2xblue
February 24th, 2015, 08:34 AM
We have two lovely boys, a 3 year old and 10 months old. I had a loss at 13 weeks at my first pregnancy, confirmed boy. Now I really want to have a daughter, I think about it almost everyday. Some days are ok and Iīm really happy with my two boys but when I see little girls or hear someone is pregnant with a girl I get really sad. With my first two pregnancies I didnīt hope for a specific gender, I was happy with either one. I was just so happy to have a healthy baby as a result of my second pregnancy.
I knew I wanted to have a sibling for our son and I had to persuade my DP to it. He said two children is enough, no more after that. I really wanted a girl that time, my last chance. I searched some light swaying tactics from the internet but found the wrong sites (I know it now!) and in the end I really didnīt sway at all even though I thought I did (like drinking cranberry juice and bd few days before ovulation). At the 20week scan we asked the gender, it was a boy. I was disappointed. But I felt like I just had to come to terms with it , thereīs nothing I can do anymore. The last weeks of my pregnancy I was still seqretly hoping what if the tech got it wrong and itīs a girl. It was not helping when I had a scan couple of weeks before my due date and I asked about the gender (just to confirm, didnīt tell her I was told boy before) and she said maybe she saw some girl parts but wasnīt sure. I was so hoping it could be true but deep down I knew it was another boy. I gave birth to my DS2 and I fell in love with him of course. I didnīt have gender dissapointment anymore. Until couple months later... All my friends were having girls that time, and they had a boy as a first one. I was so jealous, why not me. Even though I wouldnīt change my boys for anything but I think you all know what I mean.
I started to search the internet and I found this site. I was hoping to go HT, first I had to talk about wanting a third one with my DP. He really didnīt want to have anymore, he was done. I was feeling depressed, I couldnīt believe I didnīt have a chance for a daughter. I cried my eyes out. I knew I couldnīt change his mind. But to my surprise, he saw how sad I was and how much I wanted a daughter and he agreed to have a third one. But he said he doesnīt want to go HT. I said a could pay for it myself but he doesnīt want me to put my money something like that. And I think he thinks it is just way too extreme. I was just so happy he came around having a third so I just started to study more about swaying on this site and Iīm happy that I found you! I was ok with swaying if HT was out of the question.
But now Iīm thinking about the HT again. I know I really want a girl, swaying isnīt 100% sure. I read all those succesfull girl sways here and I think it could happen to us too and I get excited. But then I read about failed sways and I think thatīs going to happen for us for sure. I know we are done after 3 kids, I canīt do it to my DP wanting more until I have my girl. And I think 3 is what I can handle. So I have my last chance having a girl. How to make my DP think HT would be an option for us? Sometimes I think myself that HT is way too scary and way too extreme but then I think about that little girl we could have... Why not try. If my DP was supportive about it I think I would do it. I know I have to have a serious discussion with my DP but Iīm scared... He knows I want a girl really bad but doesnīt understand it fully.
Maybe some of you have some advice or has anyone been there too, trying to tell DP/DH that HT would be the right way to go...?
Iīm sorry about my English, hope you got the point!
I knew I wanted to have a sibling for our son and I had to persuade my DP to it. He said two children is enough, no more after that. I really wanted a girl that time, my last chance. I searched some light swaying tactics from the internet but found the wrong sites (I know it now!) and in the end I really didnīt sway at all even though I thought I did (like drinking cranberry juice and bd few days before ovulation). At the 20week scan we asked the gender, it was a boy. I was disappointed. But I felt like I just had to come to terms with it , thereīs nothing I can do anymore. The last weeks of my pregnancy I was still seqretly hoping what if the tech got it wrong and itīs a girl. It was not helping when I had a scan couple of weeks before my due date and I asked about the gender (just to confirm, didnīt tell her I was told boy before) and she said maybe she saw some girl parts but wasnīt sure. I was so hoping it could be true but deep down I knew it was another boy. I gave birth to my DS2 and I fell in love with him of course. I didnīt have gender dissapointment anymore. Until couple months later... All my friends were having girls that time, and they had a boy as a first one. I was so jealous, why not me. Even though I wouldnīt change my boys for anything but I think you all know what I mean.
I started to search the internet and I found this site. I was hoping to go HT, first I had to talk about wanting a third one with my DP. He really didnīt want to have anymore, he was done. I was feeling depressed, I couldnīt believe I didnīt have a chance for a daughter. I cried my eyes out. I knew I couldnīt change his mind. But to my surprise, he saw how sad I was and how much I wanted a daughter and he agreed to have a third one. But he said he doesnīt want to go HT. I said a could pay for it myself but he doesnīt want me to put my money something like that. And I think he thinks it is just way too extreme. I was just so happy he came around having a third so I just started to study more about swaying on this site and Iīm happy that I found you! I was ok with swaying if HT was out of the question.
But now Iīm thinking about the HT again. I know I really want a girl, swaying isnīt 100% sure. I read all those succesfull girl sways here and I think it could happen to us too and I get excited. But then I read about failed sways and I think thatīs going to happen for us for sure. I know we are done after 3 kids, I canīt do it to my DP wanting more until I have my girl. And I think 3 is what I can handle. So I have my last chance having a girl. How to make my DP think HT would be an option for us? Sometimes I think myself that HT is way too scary and way too extreme but then I think about that little girl we could have... Why not try. If my DP was supportive about it I think I would do it. I know I have to have a serious discussion with my DP but Iīm scared... He knows I want a girl really bad but doesnīt understand it fully.
Maybe some of you have some advice or has anyone been there too, trying to tell DP/DH that HT would be the right way to go...?
Iīm sorry about my English, hope you got the point!