what my husband does/should do for our girl

[mydaughter]

Hello everyone!
My husand and I ttc a girl for a while now and I wanted to share with you what he does so far and wanted to ask you if that is enough or what else you would recommend or let be!
-he is wearing two pairs of brief underwear day and night :-)
- he stopped working out in march 15 (very hard for him!)
-he showers his jewels as hot as he can stand.
- he eats less/less snacking
- no red meat
- no caffeine the week leading up to O
He doesn't take any supplements, should he?

Thank you!!

[Dreamingofpinkafter2blue]

They say caffeine can help sway. I personally wouldn't have him give that up if he likes it. It would make me cranky. Haha.

[ksmom]

He could do things like running or biking, drink soy milk, eat more omega 6 fats, have artificial sweetener. What supps he takes really depends on his health and age so Atomic can help you with that. My DH is doing peppermint tea and cranberry since he can't do LR. He's also been vegetarian for 4 months. There's also frequent release and abstaining but personally I think it just puts too much pressure on the guys. DH had a hard time with it and I'm fine with him giving that up. Really though your DH doesn't have to do anything at all to sway. A lot of ladies here have husbands that want no part in it but they still got girls.

[mydaughter]

Thanks a lot!
I can very much relate ksmom! My husband is not comfortable with all the "planning intercourse" so we don't do frequent, and he doesn't take hot bathes before. We try to keep it as natural as possible..
Peppermint tea is good to sway girl?
He goes running like once ever 2 weeks, I am not sure if he can increase that, no cycling..
It is not a big deal for him to not drink his coffee for a week- I think caffeine raises testosterone and that is why we both shouldn't drink it? Or am I wrong there?

[atomic sagebrush]

Have you been trying to conceive since March?? IF you've been TTC a while and not getting pregnant it is time to drop the tight underwear and the hot showers. YOu guys may be kiling off all the swimmers.

Jogging and biking have been shown in good studies to sway pink so this may be a compromise.

Caffeine was totally debunked as possibly swaying blue, and higher caff intake is getting good results for pink, so I would not have him avoid that. Doesn't help, may hurt.

Husbands do not need to do LE Diet with you. Going vegetarian may help as may simply cutting back on meat, but there is no known benefit for him to eating less cals and not snacking. Those thing are for you, not him, to do.

I cannot comment on what supps he might take because I do not know anything about his health, age, medical history, etc If you guys have been TTC since March I would not, not, not add in any sway supps for him at this point except possibly Olive Leaf Extract, and even that I am not prepared to sign off on for you guys without more info about health and so on

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks a lot!
I can very much relate ksmom! My husband is not comfortable with all the "planning intercourse" so we don't do frequent, and he doesn't take hot bathes before. We try to keep it as natural as possible..
Peppermint tea is good to sway girl?
He goes running like once ever 2 weeks, I am not sure if he can increase that, no cycling..
It is not a big deal for him to not drink his coffee for a week- I think caffeine raises testosterone and that is why we both shouldn't drink it? Or am I wrong there?

The best study ever done on diet and swaying showed very clearly that caffeine had ZERO effect on gender ratio. This study unfortunately did not control for dose, and we have had good results with using more than mod. intake (like 3 cups coffee a day) as a pink sway tactic. It has gotten very good results for us and you are not helping your sway, and may even be hurting it, by dropping it. (IN addition to making yourselves miserable)

Don't add in peppermint tea if you've been TTC since March!!!

[atomic sagebrush]

He could do things like running or biking, drink soy milk, eat more omega 6 fats, have artificial sweetener. What supps he takes really depends on his health and age so Atomic can help you with that. My DH is doing peppermint tea and cranberry since he can't do LR. He's also been vegetarian for 4 months. There's also frequent release and abstaining but personally I think it just puts too much pressure on the guys. DH had a hard time with it and I'm fine with him giving that up. Really though your DH doesn't have to do anything at all to sway. A lot of ladies here have husbands that want no part in it but they still got girls.

I can't sign off on any of those things for everyone though - some of those things are major no-nos for some men and so without more info, no one should just start giving all this stuff to hubby without doing the research to know if those things are right for him. :)

[atomic sagebrush]

They say caffeine can help sway. I personally wouldn't have him give that up if he likes it. It would make me cranky. Haha.

:agree: Cardinal rule of swaying - if daddy ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

[mydaughter]

Wow Atomic, those ladies here are so right!! You are amazing by coming back so soon and caring to all of us girls and ladies on here!
I wrote another answer to you in the "Introduction" section on my Introduction-Post, we started the diet in april and were successful in sep. but lost the baby ..
That's why we start all over and change plans and were so lucky to become part of this site now!
But it is awesome to know, that my husband doesn't have to do all that much stuff! Because you are so right, if the husband is not happy the whole swaying doesn't work and is no fun at all!
He will love to have coffee and wine, I don't know what fiber is?
Best of wishes to you and your family!!

[mydaughter]

Oh and in case it matters, my husand is 34, healthy, tall, regular weight and did a spermigram that came back very very good..

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh yes I'm sorry sometimes the user names are so similar I am not quite sure who I'm talking to from one post to the next. :)

So sorry for your loss.

My husband didn't do ANYTHING for our successful sway.

Fiber is "Fasern" in German I believe??? the stuff in foods that makes them filling and bulky, like in fruit and vegetables and whole grains

Since your husband is under 35 and in good health then he can try some of the herbs - I would generally recommend

Either Licorice root OR peppermint tea

AND

either cranberry OR olive leaf extract.

He can also drink soy milk and eat soy foods.

So he would take two supplements, picking one or the other and then also the soy milk/soy food.

[mydaughter]

Atomic, I am so very much impressed by what you archived with this site and how you help us, understand us and give us women the perspective back! We are planning to conceive a baby and that is the most important, and we might be able to push the odds a little, but getting stressed from hair to toe, losing our smile and joy in life isn't the right way to add another miracle to our family!
So no problem you don't remember everyone behind the username at all!!!!
Thank you!

[atomic sagebrush]

That is by far the best attitude to have! No matter what, we can't lose, we may get a girl or another boy to love - we are winners!! :)

[Nora Aaron]

Hi Atomic,

So my sister’s DH finally jumped on board and is ready to sway girl. They have three boys. He is gonna start biking and take hot showers (they don’t have bath tub) and also he goes to Sauna. He does not want to wear the tight underwears. He is in perfect health. I know he does not have to be on the LE diet, but is there anything in terms of supplements he needs to start taking before TTC in January? And the hot shower and Sauna, does he do that just the week before TTC or from now?

His wife is skinny, had a miscarriage 6 months ago, recently she has started on LE diet eating about 1800 calories give or take, drinking 3 coffee per day with skim milk, she eats about 3 to 4 meals a day, calories mainly from carbs. And she is trying her best to incorporate one hour exercise, but most of the time she can only do 40 mins Zumba.

She only takes 1500 mcg folic acid in terms of supplements.

Anything you’d change for her as well?

[atomic sagebrush]

Nora, I did want to mention that this is an older thread and some of the things I mentioned above I no longer use at all, like licorice root and peppermint tea. I don't use those any more due to side effects and REALLY bad results. So I would not be giving her husband any of those things.

The only things I'm still using for hubbies is olive leaf extract and soy milk, and I'm not terribly sold on either of them. Men can also use fiber for pink but we dont' have any hard evidence that it works.

I would wait till 6 weeks before sway to start doing the hot baths and stuff.

Is your sister eating 40-50 g protein and 30-60 g fat? (not counting the protein and fat in fruit and vegetables?) Just eating carbs isn't enough, we need to make sure she is getting enough protein and fat as well.

[Nora Aaron]

Alright thank you so much! Yes she has been trying to stick to the allowed amount of protein and fat, I think she uses MyFitnessPal app to help her track as much as she could. Thank you again for all the help and support.

When you say fiber, is that a pill supplement or you mean food with high fiber in them? And is she supposed to use that too or it won’t make a difference?

[atomic sagebrush]

Keep in mind that since we don't track the protein and fat in fruit and veg, and anything in low carb veg (not even calories) MFP can be somewhat misleading so we need to keep an eye that she's getting enough.

We use fiber supplements as a way to absorb a little extra fat and nutrients. But they're not super necessary. I would just ahve them use a low dose fiber supp with any meal containing fat in it. If no fat in the meal, no need for the fiber.