lemonade
May 2nd, 2015, 08:46 AM
I had grand plans to sway for #3 next year, but found out I was having a "surprise" due this November. At first I was freaked out, but quickly became excited about having another baby. I decided to be "Team Green" and not make gender an issue at all. I think all the weight placed on "finding out" and people's reactions really affected me in the past. I genuinely felt like my gender disappointment was being healed. I wanted this baby, whether it was a girl or another tiny sweet boy.
Due to my history of recurrent M/C, I had multiple ultrasounds done, and saw the heartbeat three times. Then I couldn't find it on my doppler anymore. I thought it was because it was so small. But when I went for my 9 week scan, it revealed the heart stopped beating a few days earlier. I had a D&C the next day. I cannot believe this could happen to me again.
They are doing genetic testing that will also tell me if it was a girl or boy. So I will find out after all, in a sad way.
I used to think I wanted to sway, but now I feel like I don't want to try naturally again. I feel like a woman who has just had her heart broken one too many times who has given up on men. I also have a form of endometriosis so I have two things working against me. I am fertile, but I have twice as many losses as live children and I don't think I can go through this again physically and emotionally. There's too much uncertainty. Especially as "girl sways" tend to be anti-fertility and might(?) increase risk of another one.
I genuinely feel I now have a reason to pursue IVF with PGD without hesitation, seeing as I have had four chromosomally abnormal embryos implant. I feel as though our fairly good insurance might actually cover us now, at least for the IVF. Has anyone pursued IVF after multiple losses and had it covered (I know PGD is usually not)?
Is this over the top, or a reasonable approach? It's a lot more than gender for me now.
Due to my history of recurrent M/C, I had multiple ultrasounds done, and saw the heartbeat three times. Then I couldn't find it on my doppler anymore. I thought it was because it was so small. But when I went for my 9 week scan, it revealed the heart stopped beating a few days earlier. I had a D&C the next day. I cannot believe this could happen to me again.
They are doing genetic testing that will also tell me if it was a girl or boy. So I will find out after all, in a sad way.
I used to think I wanted to sway, but now I feel like I don't want to try naturally again. I feel like a woman who has just had her heart broken one too many times who has given up on men. I also have a form of endometriosis so I have two things working against me. I am fertile, but I have twice as many losses as live children and I don't think I can go through this again physically and emotionally. There's too much uncertainty. Especially as "girl sways" tend to be anti-fertility and might(?) increase risk of another one.
I genuinely feel I now have a reason to pursue IVF with PGD without hesitation, seeing as I have had four chromosomally abnormal embryos implant. I feel as though our fairly good insurance might actually cover us now, at least for the IVF. Has anyone pursued IVF after multiple losses and had it covered (I know PGD is usually not)?
Is this over the top, or a reasonable approach? It's a lot more than gender for me now.