What DTD position are you plannig for your sway?

[Hopefor4]

So my last three boys were conceived missionary. Which is supposed to be girl friendly. Because of this I'm thinking of switching this up. My SIL said she conceived her girl through 'doggy' (ew I hate that description lol). I'm debating using this position but just wondering others thoughts what you'll be doing. If anyone is around that conceived a girl doing that position let me know!

I know that diet will probably be the biggest factor for me as my diet with the boys definitely favored them. I thought this time around it wouldn't hurt to avoid missionary. Maybe even not J&D because that is something I always do along with not getting the big 'O' as I always do? I'm just thinking I should do opposite of everything I did with them? But not all those things supposedly 'sway' girl.

[Little Lunasa]

I don't think position sways much. Good luck and have fun ;)


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[Pearl327]

I don't think it makes a big difference. My DD & DS were both missionary babies. I think doggie is traditionally more boy friendly. But I believe that diet and frequency have a lot more to do with it then position

[Honeybug]

I don't think position sways to much. For our attempt we are doing missionary, I'm going to lay with legs and hips up for 5 min and then jump and dump. My son was opposite of this so we will see. I do think that the biggest factor is diet :)

[XXforhubby]

DS1 was doggy style and DS2 was either missionary or me on top. I don't think it matters and would do whatever strikes you both in the moment [emoji6]! Above all else- have fun! Swaying can seem so clinical and work. I think enjoying yourself and relaxing as much as you can helps tremendously, in case it takes awhile to conceive.

FX and GL!


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[atomic sagebrush]

I do not think position sways much if at all but that is one thing that doesn't really lower odds of conception a whole lot and if you want to change it up, no harm done.

FWIW I got my girl on top (got at least one boy that way too though). Doggy is said to be a strong boy sway but I can promise that just about everyone who got a boy sway opposite (wanted a boy, got a girl) was doing doggy and it is NOT NOT NOT any kind of a magic bullet. I also think that most DH's can "finish" easier in doggy style and I do think it might be good for some couples where the hubbies get a lot of anxiety when TTC or they've been doing things to sway that make it tougher on him, and have trouble "completing the transactions" so it may help pink swayers in that scenario.

[atomic sagebrush]

oh and one thing I would avoid is the "shallow release". It never seems to work out (either they get it too deep and everyone panics, or it's too shallow and everything comes right back out and everyone panics), makes husbands get really gun shy about DTD and take forever to "complete the transaction" and it doesn't seem to help the sway much if at all anyway.

[maidentomother]

Whatever it takes! I'm 100% with XX. I really don't think position sways much if at all. 99% of the time I do missionary bc it's what I prefer, but sometimes it's necessary to switch it up.

[Hopefor4]

I don't think position sways much. Good luck and have fun ;)
Thanks :)

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I don't think it makes a big difference. My DD & DS were both missionary babies. I think doggie is traditionally more boy friendly. But I believe that diet and frequency have a lot more to do with it then position

See I'm worried that since DH and I are so friendly maybe I should avoid all boy friendly things lol. But I just can't imagine us dtd standing and doggy has been our go to for awhile now. I could switch to me on top but I was thinking of not j&d since I did that with all my boys.


I don't think position sways to much. For our attempt we are doing missionary, I'm going to lay with legs and hips up for 5 min and then jump and dump. My son was opposite of this so we will see. I do think that the biggest factor is diet :)

Glad to know someone else is going with opposite of what they did with child and not just what majority says sways. :) Goodluck to you!


DS1 was doggy style and DS2 was either missionary or me on top. I don't think it matters and would do whatever strikes you both in the moment [emoji6]! Above all else- have fun! Swaying can seem so clinical and work. I think enjoying yourself and relaxing as much as you can helps tremendously, in case it takes awhile to conceive.

FX and GL!


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Very true, thanks! :)


I do not think position sways much if at all but that is one thing that doesn't really lower odds of conception a whole lot and if you want to change it up, no harm done.

FWIW I got my girl on top (got at least one boy that way too though). Doggy is said to be a strong boy sway but I can promise that just about everyone who got a boy sway opposite (wanted a boy, got a girl) was doing doggy and it is NOT NOT NOT any kind of a magic bullet. I also think that most DH's can "finish" easier in doggy style and I do think it might be good for some couples where the hubbies get a lot of anxiety when TTC or they've been doing things to sway that make it tougher on him, and have trouble "completing the transactions" so it may help pink swayers in that scenario.

Yea DH has lately been having troubles and doggy has been beneficial to his issues I think. Although on top would probably work too, it's just I don't get the big 'O' while on top which I guess if I decide to avoid 'O' then on top is the way to go. After reading mostly everything my head is spinning lol. I may just go with buying a plan because deciding yourself what to do is so hard!! LOL


oh and one thing I would avoid is the "shallow release". It never seems to work out (either they get it too deep and everyone panics, or it's too shallow and everything comes right back out and everyone panics), makes husbands get really gun shy about DTD and take forever to "complete the transaction" and it doesn't seem to help the sway much if at all anyway.

Gotcha, thanks Atomic! :)

[atomic sagebrush]

You CAN'T avoid all boy friendly things though. It's just not possible and trying to do it will drive you so "martha" that you end up swaying blue trying to manage it all. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/33517-maternal-dominance-hypothesis-priviledged-daughter-hypothesis.html

I can all but guarantee you that J and D had nothing to do with why you had boys. I ended up getting my girl by laying flat all night, but I wasn't getting pregnant. I really don't recommend starting off without J and D unless you are totally sure you can't get pg including it. That, to me, is a step in the wrong direciton.

[luvmyfam]

Got both our boys with doggy. I always had multiple big O's (sorry if TMI):oops:. We are planning to do either me on top or missionary with J and D and no big O.

[sc1411]

Got my first girl on top and my second girl missionary.
Swaying blue now and planning doggy:bigsmile:

[LacePrincess]

I really don't think position can be much of a sway factor. And even if it was, it would depend entirely on your individual anatomical makeup, ie. which way your cervix/uterus tilts.

All 3 of my boys were conceived missionary anyways so meh, I put no stock in position helping or hurting. My uterus is also a bit tilted so we're DTD doggy this time because it took so danged long to conceive at all before, that missionary probably just made it harder to conceive, period.

[maidentomother]

Lace, I don't believe that. I rarely do doggy bc I find it uncomfortable and like I said earlier, 99% of the time I do missionary, that's how I conceived all 6 of my pregnancies without even TTC. And I have a VERY tilted cervix/retroverted uterus. Both times I had IUDs inserted by drs about to retire who had been practicing for 40 years, they said they'd never seen such a tilted cervix. Other OBGYNs have said similar things. So I really don't think position matters. The sperm swim regardless.

[sc1411]

LacePrincess and Maidentomother,

Did you lay down on your stomach after the attempt to aid conception?
I also have tilted uterus and read/heard that if you will lay on the stomach it will help:)

[XXforhubby]

LacePrincess and Maidentomother,

Did you lay down on your stomach after the attempt to aid conception?
I also have tilted uterus and read/heard that if you will lay on the stomach it will help:)

I have never done this. I too have a retroverted uterus (think slide), and I either fell asleep afterward or J and Ded with both of my boys.


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[atomic sagebrush]

Also have very tilted uterus and no trouble conceiving, either missionary or me on top. DS 4 may have been doggy style but the others weren't. But that having been said I have seen a few people who did seem to have success by laying on tummy after BD with tilted uterus. now whether that was coinki-dink or not, I cannot say.

One thing I do personally believe true for ~me~ is that it has seemed to help for me to lay flat after BD for a while. I rem. that with DS 1, 3 and I believe 4 I did lay flat (not sure on DS 2 but he is SUPER lazy, and I can't imagine him being in a hurry to get anywhere even as a sperm cell LOL) and then with DD, I was trying to J and D or else getting up for whatever reason after BD and this went on for 5 months and then the 6th month, for whatever reason I just stayed laying flat and fell asleep, which I hardly ever do but that was the month I got the BFP.

[maidentomother]

I rarely lay on my stomach. I'm sure at least half of my pregnancies if not more/all were J&D bc I am super prone to UTIs so I'd get up to go pee within 5 minutes. And I have been lying (on my back) for at least 15 min since actively TTC (7 cycles so far) and no BFP. But my first pregnancy I was having daily sex, pregnancies 2-5 were with my late DH and we were crazy fertile together. And pregnancies 1-5 were all from age 20-26.

[sc1411]

Thanks for the replies ladies:)

I J and Ded with both of my girls.
Will definitely lay flat this time:fx:

[Hopefor4]

Definitely seems like it's not one thing across the board. :) I definitely agree I'm way too Martha about all this Atomic lol. Although I honestly can say I'm at least feeling relaxed about gender more this time around then with my last, although I'm definitely interested in opinions. :) I also have a tilted uterus and have conceived pretty easily in the past. :)

[LacePrincess]

I fall asleep afterwards usually, and I'm a tummy sleeper, so even though it wasn't on purpose I'm sure I fell asleep on my stomache after bd'ing most of the time.

I've also used Softcups to keep the 'stuff' up there. I know it's probably a bit 'boy' but I'm okay with that since I need to conceive quickly and we've never conceived quicker than 5+ cycles.

[atomic sagebrush]

:agree: just making sure!

Something to consider about the Soft cups is that firstly it's not the 'stuff' that matters - the stuff is a liferaft for the troops but the troops exit the life raft fairly quickly and storm the beaches of Normandy. My concern with the cups is that if you put them in right away, it seems to me that they could even serve to seal the cervix shut depending on how tightly they fit. The sperm liquefies over time and 15-30 min. after BD and the little swimmers have exited the stuff and moved onto greener pastures anyway, so no point in keeping it in there any longer.

But, if you feel like it works for you, that's your call to make on that.