NewPreggie
April 26th, 2015, 09:56 AM
Hi all,
When I first mentioned IVF/PGD to him (showed him a video of Dr Potter on 60 minutes); he seemed pretty open.
Recently, I explained to him that despite spending over $20k, going through all of the testing and emotions - it is still not guaranteed.
He is understandably freaked out of going through such an emotional rollercoaster with nothing to show; and also paranoid of dishonesty from the medical clinics possibly selling off our embryos, tampering and putting in other people's DNA, etc. He is not trusting of other people.
We were always set on 2 kids, but he suggested that we try for a boy the second time...and if that doesn't work; we may consider IVF/PGD.
I want to try IVF/PGD the 2nd time so I can get it off my mind and just accept the fact that we will not have a son if it doesn't work out. I don't want to hold onto this hope for several more years. If we could, I would try for IVF/PGD August 2016.
I'm not sure what to think...I have a lot of anxiety about the next baby, when I haven't even delivered my first. I was not like this before, but after seeing how much he wants a boy (I do too, but not as much); I feel very anxious and am not fully focused on my current pregnancy. He has been very supportive and kind, but I know he's very much longing for a son.
TBH, I trust IVF/PGD more than I do with sways. I know either one doesn't work for everyone, but I am young and feel more hopeful about IVF/PGD. I think I might rather give up on a dream DS if the procedure doesn't work; than to sway and have that anxiety up to a 20+ weeks ultrasound, deal with not having a DS and stress out about having a 3rd (when our plan was always 2).
I'm not sure... :worry:
When I first mentioned IVF/PGD to him (showed him a video of Dr Potter on 60 minutes); he seemed pretty open.
Recently, I explained to him that despite spending over $20k, going through all of the testing and emotions - it is still not guaranteed.
He is understandably freaked out of going through such an emotional rollercoaster with nothing to show; and also paranoid of dishonesty from the medical clinics possibly selling off our embryos, tampering and putting in other people's DNA, etc. He is not trusting of other people.
We were always set on 2 kids, but he suggested that we try for a boy the second time...and if that doesn't work; we may consider IVF/PGD.
I want to try IVF/PGD the 2nd time so I can get it off my mind and just accept the fact that we will not have a son if it doesn't work out. I don't want to hold onto this hope for several more years. If we could, I would try for IVF/PGD August 2016.
I'm not sure what to think...I have a lot of anxiety about the next baby, when I haven't even delivered my first. I was not like this before, but after seeing how much he wants a boy (I do too, but not as much); I feel very anxious and am not fully focused on my current pregnancy. He has been very supportive and kind, but I know he's very much longing for a son.
TBH, I trust IVF/PGD more than I do with sways. I know either one doesn't work for everyone, but I am young and feel more hopeful about IVF/PGD. I think I might rather give up on a dream DS if the procedure doesn't work; than to sway and have that anxiety up to a 20+ weeks ultrasound, deal with not having a DS and stress out about having a 3rd (when our plan was always 2).
I'm not sure... :worry: