Breastfeeding and weaning

[Dreamingofpinkafter2blue]

Someone mentioned on another post that even months after weaning can sway girl? I'm thinking because of nutrient depletion. With my first boy I weaned completely, got my period 2 weeks after and fell instantly pregnant with another boy.

Does anyon know approximately how many months after weaning might sway? My babe is almost 19 months and I kind of want to wean but I will keep nursing if it's a better sway. He has one 7 hour period at night where he doesn't nurse. Even night weaning 2 months ago has not given me back my cycle yet.

[Dreamingofpinkafter2blue]

anyone know?

[XXforhubby]

I would think for a cycle or two, maybe even longer. This is probably something that varies woman to woman, YK?

I'm sure Atomic will chime in. I hope this continues to sway, since my DS2 weaned himself the cycle before I got my BFP!!


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[atomic sagebrush]

It would be different for every person and depends on a lot of factors like your weight, diet, and how old your baby was and how much s/he nursed, along with tons of other things that are probably invisible to the naked eye (like your overall fertility and even genetics)

Do what is right FOR YOU. Don't worry about how it will affect your sway.

[Dreamingofpinkafter2blue]

Thanks! Maybe I will just keep nursing it will be "something" different that with my second babe. Actively nursing vs. Just weaning.

I'm not sure if nursing makes LE diet more difficult for me. On one hand, it's nice to get some extra calories. But in the other hand, I have always felt that nursing makes me hungrier.

[XXforhubby]

I would keep nursing as long as you and your baby still want to. If you find you are going a few months without conceiving, then you may want to evaluate if weaning is something you and baby could handle. Until then, (hopefully you won't have to think about weaning!), happy nursing!!!

FX and GL to you!!


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[Dreamingofpinkafter2blue]

Thank you! We aren't really TTC right now because I still have no cycle. I'm very sensitive to nursing. I was just hoping to do the LE diet for awhile and the exercising and have a long sway I guess. :)

[atomic sagebrush]

I got a boy and a girl while breastfeeding and 3 boys without it. It's no magic bullet but I do think it helps. Nursing does tend to make me hungry though.

[atomic sagebrush]

I think you should do what's best for you - I know in your uestionnaire it sounded like you wanted to wean. You can wean if you want or not if you want.

[amyanne]

Fwiw I got pregnant with ds2 while nursing 20 mo ds1. If I had to theorize, I'd guess that weaning is actually *improving* maternal condition because there is less and less of a drain on your calories/energy. I don't know how much you're nursing your babe, but I think it might have to be quite a bit to sway?

[Dreamingofpinkafter2blue]

He's had some issues gaining weight (20 pounds at nearly 19 months). He only has 4 teeth and his poops are not even completely solid yet. I would guess he still nurses about 6-9x a day. He was just recently night weaned. So I do kind if think he is getting a lot still but I don't know for certain.

Interesting guess at the improvement of maternal condition. I've never thought about that!

[amyanne]

I was only nursing one time at bedtime- to me nursing that much (way to go!) seems like it would be lowering your condition (pink)...but I'm no expert!

[atomic sagebrush]

Fwiw I got pregnant with ds2 while nursing 20 mo ds1. If I had to theorize, I'd guess that weaning is actually *improving* maternal condition because there is less and less of a drain on your calories/energy. I don't know how much you're nursing your babe, but I think it might have to be quite a bit to sway?

Exactly. It's more than just condition, it's also fertility (and even BF 1 time a day may reduce fertility slightly due to the hormones required to make milk) It doesn't take much at all.

If you're looking back thinking, "well this can't possibly work because I got a boy while BF" what you need to take into consideration is that you are in a very small minority even nursing at that stage (most women would wean long before 20 months) and that the subset of we who choose to do that, may be coming into TTC a little more "set" for blue (due to potential "crunchiness" and also higher economic status that gives us the luxury of still nursing!) We cannot do a straight comparison of BF because we are a special case - in a world where most women never nurse or only for the first 3-6 months tops, people who are still nursing toddlers are NOT a randomly selected group, does that make sense?

In other words, if you are coming in to TTC with an 80% chance of a boy, and you're doing something that brings you down to 65% likely to have a boy, it's still a HUGE sway tactic, even though you could look at statistics and think "oh gosh this actually sways blue". That is NOT how this works because it's not a random sample and it's not a 50-50 chance - some of us are more than 50% likely to ahve another boy!!!

[Dreamingofpinkafter2blue]

That makes perfect sense. And just in my unique circumstance, since I still don't even have a cycle, I would venture to guess that my body is particularly sensitive to it since it's reducing my fertility by not getting a period?

With my first, even when I was only nursing 1x a day, I still didn't get a cycle back until he was completely weaned.

[atomic sagebrush]

No one can really say, it can be different for every time through anyway.