephresh and take a single dose of benadryl before the attempt. Dh has been taking hot baths every night.

I'm not sure that I really believe in the power of ions, but I own a rock salt lamp so I'm keeping it on beside my bed. What the heck, right?

We've both been taking 1200mg of calcium and 300mg of magnesium daily, and I've been taking 1000mcg of folic acid. DH will take cranberry on the week of the attempt.

In all honesty, do you think I'm swaying the odds at all? I'm usually such an all-or-nothing, type A personality, but I'm not sure that I want to take that approach. Are there any other easy things I can do that make a difference? Opinions are appreciated

[Layla]

I think you are swaying. I definitely do not think that you bf is an excuse for not sticking to the diet. I was hungry non stop when bf. I was eating a lot. I know that the thinking on this and other forums is that it is good to TTC for pink when bf. But personally I do not think it is good to ttc when bf at all especially if bub is exclusively bf. How old is your bub? I would wait till he is 6 months old at least that way he will be getting nutrition from solids too and you can cut down on cheese and nuts and eggs (I assume u r eating a lot of them being a vegetarian) and can exercise a lot more and that would be a better sway and will be better for your bub. Up to you. Also we were atempting when I was bf dd2 but did not get pregnant. It depends on the person but I think bf prevents implantation. I know a few women who did fall pg when bf but their bubs were over 6 months and they had cut out the night feeds as their babies were sleeping through the night.

[rainbowflower]

BF itself sways pink too, doesn't it?

[happyheart]

I think that you are swaying! :) I am bf'ing my 18 month old. My cycles are still irregular and tracking my ovulation very difficult to do. I conceived both of my other two children while bf'ing. :) :)

[bodhi]

Thanks girls, that makes me feel a bit more hopeful.

Layla, my son is just shy of 10 months old and has a stretch of 9 hours of sleep before his first wake-up at night. Hopefully this will be enough to allow a pregnancy to happen. He`s eating lots of solids, so I feel pretty confident that he`s getting what he needs. Maybe the fact that it may take awhile to get pregnant is another good reason not to go too hardcore.

[purplepoet20]

I did a modified diet while bfing DS2 (from 12-17mths). He is a good eater and eats very healthy for a toddler. I lowered protein to 40g a day which is the min for a bfing mom, I do not eat potassium/omega rich foods but DS2 does, and I don't eat salty or sugary foods. I do take vita A, E, B6, iron, calcium, mag, folic acid, and other herbs to make up for anything that the milk needs and for my own vita issues. DS2 is 17mths 33inches tall and 26lbs and has not showed any signs of low weight gain or digestive issues.

Since I stopped putting sugar in my coffee I noticed that DS2 sleeps a lot better, I am using aspartame but plan to stop as soon as I get preg.

[atomic sagebrush]

I do think you are swaying quite well and if you're happy with that, I wouldn't change a thing (except telling you to give up the cal-mag pills...but that is a whole nother controversy)!!! :agree: You might like to read the following essay I wrote - not swaying at all is actually a kind of a sway!! http://genderdreaming.com/forum/showthread.php?3147-Beyond-the-cookie-cutter-Personalizing-your-sway

It is hard for people to wrap their minds around this, but for a pink sway, it may sway "harder" to do less and stay relaxed rather than to attack like a terrier and do everything. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/showthread.php?4263-Understanding-the-quot-Law-quot-of-Testosterone-Supply-and-Demand

[Layla]

Oh if your baby is 10 months and sleeping a 9 hr stretch you should be fine. My princess was still feeding 5 times per day including 2 times per night when we tried a couple of times to get pg. I agree with atomic that calcium sways pink. Oxford study that atomic has up in research section clearly showed that. Sorry to tell you this but 4 of my close friends fell pregnant with baby boys when bf their girls. So up to you maybe you can wait 2 months wean and then starve yourself for a girl up to you...

[bodhi]

Thanks for the advice. I know I could do a MUCH better sway if I were to stop breastfeeding, but I don't know if it's worth it. Getting pregnant with my son didn't come easily and neither did breastfeeding; I know I'd regret weaning him if it takes a while to conceive again this time. Each month it doesn't happen is another month that I could have kept breastfeeding, you know?

[zanacal]

I completely understand - and there's no way I would have stopped BFing at such a young age for a sway. I did 'kind of' stop so I could sway more thoroughly but my DS was 21 months old and only having a bedtime feed - which he wasn't even that interested in anymore! Good luck!

[Layla]

Thanks for the advice. I know I could do a MUCH better sway if I were to stop breastfeeding, but I don't know if it's worth it. Getting pregnant with my son didn't come easily and neither did breastfeeding; I know I'd regret weaning him if it takes a while to conceive again this time. Each month it doesn't happen is another month that I could have kept breastfeeding, you know?

In Australia the recommendation is to bf until 12mths old. But I do know how you feel. My dr knew that I wanted to try for one more child and was telling me to stop bf at 6mths old and then try, because of my age. She was saying basicly you are getting too old the first 6mths are the most important yada yada you should stop and try to get pregnant then (rather than for the sway). She and my endoctrinologist (who I had to c as I had gestational diabetis with dd2) firmly beleive that one should not ttc while bf. I did try anyway but did not get pg, but I was not monitoring o so who knows. Then I found out about swaying and stopped trying. But I decided to keep going with bf until 12 months at least. I also had 2 m/c between dd1 and 2 and did not want to wean at 6mths because I thought what if I do get pg and have another m/c I will never forgive myself it was soooo hard to get the bf right. DD2 was definitely loosing interest from about 11 months and preferred drinking from a cup with a straw, so it was not hard to stop at almost 13 months. Loved the bf though it is sort of a conitnuation of the pregnancy isn't it? I suppose you are not actually going on the girl diet and bf as that would not be good for your bf or for your fertility was what I was trying to say and also that personally I don't think that bf sways as such but that is my opinion only from experience of friends and is not based on any scientific research or similar. GL again and hope you will get your baby girl.

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks for the advice. I know I could do a MUCH better sway if I were to stop breastfeeding, but I don't know if it's worth it. Getting pregnant with my son didn't come easily and neither did breastfeeding; I know I'd regret weaning him if it takes a while to conceive again this time. Each month it doesn't happen is another month that I could have kept breastfeeding, you know?

I TOTALLY agree and I was very thankful I didn't stop breastfeeding when it took me several months to get pg with DS 4.

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh and I just wanted to let everyone know that my doc had no prob. with me conceiving while breastfeeding and I even bf throughout pg and tandem nursed, at the age of 38/39. Different doctors will advise different things based on their training, so always do your own research and decide what feels right for you.

[DoulaMama]

I TOTALLY agree and I was very thankful I didn't stop breastfeeding when it took me several months to get pg with DS 4.

These are my thoughts too:) I've gotten pregnant while nursing a toddler, 2 times now and I was able to nurse another 4 months after getting pregnant before they weaned(milk supply totally disappeared). I know that this time around, with swaying, I could have a much better sway if I weaned him(he's 13mos) but it's just not worth it to me. I feel the health of the child here with me now is more important than the potential of pregnancy.....and 2 different tries have left me with a BFN so I'd really be upset if I had weaned him. The WHO recommends beyond 2 years of bf and so far I've made it to 21mos with DS1, 20mos with DS2 and I'd really love to make it to the 2 year mark:) Hopefully I can with last 2 kiddos!