4 boys at 40 - do I risk a sway?

[Zenzazoo]

Hi
I have been going over this site for almost a year as an observer soaking it all in.

About me:
For my first boy I had been a vegetarian for 2 yrs.
For my second and third I was high protein.
For my 4th a friend told me to use vinegar douche.

I'm always thin but get HUGE when pregnant.
125 at pregnancy and usually 170+ at birth. Big boys 8.5, 9.75, 9.25, 9.45
I don't ovulate for atleast 15 months due to breastfeeding.
I am usually back to 130 in 12 -18 weeks after birth. I have a hard time keeping weight on even at 40.
I have been ovulating again for 3 months.
I'm Still nursing but he eats solids as well for every meal.

Interesting facts:
I have never ate dairy but have had high sodium/potassium intake. I eat all organic/non (GMO)
I don't drink juice- just a lot of water and tea
I did have coffee with all boys
I do eat a lot of calories to maintain the little body fat that I do have. I have a very high metabolism.
I don't usually eat sweets like ice cream or candy bars. I Dont like chocolate I do like white chocolate but rarely eat it.

Questions
Do I go dairy heavy (low fat and no fat) with a high calcium, low sodium, low potassium diet(saw study from England that was 80% girl result for women who had previously had boys, some of the women even had 3 boys) also everyone I meet who has all boys does not drink milk)
Vitex
Folic acid
No caffeine
Peppermint tea
Aspertane
No meat
No tomatoe
No avocado - Ahhh my favorite food!!


Or
Do I stay healthy(had no trouble conceiving my youngest at 39) and not sway at all and accept the boy that will surely come just to ensure I can get pregnant?

Any advice would be great.
15yrs. :running:
13yrs. :hide:
9yrs :running:
20 months:boybear2:
dreaming of:pinksperm:

[ksmom]

Hi and welcome! :welcome: I don't really agree with boy moms never drink milk. With both my boys, I drank lots of (2%) milk pretty much every day. I also had a rather dairy heavy diet back then (hello cheese and yogurt!) as well and many boy moms here say the same so I don't think lots of dairy always equals more girls. Dairy in general is very nutrient dense. I think tomatoes are fine though, so no need to avoid that IMO. :)

[nuthinbutpink]

Hi there. I would recommend a personalized plan for you. At 40, if this is your last shot, I would want to do everything possible to sway your odds. Too much calcium can sway boy so watch out for too much dairy!

[Zenzazoo]

Hi and thanks to both of you for your reply.

Re: personalized plan - I bought the girl diet info from the site for $50 or $60 and did not get any use out of it. It was mostly recipes. I need a quick grab list due to my busy lifestyle.
I work full time and take the youngest to work with me. Then I have the teenager, middle schooler and 4th grader, so you can imagine how cooking a special meal for myself does not work. Is it possible to get a personalized menu that is more of a raw/grab and go type thing? If so - does it cost more for that?

Thanks Again for all of your help.
Sooooo Appreciate it!

[atomic sagebrush]

I did!

I can assure ya that there are PLENTY of ladies out here in the universe like me who got all boys doing tons of dairy. My 3rd and 4th son I was taking cal-mag supplements and doing a full on sway with DS 4 where I was taking a scary amount of the stuff. I dropped it all and both my DH and I barely ate any dairy when we got our DD. I will leave the choice up to you on that, it was easy for me to give up on after 4 boys with dairy/calcium.

I have your questionnaire so I will take the time that I would have spent answering this post and do your plan.

[atomic sagebrush]

Hi and thanks to both of you for your reply.

Re: personalized plan - I bought the girl diet info from the site for $50 or $60 and did not get any use out of it. It was mostly recipes. I need a quick grab list due to my busy lifestyle.
I work full time and take the youngest to work with me. Then I have the teenager, middle schooler and 4th grader, so you can imagine how cooking a special meal for myself does not work. Is it possible to get a personalized menu that is more of a raw/grab and go type thing? If so - does it cost more for that?

Thanks Again for all of your help.
Sooooo Appreciate it!

I'll help you with diet as we go in your personalized forum.

We're discussing and working on a list of readymade foods, it's a bit difficult to do because we have people from different geographical areas and the different foods vary a lot geographically even in the US.

[maidentomother]

I'll help you with diet as we go in your personalized forum.

We're discussing and working on a list of readymade foods, it's a bit difficult to do because we have people from different geographical areas and the different foods vary a lot geographically even in the US.

If I ever get pregnant I can help with several of the European countries, especially if you have a US list for me to mimic. Going to the grocery store, especially visiting one for the first time, is literally my FAVOURITE thing to do outside the home. I'd love to visit major grocery stores/eatery chains throughout Europe and read the nutritional info and make lists! That would be so much fun for me. :)

[Zenzazoo]

Hi
Thank you
Looking forward to the plan- I can make some meals and freeze them for the week but I can also just have raw- like raw broccoli, tomatoes etc- it sounds strange but if it fits the plan that would be great because I eat that way now:)

[atomic sagebrush]

I think raw veg are great for pink and we have had good results with eating a lot of low carb veg like that. THey are actually free and limitless you can have all the raw broccoli you'd like, no need to count it!

[Sweetplum]

I will be following your journey. We have a lot in common. Good luck and keep us posted!

[Zenzazoo]

Great news!

What about leafy greens, sugar snap peas?

I read apples and pears without skin?

Stuff like that is so easy for me.

[Zenzazoo]

Hi Sweetplum!

Thanks for making me feel a little less crazy and less alone in my journey! :)

[Zenzazoo]

My family is like "you're nuts!" lol!

[maidentomother]

Great news!

What about leafy greens, sugar snap peas?

I read apples and pears without skin?

Stuff like that is so easy for me.

All good! You can eat the fruit with skin too, I do!

[Sweetplum]

My family is like "you're nuts!" lol!

My family has no idea. My mom would lose it if she knew I was even considering VR and another pregnancy. I do feel crazy too (when I'm not daydreaming about another sweet baby), I was so happy to see your post!

[Zenzazoo]

I was told it was mid-life crisis with my last one. Lol. I said what better way to deal with life changes than to have a baby in your arms? They just don't get it. So glad to hear you do. I wish u the best! BTW I was a revearse vasectomy.:)

[Sweetplum]

I was told it was mid-life crisis with my last one. Lol. I said what better way to deal with life changes than to have a baby in your arms? They just don't get it. So glad to hear you do. I wish u the best! BTW I was a revearse vasectomy.:)

Wow. I can totally relate. The few people I've discussed this with (which really has only been my doctor and one or two close girlfriends) also seem to think I'm having a mid life crisis. Their comments have made me feel that perhaps this is true. To be completely honest here (anonymously I guess) I'm a wreck with this decision....there are so many factors and I don't know how to navigate them all at once. I don't want to hijak your introduction thread so I'll post a separate post about my struggles. Hopefully I'll get some insights and support.

Oh and i LOVE that you were a VR baby. Thank you for sharing this!! :bighug:

[atomic sagebrush]

Great news!

What about leafy greens, sugar snap peas?

I read apples and pears without skin?

Stuff like that is so easy for me.

We are getting great results with all the fruits and vegetables. We originally started off thinking that nutrients in fruit and veg would sway strongly blue but that hasn't proved to be the case. So there's no necessity to peel them any more, that hasnt seemed to matter.

[atomic sagebrush]

I was told it was mid-life crisis with my last one. Lol. I said what better way to deal with life changes than to have a baby in your arms? They just don't get it. So glad to hear you do. I wish u the best! BTW I was a revearse vasectomy.:)

I have a 24 year old, 20 year old, 7, 6, and 3 year old. All same husband. People can say whatever they want about it. I know people thought I was insane or having some midlife crisis or that I didn't know how to use birth control or something. What it really is, is a gradual awareness that I think many of us get where we suddenly don't care about what other people think or say and I wanted more kids!!! Why not?? I'd be really sad right now if my two adult guys were off doing their thing now and I had an empty nest.

[Zenzazoo]

Yes. Yes. And what education and joy it brings to the older kids too right? Today the violent video games are so intense. We could not compete but this little guy we have pulls them away from it and they giggle and play with him and they remember joy and love and nothing can replace the gift of that. It is such a blessing for everyone! Even the ones who complain want to get in on it once they arrive!!! ;)


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[Zenzazoo]

All same husband here too. Btw. There was an article in "second families" due to divorce and I was like - we started a second family but skipped the divorce! Lol


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[atomic sagebrush]

It's funny because my mom will introduce me to people and she invariably says, "She has five kids, ages 24, 20, 7, 6, 3 and they're ALL with the same man!" Haha she doesn't even realize she does it. I just laugh inside. Even when she doesn't say it, people almost always ask me "so this is your second marriage, then." No, we're just weird. :)

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes. Yes. And what education and joy it brings to the older kids too right? Today the violent video games are so intense. We could not compete but this little guy we have pulls them away from it and they giggle and play with him and they remember joy and love and nothing can replace the gift of that. It is such a blessing for everyone! Even the ones who complain want to get in on it once they arrive!!! ;)


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I completely agree with you, I think my older sons have learned so much from having the little ones around. I had much younger siblings growing up (I was 11 and 13 when they were born) and I learned tons from it. Not just childcare stuff but responsibility and self-control.

[Beautifulrainbow]

Strange I guess people don't expect anyone to stay together for a long time anymore my boys are much closer in age than your but I still get asked are they by the same father sometimes.
They are they just all look different to each other.