Please can anyone help?? What would u think?????

[AHopeR]

This is my story. My husband and I decided we wanted to do a gender reveal at our 20 week ultra sound. The tech had a student and seemed very distracted. The scan was very quick...and I looked very closely to see if I could spot gender. Since we had asked her to write the gender on paper so we could open it privately she didn't show us "the goods" at least to our knowledge. So she took a very clear potty shot doing femur measurements...very clear...both my husband and I saw NOTHING at all in between the legs...no protrusion at all. We have a boy and found out with our first and was shown a penis in between the legs. After the potty shot I asked "Just out of curiousity...do you know the gender...and she says "I THINK I know what it is." After the scan, she was just said "have a nice day, and forgot my husband and I wanted to know the gender...we had to remind her. SO she writes down on a piece of paper and my husband and I go out to the car to read "BOY". We were kind of surprised but are excited and have been buying blue and decorating for a boy. Fast forward to 26 weeks later...I decided to ask the OB Dr I saw to review my scan to confirm the gender...and after some long sorting through pics...he says "There is no scrotum visible or boy parts, so 50,50. I am so confused now...I know he must of saw the same shots my husband and I saw at the live scan which showed nothing between the legs. How certain would you all be after this experience. I should say my scan was at 19 weeks and 1 day..but baby was almost measuring 21 weeks. Please help!!!

I am starting to wonder....can you ever tell gender from a femur shot?!?!?!?!

[nuthinbutpink]

Well, you have to get another scan. There is absolutely no way to know for sure based on what you typed.

[AHopeR]

I am hoping I can get a pic from my OB, but my hospital where our scan was done refused as they said they deleted the photos due to multiple scans. I'm just curious as to whether I should trust the tech over the OB Dr or not..

[Nahri]

Hard to say based on this. You know what you saw and without pictures we can't really say. If you think you saw nothing and the doc says the same that's one way to go. If it were me, I usually go with the doc over the tech but so hard to say in your case who was right! If you have any profile scans from earlier times someone may be able to give you a better guess.

[AHopeR]

Thank you Nari..it is just hard for me to believe that she made a mistake I guess? I don't know. But I trust the OB didn't see any indication in the photos...I can upload a photo...profile shot...but I am not sure it has any clues. That was another thing... we didn't get a photo showing boy parts either. But maybe someone could make something out from this shot...thanks for your advice. 22288

[AHopeR]

Sorry, this is where babe was measuring almost 21 weeks.

[nuthinbutpink]

No gender.

[Bubs3]

I had something similar happen. I've asked my ob for a referral to have another scan. Can't see from scan attached 😞


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[AHopeR]

Hi there Bub3, what a ridiculous thing eh? You have two professions telling you different things. Unfortunately, my OB told me I wont be having any further scans unless i have complications with the pregnancy. With Xmas coming, money is tight so I guess I stay on team green...I am having a C section Feb 4th. I do see 5 different OB's so will ask on Dec 2nd another Dr's opinion of the pics and see what they say..I will also try to get the potty shot pic if they can print it off.

[Bubs3]

It sucks. My scan took a total of 5 min after paying all that money I was pretty pissed... It's pretty bad they're supposed to be 'experts' I don't doubt my ob but the sonographer was terrible.
It sucks your dr won't give you another referral. I complained about the sonographer and my dr recommended another scan. Do you have the scan on cd?


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[AHopeR]

That is terrible!! I am so glad your Dr referred you. Unfortunately in my small town they don't give you a CD or anything. All I have is this one pic I posted and a shot of the baby's feet and face. I am really starting to wonder though with what my OB Dr said.

[Nahri]

Yeah sadly no clue on that one. Skull theory says girl though. If you are able to get a rescan or even pay for a private look into those options if you must know before baby is born. I have a private scheduled for 15 weeks and Im not leaving until they show me WHY they say what they say. Im sorry you had such a bad experience :( I had the same with DS. The tech told me boy and sent me home with "proof" that was not of boy parts... She may have seen the bits on another shot but not the one she sent me home with. We had him confirmed with a private as well. I showed the old pics to the private studio and she said what she sent me home with was definitely not the gender!

[AHopeR]

Hi Nahri, thanks for responding! The skull looks like a girl you think? How accurate do you think the skull theory is? It's terrible to have such a bad experience...I am also sorry you had a bad one as well. I am so conflicted..I just don't know who to believe ...the tech or the possibility of the tech having made a mistake and the OB saying 50,50. When I look at the pic i posted it kind of looks like 3 lines in the nub area doesn't it? I know you can't accurately predict by profile at 21 weeks....but is that the cord then?

[hotdogz&boyz]

I just want to leave my experience here, in case it helps. I had a scan with one of my children at 20 weeks. We told the tech we didnt want to see gender and that we wanted to be able to show the DVD of the scan around to family, so if she could avoid the gender area as much as possible and shut off the video ****** if she needed potty shots (so they wouldn't be included on the DVD). During the entire scan, she never once showed us a clear shot of the gender of the baby and during the femur measurements, she was underneath baby and nothing was notable but a bum. BUT...we knew baby was a boy from a previous scan (we were doing a reveal). And he was a very obvious boy at his earlier scan.

So just because you don't SEE the parts while you are looking and/or you see shots from underneath baby, they can take different angles to prevent you from seeing the scrotum or labia. It doesn't mean much overall, unless you see parts for one gender or the other.

I, personally, would not be satisfied with the "I don't see a penis or scrotum" as a sign that baby was a female. At this point, given the information, I'd count on baby being a boy. But I'd want confirmation before I went crazy on clothes or painted.

[AHopeR]

Hi hotdogz and boyz, thank you for sharing your experience. I completely understand your point of view and I agree with you. Although, I don't believe I should be confident in a tech who states "I THINK I know what it is." "Think does not seem overly confident to me coming from a professional. I do agree with you that perhaps she just made sure not to include any obvious gender in the scan pics. I am curious as to what it is a "true" potty shot though? In this case we saw the bum and both legs..and they were open..not close together. How could a scrotum be hiding in this case? Would love any feedback from all of you experienced ladies. I know the OB must have looked at the same shots and didn't see a scrotum either...but he didn't say it was a girl either..so obviously confusing.

[AHopeR]

Bump

[AHopeR]

After researching quite a bit, I am wondering if the shot my husband and I were just "femur shots" and not potty shots...Which would mean gender would be hidden, right? My OB did say he was looking at a "femur shot" and there was no visible scrotum...and there wouldn't be anyways in that shot...right? I am starting to think maybe this is what happened.