BFP - desperately trying to remain pinktamistic

[Amelia8]

Hi All,
I got another bfp this month. Which is three for three. We aren't really excited because of previous mcd but we will see. Both Dec bfp and March bfp ended in mc. My sways were different - heavy dairy, etc. This one I followed the LE - but for some reason I had a nagging feeling before we tried that this might be a boy. And funnily enough I still feel that way. The last one I was so confident it was a girl. And for the first couple of days of wk 4 I had intense morning sickness. I really don't have anything now.

I know I should be happy. I should be hoping this pregnancy sticks. But I am so desperate for a girl. I didn't even realize how intense this need was until this time around.

I obviously need to get through the first trimester, but did anyone feel they were having one sex, and then had another?

The previous losses compound the matter - thinking they could have been girls….. I hope I don't sound incredibly ungrateful. I'm sorry if I do!

[XXforhubby]

I think it's natural to second guess things AND to be nervous given what has happened to you! The heart wants what the heart wants, you're not ungrateful for hoping this is a girl!

These first weeks will be nerve wrecking, I'm sure! I hope that you can find peace and that this is a sticky, healthy, hopefully pink, bean for you and your family!!

Hang in there honey!!!


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[Amelia8]

Thank you XX! You are totally right!! I think I''ll head over and add my sway now!
Love the ladies on this site!!

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes lots of us have had the "feeling" and then been blindsided to find those feelings were wrong!

Boys and girls cannot have different symptoms in early pregnancy because the Y chromosome is dormant and not making testosterone. So your level of morning sickness doesn't tell you anything about your loss's gender. I had very little MS with my daughter.

I'm sorry for your losses and sending you all my sticky pink dust.

[Amelia8]

Oh my god Atomic - you are a wealth of knowledge! Seriously, you need to write a book and sell it on Amazon! You would be on the NYT bestseller list for months! I am being 100% serious - I would.

But thank you - you've made me feel a ton better. And things feel different in other ways. This is TMI but in all other pregnancies I have really easy bowel movements - like the best of my life. This pregnancy it is the complete opposite. I am totally constipated. I know it's early, and I just re-read your comment - so best not to analyze anything! Thanks again!!

[Hitmebabyonemoretime]

I agree and was thinking this today on my run - why not a book atomic?!?! Your write so well!


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[mommymachine]

Oh yah...both DS2 and DD2 blindsided me. I would have bet money they were the opposite gender!

[usuallywrite]

I am pretty much always wrong on my 'feeling'. My first, swore it was a girl. Boy. Second, same. Third, I was less sure, boy. (I had 2 pregnancies in between here both ending in miscarriage, lost one at 11 weeks, one at 18 weeks, and that one was a girl. I thought there goes my one chance at having a daughter.) Fourth baby, I was so certain it was another boy, I didn't even try to find out, and wound up being shocked by a little girl. Was soooo sick with her, had no morning sickness with my first 3, so when I got super sick again with my 5th, I knew it was a girl. Wrong. I was sick for 33 of the 39 weeks I was pregnant with #6, had new weird stuff like greasy hair, clear skin, and had no idea who was coming. I did have my only baby dream that time, and dreamed boy, which ended up being right.

I wouldn't even really guess this time. Simply looking at odds, I am leaning boy. I would love one more girl if I'm honest, but that doesn't mean I would be disappointed in a boy. The 2 things are separate for me. I can be totally in love with and excited for my baby boys, and at the same time, feel sadness that I may never get to meet another daughter. I am certain I would feel the same way, if my boy girl ratio was flipped the other way, about getting to have one more boy.

It is so hard not to read into every little thing, every difference in pregnancies, I do it way too much, but the fact is, baby is already whoever it is. I honestly don't see anything wrong with the mix of things you are feeling. Here's hoping this bub will stick for you. :)

[Magical22]

Good luck!!!! I had 2 miscarriages my third time was the charm [emoji5]️


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[Butterfly Spirit]

MS can always creep up later. With me I was very sick with both my boys right out of the gate.. with my DD it took until 8 weeks and it did come and was pretty intense too and I'm always sick pretty much through my whole pregnancy. lol It's so hard to wait. I'm so sorry for your losses and I hope that you get your sticky pink bean! :HH:
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[atomic sagebrush]

Yes please don't analyze symptoms - they don't mean anything and it's very common to have different symptoms with subsequent pregnancies even of the same gender. My DD and DS 2 were very similar pregnancies and then my other three boys were different from each other.

[atomic sagebrush]

I agree and was thinking this today on my run - why not a book atomic?!?! Your write so well!


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Thanks guys! This is one thing I would love to do and may be able to now that my kids are getting older. When I did my other books, it was very tough and I had my older sons to babysit. They don't live at home any more and my husband is not helpful at all so it makes it hard.

[Hitmebabyonemoretime]

I can relate. So you do have a book published?
It was my dream to write fiction. Now I've somehow satisfied my need to tell stories through photography - and I get to blog them too :)


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[luvmyfam]

Yes, definitely don't try and guess based on symptoms. Every pregnancy is different. My pregnancies with the boys were night and day. Especially in the early days. SO incredibly different! Hoping for a happy and healthy 9 months for you and PINK dust:HH:!

[atomic sagebrush]

I can relate. So you do have a book pull blushed?
It was my dream to write fiction. Now I've somehow satisfied my need to tell stories through photography - and I get to blog them too :)


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I have my books for the site - the 21 day diet books and the OPK books. I have the "Guide to One Attempt" nearly done. Goes a lot quicker when I have a sitter, that's for sure! o.O

[atomic sagebrush]

I can relate. So you do have a book pull blushed?
It was my dream to write fiction. Now I've somehow satisfied my need to tell stories through photography - and I get to blog them too :)


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I have my books for the site - the 21 day diet books and the OPK books. I have the "Guide to One Attempt" nearly done. Goes a lot quicker when I have a sitter, that's for sure! o.O

[Amelia8]

Thanks everyone - you are all so supportive!

And good luck Atomic. I get how precious alone time is, so thanks again for making the time for us!

[blessed3]

Hi Amelia I'm in a similar situation as you..... This is my 8th time being pregnant I've 3 little boys and a miscarriage before each boy....... I had my 4th miscarriage in February and I'm hoping that this pregnancy will work out for us, it's hard to get excited having known a loss and you just try to protect yourself, even though it's impossible to do!!! I'm also nervous about gender and I don't think I could sway again as I've had enough of LE for a while. Having given your all it takes its toll.... I really hope it works out for you..... I went ahead and added my sway before any scan as I'm determined to keep positive and other people's sway info really helped me..... best of luck with it all:)